before season seven aired they were showing a countdown of top game of thrones moments on tv with various actors, writers and other random celebrities giving their opinions and it really showed how viewers react differently to male and female characters.
in the scene where arya stark slits walder frey’s throat, they talk about how in game of thrones, characters who were once “good” can do “bad things” and they even go as far as labelling her actions as “psychotic”.
but then when an enraged jon snow is beating ramsay bolton to a pulp, intending to kill him, he is described only as “heroic” and “noble”. no one comes close to questioning his morality or mental state.
both arya and jon are claiming vengeance for barbaric actions taken against their family, yet the girl is a psycopath and the boy is a hero.