Crushes: A new way to think about Reach/Match/Safety schools.

You could say  that I’m a bit  biased when it comes to school classifications

So as to not beat a dead horse, today I’m going to explain how I feel about school application classifications in a context we all can understand: Crushes and Relationships.

The Lottery School: Your celebrity crush

They’re the dream, the ideal, the one everyone wants. You want it, maybe more than anyone else, but it’s just not realistic. You know it’s just a dream… but they’re so perfect.

Just like you probably won’t marry Benedict Cumberbatch, you probably won’t get into this school. It was a pipe dream, you know that, but you couldn’t help but try.

The Reach School: The Prom King/Queen or Your best friend’s hot older sibling

You know this one so well. Maybe you grew up idolizing them from afar. You know you don’t really have a chance, and you’d need crazy amounts of luck and skill to pull it off, but maybe-just maybe, you might succeed.

Just like this seemingly unattainable crush, someone is bound to get into a reach school. It might be you. But your chances are slim. You take a chance on this one, but you can’t really expect a positive outcome, or you might find yourself getting crushed.

The Match School: Your close friend who you have a thing for

They’re comfortable. They have everything you could possibly want. You have a feeling that they want you too. You haven’t pined after them for your whole life, but you’re excited about this anyway. They’re not the dream WOW everyone is so impressed thing, but every single person who hears about it goes “oh that makes a ton of sense.”

Just like this relationship, it’s the most likely outcome. It’s healthy, supportive, and will make you happy- it’s just not what you dreamed of.

The Safety School: The one in the friend-zone

They want you. They’ve made it very clear that they want you. But you’re ambivalent towards them. You’re going to keep the option open in case you need a fallback, but if you’ve played your cards right in other places, you hopefully won’t end up with them.

Just like someone you place in the friend-zone, you can’t turn down your safety school and need to have a fallback. You’re very nice to them, but they’re the absolute last choice.

Maybe these analogies will help get what my definitions of these schools are.
To me, a B student applying to all of the Ivies is like a normal small-town girl who thinks she’s going to marry one of the members of One Direction.
It’s just not going to happen.

My College Decisions

In chronological order…

University of Texas at Austin, College of Natural Sciences: Accepted

Plan II Honors: Accepted

Health Science Honors: Accepted

University of Florida: Accepted with Gator Nation Scholarship

Washington University: Waitlisted

Caltech: Waitlisted

Massachusetts Institute of Technology: Rejected

University of Chicago: Waitlisted –> Rejected

Rice University: Accepted as Rice University Century Scholar and Trustee Distinguished Scholarship

Duke University: Accepted

Columbia: Accepted as John Jay Scholar, ATTENDING

Harvard: Deferred –> Waitlisted –> Rejected

Princeton: Rejected

Yale: Rejected

Stanford: Rejected

Monster University: will apply for graduate school in four years

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I got into the speech class I reeeeally wanted to get into! 

AND I did something wrong when I signed up for it, so I wasn’t even on the wait list!

AND the professor is really really really funny!

It’s a good day, you guys. A really good day.

Waitlisted Schizophrenia

I got waitlisted this weekend.

Being put on a school’s waitlist is about the most confusing thing in the world. Because no matter what you feel, it doesn'tfeelright. You get excited: heck, they’re considering you and you’re on the list and you could get a letter any day this summer having them tell you to sign up for classes - you’re in!

But that doesn’t feel quite right because it’s definitely not a guarantee. The odds of admission are different for every school and for every academic year. So there’s also the possibility that you take the glass-half-empty approach and all you can think is: “I didn’t get in.” Which is technically not true because there’s always the possibility that…

And see how it goes round and round in this sort of alternatingly encouraging and self-deprecating cycle of emotional turmoil? Being waitlisted is its very own emotion, I would say. It’s a whole process, and I feel like it - more or less - goes like this:

1. Cry. This one is entirely optional and given your state of mind when you find out, crying is a very real possibility.

2. Rage (also, an alternative to Step 1). Again, if you’re in the appropriate state of mind, you might need to go outside and let out a really primal scream in your driveway.

