AfterEllen toast to marriage
When did you first know you wanted to get married?
We’ve been together for nine years so I’ve known for a long time but my girlfriend wasn’t as keen until the law changed and we were granted equal marriage.
Who popped the question and how?
I knew my girlfriend wasn’t totally convinced about marriage and so i’d said early on that I wouldn’t propose just in case it made her feel like she had to accept. We’re from Scotland and went to New York for my birthday a couple of years ago. I was harbouring hope that she would ask me but after our first day when we went up to the top of the Rockefeller centre and had dinner a lovely restaurant and saw a show on Broadway and she *still* hadn’t asked me, I realised I was being ridiculous and had to just let it go, accept it wasn’t happening and enjoy our holiday.
The next day, she had planned for us to go to the natural history museum because even though she finds museums boring she knows I’m a huge nerd. Afterwards, we walked through Central Park where we saw a couple getting married at the Ladies pavilion before we stopped to sit on a wee wooden bench next to the lake. We took a selfie and I was gazing happily at the view of the lake with the skyscrapers in the background when I realised she’d gone quiet. I turned around and she was holding a beautiful emerald cut diamond ring. She said she’d been waiting for the perfect moment and she felt like this was it. I cried and said yes and then we celebrated with champagne at the boathouse.
Why is equal marriage important to you?
To me equal marriage is really important, and small concessions like civil partnerships really don’t cut it. Our relationship is so strong and makes us so happy and there is no sensible reason why we can’t celebrate it with marriage.
What advice would you give other same-sex couples planning to get married?
Do it! One of the most amazing and surprising things for me has been the outpouring of love and support we have received. Family members who have in the pat said that they don’t believe we should be allowed to be married have overcome their issues and celebrated our relationship because they saw how committed and in love we are and how happy we make each other. My aunt who is a committed Catholic and who previously told me that she didn’t want me to get married, spent hours hand making a lovely framed picture with two brides in it and our wedding date. In normal day to day life people don’t tend to comment on your relationship but when you get married you just get this amazing sense of acceptance from everyone. It also feels amazing to now call my girlfriend my wife :)
We got married on 9th April so we’re still newly weds and despite living in Scotland, we got married in Las Vegas. It was fantastic and we didn’t experience any negativity or bad reactions from anyone when we announced our engagement and throughout the planning process. I love being married 😊