Most people think attraction has to do with sun sign. Everyone’s heard: “If you’re an Aquarius, date a Gemini or a Libra!” This is due to the fact that mainstream astrology does not consider other factors besides your sun sign, and most people believe this. But actually, this is not true, because most of the time sun-sun compatibility has little importance - no more than giving a general vibe that the relationship would give off. Instead, we should really focus on connecting energies between two charts. Read my post here about how compatibility really works.
Here are some common connections that indicate attraction between two people. It says that they must be in the “same sign”, but note that if the two placements are conjunct the bond is even more powerful.
SUN/MOON - 1st person’s sun in the same sign as the 2nd person’s moon:
both people feel like they’ve found their other half
the moon person looks up to the sun person
the sun person helps the moon person shine
there is an ease with each other that is very natural
both people “make sense” to each other
both have a similar attitude towards life
SUN/ASCENDANT - 1st person’s sun in the same sign as the 2nd person’s ascendant:
the two people are very similar
there are many common interests
they both view life in a similar way
the sun person likes the energy that the ascendant person naturally gives off
the ascendant person feels like they can be themselves with the sun person
self-expression is easy and harmonious together
MOON/MOON - having the same moon sign:
this is a powerful, soulmate-like relationship
both people feel a sense of security
the other person feels “familiar” somehow
sharing feelings is easy and natural
both are very sensitive to each other’s feelings and needs
there is an intense emotional bond, sometimes overwhelmingly powerful
one can read the other like a book
MOON/ASCENDANT - 1st person’s moon in the same sign as the 2nd person’s ascendant:
both people feel understood by each other
the moon person feels at ease expressing their feelings
the ascendant person feels understood by the moon person
there is a natural emotional connection
both are aware of and receptive to the other’s feelings
ASCENDANT/ASCENDANT - having the same ascendant sign:
both people feel very comfortable with each other
both people sense a similarity in the way that they project themselves to the world
both have many shared values and similar attitudes
both are attracted to the other’s self-expression
SUN/VENUS - 1st person’s sun in the same sign as the 2nd person’s venus:
the sun person is the venus person’s “type”
the sun person feeds off of the venus person’s love
both people give and receive much affection
the venus person values everything the sun person represents
the sun person appreciates the venus person’s expression
MOON/VENUS - 1st person’s moon in the same sign as the 2nd person’s venus:
the venus person makes the moon person feel comfortable
both care a lot for each other
both share a lot of values when it comes to a relationship
ASCENDANT/VENUS - 1st person’s ascendant in the same sign as the 2nd person’s venus:
the ascendant person embodies what the venus person finds attractive
the ascendant person appreciates the love the venus person gives
both are sensitives to each other’s needs and want to please each other
VENUS/VENUS - having the same venus sign:
both people are magnetically drawn to each other
there is an appreciation for each other’s personal style/aesthetic
both sense a similarity in each other’s romantic expression
both naturally understand each other’s romantic needs and satisfy them
VENUS/MARS - 1st person’s venus in the same sign as the 2nd person’s mars:
there is a sense of romantic chemistry
the venus person is attracted to how the mars person asserts him/herself
the mars person is attracted to the venus person’s charm and style
These are not the only indicators of attraction (there are many more involving asteroids or other points), but they are the most common ones involving personal planets. And also, having any of these connections does not guarantee a relationship will work out - they just give an indication of a strong connection between two people. There are both good AND bad sides to each of these connections, but here I’m showing the more positive side (meaning the reasons WHY you would feel the attraction in the first place). Having too many of these could potentially make a relationship overwhelming, while having only one might not be enough to keep a relationship going. It’s all about balance. :)
The Venus retrograde is upon us with the dates being from
March 4 to April 15 (updated dates). It is in Aries/Pisces. Venus Retrograde will influence your finances, relationships, sensuality, sense of beauty, and artistic abilities. Retrogrades always influence everyone to certain degrees. But this retrograde is going to hit Aries, Pisces, (especially the Venus Signs) Taurus, and Libra the most. Also take into consideration your big influences despite your Venus sign for this retrograde!!!
Aries Venus during Venus RX: Might impulsively involve past lovers, makes brash financial decisions, reminiscing will be frustrating. Creativity is bold, there is a lot of fiery energy behind acts of love, good or bad.
At end of RX beware of disappearing acts from others or disillusion. Facing dependence and learning giving could happen.
Taurus Venus during Venus RX: Unusually impulsive with purchases, can feel braver in love during start, finances will be hit good or bad. Will easily fall for romance, charm, and illusions. Highly concentrated on their appearance.
Old lovers or friends could hold them back during this period. Feeling of loss is stubborn.
Charm might feel missing, watch out for awkwardness.