3. Wallow. Grace period of between 12-36 hours (after that it just gets patently unhealthy) wherein you convince yourself that you are a complete idiot and were stupid for applying in the first place. Or alternatively, you are convinced that your education has plateau’d and without the advantage of this school, you will never get to where you want to be in life.

4. Alternating patterns of denial (“I’ll hear from them, they’re bound to let me in, my application was rockin’”) and something akin to acceptance.

5. Make shit happen. Realize that instead of passively laying on your bedroom floor/kitchen table/neighbor’s lawn/best friend’s couch and waiting for the academic deities to take you from this world, it might be best to actuallydo something. Respond to the letter/email confirming that you want to stay on the school’s waitlist. Call the admissions office, tell them you got waitlisted but you still really love the school and want to come and take a tour. Or if it’s too far away, ask to speak to an admissions representative and ask some pertinent questions about the school. Make your interest known. The amount of stories I have heard of people having their waitlist turn to an acceptance after showing a proactive interest in the school is vast.

So suck it up and realize that you’re going to have to play nice and talk yourself up, and maybe kiss some butt.

I’m currently at Step 4 and at the beginning of the week I will take my own advice and call admissions to reassert my interest and I will ask for a tour. Because even though I live rather close to this school, I have never been and I really should if I want to go so bad.

Wish me luck. I shall keep y'all posted.

watsonette asked:

I've been waiting to hear if I got accepted for a little over 5 weeks.. And today I got an email asking me to "confirm my interest." I was wait listed once and it went back in progress.. apparently, I guess I'm still wait listed? I don't even know what's going on. I'm just really sad that Disney is so unorganized with their acceptance. Do you know anything about this? ):

Honestly, I don’t really know anything about it. =( Have you tried contacting Disney and asking them? That’s probably your best bet as far as finding out anything for sure. The whole “confirm your interest” thing does seem kind of strange, so…I’d say give them a call and ask what’s going on.

From what I’ve been hearing, the application process this semester has been extremely chaotic–you’re not the only one having problems. They just switched over to an all-new system for processing applications, and apparently they’re still working out the kinks. So, hopefully they won’t be as disorganized next time around. Not that that helps out anyone applying now, of course. You’d think they’d have things running more smoothly before the new system went live, but…oh well.

Good luck, and I hope you’re able to get things straightened out!

dkgrayson asked:

Hi! I saw you got accepted to Brown off the waitlist and I wanted to ask - do you have any advice for getting off waitlists? Is there a specific call I should make or anything specific I should address in my letter of interest?

Hi! @dkgrayson I was waitlisted at four universities (yikes), but because I was accepted into Princeton, I was relatively laid back about getting off these lists. But I had researched what to do to get off them before the March 31st decision day. So here’s are some of the tips that I found most helpful.

-Admission officers probably won’t tell you very much about your ranking or why you were waitlisted, but they MIGHT be more receptive to your guidance counselor. This should be the first step to hopefully see why they are still unsure or what they thought area of your application was weak, so you could clarify these points.

-Definitely send in new, *important* awards. Good things to send are senior superlatives, final rankings (if your school announces it early), state competition awards, etc. 

-If this is your first choice, tell them! Let them know you are committed to going here and why (no begging) in the letter of continued interest.

I’ve also learned waitlist acceptances come in waves. So, even if you hear that some people got off the waitlist at your school, don’t be discouraged! You may have to wait until the end of May or even until June; be patient!

Good luck! I’m sure you’ll do amazing at wherever you decide to go!

My Interview Equals Hot Tranny Mess

Everything that could go wrong on my interview did.
Few things to note: 

  • The Midwest time is three hours ahead of California 
  • It’s is was freezing at the time 28F 
  • My interview stated arrival time was 8:00am - 8:30am

My interview started at 8:00-8:30am. I woke up at 8:53am. Yes, I was screwed. I set my alarm then forgot to set the correct day, so it never went off. I also was on west coast time so at 2am I was wide awake. 

The only thing I had time to do was brush my teeth. no shower, no combing of hair and no makeup.

