twin-advice

Well, then…this is certainly a delicate situation, and I, for one, am happy that you came to us for help. Stan and I may not be able to magically repair everything, but you definitely deserve the most insightful advice we can give—and that’s exactly what we’ll try to provide you with.

First of all, know that you’re most definitely not alone; Stan and I both had a less-than-caring father, and that led to some rocky situations. However, I do acknowledge that Stan and I both had very different experiences with our parents…and that’s exactly what you have to analyze in this kind of situation: Experiences.

Have your parents been directly manipulative to you before?  Do they have a history of not keeping their word?  If so, you may want to be more careful when making your decision. However, the choice is always entirely up to you.  If they’ve been harsh in the past but you trust they’ve changed, and you personally wish to reconnect, you have every right to do so!

And hey, uh, Stan here, if I can just pop in for a second—Ford’s right about one thing, and that’s how this is completely your choice.  However, take it from me: things don’t always go the way y’plan.  I’m not sayin’ that to scare ya or nothin’, I’m just lettin’ you know that it’s good t’always have a backup plan!  Talk to a friend y’trust if you’re plannin’ to head back with your parents, just so you have an alternative place t’stay if it doesn’t all work out.

And if it does work out, hey, that’s great!  At least you always have someone who’s got your back, just in case.

Bottom line, this is entirely your decision, please understand that.  I know it may be tempting to put blame on yourself, but in situations like these, your safety always comes first.  It’s not a matter of trust or obligation—it’s a matter of what’s best for you!  

It’s alright if you’re ready to reconnect.  It’s alright if you need to wait a while. And it’s alright if you never wish to reconnect at all.  What matters most is your safety and comfort, and I truly mean that!  Don’t be afraid to take things at your own pace.

And hey, kiddo, remember that you don’t deserve anyone mistreatin’ you, alright?  None’f this hogwash is your fault, and if y’ever need some kind’f safe space, we’ll all be right here waitin’ for ya.  Everybody deserves t’be secure in their own home, and at the end’f the day, I really hope y’find that.

You got guts, kid.  

And you got this.

▽Stanford Pines▽

and

–Stan(ley Pines)

TROPE OF THE WEEK: Polar-Opposite Twins

Whether these twins are good and evil, quiet and loud, book-smart and street-smart, they’re in some important way opposite to each other. Of course, these twins are almost always identical, as well.

Why this can be bad: While there are definitely twins who embody this idea, writers can sometimes go completely overboard with this to the point that the twins don’t even seem related. Another character might even comment on this because it’s so blatant. When you take this to too much of an extreme, your readers will find it hard to believe that these two ever even existed in the same universe.

How you can fix it: Nature versus nurture is a big debate, but psychological studies have found that genetics play a heavy role in personality. While any family can have a diverse array of personality, there is always some uniting factor. While we might not want to admit it, we’ve all had a moment where we do something and realize how identical it is to our parents or siblings. Whether raised together or not, we have lean towards the personality traits of our immediate family, which means our siblings, especially genetically-identical twins, have a high level of similarity. This isn’t to say that your siblings can’t actively fight it or try to avoid it, but it’s important to keep in mind that they will have a decent amount of similarities.

Bottom Line: Remember that your twins are related, and if they’ve grown up together, then they’ll still have similarities between them.

🎂
  • *the garden, Mummy & Daddy's*
  • Molly: *examining the buffet table*
  • Sherrinford: *slides up beside her; puts on a mocking voice* What are you thinking, the pork or the pasta?
  • Molly: *looks up; smiles* Oh, hey. Your mum keeps asking me when we're getting married!
  • Sherrinford: Mmm, she was a mathematician. Knows what adds up.
  • Molly: *chuckles* Very funny. Anyway, I told her it's not like that. Now she's trying to fix me up with Sherrinford.
  • Sherrinford: *smirks*
  • Molly: *eyes wide* You...are Sherrinford, aren't you?
  • Sherrinford: *extends his hand* Guilty as charged, Molly Hooper.
  • Molly: *blushing* Oh God. Sorry, hi. You look like- I mean, Sherlock never mentioned he had a twin brother
  • Sherrinford: Hmm, it doesn't really come under his favourite subject *pauses* himself.
  • Molly: *giggles*
  • Sherrinford: *grins* Or you.
  • Molly: *confused* Huh?
  • Sherlock: *hurries over to them, almost spilling his drinks; almost nervous* What are you talking about?
  • Sherrinford: *winks at Molly* Ears burning...
  • Molly: *giggles*
  • Sherlock: *annoyed* Sherrinford!
  • Sherrinford: *rolls his eyes* If you must know, I was about to tell Molly Hooper - pathologist, brainy, single, cat lady, sexy as hell *turns to Molly* sorry, I'm paraphrasing but that's the jist *back to Sherlock; slowly* that you fancy her *smug*
  • Sherlock: ...
  • Molly: ...
  • Sherrinford: For me? *nicks one of Sherlock's drinks* bonsoir, brother dear *leaves*
  • Sherlock: ...
  • Sherlock: *clears his throat* I-I don't fancy you. It's a...deep affetion *stares into his remaining glass* I love you.
  • Molly: *holds his free hand, smiling* I love you too.
  • Sherlock: *smiles*
Why I love having a medical student for a brother

Twin Bro says things like this:  “If I have learned one thing this year, it’s that our impressions of symptoms (patients or inexperienced providers) are not the only way to look at things.“

And this:  “I would lay everything out as if it’s the first visit, with your highest priorities first, and if the doctor isn’t listening or can’t give you a plan (we’ve tried this, this is next, here are final options) then change doctors. Doctors are like therapists - you need someone who can work with your communication style.“

I’m coming up on another doctor appointment about my endometriosis, and I feel like I’ve hit a wall.  The treatments that usually work (the pill, laparoscopic surgery) haven’t worked well, and the one treatment that did work well (simulated menopause) isn’t something I can do very often because of the side effects.  Perspective, mindfulness, and tips for how to talk to the doctor and what to look for are much appreciated, and Twin Bro delivers!

I “paid” him for the advice by sending him a picture of a dog being scared of kittens.  I send him cute and funny pictures all the time, because the paycheck job has downtime, and he loves giant dogs and little kitties.