use of slurs

at the risk of stirring up discourse– imo “dyke” is a slur that only lesbians can reclaim as an identifier, but at the same time, I think it’s okay for any wlw to reclaim as a descriptor (IF everyone around them is cool with it and it’s not a trigger for anybody)

Lesbian: I’m such a dyke        👍
Bi woman: I’m such a dyke     ❌
Pan woman: My girlfriend got the cutest dyke cut at the barbershop  👍
Pan woman: Look at that cute dyke over there ❌
Lesbian: Hey I’m headed to the dyke march   👍
Bi woman: Hey, I’m headed to dyke night at the club  👍

And non-wlw should never ever say that word except in extremely rare contexts where everyone involved has consented to the use of the reclaimed slur for targeted political/activist reasons like: 

and straight people just never can use it, point blank, no exceptions

anonymous asked:

Can you educate me on why that person doesn't wanna be associated w/ queer? I always assumed queer umbrella'd all the LGTBQ community?

It’s a personal preference as the term has both a history of being used as a slur as well as a history of use within sexual and gender minority communities and use within academic and public health contexts as a means of providing a more comprehensive umbrella term

Like, their choice is valid I’m just exhausted with discourse around the term

i took off my byf bc i didnt have anything rlly to say but i will make a whole seperate page for it just to say “get out if you dont think bi men can use the f slur / bi women can use the d slur”. THATS how pissed i am @ some of yall.

anonymous asked:

tbh the tagging queer as a slur thing maybe should warrant a block if its telling an actual queer person to do it, since its a p bad microagression to queer ppl and ppl who dont like the word can easily avoid it by other means besides having to tag it as a Bad Word like "q slur" or "q word". people who insist on tagging "q slur" are usually queerphobic in other ways like the whole "why do u even ID as a slur" thing (i say queerphobic meaning aggressive about the word/identity queer at all jsyk)

I agree that it’s a bad thing to tell people who do identify as queer not to or call their identity as a slur. However, it has been used as a slur by many people, so I can understand how easy it could be for another LGBT+ person to associate the word “queer” with an abuser or trauma, thus making it a trigger.

If that’s the case, I would 100% tag it for someone, but I don’t think I’d tag it as “#q slur” or “#q word”. I feel like if someone comes and asks you to tag the word’s usage since it triggers them, as long as they aren’t shaming you for using it or anything, I think the best course of action would be to ask the person if tagging it as “#q power” would work.

If they refuse that and continue to accuse you of using a slur/invalidating your identity, then yes they are being queerphobic and you should block them. The whole “queer is a slur!!!” thing usually denotes exclusionism of queer and MOGAI identities, so I hear where you’re coming from.

But I also know people that the word very negatively affected. As long as you aren’t trying to stop other people from using it for themselves, I say go ape. Ask people to tag things if it bothers you. If they don’t want to, there’s no reason to fight. Just don’t follow each other. You have differing experiences. While it may be a word of power to one person, it can really hurt another. No one is in the wrong in that case.

Idk, that’s just my take on it. I didn’t mean to type four paragraphs, omg. ;u;

tl;dr I would only add someone to the blocklist over it if their desire to have it tagged was linked to their queerphobic views. Not if they were asking to have it tagged just because it’s a personal trigger–in which case, I’d tag it as something like “#q power”.

–Mod Mercy

anonymous asked:

Also sleepdontvisit is a non lesbian wlw who's speaking over actual lesbians on who gets to use the d slur or not

i think that’s old news and honestly i don’t really have an opinion on any of it so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

hey guys friendly reminder from your fave Canadian that esk*mo is a slur so please don’t use it!

I see it usually in the context of “esk*mo kisses” which may pop up when people talk about their ships and their headcanon, but it means “snow eaters” in cree and is a slur against Inuit people so please just don’t use it!

and I would appreciate if u reblogged this because people outside Canada don’t seem to know this for the most part

Ugh. Reading a whole lot of ‘queer history’ posts on Tumblr that are exclusively North American. Elsewhere in the world, we have a different history, a different lexicon and different experiences. I have a different experience of coming out 21 years ago than someone in the USA would. Our politics were slightly different here, and still are.

For example ‘queer’ is just a mainstream word here in Australia. Perhaps some very old people (I’m thinking my late grandma) may have used it to mean ‘strange’, but I only ever heard the word referring to people who weren’t of mainstream sexes, sexualities or genders. The first time I heard that it was a slur was when a teenager demanded that I stop using ‘a slur’ to identify myself on my own Tumblr.  

I know Tumblr has a lot of US folks on it, but I think it’s important to remember that the USA is just one country, there are nearly 200 others. Your history is not everyone’s history. Your experience is not everyone’s experience. I will be respectful of your experiences where appropriate, but you also need to be respectful of mine. And that includes not trying to make me ashamed of the word that I use as my identity for any reason. 

I am fucking begging y'all to not call the dozens of LGBT Latinxs that died one year ago, or any deceased victims of homophobia and transphobia, “q*eer”. It’s so damn disrespectful, and so heartbreaking that y'all have no regard for this word and its violent history. We have no idea who among those people had reclaimed the slur, you have no idea who had vehemently rejected it. Don’t use this slur on people without their consent, especially when they’re not fucking alive to give it. Please. Stop.

