They’ve been called the Twixters, Choisters, pre-adults, adultescents, the stuck generation and the lost generation, playing out an extended adolescence or an emerging adulthood or their odyssey years. They are the 20-somethings that graduated into one of the worst economies in decades, saddled with some of the highest debt burdens. According to a new report, half of recent college graduates are unemployed or underemployed, scraping by with low-wage service jobs. Those who are working earn less than their 1970s counterparts, when adjusted for inflation.
They are moving back home, going back to school or embracing unpaid internships as the new starter jobs. They are marrying later and starting families later still. They are told to wait it out. They have time. The 20s are for having fun anyway. Real life starts later.
But it doesn’t. It starts now, and they are falling behind.
“I’ve had hundreds–maybe thousands–of clients and students who’ve been misled about how important this decade is,” says Meg Jay, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist specializing in adult development and the author of The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter–and How to Make the Most of Them Now. “In a lot of ways, 20-somethings are not taken seriously. Your 20s really, really matter. You are deciding your life right now, and it will have enormous impact across years and generations to come.”
“I’m not discounting twentysomething exploration here,but I am discounting exploration that’s not supposed to count, which, by the way, is not exploration.That’s procrastination.”
“That new piece of capital, that new person to datealmost always comes from outside the inner circle. New things come from what are called our weak ties,our friends of friends of friends.”
“Now Emma’s story made that sound easy, but that’s what I love about working with twentysomethings.They are so easy to help. Twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving LAX, bound for somewhere west. Right after takeoff, a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji.Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29, one good conversation, one good break, one good TED Talk, can have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.”
“So here’s an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know. It’s as simple as what I learned to say to Alex. It’s what I now have the privilege of saying to twentysomethings like Emma every single day: Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family. Don’t be defined by what you didn’t know or didn’t do. You’re deciding your life right now.”
Someone on facebook posted this and said she wish she saw this before she was twenty and obvi I’m going to be 20 in less than two months. I totally agree with this woman that we need to stop procrastinating and it’s one of the reasons that I have planned my life to have my goals set to be accomplished at 25 otherwise I will not do anything like my brothers and end up with an okay job, with okay pay, and okay life.
Anyways please watch if your a twenty something or going to be!
Study time… “.. Making sure that when they settle down, they do it the right way, their way. It’s not that they don’t take adulthood seriously; they take it SO SERIOUSLY, they’re spending years carefully choosing the right path into.” #twixters #soundslikecandy #openmind #thisgeneration #ME
The most underrated band ever, It’s a band that Jeremy shada is apart of, you know, that dude who voices finn from adventure time. This is a really good band, they just need some DAMN MORE NOTICING. GRAK //pterodactyl noises//