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“Ami” // “Boyfriend”

“I told you to leave me alone,” Chloe hissed into her phone. She glanced around park square she was in and clenched her jaw at how many people were around. Honestly, she would love to unload on this asshole, but she was still the daughter of the Mayor.

“I–I just keep thinking about you–Chloe, why can’t you just see–we’re soul mates. I know it–I can feel it,” he whispered and she shuddered and held tighter to her bag. Honestly she should just tell her security detail, right? But leaks happened and he was the son of a politician her daddy needed to pass an up and coming law and she was a good daughter.

“We’re not soulmates,” she said calmly, knuckles white and trying to even her ragged breathing. Fear breathing. She wasn’t going to lie–she was afraid. Stalkers. She hadn’t had one before, but Adrien had a few, and so did other children of politicians she knew. And she knew what they sounded like. They sounded like this. “And we’re not dating. So please leave me alone.”

“We’re–okay, okay Chloe, we’re not dating, but we should be–we’re soulmates and you’re lonely and I–I could be so good for you, Chloe, just trust me.” Reasoning wasn’t working but she didn’t know what else to do.

So she was panicking. She was afraid and what if he was watching. And she’s shaking and pallid–she can feel it. And she doesn’t know why or how but she sees Nathanael–and maybe it’s just that he’s someone familiar that she can trust, that she feels even just remotely safe with and she grabs onto his arm. His eyes go wide and he opens his mouth only to fall silent at the sight of her. She speaks into the phone with a shaking voice. “I–I’m not lonely–I’m actually with my boyfriend right now!”

And she holds her phone out, hand shaking, the phone trembling in her fingers and Nathanael stares at her, confused and surprised. Then he leans in and just says in what is probably the deepest voice she’s ever heard him use, “I would really appreciate it if you left my girlfriend alone. Thank you.” And then he ends the call and his hands move down to her arms and holds onto her as she breathes a shaky breath and tears are clouding her vision but she bites her lip and won’t let them fall.

Thank you,” she whispered.

“Are you okay?” he countered.

She wasn’t but she smiled anyways and nodded. “Of course I am–I’m Chloe Bourgeois, after all.”

How do I make it clear that my Neo Nazi Elf Bankers Aren't Jewish?

Hello,

I’m writing a fantasy that attempts to deconstruct or satirize a lot of the fantasy tropes and a big one is how intentionally or not, anything to do with finance ends up being antisemitic.  Since so many characters who handle money are jewish caricatures, intentional or not (HP’s goblins for example) I wanted to go the other direction.  Instead of bankers being goblins or having features rooted in antisemitism, they’re elves.

Elves are often portrayed in fantasy as being a kind of “superwhite.”  They have Aryan features, are light skinned and are the force of good (or at least good aligned) in those stories.  In my story however, they’re essentially a metaphor for white privilege.  (I’m white btw).  The Aryan features are emphasized for the elves, silver white or blond hair, blue eyes, light skin, small noses.  They’re born into the dominant class of their city state, they control much of the city’s government and finances, but do so in ways that prey on nonelves, use others as fodder for their wars, are the face of the ruling class, have most of the wealth and control the banking sector.  Plus many are that world’s equivalent of neo-nazis.  So yeah, by the end it’s really clear that elves aren’t the good guys.

There’s also a plot point that focuses around the poorest of the city-state having no choice but to sell their firstborn to the financial sector in order to survive.  this causes them to stop having children and eventually the banking sector gets the government to intervene.

It’s meant to be an indictment of white and especially rich white people who have control over the central foundations of a society and use it to enrich themselves at the detriment of others.  Or just those born into a system that allows them to survive easily because it’s made to help them (the elves) and not others.  

My concern is that due to so many antisemitic tropes revolving around banking, secret societies or controlling the government, that alone will make the elves seem jewish, and hence the writing appear to be antisemitic, when I went out of my way to code them as white.  Based on my description, would that be clear, or would a reasonable reader still think the characters were coded as jewish?

thank you for reading this and any help.

