To all the women and girls and nonbinary folks who cover their hair/head/face for religious and/or cultural reasons: I love you. You are wonderful in your coverings no matter the stares or what people say. If you feel good/beautiful/confident/closer to your god(s)/more connected to your culture and/or religion, that’s what matters, whether you wear a veil, a tichel, a hijab, niqab, burka, headband, turban…you guys are great, try not to let unsupportive and bigoted people let you down. I support you. 💜
I see a lot of posts about how they died (which is fine), but I wanted to make a post about how they lived. Like, what they were like as people. This information was scattered across multiple sources and incredibly difficult to find.
Steven Mark Hicks
1959-1978 (age 18) Steven, who went by Steve, was picked up by Dahmer whilst hitchhiking home from a rock concert. An activity he did often. He was four days away from his birthday, and had promised his parents he would be home in time for his dads birthday dinner. He was described as friendly, and well liked by everyone he met. He was close with his parents (Richard and Martha), and had a girlfriend at the time of his death. His parents were worried he smoked too much. Hicks often wore a necklace, and two bracelets. For thirteen years his parents held out hope he was alive somewhere. Steven was reportedly kind and chatty towards Dahmer.
Steven Walter Tuomi
1962- 1987 (age 24.) Tuomi simply went by Steve. He worked in a restaurant. He graduated from Ontonagon Area High School in 1981. His family reported him missing three months after his death. His grave was inscribed with the message; “We’ll love you forever.”
James Edward “Jamie” Doxtator
March 1st 1973- January 16th 1988 (age 14.) Jamie was a prostitute who’d had a few run ins with the law over this, but unfortunately was often treated as a criminal rather then a victim of sexual exploitation. Some reports say Doxtator was Hispanic, but most say he was Native American. His mother, Debbie Vega, in her only statement to the press on the matter, stated her sons favourite bible verse was “…Forgive them father, they know not what they do…”, but that Dahmer should not be forgiven for his crimes. Both photos circulated in the media were mugshots. A few reports say he was homeless at the time of his death, but official state records say he was living with his mother at the time. His grave is inscribed with the above mentioned bible verse and an etching of a buck and a deer.
1967-1988 (age 21.) A young bisexual man who’s sister described him as a “mama’s boy.” He was last seen on the way to his friends house. His sister protested a Haunted Milwaukee walking tour focused on Dahmer.
Anthony L. Sears
January 28th 1965 - March 26th 1985 (age 24). Known to friends as Tony, Sears was an aspiring model. He worked at a restaurant and had recently got a promotion. His friend Jefferey Connor drove Tony and Jeffrey to Dahmer’s grandmother’s house. Years later he testified at Jeffrey Dahmer’s trial. Connor and Sears had been friends for 3 years and Tony had promised to call Connor the next morning.
Raymond Lamont Smith aka Ricky Beeks
1957-1990 (age 32.) Smith had a daughter who was ten at the time of his death. He often left his family for long periods of time. He had spent time in jail, and was involved in prostitution. His family believed he had died a year prior in a shooting.
Edward Warren Smith
August 2nd 1962 - June 14th 1990 (aged 27.) Known as Eddie, or sometimes “Sheik”. According to some reports he was an acquaintance of Dahmer. He often wore a “turban like headband”. Some say he was estranged from his family, his sister claimed otherwise. She also claimed to have got a call from a man she believed was Dahmer, telling her he had killed her brother. After his death his sister and a lawyer talked about starting a company known as “Jeffrey Dahmer Inc.” where she hoped that she, other victims families, and even Dahmer himself could go into business selling Dahmer merchandise.
1967-1990 (age 22.) Miller was a dance student who met Dahmer outside a book store. He wanted to leave his home in Chicago because of the violence. His grandmother described him as a very nice person. Friends described him as outgoing and sociable. Miller’s grandmother claimed she got a call from a man a week after Ernest’s disappearance, chanting “help me”, and later calls of choking and groaning sounds. She believed the caller was Dahmer.
1968-1990 (age 23.) David was the father of a toddler aged little girl. He was on probation for retail theft at the time of his death. The mother of his daughter described him as a devoted and loving father.
Curtis Durrell Straughter
April 6th 1973 - February 18th 1991 (age 18). Straughter lived with his grandmother, Catherine. He was estranged from some of his family members due to his sexual orientation. He had recently lost a job as a nursing assistant and hoped to become a model and earn a University degree. His friend Bernell Howard wrote a song about him after his disappearance. To his friends, he went by the name “Demetra”. His friends were surprised to learn he was among Dahmers victims as Straughter reportedly did not like white men. The mother of Anthony Sears suspects Dahmer claimed to be a professional photographer who could help with Curtis’ modeling career.
1971-1991 (age 19.) Lindsey was a faithful Christian. He played the drums and sang in the church choir. He was described as an outgoing and friendly man, nicknamed by some “Cool Breeze”. He was also a fan of rap music, and lifted weights. His friends said Lindsey rarely drank or went out to bars.
1959-1991 (age 31). Hughes was deaf and mute. He was very close with his family. His sister said he knew Dahmer since October of 1989. Recently moved to Madison, Wisconsin with a group of friends after being “shaken” by the murder of his next door neighbour. Hughes had contracted pneumonia as a baby which caused him to lose his hearing. Tony had five siblings and graduated from the Delavan School For the Deaf.
