إن العبد ليغفل عن ربه حتى ينساه .. فيشتاق له ربه فيرسل له من حبه بلاءً يذكّره به حتى يعود العبد لحب الله .. فيحبه الله .. فيرفع عنه البلاء و يرزقه رزقاً طيباً ..
And verily the slave becomes so heedless of his Lord till he forgets Him, so his Lord misses him, and thus sends a trial upon the slave out of love for him; so that the slave may remember his Lord till he loves Him once more and thus turns back to Him. Allah loves the slave, and so consequently removes the trial out of love.
“Allah is Wise, He might test a slave with a particular sin so that he may return to Him in repentance.”
― Ibn Uthaymin, al-Mumti v.3 p.52.
وقال الشيخ ابن عثيمين رحمه الله في شرحه لهذا الحديث : “ (أشد الناس بلاءً الأنبياء) لأن الله سبحانه وتعالى ابتلاهم بالنبوة ، وابتلاهم بالدعوة إلى الله ، وابتلاهم بقوم ينكرون ويصفونهم بصفات القدح والذم ، ولكن هذا الابتلاء هو في الواقع ؛ لأن كل ما أصابهم من جرائها فهو رفعة في درجاتهم
Ibn al uthaymeen said: The anbiyaa were the people most severely trialed: because Allah azza wajjal trialed them with prophecy, and with the calling to Allah and His religion, and with a people who rejected their message and who opressed them and rediculed them. However, these trials in reality were a means to raise them in ranks.
والله عز وجل حكيم يبتلي بالنعم ويبتلي بالنقم ، فابتلاؤه بالنعم ليبلونا أنشكر أم نكفر، وبالنقم ليبلونا أنكفر أم نصبر،
And Allah azzawajal is Most Wise, He trials his slaves with blessings and hardships. As for the trials by way of blessings, then this is to see whether we will be thankful or ungrateful. And as for the trials through hardships, then this is to see if we will be patient or ungrateful.
❝Sometimes he (Ibn ‘Uthaymin) would go out with his students for a break, like how he would often go swimming with them and also joke around and say, “Throw so and so into the pool!”.
In addition to the lessons he would always have gatherings in his house with his students which had nothing to do with seeking knowledge or teaching; he would just listen to them, their stories, their needs, and he would then go out of his way to help them.❞
— Sh. Salih al-Munajjid. Translated by Abdullah Wafi.
“Know that when you deal and interact with your wife then it is mandatory that you think of a [scenario] where a man is the husband of your daughter. How does he treat her? Would you be pleased for him to treat her with harshness and sternness? The answer is no. Therefore, do not be content with treating the daughter of another person in a fashion that you would not be pleased for your daughter to be treated. This principle should be known by all people.”
Committing acts of disobedience, iman decreases according to the class of sin, its amount, the indifference the person has towards it and the strength or weakness of the incentive to perpetrate it.
As for its class and amount; the decrease of iman by major sins is greater than that by the minor sins. The decrement of iman by killing a soul unlawfully is greater than (illegally) devouring valued wealth. Its decrease by two acts of disobedience is greater than one act of disobedience and so on.
As for being indifferent to the sin; if an act of disobedience emanates from a heart that thinks little of who it is disobeying and has little fear of Him, then the resultant decrease will be greater than if it were to emanate from a heart that glorifies Allah and is very fearful of Him except that an act of disobedience inadvertently occurs from him.
Concerning the strength of the motive for committing the sin; if an act of disobedience emerges from a person whose incentives for doing the sin are weak, then the resultant decrease of his iman will be much greater than if it were to emerge from one whose incentives for doing the sin are strong.
This is why the display of arrogance by a poor person and an illegal sexual encounter by an old person are more sinful than the display of arrogance by a rich person and an illegal sexual encounter by a young person. As in the hadith: 'Three (types of people) whom Allah will not speak to. He will not look at them on the Day of Resurrection or sanctify them and they will have a painful punishment.’
Mentioned amongst these three are the gray-haired fornicator and the poor person who is arrogant, because of the lack of strong motives they have for embarking on these disobedient acts.”(Fath al Bariyyah pg. 65)