The idea of predatory “Aryan” (in quotes because the Nazis were using the word inaccurately) elves amuses me because it’s definitely an inversion of the existing tropes. I have a question: are your oppressed humans dark-haired and dark-eyed? Because that would be the other half of the “Northern European gentiles at the top of the racial privilege ladder” coding you were going for. I think if I saw blonde-haired, blue-eyed, pale-skinned elves oppressing human characters with darker features I’d definitely get that what you wrote is not anti-Semitic but instead a condemnation of white privilege. It would also feel disingenuous to condemn white privilege by having your oppressed characters be white, light-featured, and not ethnically coded anything but Anglo and Christian/fantasy-pagan; that’s how we wind up with “Mutant oppression in X-men is a metaphor for homophobia, but the main characters are still totally straight!”

So tl;dr you’re fine, just consider making your humans not blonde/blue-eyed/Christian-or-fantasy-pagan-coded so that the trope-skewering is complete.

If you want to add some more layers to make sure nobody “goes there”, you can always have the elves doing things like eating pork or shellfish (shellfish seems more elflike than pork somehow; pork is so earthy! Imagine elves eating oysters off of fancy platters. So delicate. So refined) or participating in some kind of cultural ritual that evokes Christianity or paganism, like, putting up a wreath as a decoration when it’s cold.

I want to point out something: if the bankers at Gringotts had been fairies or elves nobody would have thought of us. That’s another reason I think you’re safe. Nobody is going to associate a beautiful banking class with us, sadly. (I know this is different from Mother Gothel but in her case it’s a combination of hair + the stolen baby trope which probably works differently from the banking trope. Tropes don’t all work the same way.)

–Shira,
more hobbit than dwarf

Friendly reminder that if you’re not a trans woman, and you’re writing smut featuring trans women with penises that focuses purely/primarily on that penis, and you don’t write at least 90x more trans-inclusive smut that doesn’t resemble the hypersaturated trans fetishistic template, then you have no business writing about us, and no business pretending you care about trans women past your orgasms you get off our backs.

Like, trans women writing stuff that resembles fetishistic tripe, I get that, I understand the need to process that due to internalized transmisogyny and all, or due to its proximity to your lived experience.

But if you’re not us, then it’s not your place to write that shit. There’s zero need at all for anyone who isn’t a trans woman to write that stuff, because there’s enough of those works to go around for the next two hundred years, there’s zero need for more of that “representation” when 99.94% of our sexual media content is exactly that form and less than 30% of us can realistically even potentially be represented by that, leaving 70%+ of us without representation. That 0.06% (probably less, honestly) of our sexual media content that’s more representative of that 70%+ would need a huge infusion to get to anywhere near a reasonable amount, so there’s no need for more fetishistic crap. None at all.

So just…friendly reminder, if you claim to be an ally of trans women, then stop writing that shit, and start caring about the fact that ~70%+ of us cannot find any media representation for ourselves in sexual contexts. 

Think about what message that sends to us about under what conditions we can be deemed lovable and desirable and date-worthy and fuckable. Consider the fact that a lot of trans women, despite massive dysphoria, despite all the self-hatred and disgust it’ll induce, won’t resist sex acts we don’t want to engage in if our partners push hard enough, if only because it’s the only way so many of us are shown even an illusion of desire, love, affection, intimacy, etc. from partners.

Think about what this type of media tells our abusers. Think about what it tells us.

We deserve better. We need better.

There’s no ‘agree to disagree’ position that can be taken here. There’s no subjectivity. There is clear cause and effect, and maybe not everyone who reads and creates trans fetishistic media will translate that across to directly harming us, but enough do. More, more than enough do. And more than enough trans women are made vulnerable because of that media, are conditioned to be more vulnerable to abuse. Maybe not every trans woman, but enough, more than enough.

And it needs to end. We need more content that shows that we can be loved and desired and worthy of being dated and fucked that don’t involve our hypothetical penises at all. That don’t involve toxic masculinity or any of that stereotypical shit people tack onto us.

Because right now, we’re only lovable under very specific conditions in the media, very restrictive, fetishistic conditions. And that needs to change.

flirty-froggy  asked:

I don't want to erase Jewish people from my medieval Europe-based fantasy story and I don't want them all (or possibly any of them) to be moneylenders. Are there any other professions/occupations/pastimes I should avoid (I already know not to make them bad witches or do anything involving blood magic)? Would it be ok to have some be moneylenders as long as I avoided any suggestion of greed/cheating, or should I just stay well clear?