1976-1991 (age 14.) The youngest of four brothers, Konerak enjoyed playing soccer, swimming and talking on the phone with his friends. He liked to watch Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and Tom and Jerry and would draw pictures of the characters. He was excited about learning to drive in the coming years and was passionate about sports cars. Konerak tried to find humour in every situation. Sinthasomphone was very close with his brothers and parents. They had come to America from Laos when he was four years old. One brother, Somsack, had been drugged and molested by Dahmer in 1988, and the family believed Dahmer was in jail. Konerak’s parents have said their sons respect towards adults and authority figures may have been what led to him being lured by Dahmer. Konerak famously managed to escape from Dahmer’s apartment, but was brought back to the residence by police. Konerak spoke perfect english but was reportedly unable to do so at the time, possibly due to the head injury inflicted by Dahmer. (Though his father claimed the officers simply didn’t bother trying to listen to his son.) His brother Anoukone stated nobody could have reasonably thought his brother looked 19, a lie from Dahmer the police believed. The Sinthasomphone’s, including Konerak, were devout Buddhists.
Matt Turner aka Donald Montrell
1971 - 1991 (age 20). Matt Turner was described as bright and articulate. At the time of his death he had run away from home and was living in a halfway house. Turner/Montrell sang in his church’s choir. He met Dahmer at a Chicago pride parade.
1967-1991 (age 23.) Jeremiah had a lot of friends. He worked in customer service. According to Dahmer, Weinberger was exceptionally affectionate compared to other men he’d been with. He survived for two days after Jeffrey Dahmer performed an amateur lobotomy on him. His friends handed out and plastered flyers with his face around town with a toll free number to call with information after his disappearance. Described as outgoing and friendly, he was an amateur artist and kept his things exceptionally organized. He was also concerned with dressing well and always looking his best.
1966-1991 (age 24.) Lacy was a body building enthusiast with a 2 year old son. He was a track star in high school. He disappeared after going to the mall, last seen buying an ice cream cone.
1965-1991 (age 25.) The father of three children, he had recently moved in with his brother to look for a job. Bradhoft did have a domestic assault charge against his girlfriend. According to police records, he punched her and threatened to slash the tires of her car. He enjoyed sports and fishing.
sources: newspaper articles, family statements, FBI files, US criminal records
Okay, so I have a character who is a Sikh, and she wears a turban (a gol dastar) and in this story, she chooses to keep her turban on when she dances. I was wondering if with the pirouettes and such, if it would stay on? I'm planning on having a conflic between her and the instructor on letting her wear the turban. What kind of arguments would she get into with her dance instructor about her and her turban?
The first thing that comes to my mind is the ballet La Bayadere, the story of a Hindu bayadere.
Characters wear traditional Indian garbs and some of them wear a turban or something akin to it. Now, if you see La Bayadere you will notice that usually it’s the side characters that wear a full turban while the protagonists wear just a smaller turban or a headband. This is because a big turban might be too voluminous or heavy to dance in for a few hours and may hinder movements during pas de deux, spins, or manege, in addition to the usual issue of it falling off at any time. However there are exceptions, in this version Nikolay Tsiskaridze is dancing in an elaborate robe and full turban.
Now, does this mean that dancers cannot wear headwear or turbans? Absolutely not. Even on stage, dancers wear the most bizarre and voluminous things. There is always a way not to let a headpiece fall off. However, as a general rule and precaution, this type of fantastic headwear is rarely used by the main characters because of the reasons I listed above. So it is not unreasonable for your character to wear a turban: if she manages to secure it firmly on her head it could actually resist for a few hours, even though she will probably need to adjust it from time to time. I also guess that it will be a little uncomfortable to dance with a turban because of all the sweating and imbalance that the presence of the turban might cause as she spins, but I don’t think it’s impossible.
Now to the second part of your ask. I doubt she can wear it during performances but as far as class goes it greatly depends on her school, her instructor, and her ambitions. Is she a professional in an extremely serious dance academy? Then it’s very unlikely for her to wear her turban: these schools usually have very strict dress codes and students may be expelled if they do not adhere to them. Usually, students who do not come to class with the established attire are not allowed to attend the class until they have changed, or are not allowed to attend altogether. Schools can do this even when a student wears colored nail polish, it’s a matter of discipline and uniformity. If it’s just an ordinary dance school, though, it may be easier for her to try and wear her turban. Her teacher may still insist that it’s a matter of discipline and respect and that it’s impractical and hazardous for her dance partners as well as for herself, they may even go as far as not admitting her to class unless she complies, but in the end your character may pull it off, maybe by being an especially outstanding and dutiful student that the teacher wants to keep in their class and recitals nonetheless. Maybe have her explain to the teacher why wearing the turban is so important to her, let the two of them have conversations as well as arguments.
Lastly, if the teacher is Sikh as well or if your character dances in a Sikh country, maybe wearing her turban to class will be a little easier. As a side note, I read a very interesting story about a ballerina dancing in here hijab once, maybe you might find interesting (here and here)
How to Dress Like Zooey! The ‘New Girl’ Wardrobe Explained…
Quirky, fun and totally enviable, Zooey Deschanel is our style icon for the week. She’s pretty fearless when it comes to bold prints and bright colors, so we’re excited to show you the style picks that get us inspired.
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Fit & Flare dresses that are cinched at the waist and then flare out to the knee are Zooey’s favorite. ModCloth is your best bet.