5 Lessons on Marriage From Downton Abbey
5. Never, never give up on each other
Prime minister Winston Churchill once said, “…never give in, never give in, never, never, never, never – in nothing, great or small, large or petty.” While he uttered these words in 1941, before fictional Downton servants Mr. Bates and Anna would have heard them historically, this idea of “never give up” is a defining characteristic of their relationship.
Remember early in the show, when Bates is accused of murder? Anna stands unwaveringly by his side, fighting to prove his innocence. At one point, Bates asks her, “Do you never doubt? For just one minute? I wouldn’t blame you.” Her reply? “No. And, before you ask, I don’t doubt that the sun will rise in the east, either.” Later, after Anna is raped and attempts to keep it a secret from Bates, he never gives up until the unsettledness in their relationship is made right.
And, of all the lessons Downton teaches us about marriage, this is the one we should practice the most. Don’t be quick to give up on your spouse – not in the “great or small, the large or petty.” Instead, when it comes to your partner, be a Mr. Bates or an Anna.