I just saw a post within the past day about fidgets for kids that need them being banned because of them becoming a fad with neurotypical kids. The photos are an email I got today from the principal of one of the schools in town.
I have three kids, two of whom need fidgets during their school day and one who does not. Does the NT kid think it is unfair that they can’t bring certain things to school? Yeah. And so we talk about it, and about how everyone having the exact same things isn’t actually fairness.
Be aware of your kids. Be aware of what they need. And talk with them. Help them understand that “fair” is not necessarily “everyone gets to have the same thing.” Different kids have different needs, and therefore need to be accommodated differently.