Professions for Jewish characters in pseudomedieval European fantasy

Is your story actually set in real historical Europe or is it just a European-inspired made up place? Because if it’s not real Europe, I can see that as a great reason to completely omit the whole “you’re Jewish so we’re gonna forbid you from doing anything but moneylending since Christians can’t touch it” thing. There’s no reason you HAVE to reproduce the sucky parts of the real world in your made-up world and in fact I know I as a Jewish reader would have a much happier reading experience if my people, in general, were happier in the story than in real medieval Europe. (For example, did you know we were persecuted by Edward I and eventually he kicked us out of England? That’s fun. Yes, that’s the same king who threw his son’s boyfriend out the window in Braveheart.)

Going back to your specific question: it would be possible to write a sympathetic moneylender character if you needed one for plot reasons, but to be perfectly honest the whole idea has such a high potential for resentment on the part of their customers that I’d just stay away to play it safe. You’d have to go out of your way to make the character three-dimensional and humanize them, and unless they’re a major character, there may not be room for that within the scope of your story. Plus, while it’s completely possible to be a moneylender who’s nice and kind and patient, sometimes when people owe money they get angry at the fact they have to pay it back and like I said before, resentment is natural even if it’s not terribly rational. In other words, “avoiding the suggestion of greed/cheating” is gonna be difficult because some people see having to pay back lent money as inherently cheating, which isn’t fair, but it’s normal and you’d be working against human nature.

As far as what to stay away from unless you have significant representation in the heroic/kindly/generous direction: anything that makes us sound like we feed off the misfortune of others (especially of gentiles), either metaphorically or literally. That’s the specific bad trope. Some positive professions include rabbis, kosher butchers, and various kinds of craftsmen (like making clothing or candles.) You might want to check out Libi Astaire’s Jewish Regency mysteries (I just finished and loved The Vanisher Variations) to start seeing all the jobs there are in the community–wrong era for your story, but it might get your wheels turning.

–Shira

One thing I would caution against is to keep the professions “Jewish.” By that I mean: people of marginalized identities are not and should not be limited exclusively to marginalized-coded occupations or end products.

Yes, many people of marginalized identities produce things that are for their own communities. But just because, say, a lot of Native artists do traditional cultural crafts, doesn’t mean there aren’t Native oil painters who do urban landscapes. Sure, paintings might have a twist that only a Native person can give, but they might not. That 100% depends on the character, and it’s not “losing culture” to have them enjoy things from the “outside” world. Culture is a big nuanced thing that is constantly being interacted with and debated by each individual who practices it.

Marginalized identities produce things for themselves (usually because nobody else does), but they also produce things outsiders traditionally consume— not just to survive, but because they like doing it. We don’t live in bubbles. By segregating activities based off of “this group does X predominantly”, you unintentionally other marginalized people by giving them no points to relate to others. Because you end up creating a system where there are Crafts and Jewish Crafts, which are obviously All Different because they’re Jewish. That isn’t the case.

It’s a highly limiting worldview to approach “what can this character do?” by asking “what is a thing their identity does?”. Identity is not a thing that actively limits individuals from doing stuff, at least, not to the extent most people think. It might modify the way they go about it, but it won’t stop them. So ask yourself what characters can do, then figure out how their identity would change their practice… while also accepting that culture is fluid and you can end up with Jewish writers who write extremely culturally steeped works that are unmistakably Jewish (like Shira’s Mangoverse) to Jewish writers who just have subtle nods to their identities (like Daniel Handler’s A Series of Unfortunate Events). Both works are just as Jewish as the other, even if one is overt vs subtle. 

So work from characters. Ask what an individual person would like to do, consider how their identity would modify it, consider how their identity wouldn’t modify it, and go from there.

~ Mod Lesya 

Prompt 156

Person A and Person B are old flames who haven’t seen each other in years. After passing by each other during a night in Las Vegas, they reconnect.

They drunkenly go to a chapel as a joke and are surprised to see a photograph of them from years ago hanging on a wall. The workers there recognize them and ask about how their marriage is going.

