tw: binarism

no nonbinary person should ever feel obligated to say that they’re aligned with a binary gender. your gender does not have to be described in relation to binary genders, nor do you have to feel more closely connected to one of the two.

anonymous asked:

is bisexuality transphobic? idk as a non binary person I feel nervous&confused exploring relationships w ppl who identify as bi (but express interest in me)

*Cracks knuckles* Alright Anon you just found a cornerstone of the bi discourse from, like, 2015, so I’m going to settle this.

Bisexuality is defined by the bi community* as attraction to two or more genders**. This can be confusing because of the existence of polysexuality (attraction to several genders) and pansexuality (attraction to all genders). Unfortunately a lot of people assume that bisexuality means you’re attracted to cis men and cis women, which is false and also inherently transphobic. Bisexuality is not inherently binarist or transphobic. In fact, I know a lot of nonbinary people, myself included, who identify as bisexual.

*Obviously not a monolith. Other definitions include attraction to one’s own gender and also other genders, which still doesn’t exclude trans people.

**Dividing up by genders seems kind of ridiculous to me bc of gender expression things but y’all get it.


Block List

According to this, user gothhabiba believes NB identities are a joke.

EDIT: I was mistaken about that, but she does believe that making fun of someone for not being attuned to English non malevolent sarcastic humour is good and not racist, and she also believes that it’s better to drag people through the mud for not getting English language humour and sic her fans on them who apparently really worship her (which is pretty twisted) than admit she was wrong for being bigoted, however incedental, and her and her fans like to gaslight people who have already admitted their own wrong into believing they haven’t. I’ve also received a tip she might be engaged in “trans men are just poor, duped lesbians,” but I’m unsure. The rest, you can see on this blog. She does believe in NB identity, but she’s still a horrible person.

Stay safe.

anonymous asked:

hey i was wondering if you could clear up the terms "binarism" and "exorsexism" for me? are these forms of transphobia?

Binarism is a term that is exclusive to PoC to describe our oppression caused by European gender roles which were forced on us because of colonization.

Exorsexism is the belief that nonbinary people don’t exist/aren’t valid and that there are only two genders.

I would say both of them are forms of transphobia.


And just to add, all “exorsexism” is transphobia and cissexism. It’s not a necessary term (imo) to designate our oppression because transphobia and cissexism are the systems “exorsexism” functions under. The term was created more as a separtism from transgender politics; which is unnecessary because all nb people face transphobia and/or cissexism.-Mod Dave

Hello fellow tumblers!

Are you familiar with the term “transage person”?

Most of you probably aren’t, but don’t worry it’s not your fault, it’s the fault of normative CIS binary-oriented society. Recently you probably saw brave people declaring theselves as trans* or genderless people.

But did you know that age, just like gender, is just a social construct. Ever felt that you are not 15 years old, but actually 68 years old? Or maybe you felt ageless, and you couldn’t actually say how old are you? When introduced you and said “Oh this is Mark, he is 23.” did it trigger you and you felt very uncomfortable because you knew that deep down you are actually 7?  Or did you wake up one day and felt like you are 75, and then week later like you are 13?

Don’t worry, that’s completely normal, you belong to the group of transage people. 

This blog will cover various topics regarding social justice and rights of transage, chronofluid and ageless people and you, my friend, are welcome to read it.

my fave thing is ppl on tumblr who think they know more about me than i do like, its so funny…
i said im latinx and they go “yeah but if ur latinx ur probably descendant from white people”
YES. THATS THE POINT. im a MIXED person outing my own ancestors and their privilege as oppressing the other side of my heritage like literally is that so hard to get?

anonymous asked:

heyo so at school and official announcements and letters, people have been saying gender expansive and gnc in place of nonbinary, im wondering if anyone here knows the deal with that

ppl love using gnc so they can include quirky cis white girls with undercuts and cis men who decided that showering wasnt gay

it oversaturates any group with shitty gender abolitionist* and gnc cis ppl

its also straight up binarism* from cis ppl and binary trans ppl
a way to say we’re not trans we just like flannel or skirts

its trash

idk about gender expansive tho? idk like one on hand i like it more than nonbinary bcuz nb assumes the binary is default and normal whereas gender expansive just kind of feels like “LOTS OF GENDER EVERYWHERE” but also kinda still feels the same like “ur so DIFFERENT and beyond all gender”

which i mean yes, fuck gender, but also yikes

idk if binary trans ppl werent so shitty to nb folks we could just say trans

which is way easier

but lateral violence *finger guns*

-Mod Virgil
*Gender Abolition is the sociopolitical stand point that desires the abolition of all gender, no men, no women, no nb ppl. which sounds great in theory but it often gets used to invalidate trans feminine ppl and trans women(see TERFs: how they love women with vaginas, trans men, but somehow hate gender?). its often used by white TERFs in order to weasel their way into trans spaces so they can cause harm, take over organizations, and stay beyond criticism. fuck gender abolition, stop killing our sisters, give us healthcare, use my pronouns, and then destroy gender.

