Fun little anecdote my mother told me not long ago
Preface, I was born with Spina Bifida Myelomenigocele, a neural tube defect of the spine. Back in the 80′s there weren’t many ways to detect if a fetus had Spina Bifida. Sometimes it could be detected through ultrasound, but that was apparently quite difficult for one reason or another
Now, when my mother was pregnant with me, she went for an ultrasound, as you do, and on the ultra sound pictures, there was a white spot on a certain part of of my spine. The doctor told my mother this was a technological malfunction, and that I was basically a fine healthy child. Some months later, I was born, and low and behold - I had Spina Bifida. Needless to say, my mother freaked the fuck out, she went back to the same doctor who did this ultrasound and was basically like…
(Gif Caption. Dean Winchester saying “What the hell”)
As you do, as you would, right? I suspect my mother probably had some other choice words for him at the time.
She questioned this doctor as to why the Spina Bifida wasn’t detected on the ultrasound and why she was not informed. The doctor then admitted that it in fact was detected - remember that white spot on my spine in the ultrasound picture? - but that this doctor was a pro-life advocate and he didn’t want my mother to have an abortion. The unethical todger lied!
My mother admitted that had my disability been properly detected before I was born, there is a good chance she would have had the abortion and I would not be here
Now, before any pro-life side of Tumblr shouts VICTORY!!
(Gif Caption - Jesse Williams telling you to “Sit Down”)
My mother’s right to choose was taken from her. Nothing about that is okay. Am I angry that my mother admitted that she, at the age of 21, may have made the choice to have an abortion at the time because of the potential of her child being born with a disability she knew nothing about, and thus nearly 30 years later, I would not be here typing this? FUCK NO
I am a proud disabled person, even after years of struggle, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, and mistakes of my own doing. I am glad I am here
I have one thing to say to that doctor, and any doctor who would pull the same shit on any other young expecting mother
(Gif Caption - Janice from Mean Girls waving from across the room and giving the “shove it/fuck you” gesture with her arms)
Fun story, eh?