And that is the moment that Person A and Person B realized that they had been married for all those years.

you can absolutely be critical of how media with lgbt characters often isn’t direct w/ the lgbt aspects of their characters and just implies them, while STILL being critical of the people that ignore those implications.

cause yeah, it is shitty that this show/anime/movie/whatever isn’t being straight-forward. i hate it when girls that are clearly together aren’t allowed to call each other girlfriends. or when creators take their super trans-coded character and go ~well they’re whatever you want them to be~. when creators explicitly!! contradict what’s in canon to deny characters being gay, when they avoid declaring anything one way or another, when they make their gay characters ambiguous enough to avoid pissing off the sensors or refuse to confirm anything out of fear of how people react.

i fucking hate that. i hate that they so often do that and yet here we are, lapping up those scraps because we desperately want it, and honestly i don’t blame a single lgbt person who still latches onto every piece of shitty ~ambiguous~ rep we have and refuses to let go.

but i absolutely, ABSOLUTELY despise and don’t trust the people who ignore that ~ambiguous~ rep either. i don’t care that the creator didn’t say anything about these girls being together, that they didn’t call each other girlfriend - stop peering through your straight lens and look at them. this guy clearly has a crush on the other one. this character is trans.

look, if you’re so straight/cis/whatever that you didn’t pick up on that, like fine. whatever. i can’t expect you to pick up the same lgbt shit that lgbt ppl will. you look at media a whole different way if they’re lgbt.

but if you’re straight and someone who isn’t is telling you ‘this character is canon gay’? sure, ask them for clarification if you don’t understand how they saw that, but don’t go off on WELL THE CREATOR DIDN’T SAY ANYTHING yeah fuck you, we know. we know the creator is a homophobic bag of dicks but it doesn’t change the fact that THESE CHARACTERS ARE CANON GAY

if you’re cis and someone who is trans is telling you ‘this character is canon trans’? again, sure, ask for clarification if you didn’t pick up on it, but listen we don’t GIVE A FUCK that the creator never specified that.

they don’t. they never do.

Jews Being Allowed To Love Jews - by Natalie

So, I wanted to write a piece about a trope about Jewish characters I’ve seen a lot in the media (and specifically, in original fiction and fanfiction, as well from many asks on here.) that has been leaving a bitter taste in my mouth. The trope in question is: Jews marrying out. The thing is, that I need to put a pretty big disclaimer first.

1. I am an ashki Orthodox Jew-ess. White passing, from London. (My matrilineal side is displaced Lebanese, but being Orthodox, I believe I get my tribe from my patrilineal side, which makes me ashkenazi. I’m happy to talk to people about having displaced mena/Lebanese culture though. Just know that it’s part of my history, but not part of my identity). 

2. Interfaith marriages are totally legit, not at all something that should be looked down on, and in fact need representation! Like, interfaith families are super important. So many Jews - even Orthodox ones - I know are from interfaith backgrounds, and they need representation and need to be made to feel as if they are loved. Nothing here should be taken as an attack on actual interfaith marriages and couples.

-So, you might be asking, what’s the problem?

The problem is that any old representation is not always good representation. There are a number of problems with this trope, but the first & more glaringly obvious one being: it’s super common for gentiles to write about Jews marrying out.

(This may be applicable for other minorities too btw, but I see it for Jews all the time.)

You’ve all seen it. The two star crossed lovers: Julia McEnglish & Aaron Jewson. Aaron’s Jewish parents don’t like that he’s dating a goy, Julia can’t imagine giving up Christmas, but they just love each other anyway. Nearly always the minority character’s (although, sometimes it’s both characters as minorities) entire culture is eroticised and Orientalised. It’s their culture that throws up boundaries and difficulties to the relationship. And the tensions and upheaval of the stories are all found in the Jew’s culture being in the way. 

Now, does Judaism get in the way of interfaith marriages? Well, yes. Sometimes. Definitely in the Orthodox community. Do I think that this needs to be written about ad nausea? No, and definitely not by non-Jews. 

Other reasons why this trope should be put to rest is that it lies close to two other tropes: (1) the Jew marrying their oppressor & (2) Jewish men being repulsed by Jewish women trope.

(1) That first trope is a sliding scale, I’m sure many of these stories aren’t actually about Jews marrying their oppressor. Not every British person represents the dominant Christian society that oppressed Jews, denied them the ability to work, or obtain justice & periodically expelled them. The point is, that when you start putting your stories in vague sort-of history settings (fantasy or not) Jews reading it start feeling a bit uncomfortable. 

