victims families

i keep receiving anonymous hate and i’m 110% sure who it’s coming from but i’m just gonna be the bigger person and delete all these hateful messages and disable anonymous questions. you’re all fucking adults so please start acting like it. consider myself out of the “victim family” and you can all unfollow me if you’d like. i love the killers and i love brandon flowers and i will forever call myself a victim out of tumblr but i’m done trying to create friendships in this shithole website. this is all so stressful and stupid.

Ariana Grande has offered to pay for all 22 funerals for the victims who lost their lives. She individually FaceTimed the fans that were injured in the hospital. She donated a million dollars of the two million dollar goal to a donation page. She’s planning to return to Manchester for a benefit concert in which all proceeds will be donated to the victims and their families. Yet people still hate her because she licked a doughnut and said “she hates America.” This woman is an angel and I admire her so much.

Jason: We are gathered here today-

Dick: [sobs]

Jason: To honor the life-

Damian: And death

Dick: [sobs harder]

Jason: Of Blue, someone who meant much to us all. He was family. A victim of- uhh…

Dick: [sobs some more]

Damian: This is pathetic. I’m going to my room.

Tim: Don’t be so rude! This is a funeral!

Damian: For a fish

Jason: Shut up. Both of you. Steph, start the music again.

Steph: Sure thing, lover boy.

Jason: Blue was only 3 weeks old when he was tragically taken from us

Dick: [wails]

Enough excuses for parents who abused their kids but “meant the best”. They “meant the best” for themselves, not for the kids. It’s fucking easy to just rely on emotional abuse, threats, humiliation, shame, guilt and violence to get your way and to force your kid to stay in control and to sabotage and fuck up the child’s life so you would feel good about it, and then to just remind yourself “i meant the best” to feel no guilt about doing so whatsoever. Just repeating to yourself “it doesn’t hurt them” and “they deserved it”  while actively forcing your child to keep all the obvious trauma symptoms out of sight or ensuring the child believes it’s their own damn fault for feeling the way they do.

You know what’s not easy? Having your parent force control of your life via emotional abuse, threats, shame, humiliation, violence. Your parent getting into your own head and  gaslighting your senses until you feel worthless and insane and like a monster, until you don’t dare to feel your own feelings, until you’re ashamed of the pain you feel and can’t see yourself as anything other than a horrible burden and nothing you do can ever change that or make you good enough. You know what’s even harder? Still believing that your parent “meant the best” and not even daring to blame them and still being forced to draw the conclusion that it was after all, all your fault, for existing as you do, for being who you are, for not ever being good enough! And then, on top of all of it, hearing the rest of the world agree with the parent’s view, pressuring you to never blame them, to forgive them, to never hold them responsible, to “be better” and understand them, to not ever try to place blame on anyone but yourself because then you’re the monster.

Just. How. Is. One. Supposed. To. Heal. From. That.
Healing can’t even begin until the blame is placed on the parent! This person literally benefited from their child’s suffering! They did not get affected negatively from it at all, they didn’t even care, they walked away satisfied and getting what they wanted while the child now has a lifetime of traumatic consequences and mental illness problems! Their freedom is taken away, their quality of life reduced, their relationships and friendships sabotaged, their confidence crushed! They’re placed at extra risk for addictions and obsessions because they keep falling into the black pit of trauma no matter how hard they try to distract and their life is heavy and painful no matter how well they do afterwards! Their brain can’t regulate stress properly anymore! Abuse causes literal brain damage and all this is just so the parents would get their way! And you all still insist they shouldn’t feel guilty about it or be faced with consequences of their abuse? They shouldn’t fucking admit to themselves and to their children what they’ve done? If the truth will kill them, let them die. Abused children’s right to heal comes way before the abusers feeling good about themselves.

stop using the death of literal fucking children at arianas concert to spread anti-islam propaganda. there has been no confirmation that this attack is linked to isis, yet the right is already trying to push their racist narrative and fear monger their way to votes for the uk’s upcoming election. it’s absolutely sick and the victims and their families deserve better.

ariana is so fucking strong i admire her so much she couldve easily have hid and never performed again and i wouldnt have blamed her one bit but then she puts together this whole thing less than two weeks later for the victims and their families herself the city of manchester and everyone else affected like this big fuck you to anyone who thinks they can take away peoples happiness we have to remember that this woman is only 23 years old and shes choosing to spread love even when she herself was a victim of what happened and that takes a lot of courage

on the grande concert tragedy.

my thoughts are with everyone affected by the Manchester Arena tragedy. please be safe, be respectful, and help out where you can. when reading up on this horrible incident, be sure to check your sources and to not believe unconfirmed rumors. only trust verified reports from officials and news outlets with a history of ethical reporting. be respectful of the families/victims and DO NOT attempt to politicize this until more is known. DO NOT donate to any gofundme’s or other fundraisers until an official one has been verified by authorities/the victims – unfortunately, a lot of horrible people like to scam good samaritans this way in the aftermath of these events.  many people are dead and even more are hurt. show COMMON DECENCY and BE GOOD to one another. there’s going to be a lot of broken hearts and mourning parents tonight. there’s going to be a lot of people in pain. keep THAT in mind before everything else. 

