unapologetic ace

you can be unapologetically ace/aro!

you can be loud and proud about your asexuality/aromanticism!

you’re allowed to be happy about being ace/aro!

don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!

anonymous asked:

If you have time could you write an ace Tony fic? It would mean a lot as I am asexual and almost never get any representation anywhere and it tends to make me feel more lonely. :( Anyways, thank you in advance.

To be honest you had me at ‘ace Tony’, anon :) You really can’t expect me to resist that. Seriously, I adore writing ace characters (like half the main characters in my non-fanfic works are ace, just because I can).

Since you didn’t specify on anything regarding the plot I just went with a short scene from one of my many not-ready-to-be-posted headcanon ‘verses. I hope it works for you and that this ficlet will make you feel a little better! Also I turned it into a Valentine’s story because I keep seeing these cute Valentine’s cards on my dash.


[Set in a College AU following the tale of Player!Bucky and Asexual!Tony trying to make it work. Today’s edition: Valentine’s Day. Including slight misunderstandings, declarations of love affection, fluff, and Bucky’s potty mouth.]

‘You know I’m ace, right?’ isn’t the reaction Bucky’s been hoping for, but it’s also not a door slammed shut in his face, so he counts it as a win.

Tony squints suspiciously at the roses in Bucky’s arms—yellow and red ones because those are his favourite colours, and Bucky is nothing if not a huge sap, apparently—and Bucky has no doubt the flowers will end up cut open on a lab table, to be thoroughly tested for any unsavourily additions, before the day is over.

He probably shouldn’t smile fondly at the cruel fate lying in these poor flowers’ future. He definitely shouldn’t.

Damn it. Nat’s right, he’s got it bad.

“Unless ace stands for ‘allergic to roses’ I fail to see your point.” Bucky smiles and hopefully holds the bouquet out for Tony to take. Because continuing to cling to them like a toddler to a plushy might look a little silly.

Tony refuses to take them though, crosses his arms in front of his chest instead and scowls up at Bucky. Which is not adorable, that would just be ridiculous.

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does anyone else feel like.. extremely possessive of jughead because of the honestly beautiful aro/ace rep he’s brought us while being a major well-known character in an extremely well-known comic while being a fucking great character and like i have never seen any other character like this ever

i mean personally i’ve never even come across any other aro/ace characters at all let alone one that is so fucking explicitly and unapologetically aro/ace.. just really guys every time i read a line in the comic where he says some shit like “i don’t go on dates” and the actual word “asexual” is used i just get so fucking happy. i’ve always understood how important representation is but it’s one thing to get it on a surface level and entirely another to finally understand it on such a personal level. like. i have never fucking related to a fictional character more in my entire life. 

and then fucking riverdale comes along and honestly? it’s not even a bad show. i actually do kinda like it. and i actually really like what they’ve done with jughead’s character.. except for one major thing. he’s not aro/ace in the show. and that just makes me so fucking disappointed. and angry. and just makes me want to say to the writers that jughead is fucking mine. like you do not get to take him away from me like this. that’s why it makes me kinda sick to my stomach every time i see a bughead post and especially when i see the leaked spoilers with all the gifs of jughead kissing her. i just can’t deal with that shit.

Shout out to all my aces in relationships

Whether it be long-term, short-term, polyamorous, monogamous, and/or a qpp

You are valid <3

All my sapphic aces, you are valid

All my gay aces, you are valid

Aroaces? You’re valid

My straight aces? Hell yeah you’re valid

Trans aces, you are SO valid

NB aces of any sort are super valid

All those ace men, look at you, you’re valid

And my ace women, rock that validity

Aces whose relationships involve sex? Still ace, still valid

Aces whose relationships don’t involve sex? Valid

Aces whose relationships are romantic are valid and aces whose relationships aren’t romantic are valid

Sex repulsed or romance repulsed aces are valid and can have valid relationships

Engaged or married aces? Brilliantly valid

Never settling down aces? Guess what, you’re valid

And to all my aces out there who want any sort of relationship but aren’t in one, don’t despair. Your ace-ness is beautiful and good things will come to you

All of you in whatever type of relationship works for you, remember that your relationship is between you and your partner(s) and don’t let other people’s view of what a relationship should be come in between what is working for you

And to all my aces that don’t want a relationship and will never want a relationship, you’re valid too. Keep being you, and be you unapologetically. 