“Like sure… that Ottoman-esque empire definitely would be best friends with our Jewish coded minority character, everything looks totally legit here.”

“Hah - like, it’s 15th Century venice, but not. Super romantic, artistic, and beautiful. And the Jews are definitely not living in a ghetto.“ 

Jew’s have a long memory of their relationship with non-Jew’s throughout history, it is very easy to fall into this trope. (If I need to explain to you why this trope is bad, something has gone seriously wrong. Just don’t do it. It’s not even a new idea, it’s been done many times before.)

(2) This is an intra-Jewish issue, and something many Jewish women are speaking about in their own communities, but Jewish misogyny often manifests itself in Jewish men artists (writers, actors, producers, you name it) portraying Jewish women as the negative stereotypes hurled at us by antisemites. There’s a long narrative on this, one that I don’t think is appropriate for this audience. But the point is, even if you’re using what you think are Jewish sources to justify your men-marrying-the-pretty-non-jew story, it probably reeks of sexist antisemitism. 

So what should you be writing?

Well, the first thing is: let Jews fall in love with other Jews! What’s wrong with that? We’re great, we’re multifaceted, we deserve to get happy endings. Romance stories are wonderful, and although there definitely need to be more stories with female leads that don’t involve a romance plot (or even subplot) writing romance can be incredibly fulfilling to read. It’d be super awesome therefore  if you let us Jews actually feel valued and represented in it, and not make us feel like our culture is something to be fetishised for non-Jews. Or worse, that if you’re a Jew that is interesting/pretty/charismatic/worthy of someone falling in love with: then you’re not going to some lowly Jew to marry. “No-no, you’ve been elevated to non-Jew worthy!” (You get the idea?)

You can even have some exciting Jewish based tension: ashkenazi verses sefardi practices over pesach: “You made RICE for my OMA!?” “What? I checked every grain!” Or, “In my family we daven Nusach Ari.” “I didn’t know you were chabadniks, we use the artscroll siddur in shul, but we have koren at home.” “Oh phew, I worried you were going to say you read from the Birnbaum.” “Hey! We may be Baal Teshuvas, but we’re not stupid!”  See, the drama is endless. Jews literally love to crack open their practices and find out how what they do is significantly different. 

But what if you really want some interfaith representation?

Now, maybe you’re Jewish and from an interfaith background. Maybe you’re just itching to use some fun creative interfaith holidays for two communities to celebrate. Well, sure, I’m not banning you from writing it. (Although really, you should check yourself a little bit if you’re a non-Jew. Just why is this so important to you?) There are some one ways you can do it:

Make the interfaith relationship already established, this will work best if it’s instead the parents of the main character, but it can work either way. (Extra kudos is said child of interfaith couple gets to marry a Jew.)

Slice off all that creepy fetishisation, and show a loving & already thriving interfaith relationship, over coming hurdles and hardships from the outside world, succeeding because of the strength of their interfaith relationship.

Try to keep in-law drama to a minimum (especially if it’s only the Jew mother in law who is the problem. Don’t do that, it’s awful) and instead show that Judaism in a beautiful and intricate ethno-religious identity, that can survive and exist in an interfaith relationship.

Maybe write a story where there are other Jews also having adventures, and falling in love, but this time with another Jew! So the interfaith relationship doesn’t dominate the story, or make it seem like this is the only way Jews get to be romantic, or happy, in fiction.

One last thing: people, please write more Orthodox Jews. We love adventures too, and there’s so little Orthodox representation in media, that people don’t even know the difference between Orthodox, Haredi & Hassidic. All Jews are great though, y'all the best. 

-Natalie.

Shira’s note:

It’s not just our women who are supposed to be undesirable, it’s also our men. There are more books out there than I’d like that pair our women with, and I am regrettably not exaggerating, literal Nazi officers. So obviously: don’t do this, but I think at least part of the reason it happens is that gentiles think our men are all Woody Allen or something. They’re not. As I’m fond of pointing out every time this comes up, slash fanfiction became a mass movement in fandom as a result of two of our men, Shatner and Nimoy, being too conventionally attractive to ignore. Natalie seems to have run into more of the other way around than I have, whereas I’ve see more of Jewish women with gentile men, but either way, the point stands.