  • what she says: "g*psy"* by fleetwood mac is a really good song
  • what she means: "g*psy" by fleetwood mac is perhaps one of the most beautiful songs ever written. we, as a planet, do not deserve it. before stevie nicks even sings a note, it is already the most goddamn gorgeous song. the first fifteen seconds alone. everyone will always cite works like "silver springs" and "the chain" for insight to stevie's relationship with lindsey and while those are valid, her clear nostalgia and near-longing for a simpler but meaningful time with him makes the love they genuinely had very evident. they shared a single mattress in a shitty apartment, in a room she would decorate with small trinkets to cheer it up, and this is the place the now-famous musician thinks of. that place, and that time. what must she feel every time she sings it? what must lindsey feel? the "lightning strikes, maybe once, maybe twice" line to describe love alone, jfc. this isn't even touching on the loss of her friend robin anderson, the other inspiration behind the song, who passed away and was "dancing away from you now" as stevie was writing it. it's heartbreaking, it's evocative, and furthermore--

how sad to be a gay girl in this the year of our lord 2017. i’ve never been to pride before. i tell my mother i’m thinking of going and she says; please be smart and stay home. most of me thinks she’s right about this, even though i live in a city where gay pride flags fly on every other building.

they’ve done a good job scaring us into the corners we came out of. i tremble at the idea of crowds full of other people, my body in rainbow paint. i will be meeting friends from high school and none of them know i’m gay. it terrifies me. i have no idea what they’d say. what if they ignore it. what if they make a big deal about it. what if they ask me how long i’ve been this way.

straight people tell me all the time that maybe it used to be dangerous to be in love with a girl, but i should stop complaining because marriage is legal. i think of how i still hear “gay” used as a slur, how every word i have for myself has been used as a curse word against me, how i have no identity that comes unsullied. i think of how every time i hold her hand in public i find my ears become satellite dishes, waiting to pick up on any incoming danger, always mid-flinch. i think about how their opinion of me changes when i tell them. i think about the cans thrown and the threats made and the fights that bloodied my teeth. i think about the arguments with my parents and the silence in churches and the shuffling of embarrassed feet. 

i’m telling myself i’ll go to pride and i’ll smile and i’ll have a good time. i’m telling myself i’ll be strong for those who can’t be. i’m telling myself thank god it’s 2017 and i live in the united states in a commonwealth that protects me. but the fact i have to rally just to walk in the streets says something. i feel sick when i think about where i’m going but proud about what i’m doing.

the closet was the worst place, i whisper to myself. darkness and spiders. but the closet is the safer place. and sometimes that matters.

“can we, like, chill with the gay pride?” i hear a girl on the bus say to her friend, “like… every june this happens and i’m tired of it.”

i’m gay every day of the week, even when i’m not proud of it. 

i sit lower in my seat. i text the people i’m going to pride with. “i might come,” i write, “still working on it.”

here’s the thing:

A few days ago, Kevin Pillar, a center fielder for the Blue Jays, directed a homophobic slur towards pitcher Jason Motte. The next day, the Blue Jays organization suspended Pillar for two games—without pay. His pay, along with an undisclosed fine, was donated to an LGBTQ+ organization. Both Pillar and the Blue Jays released public apologies, and Pillar reached out to Motte personally to apologize. The MLB is also investigating the incident.

The other day, Getzlaf used a homophobic slur in a playoff game. He was fined $10k. The money will go to the Players’ Emergency Assistance Fund. Getzlaf won’t address the fine and the incident until after Saturday’s game.

This is, frankly, a game he shouldn’t even be playing. What the Blue Jays and the MLB did with Pillar is the BARE MINIMUM for a sports league that truly hopes to become an inclusive league.

Ryan Getzlaf is the captain of the Ducks. He wore Pride Tape on his stick during Pride Night. He is also a nominee for the Messier Leadership Award. He needs to be made an example of.

If the NHL wants this stuff out of the league, they need to dish out REAL penalties. That means playoff suspensions.

SARAH’S WOMB: a creative project of Black-Jewish solidarity

sarah’s womb is a collective, digital zine being curated by dia ( @blackamydunne ) and sefa ( @hintele ). we are looking for art, photography, poetry, short prose, personal stories, and any other forms of self-expression that can be published in a digital zine, and we’re looking for them from black people, jewish people, and black jewish people.

the histories and experiences of the black and jewish peoples often sing similar tunes, even if in different voices. we are resilient peoples who constantly fight for justice, who have experienced unspeakable hardships, and who have unique, beautiful stories to tell.

sarah’s womb will be a collective story told in several parts:

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these are intentionally broad, general topics so that your artwork isn’t restrained by parameters that would prevent you from telling your own personal story. the examples given above are just that – examples.

if you have any work that you would like to create or submit for sarah’s womb, please check that it fits the following guidelines and submit it to us!

-we are looking for content from any and all sorts of jewish people, but we are not interested in receiving, reading, or publishing work that is in defense of the illegitimate settler-colonial state of israel. additionally, we are not looking for content from Black Hebrew Israelites that denies the legitimacy of the judaism of any jewish people.

-submissions that include any manner of racism or antisemitism will be rejected immediately and without ceremony. this is not a platform for discourse, hostility, or arguments between black and jewish people.

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  • In the video, the woman called a Latino man a “spic” — a racial slur used against Hispanics and Latinos — and threatened to physically assault him.
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