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“I love you” isn’t what you think it looks like. It’s not romantic dates and holding hands.
“I love you” is taking care of someone when they’re blackout drunk and throwing up
“I love you” is popping back pimples and still kissing through the runny noses winter brings
“I love you” is drooling during sex and laughing together
“I love you” is being held while violently sobbing because of an anxiety attack
“I love you” is discussing what your morning breath smells like with each other
“I love you” is “I don’t want to but I will for you and only you.”
It’s all the good and the bad and the gross and the beautiful and ugly things about life and embracing that in each other.

You don’t know but I’m the girl that drags herself out of bed every morning so that he will be proud of her when he comes home. I’m the girl who lies in bed longing for him to be lying next to me. I’m the girl who sits quietly in class because all I can think about is the next moment that he’ll be in my arms again. You don’t know, but I’m the girl with a million things to say, but none will come out without the thought of him. I’m the girl who checks my phone every five seconds just to make sure I haven’t missed his call. You tell me you know how I feel and that you understand what I’m going through; you have no idea. What you don’t realize is that I understand the true meaning of not only love, but of longing and anticipation. I am one of the girls who will make friends with complete strangers for only they can even begin to understand what I am going through. You don’t understand that I picture his face everywhere I go and that he is with me in everything I do. You tell me that you support the troops; I tell you, I’m in love with one.
—  Probably every military girlfriend/wife. 
Operation Jackstay is over. I guess now I’m a veteran. Nothing they could have done would have prepared us for this. We now know the training in Hawaii and the Philippines was a piece of cake. God doesn’t know about the Mekong Delta, He didn’t create that hellhole. I think when He rested, the devil slipped one in on him. They told us before we went in that we were the first American unit to operate that far south in the war. I think everyone else had more brains. Maybe when I’m out of the Marines I’ll be proud of this, I’m just too tired to feel anything.
          We lost some good guys. How do you explain this in a letter? One minute they were there, then dead. I have no idea why I’m still here.
— 

Cpl. Jon Johnson in a letter home to his parents and wife, dated 8 April 1966. Johnson served in Delta Company, 1st Battalion, 5th Marine Regiment, 1st Marine Division. 

Source: Letters from Vietnam edited by Bill Adler

I am sorry I have hurt you. But if I thought I was needed at home more than here, I would come home. Things are going well at home. So where do I belong? This is an unusual time in our nation’s history. The unrest around the world is paralleled only a handful of times in history. Young men are asking questions–hard questions. Much of the focus of the entire world is on Vietnam, The incompetency and the wrongs committed in Vietnam are staggering. But through it all I see a little light. Some men choose to fight on the streets. Some choose to fight in the universities. Some choose to fight in the parliaments. My choice is between two options–fight in Vietnam or shut up. I choose Vietnam. If I am to contribute, it must be Vietnam. And when I get home, you too will see that little light.
—  Rodney R. Chastant, in a letter home to his mother. He served as a captain with Marine Air Group 13, 1st Marine Air Wing. He was KIA 22OCT1968 at age 25.

anonymous asked:

Well, how do you have sex in a mil ldr

Sex in a military long distance relationship is probably one thing that I wish someone could have told me about before.

Honestly it all depends on what you and your partner are both comfortable with. Having sex physically together is very different then sending your partner a naked photo of yourself trusting them that they’ll keep it to themselves. You need to have a conversation with your partner first to decide what you’re comfortable with and you also have to have that trust with them deeply developed.

As for how do you have sex.
First there’s always photos. To be completely blunt your soldier craves for you, they might not outright say it but yes at the end of a long work day they do want to see their sexy girlfriend (don’t question it ladies. Your guy finds you sexy. Own it). Sending photos is something you need to be ready for, you need to have the trust with your soldier. Once you send a photo it’s permanently there. You need to have a discussion on if you want your solider to save the photo and use it whenever he wants or if it was a one time thing and he needs to delete it after. Know what your soldier is using it for, he ain’t just looking at it like it’s another one of your selfies. He will be looking at it and getting turned on, so you need to be aware that chances are he will masturbate to the image.

Second there is sexting. This has become really popular in any relationship so it works well for long distance. Your main communication is most likely through texting and other forms of technology, if that’s your communication then use it. Don’t be ashamed to send your soldier a message saying “if you were here right now baby I would…” or “I wish we could…” yeah it’s nerve racking at first but chances are your soldier is gonna take the hint and he’ll help it along. Don’t be scared of messing up, your soldier is your partner, they won’t purposely laugh at you or make fun of you for if.

Third ever heard of the game truth or dare? Well now you’re going to play dirty truth or dare with your partner. It may seem childish but it opens the line of communication. It helps you to inch into the life of sexting in a fun way. It allows you to get to know your partners wants and needs. Don’t underestimate this, it really can help you.