Again, none of this is meant to say interfaith relationships shouldn’t be represented–heck, I’m in one since mine never went through with conversion and is a “Jewish-adjacent atheist” now–but when they’re all over the place to the point where we start feeling like gentile authors think all our genders are racing as fast as they can to avoid partnering up with another Jew, something is off kilter.

Remember, there are many scenarios that there is nothing wrong with in a vacuum because they exist IRL but when they’re overrepresented in writing by outsiders, they start to twist.

–Shira

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So with the recent Discourse™ on the appropriate OOC attitude toward your character’s misdeeds, I was reminded of something that might help put it into perspective. 

A while back when I was looking for RP connections I met this dude who IIRC was fairly new and we were making plans to RP. I told him a bit about my characters and he chose the one he wanted his character to meet, an alt of mine who was fairly young (though legal, for whatever it’s worth, but barely) and presumably a bit naive. That may be important for context, but hey–the two characters were around the same age, so maybe we can give him the benefit of the doubt and assume that was his reasoning.

He quickly began to gush to me about how cute my character was and how his character would adore her. People showering characters in attention–especially over their physical appearance–is always a red flag to me, because it has almost always ended poorly in the past. They’re usually looking for sexytimes IC and/or OOC, which is fine, but I’m not down for that at all, and they are often pushy and creepy about it, which is not so fine.

So I held off on RPing with this dude to have more time to chat at him OOC first. Basically, I wanted to get a better feel for him and his motivations so I could comfortably decide between “he’s a little weird but he’s aight, let’s RP” or “yeah he’s hella creepy, let’s avoid him.” Unsurprisingly, it ended up being the latter.

He began to tell me things about how when his character met mine, he would grope her, kiss her, etc. Keep in mind, his character was never portrayed by him as a bad or creepy person. And these comments weren’t made as serious warnings to ask for my permission first, it was very casual offhand full of cutesy language and overflowing with smilies, insinuating his character was adorable for it and whatnot. “He’s such a silly lovable pervert, he’s going to grab her boobies!! :3″ “He’s gonna surprise her with kisses and make her blush ^.^ and maybe moan~” Shit of that variety.

So I began to ask him what if she didn’t want it? What if she didn’t like it? What if she fought back or slapped him or told him to gtfo? The response was always something about how she wouldn’t do that because “she’d like it too much,” no one could say no to such a “lovable pervert,” he’d win her over with his “pervy charms,” etc. Needless to say, I never RPed with this dude (though I was tempted to just to see what he’d do when my character really did slap the shit outta him) and stopped talking to him.

I know that IC is not OOC. I don’t give a damn if his character thinks of himself as a “lovable pervert” for molesting women, and I really don’t care if his character goes around groping unwilling female characters so long as everyone around is a consenting adult OOC. 

But I gave him not the vaguest hint that me or my character wanted this. He never once asked my permission OOC or checked if I was comfortable–and ignored the signs that I was not. He did not portray his character as a sexual abuser and did not paint his actions in a negative light. Instead, he legitimately thought his character’s actions were cute and quirky and “lewd” and would make all the lady characters fall in love with his character.

And that is the problem. The problem isn’t people RPing characters who do vile things. The problem is people not making sure everyone around them is comfortable with these vile things OOC. The problem is people having their characters do vile things but not portray it negatively because they don’t understand that it’s wrong OOC. RP whatever you like, just treat the other role-players involved respectfully.

anonymous asked:

Have you noticed that women of colour in animated film tend to be highly sexualised (usually towards a white male) compared to white women???

Yep, I have noticed that, what you’re talking about is called racialised misogyny– i.e. when racism and sexism/ fetishisation intersect. I mean in Aladdin Jasmine “seduces” Jafar in a revealing “slave” outfit while he calls her a “pussy-cat,” remember also that she’s only 16. Let’s put this in perspective for a minute, Jasmine is the same age as Merida, Ariel and Aurora. Can you imagine any of Disney’s white princesses being half-naked, chained up and swaying seductively in front of a (considerably older) man. They are often portrayed as graceful, sweet, demure and chaste (in Merida’s case totally asexual). 

