unacceptable people

unacceptable nsfw: straight people havingn nasty sex but its in an Artistic way
acceptable nsfw: pictures of people in full body fetish gear standing in a corn field in the middle of nowhere and theres a time stamp from 2003

The white response to the Dear White People trailer is really telling. They immediately jumped to boycotting Netflix and called it racist and said it was calling for white genocide. When all that happened in the trailer was that a black woman on the radio (sardonically) told white people it’s unacceptable to use blackface. White people literally can’t even bear to hear a black person address them when speaking. They think it’s too aggressive they don’t want to hear black people speak. This is so ugly and they don’t even have the balls to hear that.

Happiness comes from total self-acceptance. I’m genderfluid. I love and accept that about myself. And I’ve designed my whole life around loving all of who I am. Here are some tips:

-Surround yourself with loving people. As time goes by, do everything you can to spend time with good people and minimize time with unloving, unaccepting people – even if those people are related to you.

-Wear what you want. Yes, outward appearance isn’t everything. And, you don’t need to look a certain way. But it’s important to feel a certain way. Your outfits should make you feel alive and confident and totally…you.

-Practice. Practice. Practice. Self-love doesn’t happen overnight. It will take time. So keep at it. Make a little progress every day.

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After playing Cheryl, I realized the bullying doesn’t come from anything, but insecurities in oneself. The people who are bullying you, they’re insecure about who they are and that’s why they’re bullying you. It never has to do with the person they’re bullying […] They desperately want to be loved and be accepted, and they go out of their way to make people feel unaccepted so that they’re not alone.

The Three Pillars theory of Azula

Azula is one of the most fascinating and complex villains in children’s media, or indeed in any media.  She is both abuser and victim, both deeply cruel and deeply afraid.  Often, discussion of her breaks into two camps, either she was born the way she is, or that she was abused, and she was made into the character we see onscreen by that abuse.  Either she is a “psychopath” (an outdated term that has been widely misunderstood and keeps shifting in meaning), and she was born the way she is, and she either wasn’t abused, or abuse didn’t affect her, or she was abused, and how she was raised made her into who she is.  I don’t think either of those positions are correct.  There is no code that says that predators don’t abuse other predators, and there is nothing in the world that makes abuse magically not damaging.  I have spent a great deal of time figuring out what makes this character tick, and what made her stop ticking at the end.  So how did nurture and nature come together to make Azula?  Bear with me, it’s a bit of a story.

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This needs to stop

The point of hate is pointless, not everyone even has all the pages. Please understand that we are all human, no one is perfect, but threatening to kill people is unacceptable. 
To those who are sending hate to remember that you may not have all the pages of the story, you are only getting one side.

@ask-littlebendy has been getting unnecessary hate. I have been speaking with her and it is affecting her health greatly, please have respect for everyone. Hate is pointless why send people hurtful words, all you are doing is making it worst. just let it go and ignore it. Please stop being children. Everyone needs to support and take care of everyone.

Please send them some more -positive messages and asks. Please stop this nonsense 

religion should not be:
- a reason to shame others
- a justification for dismissing other people’s human rights
- forced upon anyone

atheism should not be:
- a reason to shame others
- a justification for dismissing other people’s human rights
- forced upon anyone

ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?

SOME OF YOU BNHA FANS GOTTA CHILL FR! 

JUST BECAUSE FT IS ENDING AND SOME FANS WANT TO MOVE ON AND JOIN A NEW FANDOM TO FILL IN THEIR EMPTY HEARTS DOESN’T MEAN YOU GOTTA SPEW OUT HATE TO THEIR FACES AND THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT’S GOING ON RN! SOME OF BNHA FANS ARE SENDING STUPID AND HATEFUL ASKS ON “BNHA  IS BETTER THAN FT” OR HOW FLAWED FT IS! 

THE BNHA FANDOM IS SUPPOSED TO BE A KIND AND ACCEPTING COMMUNITY THAT TAKES IN ANY PERSON FROM ANY FANDOM SO WHY THE FUCK ARE SOME OF THOSE MEMBERS GOING AGAINST THAT PHILOSOPHY? 

I’VE ALREADY SEEN SOME OF MY MUTUALS FROM FT GETTING HATE ASKS FOR LEAVING FT TO GET INTO BNHA, GETTING HATE ON HOW BNHA IS SUPERIOR THAN FT, GETTING HATE ON NOT LIKING A PARTICULAR BNHA SHIP, AND MORE! 

STOP! I SWEAR WHEN I JOINED THE BNHA FANDOM IT WAS NOT THAT BIG AND EVERYONE WAS COOL AND CHILL ASF BUT NOWWW SOME OF YA’LL THINK YOU’RE BIG SHIT JUST BECAUSE A BIG FANDOM LIKE FT IS ENDING AND  NOW YOU’RE GETTING NEW VISITORS! 

STOP ACTING LIKE GATEKEEPERS BECAUSE THERE ARE NO GATES IN THE BNHA FANDOM!

