Tumblr problem #23

On Tumblr straight people aren’t acknowledged anymore. We are either confused, disgusting, homophobic or closeted.

Also, straight characters from books, movies and TV series have “non-confirmed/undefined sexualities”.

I support LGBT+.


But then

  1. Why can’t straight people be proud?
  2. Why can’t we be happy about the characters that represent us on the media?
  3. Why can’t we post our problems here without being told that they don’t matter because LGBT people have it worse?
  4. Why can’t we? Why can’t we even when we are as gorgeous, as important, as beautiful, as intelligent as you, and we should be as proud as you should.

Don’t fight for revenge.

Fight for P E A C E.

Don’t fight for hate.

Fight for L O V E.

Don’t fight for superiority.

Fight for E Q U A L I T Y.

And that goes for everyone.

10 Things to learn to improve your tumblr experience.

1. Learn to post for yourself, and only for yourself. It doesn’t help anyone when you only post and reblog things because they are popular at the time. You may think people won’t notice, but your followers do. Never lie to yourself. Your blog is your own. Use it.

2. Learn that not every fight must be fought. Sometimes it’s easier to just step away from a problem that triggers you too much - and that’s absolutely okay. You don’t have to fight things that you don’t feel comfortable to fight. You are allowed to step away.

3. Learn that you cannot please everyone. As soon as you start to put yourself out there people will come at you. It doesn’t matter if you’re trying to be the nicest, informed, and open-minded towards everyone. You will always offend someone. When someone searches for something to attack you, let me tell you they will find something. You have to accept that not everyone can be pleased. It’s hard, but it’s reality.

4. Learn to ignore anon hate or hate in general. People who want to hate you will hate you. You cannot do anything against it. Breath. Delete. Go on. Those people are not worth your time.

5. Learn that it is okay to click away. Tumblr is loud about voicing opinions, shipping and social justice. Sometimes from people who are not as educated as they try to give the impression and search for any little nag to push limits. Don’t start a fight. It won’t do anything good here on tumblr. If you feel the need to do something against social injustice go out and do it yourself. Don’t do it behind a screen. It leads to nothing except hate and venom and people trying to gut each other out. If you read something that just riles you really up - be it about a series or a pairing or something social or whatever - just click away. It brings nothing. You will only feel more angered when the person answers and it will go back and forth and back and forth and - time you could use to do something else more productively. And with less stress.

6. Learn that your opinion =/= the opinion of someone else. You might like x pairing, while someone else thinks it is disgusting. Or the other way around. Learn to accept these things and leave it be. What good does it bring to try and force your opinion onto someone else? You’re not a dictator. Everyone is free to have their own opinion. Just like yourself.

7. Learn to respect people. Learn to respect artists and writers and - yes - edit makers too. Some people sit hours before their screens to produce something. They don’t write/draw/do edits for you - they share their stuff with you. If it is something you don’t like, just ignore it. Never tell them what they did wrong in your opinion - remember point 6. Your opinion is not theirs.  

8. Learn that attacking someone =/= educating someone. If someone doesn’t know something or said something harmful in a post, don’t attack them immediately. Often these people are just not educated about the subject. Going into their askbox and leaving hateful, sometimes vile messages and calling them names or even threatening them will lead to nothing. If you really want to reach out to them try to send a polite message. Check their age. Most people who react like this are surprisingly young. If they block off and don’t want to be educated, no matter their age, there’s nothing you can do. Swallow your anger and click away. It’s not worth it. The real world still waits for you after you log off and hating on a stranger brings you nothing.

9. Learn that no one is perfect. Definitely not you. People make mistakes. Learn to forgive and move on. Holding a grudge brings only sorrow and misery.

10. Learn that tumblr is not the world. The real world is so much worse. Try to enjoy your time here instead of letting it ruin you.

Okay, so a lot of my posts have been flagged. I went through and requested reviews for a bunch of them, but I definitely didn’t get to all of them, because there are so many to look through. I’m sorry for any inconvenience this will cause you guys.

I’m particularly infuriated by this post being flagged:

This is what I’m talking about. This is what is wrong with tumblr’s new blocking system. There is absolutely nothing in that post but screencaps of Thomas and his friends from his [the first tag on that post] video. I am unbelievably disappointed in tumblr for this.

“Ewww, that’s disgusting” is not a valid ideological position. It’s an involuntary emotional reaction, and while you’re perfectly entitled to feel that way, don’t pretend it’s anything more than that. If you think something is gross, that simply means that it’s not for you. If you oppose the existence of something altogether, you’d better have a more substantial reason than just finding it unappealing.

Just a reminder that your popularity on tumblr does not define your worth. You are a part of a fandom even if you don’t get as much as notes as other artists or your memes don’t spread as widely as that of other bloggers. You are appreciated. It doesn’t matter if you are too shy to actively participate and just silently reblog other people’s posts. Don’t feel intimidated by big accounts, they are humans just like you and they have their flaws as well. If a popular blogger threats you bad or kinkshames you they might get backed up by their followers but that doesn’t make their actions right. They aren’t perfect beings just because a large crowd is following them and your opinion is as valid as theirs. So don’t be afraid to stand up for your opinion and just be yourself. You are allowed to enjoy yourself and do what makes you happy. If you are happy just being on tumblr that is fine, you don’t need to be popular. Don’t delete your posts just because they didn’t reach a certain amough of notes. Even if only your close friends follow you that is already fine. You don’t need ghost followers. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. You are doing fine and as long as you are having fun your blog is important ♡

Attention, misguided morality crusaders of tumblr:

The success of your harassment campaigns is not a sign that you were in the right.  If you got someone’s blog shut down or pushed them to leave the website, that means you succeeded in your goal but that doesn’t mean you were right to do so.  The worthiness of your goals is not measured by how well you can achieve them.  Being effective doesn’t make you any less of a reprehensible shit-stain, it just makes you harmful as well as awful.