Do you understand?
I don’t think there’s enough emphasis being put on this line.
Jon wakes up and the first thing he tells her is how sorry he is about Viserion. He gets that these are her children and even goes so far as to take her hand to comfort her – which is something he’s never done before. It’s an incredibly sweet moment of vulnerability on Jon’s part, literally reaching out to her in the hope that she’ll understand that she’s not alone. And she accepts it… for a moment. But she releases his hand fairly quickly.
Now, I thought that was kind of strange because Dany has been pretty transparent about her interest in Jon (maybe not so much to him, but her terror when he said he was leaving and her insistence on watching for him atop the wall and sitting at his bedside and, come on, she’s totally into him) and Dany isn’t one to back down when she wants something.
But she lets go of his hand and Jon… Well, Jon takes it in stride. He sees she’s trying to be strong but he doesn’t really get why until a little later.
Later, she says, “They’re the only children I’ll ever have.” And she could have stopped there – but she doesn’t. Instead, she adds the question, “Do you understand?”
Don’t you see?!? This is her telling him, “Here’s your chance to run. Here’s your chance to change your mind. I can’t help you further your line. I can’t give you what men traditionally want more than anything in the world.”
So she let go of his hand to distance herself from him emotionally – not to protect herself but to protect him. Tyrion has just told her that Jon loves her and she wants him to have all the facts before he gets too deep. This is an incredibly selfless act of love.
He loves her. She knows it. She loves him. We all know it. But she tries to warn him off because she doesn’t want him to give up his chance to have kids. (I mean it’s no coincidence that Jorah said something about handing down that sword earlier in the ep.)
And Jon, absolutely perfect and honorable Jon, understands the real question and he doesn’t run. Later in the conversation when she takes his hand back, he squeezes it in reassurance. He’s here for her. She’s his queen.
“They’ll come to see you for what you are.”
“I hope I deserve it.”
UGH. These two are as perfect for each other as I always hoped they’d be.