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The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

—  Kent M. Keith

selena9321 asked:

So I understand you like hooking up and having fun, but, what do you do if one of your one night stands actually wants to be with you and has serious feelings? :o has this happened before?

Here’s the thing. I want to go out and have fun and hook up and everything, but the last thing I want in the world is to hurt anyone. I’m really clear about that if it seems obvious that things are going to happen between us, and it’s really important that it’s communicated properly so nobody gets their feelings hurt.

However, there is another side to that. 

One of the things that I find most upsetting in people is the idea of interior motives. I’m an open book about basically everything, and rarely do I have intentions beyond what I’m saying upfront. I think having an ulterior motive is a really big betrayal, and I take it really personally.

There have been several times where I’ve gotten involved with people who claim they understand, who say they don’t want a relationship either and that we can just have fun. Then, fairly quickly, it becomes obvious that it was some sort of situation where they were either trying to goad me into a relationship or begun to develop actual feelings at some point and didn’t tell me.

This bothers me, because I know what I want and there are reasons why I’m trying not to get into a relationship with anyone, and the fact that someone would agree to have a no-strings-attached deal with me, then get caught up in their feelings and bullshit me about it is really upsetting.

thebrickwhale asked:

Just one question Shannon... Why? WHY TEASE US WITH YOUR KNOWLEDGE OF SHIT!???!

In my defense, I just learned there was an early screening after I blogged that. I was looking at the Wash tag and liked that gif set. Seriously, no ulterior motive.

anonymous asked:

It doesn't take a genius to figure it out that Rumple showed that vision of Lily to Maleficent for a reason. He wants her to find her, not because he cares, but because her daughter is the vessel that was given Emma's darkness. Rumple fans are so stupid. You try to explain this stuff to them and they just see the poor misunderstood man who lost his son relating to Mal, through crocodile tears. He's the fucking dark one. He never does anything without an ulterior motive. Bunch of idiots.

And he warned her off it, cause he knew that would only make her want to see all the more. Plus notice how he chose to show the still innocent baby, versus the (possibly, according to hints and spoilers we’ve heard) evil grown woman she is now?

I actually just read an IMDB post insisting how the “anti-rumple brigade is doing a lot less teeth gnashing because he’s dying”. Except no. I saw plenty of us still disgusted by his latest actions, still considering he’s doing a myriad of bad acts so he can continue to be immortal and powerful, etc.

In reality, he’s behaving in the exact same way Pan did over Henry’s heart. Just he wants to ruin poor Emma so he can live and get what he wants. He’s lived 300+ years wreaking havoc. Time to own up to his mistakes, maybe atone for them and say “bye-bye”

Mizaki

Miazaki’s entire body of work is exceptional, from what I’ve encountered. I’ve watched maybe 80% of his feature films. Each story is unique but follows a much needed theme of feminism without pretense, peacekeeping without ulterior motives, and environmentalism without snobbery. 

Because we are everywhere, and creation is how we express ourselves.

Because we’ve forgotten that worship belongs to the universe.

Because social justice isn’t about being better than people, or being a superior creature because you give a damn. Social justice is truly about love, and love contains balance. 

Love yourself first, as that’s how survival works, and recognize that you need that. But love the earth and your communities unconditionally. With that comes respect of place/space/and the magic that Miazaki shows us is possible.

I’m not talking about talking cats and flying brooms, but maybe we’d come closer to understanding what cats are telling us and being able to go wherever we want without fear with the love and respect we could be giving each other.

my dad firmly believes my litttle sister has narcissistic personality disorder

her having said disorder or any disorder for that matter is not what upsets me

what upsets me is my has begun to go on and on about how my sister only spews “cr*zy talk” and how everything she does must have some ulterior motive behind it and how manipulative she is and how awful she is to be around and 

i’m terrified for her 

she’s still a minor, idk if my parents would have her involuntarily institutionalized but my dad already demonstrated he’ll use the threat of calling the police on my sister as a runaway to get her to respond to him

my dad is terrifying

i love my sister i hope to stars she stays safe

captain-outoftime asked:

"I had to get close to you somehow." (dark!steve because yes)

Send me “I had to get close to you somehow,” and my character will react to finding out the relationship our characters have built was all a complete lie for ulterior motives.

The pale god was so rigid he could have easily been taken for a porcelain statue. His face was so dreadfully tight with rage, his cheekbones stood out like knives. Blue eyes were wide, the only hint of life in the trickster’s body, churning with anger, humiliation, betrayal.

Of course it had not been real. There was not a time in Loki’s life where any sense of joy he felt did not turn to ash in his mouth. Why would this … this … be any different.

All those days he had lived for Steve’s wide smile, his mischievous smirk. Now the more he gazed at the man, the more he wanted to slice open that pretty neck, watch the blood pour from his lips. Even that would not stifle this rage. This pain.

“ … To what end, Captain.” 

The words were venom from his throat, anger rising as the man he thought he knew just silently smirked. There was no holding back the scream that followed.

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However loving his parents may have seemed, he [Simon] knew that, scratch the surface, and they’d scream and run away. And here he’s confronted with a guy who is just everyting he thinks is wrong about a person, who comes back for him when the chips are down because he’s on his crew. To me, that’s a real parent, and that is an extremely beautiful thing to get to, and I think it’s very real… But the most important thing about ‘Safe’ was that relationship.

Joss Whedon, Firefly: The Official Companion, Volume One

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i’d like to thank not only god but also jesus

Korean Word of the Day

마음 = mind, heart

  • 마음기짐 = mental attitude
  • 딴마음 = any other intention, ulterior motive
  • 마음먹다 = make up one’s mind, intend to
  • 마음놓다 = set one’s mind at ease, relax
  • 마음내키다 = feel inclined to, be in the mood for
  • 마음내키지 않다 = be reluctant
  • 마음속 = deep inside one’s heart
  • 마음잡다 = get a grip on oneself
  • 마음든든하다 = feel secure
  • 마음졸이다 = be nervous, be anxious

사진: 여의도공원, 서울 (Yeouido Park, Seoul)