In The Hunchback of Notre Dame, Esmeralda shakes her breasts and hips while basically performing a pole dance in front of the audience. Why was that scene even necessary? Again, I can’t imagine Anna or Elsa or Merida or any white character performing a scene like this.

Pocahontas is a colonialist wet-dream and a whitewashed re-imagining of real historical events. Pocahontas was only 12 in real life but Disney decided to age her up and turn the film from an account of rape into a “sexy” interracial love story instead. Let’s be 100% real here, the only reason John Smith doesn’t kill Pocahontas when he first meets her is because he finds her sexually arousing. 

Dreamworks are guilty of this too in their depiction of the indigenous Chel who btw performs oral sex on one of the white male leads– can you imagine any white character doing this in any movie?  No, me neither. Why?

In any case, I hope that Disney and other studios are moving away from this trope of hyper-sexualising/dehumanising women of colour. I’m excited about Moana and hope that she doesn’t get the same treatment.

sir-parii-deactivated20170607  asked:

something thts been bothering me lately, why do antis recognize that you can read "yaoi" and not support irl gay people but they can't apply that same concept to rape/abuse/pedophillia fics?

This one has been stumping me for a while, honestly! It seems like a real double standard. But I think the secret is: they don’t see mlm ships they class as ‘yaoi’ as gay representation at all. Therefore you can ship it and it fits with your real life homophobia.

And if we’re talking about yaoi - the actual subgenre of Japanese BL that captures a very specific set of tropes and is generally written by women, for women - it’s not exactly the paragon of gay representation.  Arguably, it would be easier to read a yaoi oneshot manga while believing gay rights are destroying society than it may be to read some other form of mlm.

Of course, antis use ‘yaoi’ as a derogatory term to refer to fictional ships they disapprove of. The very use of the term ‘yaoi’ is intended to imply the ship is a ‘bad’ ship: even if it’s mlm, it’s still ‘heteronormative’, ‘fetishistic’, a ‘bad representation’, ‘not realistic or accurate’, etc.  The only people who could possibly be interested in a ship like that are people who are only interested in mlm for sexual gratification, i.e. - homophobes.

In other words: in a twisted way, reading certain types of mlm is homophobic, and therefore - just like rape, pedophilia, and abuse in fanfic - people who consume it would naturally be suspected to support it in real life.

Back in the real world, humans are full of contradictions. I know that for baby idiot homophobe me, reading those terrible yaoi oneshots, poorly constructed BL, and loads of written-by-nb/women mlm fanfiction was what eventually led to me to the cognitive dissonant moment of ‘I can’t read and enjoy fictional mlm and still say real life gay rights are bad. I have to choose.’  And I chose to stop being a bigot. (and since realized I’m bi.)

nikkilbook  asked:

I have a sci-fi short story with a torture scene in it that I think violates the “torture is not high-tech” rule/fact/thing, and I’m hoping there’s a way to salvage it. I have this guy strapped to a machine that blocks his natural painkillers. I heard a thing once that said if we didn’t have those chemicals, we’d be able to feel our own cells dying. (Source: 1970s med journal). My betas really liked the concept, but the whole draw for me was that I thought it was “realistic”. Help?

Alright well I think the best thing I can do here is start by talking a little bit about torture tropes and ‘high tech torture’ in particular.

There are a lot of hugely inaccurate torture tropes out there and they form a sort of consistent stream of misinformation about torture. I’d prefer depictions of torture to be as accurate as possible because there’s so much misinformation out there.

But having said that not all tropes are equally harmful.

The idea that ‘everybody talks’ is incredibly pervasive and incredibly damaging. It is quoted regularly in real life to justify or argue for actual torture.

Similarly ideas about what torture does to victims psychologically are- well if you’ll excuse my bluntness they’re fucked up.

Depictions at the moment are nonsensical, with a character’s resistance to torture often being linked to their physical strength, moral integrity or political beliefs. The message is that ‘good guys’ resist torture because of their inherent goodness and ‘bad guys’ (or ‘weak’ people or minorities) ‘crack’ because they lack moral strength.

Confronted with that sort of ‘logic’ real victims just can’t win. Because the message is that the symptoms they suffer are a sign of weakness, that they personally just weren’t ‘good’ enough.

