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Trump called deaf actress Marlee Matlin the R word

This is a new low: During Celebrity Apprentice, Trump reportedly called Oscar-winning actress Marlee Matlin, who is deaf, “retarded." Three sources told the Daily Beast that he would mimic her and make insulting, demeaning remarks. In her presence, he wrote heinous, derogatory comments on napkins.

@ all MTG players

Keep the word retard[ed] out of your mouths. Instead of a slur, here’s a list of words you can say and use to correct your buddies:

Real great, dudes

But in all seriousness… stop using the r-slur. It’s a real problem among nerds


It hurts way more when it comes from real people.

You can usually ignore when people are ableist towards autistics on the Internet. You can look away when you see people equating autism with intellectual disability (and intellectual disability with a lack of worth). You can get irritated with “autism parents” and people who think autism would be the worst thing to ever happen to their child, and then forget about it. You can ignore when you see people use the words “autistic” or “retarded” as insults. Because to you, those people aren’t real. They’re just pixels on your screen or sound waves coming out of your speakers. You know cognitively that their sentiments could have real-life consequences, but you’re so far removed from it all because it doesn’t happen right in front of you and it doesn’t happen to you. 

But it’s so much harder when you hear the same ableism towards autism from people you know. Even if the ableism is much more subtle. Because then it becomes real. They’re actually hurting you, and they’re actually unaware of what they’re doing. So you try to justify it emotionally by telling yourself that they didn’t mean it and were just misinformed. You remind yourself that they’re good people, because they really are and you know it. But you also know rationally that you shouldn’t be giving them a pass like that. Because you know that ableism is rarely intentional. It usually comes from people who just don’t understand. 

The thing is that you’d always thought that if you saw ableism in your face, you’d speak up and say something. And you never thought that ableist people looked like that, like people you like and respect and care about. Ableism is a thing other people do. It doesn’t happen to people like you and it doesn’t come from people you like. Only it does.

im so looking forward to being able to get my hair done and wear dresses and skirts and makeup and high heels and crop tops and tank tops and ripped jeans and shorts. living with retarded parents is hard

anonymous asked:

Hi so you may have seen this, but like a week or so ago, Kaitlyn Alexander tweeted about how ppl need to stop using the r-word (and linked an article about it, from Buzzed I believe). Now, I'm no psychic, but this may/may not be related to AA and they were probs calling out the gwc's disgusting (yet sadly sorta expected?) use of the word and other problematic elements of AA.... But seriously, mad respect, you're doing a lot for the world, you're the best :) -a young gay from the US of A


anonymous asked:

Goku turn into an asshole retard more and more. 1st piccolo and the mafuba lesson in Black arc, now when Vegeta's concerned about his pregnant wife near labor. And he's undirectly responsible for the death of other universes.Why does Japan love him😠

Please do not use the R word in general, and especially not on my blog.

An open letter to R word users:

Choose a different word.

I’m not being “overly sensitive” when I tell you not to say particular words. I’m telling you to be careful because each word has a particular history behind it and some of them have become hate terms over the years.

Honestly, it’s easy not to use the R word. Watch me use different words throughout this open letter in the same way some of you use the R word.

There are several one-dimensional people that quote the textbook definition of the R word—slow, delayed, stunted—to back up their use of the word. What they always stubbornly fail to remember is that language, just like fashion, changes. A century ago, it was normal to call any black or dark-skinned person the N word. Try that now. You won’t.

So I repeat: choose a different word.

According to the easily accessible knowledge on the Internet, the use of the R word was put into medical practice to describe developmental delay in 1895. Since then, schools have been desegregated, all women have been given the right to vote, and two World Wars have ended. We have progressed so much in the last century!

However, we look at the modern day version of the R word, which has been dragged down with so many negative connotations, and see where we went wrong. The past silly generations somehow saw the R word as a synonym for contemptuous terms such as moron, idiot, and basically anyone they thought was intellectually less than the speakers themselves.

Unfortunately, uninformed ding-dongs forget that people with disabilities understand what is going on around them, treating them like plastic wallflowers. The wonderful thing is that people who visibly live with intellectual and developmental disabilities have the biggest hearts in the world. They are so emotionally aware because the world around them has forced them to be constantly forgiving and to always be the better person. But more often than not, nincompoops define those with disabilities as how they perceive their disabilities, but that is not who they are.

People with disabilities do not find themselves as slow or stunted, so neither should you.

In 2010, 9-year-old Rosa Marcellino opened the eyes of the government, and eventually had the phrase “mental retardation” replaced with “intellectual disability” in all federal documents.

And if a 9-year-old can stop the whole US government from using the R word, you can definitely stop yourself from using it.

See how easy it is to use a different word? So please, do it for yourself and do it for the world; choose a different word because “the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them” (Matthew 15:18).

Thank you

It’s hard for me to acknowledge and accept all the gracious and supportive messages that I’m getting, because it’s not for me. I’m not acting for myself but for people with developmental disabilities and the people who are dehumanized by the R word.

But thank you to everyone who’s sent something. Thank you to the people with disabilities, the parents, family, friends, teachers, who have sent me a message about how they’re glad I’m speaking out. I’ll try to get to all of them, but I’m really honoured to say that there are lots and it’ll take me a bit of time. 

They mean the world to me, because this has easily been one of the hardest things I’ve had to go through. But, again, while it’s hard for me, it’s even harder for the people who have been victimized by the R word. I’ve seen first hand how that affects my friends. What may be a little word to you, holds a great deal of shame and anger and hatred to other people. If I can do something to make the world a little safer for them, why wouldn’t I?

And a direct message to @thegaywomenchannel @almostadultsmovie @natvanlis and Elise Bauman: I want to reiterate - I have the upmost respect for all of you involved in the film. Sarah, Adrianna, I’m proud to continue to support media by queer women for queer women and I’ve been a long time fan of your work. Elise, Natasha - I’ll always support everything you two do. I mean, I owe both of you through Carmilla for some of the best friendships I have made. I look forward to seeing Almost Adults. I helped fund it and I’m proud to have! And I hope all of you understand that where I’m coming from is a place of education, of compassion, of teaching. 

I just want to do the right thing.

I’m going to take a step back from the internet for a bit, because it’s best for my health that I stop perseverating on this. I’m going to give my wife a kiss, my dog a cuddle, and text my good friend Matt, who has Down syndrome, ‘cause he’s rad, and he always knows how to make my day.

Thanks for the love, Tumblr. I’ll see you around.

Watch Alana’s message to the GWC here. Retweet it if you can. Let’s hope they acknowledge how incredible Alana is and respond to our request.

I’m super encouraged by everyone’s response to the R word/Almost Adults/GWC post. It’s certainly restoring my faith in people.

I had a great conversation with my friend Alana, who has Down syndrome, about it. We actually filmed a video, she wanted to talk to S&A directly about it, but I won’t post it - yet. We’ll see what happens.

But again, I’m encouraged by everyone.

Please continue to share with people you know - the R word is not appropriate, it is a slur, it is not a term that the GWC or anyone can appropriate or use in any circumstance.

Thanks guys.