You know that saying “It takes a village to raise a child”? Well, we hear it so much because it’s true. You really will need a village.
Start thinking about the people you want in your child’s life. Make a list even - you really can’t have too many. Some will be great for the early weeks and others will be great for toddlerhood (you’ll still appreciate help then and it comes within a year!)
Now, go down the list and invite them for tea or a meal. That may sound like work if you’re got a long list but its worth it. If however, this makes you feel overwhelmed, you can always use the phone. You want to formally tell them that you’d like them to be part of your village. Make it official. Talking about it in the open makes it clear that you’d like their support. Tell them why too - is it because you adore them? Because they’ll teach your child something you likely won’t? Maybe they have a hobby you’d like your child to be exposed to? Or maybe you want their support with meals and you know they’re a good cook. It’s all game - early parenting is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do and asking for support is something you’ll want to get good at.
Despite the loss of her legs, Li Juhong
has been a doctor in her Chinese village
Li lost her legs when she was 4 years old, on her way to preschool. She ran into the road and got caught under the wheels of a truck.
Since her accident she has been determined to remain mobile, and she learned to walk again using wooden stools. Growing up, Li had always wanted to be a doctor, so she left her village to get a degree in medicine, graduated from college, and was hired at the village clinic a year later.
She later married a man named Xing from her hometown. He quit his job to help around the house, and he carries Li to jobs when she isn’t able to travel by herself. Xing even carries Li on his back to neighboring villages so she can check up on the elderly or people who are unable to travel to her.
“I just did what I felt I had to do. Even if I’m not honored for my work, I would still continue to do my job as a rural doctor.”
Chysauster village is believed to have been inhabited from about 100 BC until the 3rd century AD. It it was primarily agricultural and unfortified and probably occupied by members of the Dumnonii tribe. The village consists of the remains of around 10 courtyard houses. Eight of the houses form two distinct rows, and each house had an open central courtyard surrounded by a number of thatched rooms. The houses have a similar layout. The buildings are oriented on an east-west axis, with the entrance facing east. The walls survive to heights of up to about 10 feet. A field system in the vicinity attests to the site’s agricultural heritage.