WE. ACCEPT. EVERYBODY. 

honestly, i wanna shout out @loveandlucky and @proudtobeaginger and anybody else dealing with these toxic people. 

stay strong guys!  

protecting the earth, and our Pride

get you a gem that can do both


edit: Thanks to a lovely person informing me, I now know that’s @latieraeve doing this stellar cosplay!

repeat after me:

lydia martin is not weak nor is she useless just because she cried over the fact that the boy she’s in love with is lost to her.

lydia martin is a strong female character who is allowed to express her emotions and it’s important that she does so - it’s healthy to, it’s normal and we get to see her perspective, her real feelings.

lydia martin and female characters in general should not have to be subjected to this internalised misogyny in which they are immediately labelled as weak simply because they are expressing how they feel.

Here’s my rant for the day:

Just because we are poly does not mean that we have an open relationship. There are a multitude of different kinds of poly relationships. We happened to be a closed triad. Operative world is “closed”. Yes, sometimes one of us gets hit on. Yes, that’s okay. It happens. But to just assume that if someone is poly they should automatically want you is weird to me.

Do your research people! The poly world is so diverse and beautiful and what works with some won’t work with others. If you are interested in poly and get rejected don’t be salty girl! You gotta get in where you fit in, and just because it is not with our triad, does not make us “weird” and make our brand of poly unacceptable.


Jealousy is ugly, people.

On tolerance, inclusiveness, and semantics in the Sherlock Holmes fandom

I’ve been hesitant to post this big wall of text because I wasn’t sure if it’d be worth the shit that will inevitably follow from those insecure enough to be offended by a random person’s opinion on the internet, but I’ve decided that self-censorship is a shitty thing and mob mentality shouldn’t be allowed to dictate what people feel safe about publishing. (The fact that I have to say that in 2017 illustrates a point in itself, what a time to be alive.)

There’s something I’ve been waiting to see addressed for a while now but I haven’t seen it happen. Maybe the perception is that there are so few of us that it doesn’t seem worth it to speak out, or maybe I’ve just missed it, but I suppose a few extra paragraphs from me can’t hurt. I want to talk about the marginalisation of minority interpretations in the Sherlock Holmes fandom on this site. By and large, I think Tumblr is a liberal website. People talk a lot about tolerance, about diversity, about representation, progressiveness, and inclusion, and the Holmes fandom is no exception.

But my question is, how can people claim to care about inclusiveness when they have “JOHNLOCK IS CANON” emblazoned on their blogs as if that is the one true and correct interpretation and everything else is wrong and unacceptable? How can people claim to care about tolerance when the mere sight of a post making an asexual interpretation of Holmes is apparently so repulsive to them that they have to immediately unfollow the person who dared put that on their dash? How, I ask, can people claim to care about diversity when they conclude that anything which excludes the possibility of Johnlock must be homophobic, as if homosexuality is the only other sexuality in existence? Let’s be totally honest here, bisexual interpretations of Watson are only a popular thing because of his “inconvenient” marriage to Mary (forgetting for a moment those who go so far as to assert that he is in fact just gay and his marriage was just denial or something). If he hadn’t gotten married to a woman, nobody (this is an hyperbole) would think to make him bisexual. Nobody thinks to make Granada Watson bisexual. Why bother? He only needs to be gay so everyone can have their two male protags get it on and live happily ever after. Is that caring about diversity?

I’ve been on this site for one and a half years and very rarely have I ever felt excluded, but in every one of those few instances in which I have, it’s been in relation to Johnlock. Now, this isn’t saying that all Johnlock shippers are exclusive or intolerant. But it’s no secret that Johnlockers do make up a large majority of the Holmes fandom on Tumblr, and it gets to the point where those who are not Johnlockers sometimes don’t feel like they’re welcome. One more time for those who didn’t get it the first time, I am not saying that all Johnlockers are exclusive or intolerant. ‘Most apples are red’ doesn’t mean ‘all red things are apples’. But the point is a problem exists, and for those of us in other minority groups who prefer other readings, it can feel particularly alienating when you can’t even disclose that you don’t interpret the canon a specific way without fear of being sent hate.

Personally, I have one specific thing to raise. I don’t think it’s a huge thing to ask. Please, do not say “Johnlock is canon”.

Firstly, it’s simply a false statement. “Canon” in this context means the original works by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle. In these works, Holmes and Watson do not have a romantic or sexual relationship. It’s not in the text. Johnlock is not canon.

Secondly, and more importantly, it’s exclusive and intolerant of other interpretations. Johnlock not being canon doesn’t mean it’s a stupid thing to be invested in. You can theorise all you want about why you think canon points to a gay interpretation, you can discuss subtext, you can make your fanart, write your fanfiction, revel in your interpretation with those who share it. But at the end of the day it is still an interpretation. Wishing fervently it were canon does not make it canon. Having a popular opinion due to demographics does not make it canon. But you shouldn’t need it to be canon. It is not more correct than, say, an asexual reading of Holmes. To claim that “Johnlock is canon” is to unfairly place that one interpretation above all others. It says, “this is right, everything else is wrong”. It is not tolerant, and it is not inclusive. It’s not an argument to say, well, there can be lots of canons; that defeats the purpose of having a canon at all.

So please, be more mindful. “Johnlock shipper”? Sure. “Johnlock supporter”? Great. But “Johnlock is canon”? No, it isn’t, and there’s no reason why that fact should diminish the value and enjoyment of your blogging if you are a Johnlock shipper, but it makes a big difference to those of us who aren’t.