Okay, like I know all of you guys are annoyed by the fact that another 5sos fan is complaining or whining or speaking their mind, but I really need to say this. I’m not saying the entire fandom of 5H is being like this when it’s only the small handful since majority was really positive and nice about the friendly competition, but I just wanted to say it. You can hate me if you want and call me passive aggressive as you may, however what I state in this post is fairly my opinion and how I view this whole petty feud. You don’t have to read it; you don’t have to say anything about it. These are my words and thoughts, I am not trying to put down the girls or put the boys on a pedestal. I’m only stating what’s been eating up my thoughts.
To say that I am upset is an understatement. I am beyond furious and annoyed. My blood is boiling and I am disappointed in the lack of sportsmanship. This was supposed to be a friendly competition between the two fan families, however as time progressed and the time of voting was coming to a close, the tweets became more frequent and much aggressive and dare I say even ugly. And when the winner was announced, the tweets were as cruel and vile.
EXCUSE ME BUT WHAT MADE YOU EVEN WANT TO TWEET SUCH CRUEL THINGS?!! When I read these my heart started falling and I was almost on the verge of tears. I know you’re going to say I must’ve been stupid and immature for even looking at these but when they come up it’s really hard to ignore. Maybe the fans didn’t expect us to read them. Maybe they were just trying to pass off the anger and bitterness of not winning in some way or form. But this was low. If there is one rule of human etiquette, it is to not poke fun of someone’s history of self-harm or send anything that might trigger it again. I’m not saying whatever they said would or ever trigger any of the boys. But words cut deep, much more than any blade. I speak from experience of being dealt with blades and words alike. And seeing all these disgusting tweets where a fandom thinks it’s funny and rational to tell others to kill themselves and poke fun of a member’s past is just cruel and immature.
And may I point out that this is not the first time this has happened between the two fandoms. This also happened last year during another supposedly “friendly” competition. Whenever we go up against each other, we are called names and accused and ridiculed. It not anything new for me but when your family is also getting called fat and ugly, cheaters and liars, even so much as telling a band member to go back to cutting AND so much as making fun of his of a father figure, it becomes personal. Ever heard of the saying, you harm me I can take it but if you harm my family I will not hesitate to fight back?
We didn’t cheat our way to the award. We tried as much as you have. And if we’re going to be put down for the effort we put in, what do you expect us to do? The boys have earned it as much as the girls have. It was a game fought fair and square. Yet, a lot of you have the nerve to say the song being nominated was unfit for an award or unexceptional or even as low to say it was worthless. The boys spent a lot of time trying to piece together the song and deserved the award as much as the girls do. And as though it may be that the boys’ song came out much later than VMA eligibility period, it gain popularity and became a recent trend to have it deemed worthy of nomination as much as the girls’ song. But to call it sexism and favoritism is rude. And to blame it on the size and population of the fandoms for their winning is just stating how bitter you are. Might I mention that though you can only tweet 12 times a day, the amount of RTs count just as much. And don’t compare the view count or the amount of streams each song got when one came out sooner than the other. That is unjustified counting. Ineligible? That may be but in its own way the song deserved it as much as the next song.
I don’t care if you were driven by the heat of the moment to say something so horrendous and triggering, it’s just so…..cruel. To wish pain and death upon someone for a silly reason as this is just so immature and dare I say inhumane. I understand you are upset how your idols weren’t able to receive the award you wanted them to but think of the pain you are inflicting on others by showing your bitterness. The two teams both worked hard and there are more opportunities to come. Don’t get so caught up in one little competition. Accept it and move on. There will be more awards and ceremonies to celebrate in the future. It’s not the end of the world. To those of you mature enough to tweet us and the boys positive things even after the results are sweet and wonderful beings and I am very grateful.
Anyways, congrats to the boys :)) and to the girls there will be many more opportunities for you. Best of wishes and love.
- Marina xx