Forth, this one is really bold for some people. And I honestly don’t encourage it unless you’re really ready for it but for those of you who are there’s always sex over video chat. This is as deep as you can get without physically being with your partner and it also allows you to be really creative during this time. During this time you can turn on some music and strip for your partner or you can go as far as to masturbate together. It all depends on what works best did the two of you and what you’re comfortable with.

Fifth, another common one in any relationship is phone sex, and no surprise here but it also works long distance. Go somewhere alone, turn the lights down and call your soldier. Let them know what your doing to yourself and how you feel. You can always get creative during something like this too, let your partner take over and tell you what to do.

Finally just a note to you all don’t do anything you aren’t ready for. Do not feel like you have to do this in order to keep your relationship alive. Yes, to be completely honest you do want to have some kind of romance in your relationship, you aren’t just pen pals or friends and you don’t want to come across that way. But there are other ways to have romance without sex. There is truly no rush. None. If it’s not something your comfortable with then don’t worry about it, it can always wait until leave. Have the discussion with your partner, find out what they are comfortable with too.
For those of you met their partner online and haven’t gotten a chance to meet yet make sure you video chat first. Not phone call, not photo.

Before you do a single thing sexually bring your partners face up on Skype and make sure they are a real person. I can not stress this enough, you don’t want to send a photo to someone who turns out to be a person you never expected.

And a note to all the new girlfriends out there, do not send a private photo of yourself or a private message in the letters to basic training. The envelopes are searched and checked for anything like that. If it’s not something you would be okay with your mom seeing then don’t send it to basics.

‘Boy, you sure get offered some shitty choices,’ a Marine once said to me, and I couldn’t help but feel that what he really meant was that you didn’t get offered any at all. Specifically, he was just talking about a couple of C-ration cans, 'dinner,’ but considering his young life you couldn’t blame him for thinking that if he knew one thing for sure, it was that there was no one anywhere who cared less about what he wanted. There wasn’t anybody he wanted to thank for his food, but he was grateful that he was still alive to eat it, that the mother-fucker hadn’t scared him up first. He hadn’t been anything but tired and scared for six months and he’d lost a lot, mostly people, and seen far too much, but he was breathing in and breathing out, some kind of choice all by itself.
—  Michael Herr in his book Dispatches

anonymous asked:

How do you get the most out of every day when you are long distance? You know like avoiding the stupid arguments and trying to stay happy and stuff.

How to make the most out of each day. My first suggestion would be no matter what do not go to sleep angry. It may seem obvious but this is something that is tricky in relationships, mine included. My partner and I had a difficult time for a while dealing with the arguments we faced. Neither of us wanted to deal with the problems that arose between us, and often enough we went to sleep without taking care of things. Both of use went to bed bitter and angry at each other. The argument ruined the first day but then it also affected the next day because we never solved it. In order to save yourself another day of disagreements solve the problem before you go to bed, even if it means staying up late.

Just like don’t go to bed angry, don’t sweep things under the rug. Don’t ignore disagreements, even little ones, if you ignore it the issue won’t go away. In fact it’ll get bigger and bigger. Deal with a problem before it even becomes a problem. The more things you sweep under the rug the more problems you’ll have. Sooner or later all these things will build up and it’s no longer one small disagreement.

I also suggest having your very own couple traditions. My boyfriend is very religious, so he and I have the agreement that no matter how angry or busy we are we always make time to pray with each other every night. Praying is the thing we do, but it won’t be for everyone. Find the thing in your relationship that’ll work best. But try to find one small thing you guys can do everyday that’ll remind you of what you mean to each other. For us praying gives us those few minutes just to slow down and reflect. It allows us to have a couple minutes of peace together without having anything else to worry about.

I also suggest a safe word, maybe that isn’t the right word for it but it’s a word or phase that you both know and recognize. It’s something that will symbolize that you’re feeling down and need a bit of a pick me up. Whenever my boyfriend or I are in a rough patch we always say to each other “I like you… as a friend.. for now”. That was the pick line my boyfriend used before he asked me out. It reminds us both of where we came from and why, it shows our love for each other. But it also reminds us to make time for each other. It’s our way of telling each other “don’t forget about me”.

Don’t stress and worry so much about things being perfect. Life will never be perfect. You’ll have arguments but you’ll have many more good times. Your amazing, special, one of a kind moments are going to always outweigh the negative times. So I suggest you remember. Always remember those positive times. I promise you it’ll put a smile on your face.

I hope that this answered your question! But I am curious to what others think. Does anyone else have any suggestions on how to make the most out of your day?