BTS: Spring Day Stage Analysis

The world has finally seen the Spring Day stage. And wooh! That was emotional! (You’re heartless if you didn’t shed a tear)

When they talked about Youth Ending… They weren’t fucking kidding.

Bangtan may have talked about their advocacy against discrimination and injustice for the MV (if you want to see the symbolisms check my theory here: BTS You Never Walk Alone - Spring Day MV Theory: The Untold Story) but this song, this choreography… was all dedicated to the victims and families of the Sewol Tragedy which happened on the spring day of April 16, 2014. The Sewol Ferry tragedy ended the youth of almost 300 students from Danwon High School that day and this song and stage hopes to give comfort to the victims and their families that they are not alone.

Jimin representing those whose youth ended that day.

Boat formation, Jimin slowly going down

Jimin being taken by the waves, JHope too late to save him

Jin, the “comfort-giver”.

He represents those who stand strong with the plight of those who went through the injustice in hopes of giving peace to them and those whose lives were lost in the tragedy.

Being a strong shoulder for Kookie

Continuing the fight for Tae who was singing about his best friend

Tae trying to catch and hold on to the hope

Finally giving peace to the lost, Jimin

When us ARMYs say that Bangtan is relevant, we don’t only mean that they are breaking new ground in the industry they are in. Their songs in and of itself are now even more relevant than some on-lookers may perceive.

Bangtan will let everyone remember that the fight is not over…

You who are still fighting, lost, and in mourning… You will never walk alone.

I get that some of y'all wanna “spread awareness” by sharing pictures/videos of dead black and brown bodies all over the internet, but that shit is not spreading awareness, its just plain insensitive and horrifying. Those videos and pictures are traumatizing and triggering, and very disrespectful to the family and friends of those victims. So many grieving family members have asked people on the internet to stop sharing pictures and videos of their dead relatives because it’s just wrong and disgusting. So could y'all just please try to stop yourself from doing that in situations like these because it’s not really spreading awareness all it’s spreading is that y'all don’t care for or respect black and brown people enough to not share pictures of their dead corpses on the internet

Tonight I went to see Ariana Grande in my home town of Manchester with my two nest friends and we had an incredible night until the end of the show. I never thought that mine and my two best friends’ night would end the way it did, as we were about to leave the venue after the last song we heard a loud explosion.

The explosion came from the doors we were supposed to leave through and we didn’t know what it was at the time. When we left we saw numerous injured people and a lot of blood.

I can’t really process what has happened right now if I’m honest, I never thought this would happen in my city and I definitely never thought I’d be there to witness it, some of the things we saw tonight will scar us forever.

At the moment I’m at home and I’m physically fine but I’ve since learned that this was an attack that has killed 19 people and I honestly don’t know what to say, I feel sick.

My thoughts are with the victims families and Ariana herself, nobody should go to a concert and not return home and she should not blame herself for this.

anonymous asked:

So Harry basically sang the soft songs off his album😢

i can’t really emphasize how much this is…. i just i really can’t articulate it. he wasn’t in much of a mood to celebrate, as he said. it wasn’t a night for dancing around and screaming to lyrics and getting hyped up. he’s heartbroken, and he’s hurting for his home and for the victims and for their families. that was a very respectful tribute, picking the softer songs and doing an acoustic set, while allowing a moment of silence for the victims. he still went on stage and performed for those fans because he knew that a lot of them traveled to see him and they paid money. and they paid money for charity, too. like, every dollar went to a local charity. that’s just - i’m really emotional because of the generosity in his heart and how kind and considerate he is. it couldn’t have been easy to get on that stage, but he did it. for charity, no less. for the fans. as a tribute to those lives lost and the families broken. with a lot of emphasis on putting love back into the world, for pleading with people just to love one another

Some Thoughts on Lars, his family, and his relationship with Sadie

This is Lars’s house. His parents are very into handmade crafts they saw on Pinterest. On the other hand, the room they let their son stay in still looks like and has the objects of an attic (Christmas lights, boxes, coats). Knowing Lars, he probably didn’t want knick-knacks and rainbows in his room.

His parents clearly care about him, though. They don’t suppress his personality. His mother even bought him the heart plugs. 

I feel their family is one that’s stopped being on the same page some time ago. It’s a sharp contrast to Sour Cream’s family, who regularly communicates even though they don’t always agree. Lars’s family doesn’t seem to engage with each other on a level that both parties are comfortable with or understand. Can you imagine the breakfast scene but with Lars sitting there instead of Steven?

