clothing adjustments that need to happen

• shirts actually designed for girls with larger chests
• plus size clothing ACTUALLY intended to accommodate plus size people not just scaled up littler clothing
• clothes for tall people that won’t ride up
• pants for people with no butts
• cute bras in bigger sizes
•the fashion industry’s understanding that there’s lots of body types and every body type deserves to feel good in the clothes they wear


“Orange Is The New Black” actress Danielle Brooks, who plays Taystee on the show, is proud of her curvy body and wants you to know it—and celebrate yours. On Monday, Brooks posted a photo of her in a Monif C. Plus Sizes black and pink bikini as part of People Style Watch’s #LoveYourShape campaign, encouraging users to share photos of themselves with that same hashtag, which they’ve done with style.

Brooks’ #noshame image is a welcome antidote to the many body-shaming messages out there

nothing can kick me in the teeth quite like those posts that are essentially “here is a woman doing a really cool thing! what a cool thing! isn’t it great that this woman is doing this cool thing in the world?”

and then someone has added a comment to the effect of “AND she is traditionally attractive/feminine doing it!”

nothing quite reinforces that doing cool things is not enough, but that you must also look good doing it, like those posts

The most breathtaking moment in the new trailer for “Star Wars: The Force Awakens” trailer doesn’t involve explosions or lightsabers or ominous references to the Dark Side. It’s an eyeblink-long shot of Princess Leia herself, Carrie Fisher, in the embrace of Harrison Ford’s Han Solo. It’s a moment of a weary-looking woman with graying hair and lines on her face. Holy science fiction, Hollywood — somewhere, in a galaxy far, far away, a grown woman has been given permission to look like a grown woman. I want to go to that planet!

Fisher, who turns 59 this week, has for years been a sardonic and brutally honest chronicler of her own struggles with addiction, bipolar disorder (including a hospitalization just two years ago), and weight — all while working in an industry that isn’t known for being easy on even seemingly perfect women. A few years ago, when the vicious cracks about Fisher resembling Jabba the Hut (actual sexist BS trolling entertainment story) were hitting peak cruelty, she became a spokesperson for Jenny Craig.

But even as she dropped fifty pounds — and seemed to hint at some other changes when she said of her fellow “Star Wars” cast members that “We all look a little melted. It’s good to see other melted people” — she’s maintained her sense of humor and realism. As she observed a few years ago, “I swear when I was shooting those films I never realized I was signing an invisible contract to stay looking the exact same way for the rest of my existence.”

Carrie Fisher’s older and wiser character tells us maybe we’re ready to let actresses age

1. I hate the way we congratulate each other on weight lost. I hate the way we validate each other’s efforts to shrink smaller.
2. I’m 20 years old and this is the first time in my life weight-loss hasn’t been anywhere to be found on my priority list. After a lifetime of it being number one, I still find myself unsettled with all the free space in my head.
3. Restricting entire fucking food groups is not a sustainable way to live.
4. Salad is good for me. Pastries are also good for me. Both in different ways. Both are equally important.
5. I am so regretful of all the times I cut my own opportunities for enjoyment short because of shame about what I looked like.
6. Liberation is getting rid of all the clothes I had saved for when I’d be skinny (tags still on).
7. Discipline can be deadly.
8. I’m sick of debates around whether or not people with fat can be sexy or take nude photographs. There is so much more to my life than being a ‘before’ picture or a fucking punch line.
9. I will dance until I can’t breathe and sweat falls into my eyes. I will watch Netflix for hours covered in cookie crumbs. Most importantly, I will live each day without justifying shit to anybody.
10. How did self-love become a political statement? How have I ended up a rebel just for discarding the pursuit of thinness?
11. My body is not currency for acceptance. My body is not currency for acceptance. My body is not currency for acceptance.
12. I’m tired of always being on guard for conversations about dieting. I’m tired of changing the subject.
13.Fuck all diets straight to hell, actually.
14. I wear shorts now. It’s been over 2 years since I’ve done that.
15. I will never understand why people feel the need to ask me what eating disorder I went to treatment for. Do you need to picture my exact methods of self-destruction? Will it make my pain more believable? Spin the wheel and see if we come up with starvation, binging, purging. Why don’t I get asked about how I built recovery?
16. If I see one more tan, blonde model promoting weight-loss tea on Instagram I am going to lose my fucking mind.
17. I hereby refuse to bond with friends over a mutual hatred of our bodies.
18. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t give a shit about loving the skin I’m in. It’s just skin, fickle and malleable. My love does not scar as easily as my skin does. I will put my love into my own strength. Into my drive to care for myself inside out. Into my soft heart and sharp brain.
19. My eating disorder was essentially punishing myself for punishing myself because I punished myself for punishing myself.
20. Makeup can be fucking empowering. I sharpen my eyeliner when I want people to look at my eyes when I speak and redden my lips to set my speech on fire. Listen and burn.
21. Fuck, I nearly died because I was too afraid of taking up space in the world. Years of my life were spent with the conviction that shrinking inwards was the only way I deserved to walk through life.
22. It is still too easy to slip into the version of myself that talks shit about her thighs and measures her worth in second-takes.
23. Sometimes I still need to roll down the windows while I’m on the highway to let the salty air rush in and remind me I am made of something much greater than doubt.
24. I’m more and more grateful I can’t find myself in magazines. I will find myself in the oceans, in the slopes of mountains, in thunderstorms.
25. I would really like to stop being told I’m brave for loving myself despite my ‘’imperfections’’. I’m tired of fighting off assumptions that your version of perfection is something I’m reaching for in the first place. Whatever aspects of myself that don’t make the cut don’t get tossed into a pity pile that I automatically struggle with.
26. If beauty standards are too narrow to contain the glory in my hips, I will never again try and squeeze myself into them. I will proudly stretch these barriers until they snap, no longer a constraint on my body or mind. I will run in a world where stretch marks deserve pride, cellulite confetti dots my thighs, proof that I am warm and growing and alive.
27. I will never again apologize for this body.
28. Dear sales assistant, yes, I want this in a bigger size.

This powerful BFF video shows how painfully harsh we are to our own bodies– even when we are sincerely loving to our friends’

We often view and speak about ourselves far more critically than we would to other people, and a new video by The Scene called “Best Friends Get Brutally Honest About Their Bodies” proves that. In it, two best friends write down what they dislike about their looks, and then they have to say them out loud to each other.

Gifs: The Scene

I wasted decades feeling fat and ugly
By Erica Manfred

I was a fat kid, a fat teen, a fat adult, and have been “fat shamed” ever since I can remember. When I was a kid they just called it “teasing.” But there is one moment that stands out as the most humiliating of my life. I was getting on a scale at the doctor’s office when I was 10. He looked at me with disapproval bordering on contempt, then, turning to my mother, said, “She’s fat. And unhealthy. Put her on a diet,” and handed my mother a list of the usual 1,000-calorie-a-day bland mini-meals she was supposed to feed me. He didn’t say exactly what kind of health problem my weight was causing. Considering that I was very athletic, a great swimmer, ice skater and tree climber, it was unlikely that my weight was affecting me at all health-wise, at least at that time, but this was the beginning of a lifetime of dire warnings about the dread fate I was doomed to suffer because of my weight. At the top of the list was dying young. Ironically, at that time, I wasn’t even fat. I’ve seen pictures of myself at that age and at most I could be called pleasantly plump.

All my life people have told me to lose weight or else. At 74, I’m fat, healthy and done apologizing