username confession

I was ditched, replaced, mistreated in my group of friends. They all flamed me and called me shitty when I was a support main, and now when I had no time to play League and also became a Veigar mid main and got new friends, they acted as if they miss me, or that I’m being rude for getting better friends that treat me as a human being. One of them even went as far as to say “No one is playing League anymore, because ever since you quit, it hasn’t been fun anymore.”

Confession by @salty-final-boss-vinegar

Artwork by @legandco

I posted this to instagram so I thought I would post it here too so there would be an explanation of my “"fit”“ yesterday.

First, I wanted to say thank you for all of the love and support I have gotten. I will be responding to every message and comment.
Second, what happened yesterday was the result of me trying to hold a lot of crumbling stuff together and having one feather land on it and just make it fall apart. I had a mental breakdown, and I try to keep as much of my severe mental shit off the internet, but I was being harassed. All of my blogs, one by one, got hit with anon hate in the span of 24 hours, horrific stuff, including one accusing me of making up Lewis’s cancer for attention. I turned anon off on all my blogs and have blocked my usernames from the confession blogs.
I’m a fighter, but I’m fighting too many battles at once and sometimes you have to give up on one. I’m going to step back from BJDs for awhile, and will not be posting the rest of my commissions online unless specifically requested by the client. I can handle constructive critiques, but not constant bullying. I don’t know what I did to make someone that angry, but if they see this: I’m angry too, and I’m scary when I get angry, don’t mess with me. I had a mental break but I have fought through too much bullshit to be taken down by a coward who hides behind a grey face. I do my best to bring a positive and upbeat vibe and presence to this hobby and you won’t break me of that. You won’t scare me out. I’m taking a break, but I’m not ending it like this.
Any reblogs are from my queue, and since my dolls are in storage while we deal with the house being worked on you won’t see them for a while. I’ll be posting more on my dollhouse blog as the dollhouse community is a much safer one for me right now. Again, thank you to everyone who who cares. I care about you guys too, and I didn’t want to look like an attention seeker but I had a moment or five yesterday. I’ll be okay, I’ve had worse, it’s just a lot on my plate. Thank you, love to you all. -Adelle

hey, confession blogs

i am getting pretty sick of negative username confessions on the bjd confession blogs.

i really don’t think it’s constructive or even worthwhile to allow an anonymous platform for every little bitchy thought that creeps into someone’s mind.  if you have a problem with someone, you have two choices:  confront them, or suck it up and get over it.

posting it to a confession blog is like having a tantrum.  i deal with lots of tantrums.  i don’t wanna read about someone throwing a fit over what wigs [hobbypersonname] puts on their dolls.  and i don’t care if you’re just venting:  what i’m saying is that your feelings about subjects like these are actually not worth posting publicly.  they are that stupid.  they are that meaningless.  and yet they are powerful enough to humiliate/intimidate/hurt the people that you’re posting about.  posting it anonymously, the cost to you is nothing–but you don’t know what the cost is to the person you’re calling out.

if you wanna vent?  talk to your pet.  talk to your friends.  talk privately to someone else in the hobby, who shares your views and will vent back to you.  then suck it up and get over it.

if you just wanna throw your opinion out into the world and see who agrees with you?  have the ovaries to do it on your own blog.  if what you’re saying is worth any weight, people will pipe up.

here’s what i personally want to see on confession blogs:

  • dirty confessions
  • weird confessions
  • funny confessions
  • actual confessions (as in, admissions of guilt/misgivings)
  • preference confessions
  • positive username confessions
  • scammer notices
  • secret hopes and dreams and fears
  • calls for representation

it’s a pretty wide range.  i don’t really see any reason why we can’t stick to a scope that is still inclusive of the hobby and cut out the just plain mean.

Pristine Nightmare has been removed from the banned username list

Confessions about Pristine Nightmare on TrueBJDConfessions are now allowed again

As I’ve said before and I will say again, I do not help those who see me as an enemy. If you see me as a “bully”, talk negatively of me, and then ask for my help, I will not help you.

-The Admin