A discussion about Anti-SJM people
Because I’m bored and curious.
Okay. I was largely unaware of a lot of the anti-fans’ complaints about her work, but from what I’m understanding it has to do with her killing POCs and “idolizing” abusive relationships. So let’s talk about this. I want to discuss this.
I’ll admit, as a POC, I understand the anger at SJM for seeming to have a habit of killing them off, i.e. Sorscha and Nehemia (Did she kill any POC in ACOTAR? I can’t recall). But here’s the thing. If you’ve been with the series for awhile, or watched ANY of SJM’s interviews, you know she means no harm. I mean, come on. She’s a sweetheart. We all know it. In my own personal opinion, if she really did kill off POCs on purpose, it was to further showcase the King’s intolerance of difference. His execution of the slaves in Calaculla and Endovier as well as Sorscha are further portrayal of his hatred of those who are different. It’s not meant to be just, or fair. It’s absolutely meant to be horrifying and awful, because if you recall, very similar things happened in our very real history.
Why would people believe that the ideals of the King reflect the ideals of SJM? I mean, really? Unless there’s some other piece of information I’m missing. If that’s the truth, then fill me in. I really do want to discuss.
Anyway, bottom line is, if it really bothers you all that much, you don’t have to read it. But you gotta remember, Sarah’s not a white supremacist. Don’t be ridiculous. Remember what Throne of Glass is really about. Rebelling against a corrupt and horrible leader, and attempting to free the world from a time of darkness and lost beauty.
Now let’s talk about this supposed idolizing of abusive relationships. My first questions are, A) Did you read ACOMAF? Tamlin’s character was shredded apart (figuratively). He was the only real abusive relationship in the story. And B) I want to know what you guys really define as an “abusive” relationship.
I’m guessing most people are referring to Rowan’s actions in HoF. Now, none of it should be condoned. Of course not. But you also have to take into consideration that they are not human, demi-Fae operate a bit differently than humans, so his biting her (especially in a fantasy story), wasn’t as awful as you guys may make it out to be. But he also harmed her physically in other ways.
Here’s the other things you guys need to remember. 1) He was training her, i.e. physical harm is a tad inevitable, 2) Both of them were sort of little shits at the time, both were suffering from immense grief and self-loathing, and 3) They didn’t have a relationship. There was nothing between them when they first began training in Mistward. They owed each other nothing, wanted nothing to do with each other. There can’t be an “abusive” relationship if there was no relationship to begin with.
Of course, this changes, and so do they. The key difference between Rowan, and, say, Tamlin, is that Rowan worked to gain Aelin’s forgiveness. Spent most of his time considering himself undeserving of her affection. He fell in love with her, accepted her flaws, and vowed to stand beside her to whatever end. That is called redeeming himself. Gaining forgiveness for his assholery in HoF. They helped heal one another, and fell in love in the process. Tell me again how any of that is, “abusive”.
That’s all I have to say. If there’s any information I’m not aware of, and you’re up for discussing like a civil human being, I’m completely open to it.