Fiction doesn’t really tend to show characters ‘recovering’ in terms of working out ways to cope with the symptoms they would have. Instead it downplays or ignores symptoms and often links recovery to a complete lack of symptoms. That’s a standard real survivors are never going to achieve.

The trope that torture is high tech and ‘scientific’ is demonstrably false and I’d prefer not to see it used.

But it isn’t actively damaging to victims in the way that other common tropes are.

If you really want to use the concept I think the easiest way to make it more……feasible is by taking a look at the machine itself and the world it’s in.

A high tech machine that is designed specifically to cause pain is highly unlikely even in a society that allows and accepts torture. It’s not just a case of these things being complicated to use, it’s a case of expense. Someone will have had to do the research necessary to conceptualise the machine. Someone will have had to design it and the designs will have had to go through multiple revisions to make them ‘work’. Someone will have had to build the thing and again there would have been multiple tweaks throughout the process and multiple rounds of testing. Someone will then have to transport the machine (which for really high tech equipment such as an NMR can be an expensive fiasco) and someone will have to install the machine. Someone will probably have a full time job repairing and maintaining the machine.

Now my instinctive point of comparison is medical devices and pharmaceuticals and that means my instinct is that a machine like this, from start to finish, would cost somewhere in the realm of tens of millions of US dollars.

What does that mean for realism and your story?

Essentially it means that a machine like that will not be primarily for causing pain. Because there’s no sense spending tens of millions of dollars on something when a Taser costs somewhere in the realm of twenty dollars and the fresh chilis in my fridge cost about $4. (Depending on the exchange rate).

I can’t think of a good reason to have a machine that only blocks natural painkillers. There isn’t any benefit I can think of to a procedure of that kind.

However-

You’re building a sci fi world and a machine that manipulates a person’s natural biochemistry would be an incredibly useful medical device. Something like that could treat diabetes, epilepsy, depression and a host of other conditions.

That still wouldn’t be enough for its use in torture. MRI machines are incredibly useful medical tools that are found in a lot of hospitals but they have never to my knowledge been used to torture someone.

The next thing that’s necessary is for the machine to be widely available. It would need to be such a standard part of this world’s medical care that nobody would be surprised to find it in any public building. It needs to be seen as essential, as something you couldn’t reasonably take away from a police station. In this case I’d say treating it as basic and essential emergency medical care would probably be a good way to approach it. Almost making it the equivalent of a first aid kit: something that is available everywhere and is seen as a reasonable precaution rather than an unusual device.

Having something widespread with in the world still isn’t quite enough though. Mobile phones are widely used, but I’ve never heard of them being used to torture the way telephone magnetos were. And I doubt that’s because of any safety features.

A device also needs to be incredibly simple to use. If it’s easier to use a piece of chilli pepper or a stick then torturers will probably use the chilli or the stick. It has to be push-button level of simplicity.

If you’re approaching the machine itself as a medical device that can treat a range of conditions and is basically designed to keep someone alive until medical help arrives- well it would make sense for something like to be simple to operate because it isn’t necessarily intended to be used by professionals.

This sort of set up would mean that the machine isn’t going to be unusual or scary to your character. It will be a device he’s seen often and he’ll probably have been in one for minor medical treatment before.

What the torturers have actually done then becomes a lot simpler. They’ve basically manipulated procedures that were already present within the machine. This takes it out of the realm of designing and building an ipad from scratch and more into the realm of downloading an app.

I’d also suggest making this kind of modification a common method of torture in the setting you’re writing; in the same way that misuse of Tasers/stun guns is a common method of torture in the USA.

With all of that background world building I think your scenario would seem more reasonable. I’d warn against presenting it as scientific in any way and I personally would still be more comfortable not seeing high tech machines in torture scenes. But I don’t think this would be insulting to victims and I think if you’re careful to present the machine itself as a common part of life in this fictional world then you’ll have made it as realistic as you reasonably can.

I hope that helps. :)

Disclaimer

so you all know how fucking weak i am for the found family trope, and it really was lovely seeing neil find his family, but it’s nicky that stabs me through the fucking heart, because he lost what he thought was his “real” family, and he was so fucking desperate to get it back, before he realizes that he’s been surrounded by a true family all along, a family that’s ugly and broken and a fucking drag to deal with most of the time but it’s real and i’m a sobbing fucking mess