Kinda just want to get stuff off my chest bc I've been wallowing in it for a few days now for some reason. I'm a closeted bi and sometimes I just don't understand why I couldn't have just been gay or straight. I feel like the fact that I'm bi is the reason why I haven't come out yet, bc it's not really as cut and dry as other sexualities. I grew up in the conservative Midwest so coming out is a big thing as is. I feel like if I came out as bi it would just look promiscuous or something - bi anon
Why would people think you are promiscuous? Promiscuity is about behavior – it’s about frequently having sex with a lot of different people or being generally indiscriminate about who you have sex with. It doesn’t have anything to do with sexual orientation. You can be promiscuous as a gay, straight, bi, asexual, etc person. And honestly, if you wanted to be promiscuous… I don’t see why anyone should judge you for that – just make sure to use protection, be as safe as possible, and make sure you are honest with your partners.
You say you grew up in the conservative Midwest… which makes it sound like you don’t live there now. And if you don’t live there now, then who cares what they think? Also, don’t underestimate the amount of bisexuals running around the midwest. I personally know of two separate situations in small midwestern towns where a woman left her husband to start a romantic/sexual relationship with a female coworker. I am also 90% sure I have a relative from a very conservative midwestern town who is engaged in a polyamorous relationship with a female friend and her husband of 45 years (she’s in her 60′s). It’s not the midwest, but I also know a guy who was filming amateur bi-sexual male porn as a hobby in a conservative rural community in the western US. I’ll admit that all these people draw some stares, and frankly, most of them are in high-drama situations and not just average run-of-the-mill bisexual relationships. But the point is that you aren’t alone – and probably not even the most controversial bisexual in your town.
I am not telling you to come out to people. I don’t know shit about what it’s like to come out to someone. Only you can decide when it’s the right time to come out and to whom you share that information. Maybe a reader has some personal insights they can share with you. All I can say is to not beat yourself up or over think things.
*extends his hand* Guilty as charged, Molly Hooper.
*blushing* Oh God. Sorry, hi. You look like- I mean, Sherlock never mentioned he had a twin brother
Hmm, it doesn't really come under his favourite subject *pauses* himself.
*grins* Or you.
*hurries over to them, almost spilling his drinks; almost nervous* What are you talking about?
*winks at Molly* Ears burning...
*rolls his eyes* If you must know, I was about to tell Molly Hooper - pathologist, brainy, single, cat lady, sexy as hell *turns to Molly* sorry, I'm paraphrasing but that's the jist *back to Sherlock; slowly* that you fancy her *smug*
For me? *nicks one of Sherlock's drinks* bonsoir, brother dear *leaves*
*clears his throat* I-I don't fancy you. It's a...deep affetion *stares into his remaining glass* I love you.
*holds his free hand, smiling* I love you too.
Well, then…this is certainly a delicate situation, and I,
for one, am happy that you came to us for help.
Stan and I may not be able to magically repair everything, but you
definitely deserve the most insightful advice we can give—and that’s exactly
what we’ll try to provide you with.
First of all, know that you’re most definitely not alone;
Stan and I both had a less-than-caring father, and that led to some rocky
situations. However, I do acknowledge that Stan and I both had very different
experiences with our parents…and that’s exactly what you have to analyze in
this kind of situation: Experiences.
Have your parents been directly manipulative to you
before? Do they have a history of not
keeping their word? If so, you may want
to be more careful when making your decision.
However, the choice is always entirely
up to you. If they’ve been harsh in the
past but you trust they’ve changed, and you personally wish to reconnect, you
have every right to do so!
And hey, uh, Stan here, if I can just pop in for a
second—Ford’s right about one thing, and that’s how this is completely your choice. However, take it from me: things don’t always
go the way y’plan. I’m not sayin’ that to
scare ya or nothin’, I’m just lettin’ you know that it’s good t’always have a
backup plan! Talk to a friend y’trust if
you’re plannin’ to head back with your parents, just so you have an alternative
place t’stay if it doesn’t all work out.
And if it does work
out, hey, that’s great! At least you always
have someone who’s got your back, just in case.
Bottom line, this is entirely
your decision, please understand that. I
know it may be tempting to put blame on yourself, but in situations like these,
your safety always comes first. It’s not a matter of trust or obligation—it’s
a matter of what’s best for you!
It’s alright if you’re ready to reconnect. It’s alright if you need to wait a
while. And it’s alright if you never
wish to reconnect at all. What matters
most is your safety and comfort, and I truly mean that! Don’t be afraid to take things at your own
And hey, kiddo, remember that you don’t deserve anyone
mistreatin’ you, alright? None’f this
hogwash is your fault, and if y’ever need some kind’f safe space, we’ll all be
right here waitin’ for ya. Everybody
deserves t’be secure in their own home, and at the end’f the day, I really hope
Twin Bro says things like this: “If I have learned one thing this year, it’s that our impressions of
symptoms (patients or inexperienced providers) are not the only way to
look at things.“
And this: “I would lay everything out as if it’s the first visit, with your highest
priorities first, and if the doctor isn’t listening or can’t give you a
plan (we’ve tried this, this is next, here are final options) then
change doctors. Doctors are like therapists - you need someone who can
work with your communication style.“
I’m coming up on another doctor appointment about my endometriosis, and I feel like I’ve hit a wall. The treatments that usually work (the pill, laparoscopic surgery) haven’t worked well, and the one treatment that did work well (simulated menopause) isn’t something I can do very often because of the side effects. Perspective, mindfulness, and tips for how to talk to the doctor and what to look for are much appreciated, and Twin Bro delivers!
I “paid” him for the advice by sending him a picture of a dog being scared of kittens. I send him cute and funny pictures all the time, because the paycheck job has downtime, and he loves giant dogs and little kitties.
You know, I didn’t always like Mabel Pines because I felt like she was always getting her way over Dipper (whom I relate to much more in that aspect and in other ways) but after NWHS I couldn’t not love her. She had faith in Stan when NO ONE else did. She trusted that man. She saw his heart and knew, despite her own twin’s advice, that he was a good person and that he was deserving of trust and respect and she’s the real reason that Stan and Ford made up and are living happily together today, and I absolutely love her for that. She is made of rainbows and I love her.