there is discussion (ghghghhh) of age gaps in harry potter ships on my dash. i don’t want a huge involvement in the discussion so i’m not reblogging it, but the ships in question are, like, 14-15ish and 25ish. I shipped this when I was 14-15ish. now that i’m 25ish i have a huge, visceral negative reaction to the idea of this kind of relationship. when i was on the young end of this, it seemed like fantasy fulfillment- hot older person is paying attention to me! now that i’m on the old end of this, i’m just deeply, deeply grossed out. no, that is not what that is. no, that is not the kind of attention you want.
um, i guess the point of me saying this is: pay attention to who is into the idea of these ships, and how/why. don’t go around yelling at kids for having really unhealthy ideas about themselves, that’s unhelpful. there are other ways to point it out. (do go around yelling at adults. call them out, keep an eye on them, keep an eye on how they’re interacting with kids online. please.)