Gemini Venus during Venus RX: A lot of energy and activity in relationships, mind wonders to past relationships easily, more sensitive than usual. Finances and creativity can actually get a boosts in vitality, can easily get carried away by charm or praise. Near end be careful of disappointment, could get in touch with intuition, healing, and emotions.
Cancer Venus during Venus RX: Passion and desire are closer to surface, can be insecure about looks or finances, a lot of brooding during this time.
Could let go and heal a lot during end of RX. Imagination and creativity boosted throughout RX. Might learn to spot or avoid disillusion. Intuition is heightened during the end of RX.
Leo Venus during Venus RX: Might have frequent nostalgia, creativity is on fire, easily spends too much money, in the mood to be generous.
Emotions and energy can be drained by end of RX. Old lovers or friends can throw them off. Watch your money!
Virgo Venus during Venus RX: Emotions easily confused or won’t make sense, heavily blocks out past lovers or friends, communication is off. Might discover new creativity, a lot of healing during this time, standards reevaluated, easily worries about looks. Can feel unnaturally vocal, aggressive, and competitive towards loved ones.
Libra Venus during Venus RX: A WHOLE lot of nostalgia, reminiscing, and past influences or insecurities coming forward. Can be aggressive towards self, concerned with looks, easily lose track of money or has good luck with new money. Charm might feel missing, watch out for awkwardness.
Scorpio Venus during Venus RX: Can feel vain, might come across very fortunate or draining circumstances financially via loved ones. Lots of vitality at start, finds calm at end or an escape. Opportunities for healing. Be careful of unexpected grudges.
Venus during Venus RX: Easily disillusioned or let down, energy is scattered, highly impulsive with purchases, confidence drains. Can be a good time to discover new talent or niche, emotional sensitivity is heightened, passion is constantly going up and down.
Capricorn Venus during Venus RX: Feeling more aggressive and forward, might let old lovers or friends back into life, watch for bad decisions. Needs space during this time, finds it hard to recharge, but can find some internal understanding near end of RX.
Aquarius Venus during Venus RX: Creativity boosted as well as aggression, light themes on past lovers/friends haunting them.
Could change their idea of beauty or outer appearance, might feel a shift in spirituality at the end.
Venus during Venus RX: Easily falls for others during this time, head over heels for romance, watch for a lot of disillusion at end of RX. Past will haunt them someway, pain could inspire imagination and outlets, financial threats linger. Healing and large transformations might come at the end of this retrograde.
sun in the signs: the luminescent qualities of the sign, its radiance, its regal, royal quality, its need to be worshiped aries sun qualities must be worshiped for their greatness and triumphs taurus sun worshiped for beauty, creativity, and conservation gemini sun worshiped for the mind and intellectual qualities cancer sun worshiped for its creativity, empathy, and quality of dream leo sun worshiped for its essence, artistry, and presence virgo sun worshiped for its skill, quality of mind, and technical talents libra sun worshiped for its grace, beauty, and sociability scorpio sun worshiped for its mystique, power, and emotion sagittarius sun worshiped for its knowledge, experience, and philosophy capricorn sun worshiped for its success, glory, and talent aquarius sun worshiped for its individuality, self expression, and altruism pisces sun worshiped for its vision, empathy, and creativity
moon in the signs: increases the intuitive qualities of the sign’s expression an ultra intuitive moon in aries a time sensitive, nature intuitive taurus moon a telepathic gemini moon a clairvoyant cancer moon a creative manifesting leo moon an intuitive virgo moon an interpersonally psychic libra moon a crystal gazer scorpio moon a prophetic sagittarius moon a time sensitive capricorn moon a telepathic aquarius moon a psychic pisces
mercury in the signs: increases the quality of mind and calculation mercury in aries: turns rapid movement into rapid thought mercury in taurus: cerebral creativity mercury in gemini: clever and mercurial mercury in cancer: emotionally intelligent mercury in leo: broadway light mind mercury in virgo: technical intelligence mercury in libra: interpersonal intelligence mercury in scorpio: calculated curiosity mercury in sagittarius: mental adventurer mercury in capricorn: calculates dream mercury in aquarius: mentally unusual mercury in pisces: thinks a dream
venus in the signs: increases the fun and flowery qualities of the sun a childlike aries venus a creative taurus venus a socially harmonic gemini venus a poetic cancer venus a ravishing, loving leo venus a gesturing virgo venus a dancing libra venus an empathic scorpio venus an interested (in people) sagittarius venus a noble hearted capricorn venus a playful aquarius venus an ultra affectionate venus pisces
mars in the signs: increases the potency and raw aggression of the qualities rapid cycling mars in aries bull headed mars in taurus silver tongued mars in gemini scathingly reactive mars in cancer dramatically self centred mars in leo hurtfully critical mars in virgo passive aggressive mars in libra confrontational mars in scorpio blunt to the point of pain mars in sagittarius cold hearted solo minded ambition mars in capricorn unforgiving detachment mars in aquarius psychic wounding mars in pisces
Venus in Aries: Emotional, enthusiastic and impulsive, you like to take yourself for a romantic adventurer. You fall in love with impetuosity and at first glance - and you just as quickly fall away. More demanding than you realize, you are affectionate, ardent and easily excited. Though you ultimately need a mental compatibility, what stimulates you in the first place is the physical appearance.
