remember when people started giving Gerard Way shit for gaining weight and he revealed that he had just recently started new medication which helped him achieve a mental state in which he was happy but a side effect was weight gain?? remember when even after he said that people still gave him shit about his weight as if it wasn’t a blatant and disgusting display of both ableism and fatphobia rolled into one

The goal was never to walk on two legs. The goal is to get around. If a wheelchair gets you around better than walking does, then you are “disabled enough” and deserve a wheelchair. You aren’t “giving up” or “giving in” because the purpose of a disabled life isn’t to act as non-disabled as possible.

anonymous asked:

I found a comic of zenpencils (the title is "Is that not worth exploring?") Which talks about pursuing your interests, and that's ok. The facts is, it just throws in "adhd kids" as a source of stress of the modern age, along with junk food or angry ex-wives. Maybe i am too sensitive to the topic (i kinda dislike the author as well), but it looked a little mean. Why do you have to treat a condition as just an annoying factor? He could have said instead "undisciplined/spoiled kids" meh

That’s really ableist. You’re right to feel offended by this.

-J

Here’s the link, fed through Do Not Link so the comic doesn’t get too much traffic. I have to say, though, that I am a deeply annoying person and was even more annoying as a child. I’m not sure if that means people can make fun of annoying ADHD kids, but anyway.

—Elise

These revelations, about presuming competence, human dignity, and the least dangerous assumption—they don’t apply only to kids who are secret geniuses. They apply to everyone. They are the most important for the kids who really do have intellectual disabilities, who really can’t read or use full sentences and who really do need extensive support. The people who came up with these terms came up with them for a population where there is very little doubt that significant disability is a factor. These terms don’t mean assume they aren’t actually disabled. These terms mean assume they are a person, and remember what you don’t know.

When the neurodiversity movement first got its legs, oh so many years ago, we got a LOT of pushback from people who thought we were denying disability. And we had to be clear that we meant everyone. And I worry, more and more, that certain very academic circles have left that behind, in practice as much as in theory. It makes liars out of the rest of us, and it makes a lot of work very, very difficult.

If I told the parents in question that I am thinking about this, they wouldn’t understand. They’re not saying intellectual disability doesn’t exist, they would say. But the truth is, they’re either saying that, or they’re saying thank god, it wasn’t my kid.

And it’s a slap in the face, every time.

—  Julia Bascom, “Dangerous Assumptions

It is true that there can be times where neurodivegent/mentally ill people are not in control of their actions. When I have a meltdown, a shutdown or a psychotic episode I am not in control of my actions. There are also times where we do bad stuff - maybe small things, maybe serious things - without it being directly caused by our neurodivergence/mental illness. There are times where something being influenced by neurodivergence/mental illness neither excuses it or takes away the personal responsibility of the person in question. Sometimes we make bad decisions. Sometimes we make mistakes. Sometimes we do bad things simply because we are human, not because we are mentally ill/neurodivergent. Claiming that mentally ill/neurodivergent people would never do anything that is commonly considered bad unless it’s caused by their mental illness/neurodivergence is denying us full humanity.

Many people don’t realise that little things like introductions, getting coffee and even finding a seat have their unique challenges when you don’t see well. Sometimes accidents happen; I met a blind interviewee who, wanting to impress, thrust out his hand to make sure that he didn’t miss the all-important introductory handshake. He knocked the interviewer’s coffee out of his hand and all over his suit. Employers usually try their hardest to make the adjustments that a disabled candidate might need but it’s easy to make assumptions where disability is concerned. And it would have been daunting to have been presented with a wedge of braille at an assessment centre, when I have no idea how to read it.

(I recommend avoiding Garfunkel and Oates on netflix because they decided to make a whole episode that was literally just one long ableist joke making fun of how boring/*insert various slurs here* nonverbal/autistic people are, and calling muteness a voluntary trick to get guys to like you, which they then use on dates to deceive the guys or whatever after they see an actually nonverbal girl and can’t figure out how she could possibly have a boyfriend, and that just completely reinforced how insecure I feel because of how much the entire world looks down on me when I can’t talk)

khelish replied to your post:

MAYBE I’m wrong, but maybe two hearing actors…

excuse me WHAT

so apparently, last night at a 54 Below event, an actor from Deaf West’s Spring Awakening, sang a song from Spring Awakening while ANOTHER actor mimicked ASL/interpretive danced to the song. I was just immediately uncomfortable because UH you don’t make fun of anyone’s language, AND like, the whole point of Deaf West Theater is making theater fully accessible to the deaf, so I just don’t understand how this could be considered appropriate?

here’s a link to the video.

granted, I’m not deaf, and I don’t know how to sign, but it just doesn’t seem okay in the least to make fun of ASL.

I am frustrated at being autistic.

Abnormal enough to be social punished for it, but not disabled enough that people see what I need. My needs can’t be solved with ramps and sign language - there needs to be a whole damn restructuring of society to allow me function at optimum.

I am frustrated at lack of representation. And NT people’s seeming inability to behave like decent human beings generally speaking.

I am annoyed that I will never be anything other than ‘a disabled artist’ in the field which I am working. I am annoyed at 'autistic’ is being used to define me when I have not made a choice to be defined by it.

I am frustrated at being agoraphobic, and OCD. I am tired of insomnia, and I am pissed off that the way I see things is apparently so wrong that every friendship/interaction I have had bar two have been horrifically abusive.

I am done with being told I am 'remarkably bright’ or some doctor using the word 'savant’ whilst I am unable to read the most basic social cue.

But is strikes me that the majority of these issues are not really about my being autistic, it’s more how people treat me because of my being autistic.

When I say 'I want to be normal’ I mean I want to be treated as a human being. And when I say I am frustrated at being autistic, I think I mean I am frustrated with how society treats me because of my being autistic.