All aces are valid. And all of our ways of living and loving are valid too.

Okay like real question right now:
Why aren’t there more poly ships in dragon age? Not just the fandoms but also the games????
Bc like, I have found myself shipping Warden/Leliana/Alistair and Inquisitor(usually Lavellan)/Solas/Cullen and Fenhanders and just like
They’re surprisingly good????
The dynamics are interesting and like, why not? Expand your horizons, BioWare!!!!
Polyamory is a thing!!!! It is possible!!!!!

TL;DR:
Give me more good wholesome fluffy poly ships in DA pls

anonymous asked:

to the anon saying aphobes ruined their ability to love being ace - i struggled with the same thing and the one BIG thing that helped me get over it is the realization that basically all the aphobe nonsense is ONLY on Tumblr - NEVER have I gone out to a gsa/other queer community and been told "you dont belong here cuz ace" and ive been aro/ace for 5yrs. be unapologetically ace and rub ur aceness everywhere, kick ass, you are wonderful and the aphobes dont matter. best of luck, you lovely person

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  • ace girls (((o(*゚▽゚*)o)))
  • ace girls who have a hard time expressing emotion (ノ^∇^)
  • ace girls who are emotional (★^O^★)
  • ace girls who love themselves and are so unapologetically ace o((*^▽^*))o
  • ace girls who are still coming to accept themselves (。◕‿◕。)
  • ace girls with disabilities who understand that their disabilities don’t erase their aceness 〜( ̄▽ ̄〜)
  • ace girls who have gone through abuse and understand that this doesn’t erase their being ace (*~▽~)
  • ace girls whose families support and understand them “ヽ(´▽`)ノ”
  • ace girls who are finding support in friendships with other ace girls ( ノ^ω^)ノ゚
  • aCE GIRLS SUPPORTING ONE ANOTHER (︶ω︶)
  • ACE GIRLS (°∀°)b

a concept: ace characters that aren’t demi so you can still have your sex scenes. ace characters who are unapologetically ace, who don’t want sex, or only want sex on certain terms, who aren’t sexually attracted to their partners, who still have healthy and blossoming relationships

“aren’t filipinos, like, the mexicans of asia?" 
"filipinos aren’t even asian though, they’re pacific islanders.”
“well yeah the philippines is an island off asia like japan, but they’re not entirely asian.”
“if you’re asian, how come you’re not good at math? all asians are good at math." 
"aren’t all filipinos like related to each other?”
“isn't putang ina mo really bad in filipino? teach me how to say something bad.”
“you’re not going to be a nurse when you graduate?”
“do you eat that weird duck egg thing? or that pork blood stew? how can you eat that? that looks so gross." 

and every time i hear these things, it’s nothing compared to when i hear other filipinxs who internalize all this and hate themselves. mga kaibigan ko, mga kapatid ko, mga pinsan ko, mahal na mahal kita. no matter what non-filipinxs say or other filipinxs, you deserve nothing but the utmost love and care for yourself. it will take time, i’m still unlearning so much shit, but come talk to me and we can pull through this together. 

in other news: practicing how to smile is a lot of fun! i’m going to smile a lot more this year. 

v | 20 | unapologetically pilipinx | nb panro-ace 

how to pick up your garbage

hey ace tumblr, it looks like you needed this!

if someone on your side is being a piece of shit, you:

1.) gotta own up to it. you need to admit that this person was being horrible and they were on your side.

2.) call them out. make your own post, tag it, make it known. you can’t just tell the person being bad that they are being bad, you have to let everyone know that they are a bad person! call them out, spread the word, let people know that there’s some garbage!

3.) block them and don’t spread their posts. silence them. encourage everyone else to do the same when you call them out.

4.) if you’re worried that your post might not be seen, try tagging popular users. a lot of the times they don’t mind getting the word out.

and finally, keeping everything contained on your blog does not help!! just telling the person on their own posts that they’re being bad doesn’t help, especially if the person is unapologetic.

psa to all you fab aces out there

if you are dating someone who’s allosexual you do not need to ‘compromise’ and have sex that you don’t want.

you are not selfish

it is not compromising when you feel obligated

your comfort and sexuality is more important than their sexual behavior

you deserve to to be loved. don’t settle. be unapologetically ace.

keep communications open always with your partner and if you all have mutual respect with each other, you can work through any bump in the road :)