I feel like the worst thing about the Anders chantry thing, aside from the murder, is the blackmail and the deceit. Anders is perfectly willing to make Hawke an accomplice and if romanced gives Hawke the old "If you love me you'll do this." That's the kind of thing you do to someone if you wanna fuck them up for the rest of their life. Who does that to someone they actually loved? I am in agreement that Anders is a complete shitbag.