hi... I'm currently learning french (for around 7 months now) and I feel so stuck! Like everything takes me so long to understand, and as an overthinker I think of so many possibilities and stress myself when I don't know the rules for all of them. I'm having such a hard time... I wanted to learn faster and ugh I feel really dumb for not memorizing stuff more easily and shit
Here’s your song.
It’s the first time when you learn a language on your own, right? (i assume this because “newbies” tend to have higher expectations than people who self-studied more languages, we know we will suck at them and we are proud of that, most of the time)
Instead of overthinking, think how is that going to help you? It won’t. Instead, you should change your technique for memorizing.
For learning/studying, there are plenty of ways.
Just experiment and see what works. Since you study on your own, i doubt you know how you enjoy studying or what works better. You need to accept that you can’t be good from the start so don’t stress too much over your mistakes.
Also, French is evil when it comes to exceptions, that’s another reason not to care about perfection because perfection takes time. You should better choose some daily goals and try to achieve them.
And also, if you lose your motivation, 100 reasons not to give up on your target language
If you’re a perfectionist, it means you don’t like talking to people yet so i suggest you to keep a journal/diary. You can take your time to write in there what you think/feel and you can read in the future how you progressed.
I wish you good luck with your studies! And something else, it’s alright not to be good at something from the start. Try not to have high expectations because i feel like they affect you more than your actual progress.