anonymous asked:

hey just wanted to ask you if you've watched harry's opening monologue at the legacy awards? bc a lot of ppl are feeling uncomfortable as am I... and I feel like you might be one of the most level-headed logical people in this fandom so I wanted to ask you for your take on it? it's okay if you don't want to, I understand it's a touchy subject.

tbh my issue goes to the root of it which is that the Outfest Awards hired a straight actor to emcee in the first place. it was an lgbt+ event headed by someone who is not lgbt+ (even if he portrays one on television). the moment you put someone straight as the face of an lgbt+ event it’s never going to go well for anyone. it’s no different than hiring a white guy to host the BET Awards. you cannot expect that to work out.

basically, the text really read like it was written for people within the lgbt+ community. the reason i say this is bc it was all the same type of reclaiming jokes minorities often do – it’s so off-the-wall that most straight ppl know you can’t say that out loud. (straight ppl being homophobic is always much more insidious in my experience, a sneaky type of concern trolling.) but it really should have been spoken by someone within the community.

like i also joke about being an Emotionless Asian Robot to other Asian ppl all the time but it doesn’t mean white ppl are allowed to do the same. i’m surprised Outfest didn’t seem to take this into consideration when they made their decision.

Smells do totally take me back and remind me of a particular time or place or person. I remember admiring my mum’s perfume as a little girl, always seeing her perfume bottles lined up and thinking it was such an adult thing. Like, “Oh, when I’m grown up I’ll wear perfume too.” I remember trying my mum’s perfumes and always smelling older women and thinking, “Oh God, I can’t wait until I get to that stage.” Oddly enough, a lot of women in my family do wear Calvin Klein perfumes and I didn’t realise until I last went home and I hugged my auntie and I was like, “You smell so good. I always think of you when I smell this, what is it?” And she was like, “Oh, it’s Calvin Klein Euphoria.” And I was like, “That’s so weird, I’m actually doing a campaign with them at the moment.” Of course, they asked if they could get free perfum.