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Loki x Reader / OC x Reader

Anyone who knew Loki and Omald knew they were rivals. Some would even say their rivalry could compete with Loki and Thor’s and the reason, was you. Your knack with magic was lacking but it didn’t stem your love for it so, when Loki was sent to study in the library and he spotted you, he was enthralled.

You ignored him for a while, slowly allowing him small glances of your attention until he was reading to you, showing you his abilities gifting you with little things he created and convincing himself that he would never be without you. Omald came along years later, mysterious, cold and entrancing.

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Learning to Embrace “Late” Blooming

Before getting pregnant with my daughter Stokely at 19, I really thought I had it all figured out. As a first generation Ghanian American and an only child I was constantly asked what I would be doing with my life before I could really get a grasp on what I wanted for myself. I had gone through pediatrician, dermatologist, computer engineer, ambassador for the UN, reconstructive plastic surgeon and lawyer all by the age of 14. I picked professions I was positive would make enough income to support my whole family, gain me social status amongst the rather large Ghanian community in our city and most importantly, come with a comprehensive school plan. I was all about planning.

When I found out that I was pregnant, 100% absolute honesty… I was devastated. I had not gone to school for any of the supposed passions I hoarded as a child, but I was attending my dream art school, in a city that I was absolutely in love with and my seamless plans were now unhinged.

My partner and I decided, that we would in fact have Stokely, raise her and love her with whatever we had, but in the midst of the transition into parenthood, I battled a lot of demons and regrets. It got to the point where it became unbearable to go through my Facebook timeline and see who was graduating early,  starting their masters, travelling abroad, getting their first huge internship or shiny new car. I would find myself feeling disappointed that I was still living with my mother on the top of her tiny bridal gown shop with a 2 month old, guilty that I was not appreciative of having the opportunity to at least be with my child and left behind as I watched colleagues of mine hit milestone after milestone with each passing year. I became bitter, ungrateful, jealous, depressed and often times projected these negative feelings onto other people.

I’m not sure when my wake up call hit, but I decided over time that I had had enough. Living in that negative head space didn’t feel like it would  get me to where I wanted to be and it personally made my life absolutely miserable. Would it take me longer to get to where a I wanted to be? Sure… Did this mean my dreams, passions and life were over? Not quite…

A few things got me out of the gutter and I still use them as coping mechanisms today:

Avoid the Habit of Comparing Yourself
I say habit because I think this is something that becomes ingrained in us. We see someone who has something – a career, a “perfect” body, a loving partner, expensive clothes, even an entire life that we want and we immediately compare their best to our worst. The internet has made it possible to cultivate a brand and an image that is presentable and almost flawless, but even outside of the internet, we only know what someone has shown us. I grew up being compared to others constantly, by family as a form of motivation and competition, but life is simply not a competition. There is enough room for all of us to thrive.  By comparing yourself to others you do a disservice to your own growth trying to match what you think others may have. Personally for me, practicing self-care and mindfulness towards what I did have- a loving family, awesome creative beautiful friends, an outlet to release and write, a healthy body, even a clean place to sleep made me appreciate what I did have in my life. Plus, your entire journey is about seeing what YOU can become at your best

Realize You’re Exactly Where You’re Supposed to Be Right NOW!
Currently as a stay at home mom watching everyone sometimes whizz by me, I’m honestly still working on this, but good news is, reminding myself has gotten easier and it gets better when I use this as my personal mantra. Listen to me: You Are Exactly Where You’re Supposed to Be Right Now. If you dropped out and you’re staying with your parents and trying to figure it out- that’s just fine! If you’re a parent who’s at home and you have to put school or work on the back burner to take care of your kid(s) full time, that’s just fine! If you just graduated from school, but you still can’t find work and things feel tight, or you’re in school trying to juggle depression and anxiety and just trying to pass your class- you have not failed, you are not behind and you are not worthless- you are valuable, you are doing the best that you can at your own pace and you will see it through. Your journey, your struggles and your victories are unique to you. The more time and experiences you have, the more potential you have to learn and to grow- this includes the periods where you feel like you’ve crashed into a wall. (Trust me, I have these often)

Life Experiences + Extra Time Can Actually Be Valuable
 If you find that you’re a late bloomer and you’re not exactly where you’d thought you’d be right now, don’t worry! This extra time- growing space- allows you the window to truly get to know yourself and really center in on figuring out who you are, what you enjoy and what you thrive at. Write down your passions and dreams, take little steps everyday to reaching those dreams (I love to blog and I felt excited at the opportunity to collaborate with my best friend so we started this!) Take up a hobby like cat napping , swimming or sewing. Getting to know yourself, practicing and improving hobbies can be a wonderful way to build solid confidence and enjoy where you are, right now.

