Excusing somebodys shitty behavior because theyre underrage makes it impossible for that person to grow out of that behavior and then allows it to fester into a much bigger problem along the way. calling somebody out on that behavior after they’ve repeatedly shown that they don’t care how they’ve affected people/havent tried to change especially when it’s so many people isn’t some sort of weird backhanded bullying of a kid it’s an attempt to help that person correct the path theyre on.