tw: gender shit

Ted Allen, on the set of Chopped, "Contestants open up your baskets. Inside you'll find: Race, Class, and Gender."

*Camera shot to lesbian chef with an undercut* “So immediately I’m thinking, deconstructed gender tartare, with a masculine compote.”

We have an anti that holds an ‘Ask to see your Ultrasound’ sign outside the clinic.  The clinic director passed us a note, wanting us to tell this anti that yes, many women do want to see the ultrasound, and we always let them if they want to.  They still continue with the abortion after looking at the ultrasound

From another escort.

This is a common trope in anti-choice lore.  If patients see the ultrasound, if patients see their babies, they will change their mind. 

They site number like “More than 90% of women change their mind about abortion after the ultrasound.”

This is false.

“ This latest study is much larger. Researchers analyzed 15,575 medical records from an urban abortion care provider in Los Angeles. Each patient seeking an abortion was asked how she felt about her choice: Those who made “clear and confident” replies were rated as having “high decision certainty,” while those who seemed sad, angry, or ambivalent were said to show “medium” or “low” decision certainty. (Only 7.4 percent of the women fell into the latter categories.) Patients underwent ultrasounds as part of the standard procedure, and 42.5 percent of them opted to see the images. Of those, 98.4 percent terminated their pregnancies; 99 percent of the women who did not look at the photographs ended their pregnancies. But here’s the thing: The women who viewed the sonograms and then backed out were all part of that 7.4 percent of women with low or medium decision certainty. Women who knew abortion was the right decision for them continued with the procedure whether they were shown the images or not. “

  “The main takeaway here is definitely that 98.4 percent of the women who saw their ultrasounds went on to get an abortion anyway.“ 

This doesn’t stop anti’s from saying it, but again, it is false. 

Know the difference: It could save a life.

Boys: Have a penis, have testosterone, have an XY chromosome, have narrower heart-shaped pelvic inlet.

Girls: Have a vagina, have estrogen, have XX chromosome, have an open circular pelvic inlet

pretty sure i’m just being bitter and this is uncalled for but i don’t really like the photosets with like the skinny white person with the undercut (or they just hide their hair in a hat) split into two sets one of them is in a dress another is in a suit and it always has the “gender???? what’s that??” or “gender games” type comment at the bottom. i guess it’s because to me it still implies that there are only two, also it’s kind of the only thing seen about genderfluidity/genderqueerness/etc. it bothers me a lot


This literally made me sick. Fucking terrible how people can be so disrespectful, so violent. Please watch this, spread this around and educate your friends, family and anyone who just doesn’t know for a better tomorrow.  The result is a heart wrenching technicolor spectacle that raises questions about gender stereotypes, mob mentality, and violence in America. 

Please share this.

the two biggest realizations i had in reaching the point i had to where i stand on gender are:

  • there is nothing inherently male or female or any of that. there are traditions and constructs out of society and history that we associate with such things and assign masculine or feminine value to, but there is nothing inherently so. anything we assign as feminine or masculine is ultimately out of ourselves and the shit society makes up. the only thing - the only thing - that makes someone male is if they identify as such, and i broke this down to myself as, basically “bruce willis can be a gruff soldier with a heart of gold and shoot and explode things in all his movies but nothing that he does or says or even/especially his body is male - the only thing that makes bruce willis male is that bruce willis identifies as male”. which someone might ask “does this mean ‘male’ or 'female’ mean nothing?” to which i say “sure, why not. ultimately being male or female is how it all resonates to you, personally”. and i don’t know about anyone else, but having male and female be things which you can identify as but have no inherent definition whatsoever makes me feel fucking great and lead to safer, more secure exploration in non-binary identities
  • genitals are genitals. they do not define someone as any kind of sex/gender. whatever idea we have of them as being inherently “male” or “female” is shit we made up

body changes after 2 months n 2 weeks on testosterone!!! (love bites courtesy of jules)

  • developin more muscle in my arms!!
  • lil sNAIL TRAIL?????? I’M V. EXCITED ABT THIS!! it looks darker in real life
  • my body seems less curvy? might be my imagination tho

also acne…. real bad acne on my forehead n chin that ur not gonna see bc i’m self conscious about it x___x

pls do not reblog this post thank you

ok i keep getting asks and shit about my gender and i just –– makes a post abouT IT…….

tbh i rlly don’t care what pronouns you use when referring to me?? and i just tend to go with ‘female’ because thats’s what people tend to refer to me as irl. for the most part tho i don’t really know what my gender is? i feel definitely female some days, while other days i’m just ‘????’ 

so rlly long story short idfk what my gender is buuuuut i just tend to go with ‘female’ bc that’s what people tend to address me as the most. rlly for the most part i don’t care what pronouns you use when referring to me. (and if this didn’t clear anything up don’t worry i’m confused tOO)

tomorrow morning I have my CAMH appointment ive waited almost 2 years for

..which somehow just doesn’t feel that exciting anymore after having seen a really amazing doctor who i will unquestionably get a prescription from when I see her again

but still I guess I can explain that to them tomorrow and then ask if I could get the hormone expenses covered by them if I’ve been prescribed by another doctor, and also just see what happens since ive waited so long for this shit

wish me luck I guess? ill share what happens tomorrow


Hey y'all! I’m part of a new youtube channel of trans people and it would be amazing if you could check out my first video and possibly even subscribe. I’m going to be posting on there every Monday!

hello friends

i’m going to try out my new name. i’m nervous about it, but i’ve never really clicked with my birth name, so i’m gonna try this one for a while and see if it feels better. Or the same. Or whatever.

so for now, please call me Rowan. i’m gonna change my personal tag from ‘amanda shut up’ to ‘rowan shut up’, just in case you wanna track/blacklist that tag lol