Between screaming OH, MY GOD! OH MY GOD!  and running around trying to get dressed. I knocked over a bottle of perfume it shattered and  spilled all over me. I smelled like a fragrance nightmare. 

8:58am I ran out to my rental car and the windshield and windows were frozen with ice. I couldn’t see a thing. I proceeded to drive with my head hanging out the window in the freezing cold.

When I missed the turn for the school I drove over the median in my tiny rental car and illegally crossed three lanes of traffic.

I arrived at my interview at 9:01 am.

To the credit of the university they were extremely understanding and told me that they understood and that I was okay because I didn’t miss my interview portion of the day. However I know this was a strike against me.

I decided to wait until I received my result to post this.  

I was placed on committee hold on 1/21/2015 which is a miracle.
Placed on Waitlist: 5/11/2015

Accepted: 7/1/2015 40 days before school starts.

Treat your waitlists like rejections.

In that case, I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston. I’m not going to Boston.

I am not going to Boston.

I. am. not. going. to. Boston.

I’m 90% sure I’m going to go to my safety school. It’s a good school, but honestly I didn’t want to end up there. I didn’t think I would. I don’t know what to think anymore.

I don’t know what to do. My dream city.

The rug was violently ripped from underneath me and where the ground should have been has been replaced with a tunnel to the place I never want to see again.

I’m hurt. And confused. And disappointed. But mostly angry.

Angry that what I want isn’t the same as what path has been laid out for me.

Angry that I believe in fate at all.

Angry that I thought I had a chance.

Angry that I let other people think I had a chance. Angry that they still think that.

I haven’t gotten all of my decisions back yet. But I know they’ll all be rejections. They’re Ivies. I didn’t expect to get into them in the first place.

I’m not sad. If you dare say that everything happens for a reason, that I’m still a good person, that I’m going to go where I was meant to, that at least I got accepted anywhere at all, you should know that you’re full of well-intentioned crap.

There’s one school I’m still waiting for that if I get in, I’m 100% attending. But after being denied from the schools I was pretty sure that I was going to be accepted to, I’m definitely not getting in. And that fucking sucks. It sucks that I have to stay in California altogether.

What kind of hurts the most is that no one told me to not be so ambitious.

I guess that’s something I had to learn on my own.

What to do on a waitlist

I received several questions over the weekend about what someone should do if they’re waitlisted at their top choice schools.

Waitlists suck. It’s more limbo, more uncertainty, and more diverging paths.

Here’s what to do:

1. Make Peace With It

Yes; your top choices may have waitlisted you. However, you’re sure to have gotten in somewhere. You probably got into a few kick butt schools that are thrilled to have you.

So focus on the choices you do have. Tour those schools, do overnights, figure out which one of those schools is the best fit.

Do not count on a waitlist coming through. It will be better for your mental health and your happiness to move forward, rather than dwell on a lingering possibility.

2. Decide if you’re going to accept your place

You can reject a spot on the waitlist. In fact, most people will. So if you’re still 100% sure you’d rather go to a waitlisted school over a school you’re accepted to, feel free to accept a place on the waitlist.

3. Send a letter of continued interest

This should be mandatory. If you’re not willing to make the effort, don’t take a spot on the waitlist.
A letter of continued interest is a letter where you tell the school how much you’d like to attend, what you would add to the class, and update them on anything important that has happened in your life.
These should all be specific, well written, and impressive reasons. Make yourself stand out, offices will be receiving thousands of these letters.

4. Update any important info

If something really big has happened in the past few months that would impress officers (maybe you won a state competition in something, or you have new awards, or you invented an App that’s making thousands upon thousands of dollars, or someone in your family got a new job and you’re a now going to be a full pay student) add it.
But seriously don’t waste time with something like an extra letter of recommendation unless its from someone influential who would really make a difference (like, if your older brother got married, and his father in law is a highly influential, hugely donating alumni, or if you ended up babysitting for one of the dean’s kids and they offered to write you a letter).

5. Move on

To rehash number 1, unfortunately the admittance rate of a waitlist can be as low as 0 at some places in some years. So keep fighting, do everything you can, but make peace with the fact that the odds are less in your favor than they were before.