Let me start off by telling you guys something about me, okay? I went into highschool in a heart-pounding anxiety mode. One thing I was most afraid of by far was making new friends. But I will let you in on a little secret: we all feel that way. It doesn’t matter if you were friends with every single person in your junior high or if you’re moving to a completely new school. Even the upperclassmen are struggling to get a good footing. But this post is going out especially to the Freshman who are going to a whole new school!
I know it must be scary, especially if you over-analyze things like me. As if the whole ‘going to highschool’ thing wasn’t bad enough, you have to deal with knowing nobody, right? Wrong! I would say that going in to highschool, its somewhat of a clean slate. Your reputation will still precede you, however. But going in to a completely new school system? I would kill for that opportunity!
Listen up, I know you probably think I’m crazy. But just think about it: you get something completely new. Nobody knows that you wore that outfit constantly last year or that you had a really bad haircut in sixth grade (as long as you delete the evidence off of your Facebook).
You truly get a new start. You can recreate yourself in a way that gives you confidence you never had at your old school! Take on that haircut that you loved so much but could never get because you would sooo be copying Taylor. Wear those jeans with that top. Be the kid who is not afraid, okay? I’m gonna try to motivate you a little bit here because that is really all we need!
Listen to me, first impressions are vital! They can change everything for you about highschool. So you get up that morning, give yourself the best of all pep talks, and put on something cute. Hopefully you have spent your summer doing things to build self confidence, such as: exercise, volunteering, activities, meditating, etc. Make sure you have attended any and all open houses and orientations. Do yourself a favor and be prepared! Now, back to that first day:
- Pick out your outfit the night before
- Make sure you have spent the past few weeks attempting to get on track for your sleep schedule
- Wear yourself out the day before so you don’t lie awake for three hours worrying
- Get up, do some stretches, 15 crunches, 15 jumping jacks and 15 squats. Its good to start things with an air of productivity and it increases blood flow!
- Shower, do your hair, put of some makeup. The general feel-good hygiene stuff, ya know?
- Eat. Your. Breakfast.
- If you drive to school or your parent/sibling drive you, make a CD of some fierce songs to prep you for the day. Get pumped yo
- If you ride the bus, there is a bit of etiquette to keep up your morale. If you make it into an empty seat, don’t sit your bag beside you. Stay approachable man, its how you make friends! If you are to sit next to someone, select someone who is friendly looking and has not placed their bag beside them. Ask them politely if you may sit beside them. Don’t go for a negative nelly with their bag sprawdled out and earbuds in. There is no bubble-popper like a sourpuss
- Okay, you have arrived. The moment before you get out of the car is one of the most nerve-wracking of all. Take in a deep breath. Smile. Keep your chin up! I’m serious, you can feel the difference. Now go forth and become a beautiful butterfly
- I wish it was that easy
Okay, we’ve made it into the school, now what? Operation locker buddy is a good place to start. Its always good to be friendly with your locker neighbor. You will probably have classes with them, and perhaps even seated near eachother because of alphabetical ordering
- Don’t be shy, okay? Smile. Introduce yourself. Don’t forget to breath
- Compliment them on something
- Make small talk, ie: “Wow, we got stuck with these lockers?” “You think they would turn the air on, given how hot it is.” Super simple stuff, ya know?
- If you and your locker neighbor meet up again during the day, ask them how their day has been so far
- If you meet up before lunch, ask them something simple like: “So can Freshman leave campus for lunch?” If you can, ask if they want to go to Burger King or something. This situation all depends on how your locker neighbor has reacted to previous conversations. If they seem friendly, ask that question. (If you can leave campus that is.) If they say you can’t leave, just smile and say something along the lines of “Oh, haha, guess I’ll see you at lunch then, huh?” If you do see them at lunch, try sitting with them. If you’re not too confident or if your locker neighbor seems really friendly, explain that you’re new and you don’t know anybody before you go and steal the show at their lunch table or invite them out to eat. If they are not so friendly, don’t try it. You’ll probably just get a weird look. Even if you do, don’t let that dishearten you. Keep strong lil trooper
If Operation Locker Buddy is a bust or not one you can try at all, don’t worry! You can always find friends among your classmates!
- clean up your Facebook: remove any pictures that should never have seen the light of day, make sure your name is your actual name, and list your high school
- Learn your classmates’ names, add them on Facebook
- Be nice, be friendly! Introduce yourself, make small talk
I know that both of these plans require a lot of confidence, in which we all know not everyone has. So right here, right now, I am going to tell you this: Go in with the falsest sense of confidence if you must. Here, take a bit. Get excited! Be prepared! Have fun! I’m telling you right now that your attitude is everything, so go in with a good one! If you have any questions or suggestions, don’t be afraid to ask! I love getting feedback! :) Thanks!