It’s Perfectly Fine To Grieve For Fallen Plans
Grace gave me some really great advice a few months ago when I was truly going through it. She told me to “grieve what you thought you’ve lost” Crying over past regrets and what could have been is a perfectly normal reaction to new transitions. Allow yourself time to cry, feel sad and be upset- you didn’t expect to be in this weird place! This grieving is wonderful for healing and can help you adjust, heal,  move on and plan what the next steps for your life are.

Little Victories are Still Victories!!!!!!
Don’t ever sell yourself short or brush aside successes. When things get done, they got done because you put in the effort, be proud of yourself. Even small baby steps have moved you one step further to growth and progress.

Look into Other Late Bloomers!
One of my favorite things to do in replacement to comparing myself to others  is to read inspiring stories and testimonies of successful people who really struggled to get to where they are now. Iyanla Vanzant for instance, was a victim of abuse, homelessness, and poverty and was able to much later use her experiences as a way to become a world renowned life coach. Toni Morrison didn’t publish her first novel until the age of 40. Oprah was almost 30 when she had just started hosting a local Chicago tv show “AM Chicago” Sometimes getting the full scope of someone’s success, can give you the motivation to push forward.

Change is Inevitable
I really remind myself this every single day. If I’ve learned anything in the past 4 years alone, it’s that life is cyclical and you will have periods of drought and periods of giving rains. When it’s really tough I know that things can change for the better and when I’m feeling like I’m on top of the world, it gives me that much more incentive to appreciate it.  

Know that wherever you are, you can go at your own pace. Taking breaks, going through growing pains, finding yourself and even taking time to heal when you “should” be doing this, that or the other does not necessarily mean that you are anchored down to a life of mediocrity. It is perfectly fine to bloom at your own given time!

- Sharon

The signs and the types of people they hate

 Aries: The liars
Taurus: Those who borrow money and never pay them back
Gemini: Dumb people
Cancer: Crooks
Leo: People who don’t respect anything
Virgo: Mucky and uneducated people
Libra: Rude people
Scorpio: Noisy and frivolous people
Sagittarius: Cocky and Arrogant people
Capricorn: Ungrateful and useless people
Aquarius: Jealous and possessive people
Pisces: Barbaric and uncivilized people

anonymous asked:

how do you handle judgmental Christians?

I take Marcus Aurelius as my example:

“When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: the people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous and surly. They are like this because they can’t tell good from evil. But I have seen the beauty of good, and the ugliness of evil, and have recognized that the wrongdoer has a nature related to my own - not of the same blood and birth, but the same mind, and possessing a share of the divine. And so none of them can hurt me. No one can implicate me in ugliness. Nor can I feel angry at my relative, or hate him. We were born to work together like feet, hands and eyes, like the two rows of teeth, upper and lower. To obstruct each other is unnatural. To feel anger at someone, to turn your back on him: these are unnatural.”

― Marcus AureliusMeditations

When you encounter someone who is judgmental, try to understand that their actions stem from their personality and life experiences. A brief conversation isn’t going to change their beliefs, but it does present an opportunity to leave the door open for future dialog.

It’s important to remain calm, so you can listen and understand what the other person is saying. You may be angry, but try to focus your internal dialog on respect and goodwill. You might remind yourself, “They mean well, and want to help me. They didn’t intend to upset me.” Try to keep a respectful attitude, and use positive words.

If you don’t know the person well, your goal will probably be to agree to disagree. You could say something like, “It took courage for you to talk to me about this. I understand that your beliefs are important to you, just as mine are to me. Thank you for your concern.”

If the person is a family member, maintaining the relationship is probably as important an outcome as asserting your personal freedom. Be very careful not to say anything negative about their religion. Ask what makes them uncomfortable or anxious with respect to your religion. You might want to remind them of the parable of the Good Samaritan. 

Be aware that their concern may arise out of genuine love for you, and a desire to share what they consider a precious gift. The other person may feel your rejection of their religion is a rejection of them, too. Let them know, if it’s true, that your choice of religion won’t change the quality of your relationship. If the other person is open to it, help them find out more about your religion. Perhaps you are willing to support them by continuing to participate in cultural activities, or even attend certain religious gatherings on an agreed-upon basis.

Sometimes you have to agree to disagree with family, too. Try to do so with good grace. If you are a minor, you may have to comply with your parent’s wishes, and continue to attend their church until you become an adult. Look on it as a learning experience. Christian rituals and the Bible can teach you a lot about ancient religion and ancient cultures. If you look on it as your first initiation into a Mystery, the experience can enrich your next initiation.