*Binarism is a term that is exclusive to PoC to describe our unique oppression caused by the western european gender and gender roles forced on us cuz of the whole colonialism jawn, the word for white ppl is maybe…nonbinary phobic? truscum?(idk there are nb truscums but ehhhh)


Pronounciation:(bine-air-is-m), Snynonym:enbyphobia


1.The belief in the inescapability of the gender binary, and that gender is determined by biological sex

2. Prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against the non-binary  

I thought I’d finally think of a word for this disgusting kind of prejudice. Join me in trying to end it once and for all!

anyway i think a lot about, like, the fact that even with all these bodyfeelings i was maybe better off growing up in the girlbox, precisely because i DO have all these feelings—like, i don’t necessarily wanna be decorative like a girl (although, you know, also i do, say it with me, sh/it’s complicated) but i’m definitely tender like a girl; and of course boys are dreamy and tender sometimes, poets especially (i’m like, not not keats), but. shrug shrug shrug.

anonymous asked:

I've been getting into arguments with some collegues but I don't known how to argue my points any further (and one of them I'm not sure if I should be arguing against). I'm trying to explain why genderbends are transphobic but trans headcannons are not. I am not out as NB to this group. the topic of identifying as a different race came up too and i have heard mixed opinions on that topic. What responses would you suggest if any?

Well I guess it would depend on what the questions are? I mean genderbend enforces binarism and sets expectations for what people of the binary genders are *supposed* to look like , which is transphobic as there is no right or wrong way to present your gender. Headcanoning someone just means they’re trans? There are no other expectations or ties to the character (unless you headcanon them based on stereotypes and your ideas of trasnness if you’re cis) so it doesn’t perpetuate a harmful system of violence. As for the race part I mean that’s pretty simple and people who don’t understand or care are racist and frankly not worth it
-mod som

I always feel weird about any sort of politics/discourse that encourages women to become non-women or that views womanhood as somehow less ~radical~ or ~cool~ than other genders? 

like yes there is always important work to be done in realizing how much our current gender system is arbitrary/artificial/oppressive, but I think there also needs to be an acknowledgement of the structural misogyny in our society? Like, recognizing how gender as a system of exploitative labor primarily relies upon women being the exploited class? 

and I think a lot of ~liberal~ ~queer~ individual identity-based theory seems to completely ignore this, and somehow place womanhood as being equally as oppressive as manhood?

idk I’m having trouble wording this.

I feel like the discourse around “binarism” has shifted from “the gender binary is a western white colonialist invention that has been violently imposed on marginalized people” to “women are somehow oppressive for continuing to be women” and that’s fucked up

I feel like there’s a lot of misogyny at play too in all of this, since women are again being blamed by non-women for perpetuating the systems of violence that target women? kinda like how trans women are blamed for “perpetuating” gender.

idk this kinda goes back to my feelings about how maleness is a more harmful structure than “cisness” in general 


me normally: its cool, characters with no explicit mention of their gender or sexuality can be headcanoned any way you want, just don’t be mean to other people about their headcanons and everyone can play this awesome game and relate to these characters :)

me after seeing this shit: actually you know what fuck you Blanche is totally agender now, Candela is a trans woman and her and Blanche are FUCKING MARRIED and Sporky my son is a bisexual trans boy FUCKING  F I G H T  M E

ME:A Countdown 30 Days - Ynoa Ryder

30 Days: Will you play SisRyder or BroRyder first? Why? How does your Ryder define their gender?

First, I have to give a heavy sigh that Bioware is STILL not providing canon non-binary options (to the best of my knowledge anyway, unless the unlikely event of non-binary dialogue choices happens which would be nice). But anyway, SisRyder.

Because I’m generally unenthused about men as the main protagonists in epic adventures and when given the option to play a heroic woman (or antihero woman… or villainous woman, just women in general) I always do so, unless I’m doing 1) a gay-specific playthrough like my Dorianmance with one of my non-canon side Inquisitors, Arthek Trevelyan, in DA:I, or 2) a non-binary playthrough.

Ynoa IDs as a woman, with possible additional headcanons of non-binary feels too.

So there was this one shirt that I liked.  Hell, I’d even go so far as to say that I still like that shirt.  But damned if I’m going to give money to a shop that has since added another item to their lineup, which:

  • Uses trauma survivors as a punchline on the item itself.
  • Uses straw-nonbinary people as a punchline in the product description
  • Perpetuates the recurring assertion that the worst thing about this fascist-infested blue hellhole of a website is all of the uppity marginalized people.

So yeah.  Still like that one shirt, but it’s not worth giving money to that shop.