Venus in Taurus: Mistress of Taurus, Venus feels herself completely at home here. It makes you loving, charming, sensual to the extreme, and gives you a great artistic sense. All the pleasures of life attract you, starting with rich foods and ending with long and voluptuous sexual encounters, with the same person preferably. You appreciate constancy, and although you are capable of infidelities, these do not represent your natural mode. You need security, comfort, hugs, magnificent objects, someone who stimulates you, and an attentive partner.
Venus in Gemini: The planet of love in the sign of the inconstant mind produces witty jokes, many hours of happy conversation and strolling in bookstores, as well as an irresistible attraction towards intelligent and fast people. You are quite capable of maintaining a love story by fax. But in the absence of mitigating factors, your affections are easily influenced, and it is difficult for you to distinguish between what should be a great adventure and true love.
Venus in Cancer: A true nest builder, you get the deepest pleasures of your home and family. You are kind, sympathetic, sentimental, loyal, devoted, loved, and great cook (or at least you would like to be one). But even if you give the impression of having complete confidence in yourself, you need more than a little emotional encouragement. Your fear of being rejected may be hidden, but it is real. This may well be the reason you hang on too long, both to friends and the person you love. When you love someone, you want it to be forever.
Venus in Leo: Warm, open, loyal, in love with luxury, you have artistic sense, you are creative, you have theatrical attitudes, and you are in love with love. You feel passionate and express yourself flamboyantly. Love is an essential part of your nature, and you tend to define yourself through it. You also love the arts. But you are not about to run away with an unpublished poet, at least not if the artist in question does not have substantive financial reserves. You are happy when the money comes in well.
Venus in Virgo: When you are in love, you devote all your attention to it, analyze each interaction, reread your letters of love and listen to your answering machine to be sure that you have grasped the slightest nuance. You would do anything to be loved. But you can also criticize and control, have lots of opinions on how others should behave. Some natives with this position have noisy personalities. If you are one of them, people think that you are a wild beast of sex. In reality, most natives are modest, or even a little shy in bed.
Venus in Libra: You are affectionate, kind, warm and eager to please. True romantic, you idealize love and often have problems adapting to a real relationship. When the disappointment settles, it is hard, but you do not stay at home to mop. You are very seductive, and there is usually always someone on your track. This position also brings a high aesthetic sensitivity.
Venus in Scorpio: Thanks to the outrageous eroticism of the Scorpion, this position promises a ticket for ecstasy. And sometimes it is. The presence of mystery, intensity, and even a subtle suspicion of darkness excites you. Proud, passionate and seductive, you are predestined to deep desires, both sexual and emotional, and your love life tends to be tumultuous. In the best case, you are deeply devoted and deeply intimate. In the worst, you can be jealous and vindictive. But despite your reputation, you are also able to withdraw from social interaction and isolate yourself behind an invisible screen.
Venus in Sagittarius: Demonstrative, ardent and emotional, you consider love as an adventure, and not as a means of fixing a secure future. You enjoy your freedom, and your ideal partner is a person who helps you see the world and live even more aspects of life, not someone who restricts your activities. You have high ideals and you are attracted by highly committed people. You are also intrigued by people who come from backgrounds totally different from yours. You do not mind shocking people.
Venus in Capricorn: You are sensual in your sexual relations and constant in your affections, but cautious when it comes to reveal your emotions. You appreciate stability, ownership and righteousness, and you do not want to lose control. The disorder and the mess of emotional brawls frighten you, that’s why you do not reveal your feelings. Serious and sophisticated, you admire everything that is classic. In art as in love, you understand the need to control.
Venus in Aquarius: Open-minded, friendly and idealistic, you are attracted to anti-conformists and rebels, and you have a multitude of friends. But you are not the most passionate person on this planet, and you tend to prefer an intellectual camaredery to a romantic bond. You also need time for yourself, and you tend to take sex casually. The new techniques interest you, but not the display of passion. In the end, you are of the independent type and your heart is hard to catch.