His parents see Lars as the person Lars wants to be, not as the real Lars. They see the tough, cool guy. They believe this so much that they’re not surprised he’s breaking into people’s houses as a burglar.

Lars is starved for the affirmation of his peers. With parents who see their son in town and immediately saying, “Let’s follow him!” you can sort of see how most of his childhood was. And we look back at the handicrafts and the general aesthetic of his house and his parents and we know that’s not the image he himself wants to project.

I’m not defending Lars, just trying to explain why he doesn’t want people to know about his parents, and why we’ve never seen them before.Their personalities just clash, most families do. The problem here is that they’re not making efforts to reach each other, or those efforts are taken at face value. 

When Steven gave Lars’s parents the answer they wanted to hear, that was that. They didn’t question him or ask what was wrong or anything. In the same way, I can imagine that when Lars’s parents got him what he wanted, that was it as well. 

Because neither are terrible people. Lars’s parents are concerned enough to talk about his grades and his education after Lars moved out. They didn’t give him one shot and then leave him on his own. 

But what are their conversations like? His father remarks it’s great that Lars didn’t even swear this time. They both are incredibly surprised by how the conversation went.

His parents know him, but don’t know him well enough. I have friends, who will immediately lash out when their parents confront them with something they’ve done “wrong” or when it’s something they don’t want to do. They sort of clam up and just stop listening to anything, even reasonable things. And from experience, it’s because deep down, they know they’re not doing well. They’re upset with themselves but also don’t want to change

Lars knows his responsibilities and what he’s supposed to do for school, but did you see all those F’s? He’d have to change a lot about his habits and his lifestyle, and it frustrates him because he wants to do better but doesn’t want to make all those changes and everyone suddenly feels up on his case and he doesn’t know how to answer them because they’re right but he wants to put it away. 

The very intentional running sentence shows that approaching it the way, I think, most parents would approach it, “What on Earth happened? Is there something wrong at school?” would make him explode. It’s a personality thing. So they take the opposite direction. Someone like Lars probably acts like he doesn’t hear anything, and then fights about it, but when he’s alone these words weigh on him and he starts to feel bad for himself, and the cycle starts again.

In the show, who actually gets Lars to do things? His peers. The way his parents address Lars, talking about his education and his decisions don’t really matter to him, because he cares very little about himself. Time after time we see Lars pretending to be someone he’s not for the validation he gets from other people means way more. If his parents addressed him from an angle that involved peers, it may help a little more.

At his core, who was Lars? He was best friends with Ronaldo, until he started letting people’s opinions dictate whom he should be friends with. Sadie says it best when she called him out (as Steven) for acting completely different in public and in private. He’s not a terrible person, but he ends up doing terrible things for the sake of that validation.

Because Lars is short-tempered, impulsive, at times violent. He throws things and rips things up and yells a lot. But what’s he doing it all for? It’s when someone messes with how he wants to be perceived, and being cool is something he thinks he’s got down but doesn’t actually understand. He wants to be like the Cool Kids, and not care about anyone, except the Cool Kids care about their friends and family more than they’d like to admit.

Lars does all these things but he’s capable of a lot of good. Sadie points out in Joking Victim that when they played video games together, Lars brought her favourite food. That’s a thoughtful thing. And the events of Horror Club show that he’s not completely awful. 

He’s done a lot of mean things, though. This episode, for me, is only the start of addressing that. Because at the end, it seems as though it’s a good thing Lars is mean again. Everyone liked the new Lars better, but his meanness is validated because Sadie prefers the original Lars. I don’t think this is the case.

Taken with a grain of salt, the ending makes sense. It’s not that Lars should be mean. Sadie likes having a friend who is cynical, and complains, and makes use of dark humour. Just look at the kind of movies she watches, and how she says things like, “I’d rather have my organs pickled,” in the same way Lars says, “I’d rather eat poop.” They do have a lot in common in terms of interests and humour and stuff like that. So why aren’t they acting like it?

Someone asked me:

Anonymous said:
I don’t know if you’ve talked about this before, but how do you feel about Sadie and Lars relationship? To me they could work as friends, but they’ve both got a lot of growing to do before they approach anything resembling a romance. Because whenever they try, someone gets hurt. Sadie was willing to hold both Lars and Steven (a minor) on an island just so she could be with him and Lars was selfish enough to take advantage of Sadie and fake a back injury to sneak out of work. Sadie puts (cont.)

…way too much faith in him when he hurts her SO badly (I mean, she was crying really hard out of betrayal and anger when he went and did that sleezeball thing, and THEN to hang out with some other girl too?) but Sadie’s no angel either if she’s willing to KIDNAP people and strand them from friends, family, and supplies just for her own personal gain. But Steven Universe, for all their progress, is still doing the Good Girls Love Bad Boys trope that is so damn eye-rolling. Real life ain’t so.

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