Venus in Pisces: You are sentimental, you have the taste for art, you are devoted and ready to do anything for the beloved. You idealize your partners and sincerely seek union with them, but you have no idea what is reasonable and what is not. Other people find it easy to influence you, partly because you shrug your shoulders as a sign of impotence and accept that you are left with the crumbs. In the end, it makes you angry and explains that you are sometimes offensive emotionally, usually passively and aggressively. You truly know how to love, but you are sometimes too willing to sacrifice your own needs to satisfy those of your partners.
- Aries: Tell them you’ll stay even when they push away. Tell them you love them just the way they are and they don’t have to change for you. Give them a sense of self and freedom. Give them a place to return to at the end of the day.
- Taurus: Tell them you want a home with them. Tell them that a future with them is brighter than the sun and that you’ve never felt as secure as you do with them in your arms. Give them a sense of comfort and safety. Give them your all.
- Gemini: Tell them…wait no, shhh. Let them tell you their thoughts and feelings. Let them tell you all the beautiful things on their mind and pour their heart out through eloquent speeches. Give them a sense of curiosity and freedom to ramble. Give them your attention and listening ears.
- Cancer: Tell them they don’t have to worry about you leaving. Tell them they’re safe from anything and everything and that you’ll protect them. Give them a sense of love and loyalty. Give them your heart and soul.
- Leo: Tell them how beautiful and amazing they are. Tell them you’ve never seen a star that shined nearly as bright. Give them a sense of adoration and wonder. Give them your praise and acceptance.
- Virgo: Tell them thank you for everything they do. Tell them you’ve never met someone so reliable and dependable. Give them a sense of self worth and satisfaction. Give them your gratitude and appreciation.
- Libra: Tell them how beautiful their spirit is. Tell them how their charm and intelligence intrigues you. Give them a sense of self love and endless support. Give them your open heart and mind.
- Scorpio: Tell them you’ll never abandon them. Tell them your deepest fear is a life without them in it and that you’d cross the earth to be close to them. Give them a sense of dedication and intensity. Give them your entire being.
- Sagittarius: Tell them you want to see the world with them. Tell them when you look into their eyes…you do. Give them a sense of adventure and freedom. Give them a home away from home.
- Capricorn: Tell them you won’t betray them or use them. Tell them they can depend on someone other than themselves finally. Give them a sense of support and trust. Give them a foundation that will never crumble.
- Aquarius: Tell them you love how different and unique they are. Tell them you’ve never met anyone like them and they’ve made your world better. Give them a sense of identity and belonging. Give them your world.
- Pisces: Tell them they’re a dream come true. Tell them they make flowers bloom in the darkest of times. Give them a sense of purpose and care. Give them an escape from reality.
*Planets are in regard to what is in your 8th or 12th house!
Fear of Pain / Physical Intimacy.
Fear of not meeting standards. Lots of eating disorders lie here (especially when dealing with 12th house).
Fear of Emotional Intimacy.
Fear of Doctors/Hospitals. May also have fear of Physical Intimacy.
Relationship Anxiety. Fear of losing their morals.
Paranoia, and even Schizophrenia in 12th. (However, this just points to a possibility, and is in no way a definite. It would just "up the possibility" of having it, not unalike to the genetic trace).
Fear of Commitment. Fear of Restriction.
Fear of Emotional Intimacy. Fear of Poverty. Fear of those in Authority. (Which often drives them to be wildly successful!) (Last is more 8th-Specific)
Fear of Loneliness. Self-Doubt. Fear of not leaving an impact. Fear of, in their own minds, being "worthless".
Fear of "Loss of Innocence". (Usually these people are scared of Physical Intimacy, Gore, and other "demoralizing" things).
Fear of Emotional Intimacy.
Fear of losing something, anything / Fear of missing something once disposed of.
Paranoia/Anxiety. Often more geared towards creating the Worst Case Scenario.
aries: 1000x more prone to being a hoe than libra and probably mad that they take all the credit for it taurus: gets way too stuck in relationships even if they’re not good for them gemini: feels suffocated easily and will probably ghost you if you start getting possessive cancer: you have one chance with them and one only so don’t fuck it up leo: will start acting really ridiculous if you don’t make them feel special and loved virgo: they’re always trying to work on their relationship even if they literally don’t need to libra: can’t ever settle on an aesthetic; their style changes day by day scorpio: always goes all in with someone, and gets hurt easily because of this sagittarius: if you’re having problems in a relationship with them, expect not to see them until their stress is lifted capricorn: pda? what’s pda? they want their relationship to appear mature and dignified aquarius: basically just wants their lover to be a good friend they can fuck…and love but only on the lowkey pisces: likely to fall for those that they feel need a gentle hand, which can get them into some tough spots