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The Second Master List
 Have you ever considered dating yourself?
  1. Which would you choose? Being with your soulmate for 1 year and then they  die, or choosing to not meet them at all.
  2. If a prisoner (in jail) wrote a letter to you, Would you write back?
  3. If you could have a twin, Would you?
  4. If you had to give up Your arms or your legs -which would it be?
  5. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
  6. If you had to pick 1 or 2 qualities that you have had since you were a child -what would they be.
  7. If you could see your death Would you want to see it?
  8. If you could lose all your memories and start fresh, would you choose to do it? Say the age you start fresh would be at 15 years old.What about at 20?
  9. Would you rather have an unrequited love for 5 years or feel no love for 5 years?
  10. Would you ever give 5 years of your life To extend the life of a grandparent?
  11. Would you rather have a father that is in jail or not know who your father is?
  12. How many more Failures can you take?
  13. If you could pick a country that most represents you, which would it be?
  14. If you could be on a dating reality TV show -would you?
  15. Would you choose to look in mirrors all day, or never look in a mirror again?
  16. What is the first thing you look at when you look at yourself in the mirror?
  17. If you could never again think one thing what would it be?
  18. If you had to be sick for the rest of your life would you choose something that kills you quickly & painfully, or bearably but slowly
  19. If you could redo your first kiss would you: a) choose to do it and b)
    1. -change the person
    2. -change your age
    3. -change the location
    4. -change your/their skill level
  20. Do you think more people like(d) you now or when you were younger?
  21. If you could change your name what would you change it to?
  22. If you could change your name what would you change it to?
  23. Have you ever been attracted to a friend’s parents?
  24. What would you do if your life was stuck on replay, and you continuously relived one day?
  25. What is something you’ve always wanted to do  but never done because it doesn’t “fit” with what people expect/are used to from you? (now consider doing it!)
  26. If anything could happen to/through your tumblr site what is the one thing you wish would?
  27. How many times have you wanted to ask someone out but haven’t done it because you *weren’t sure if your feelings were strong enough*?
  28. If you are sick and will die in 1 yr, And you found your soulmate (and they know they are as well). Would you:
    1. A)even tell them you are sick, and
      B) be with them for the year, or break up with them 
  29. What characteristic makes you attractive to the opposite sex/potential partners? (Do one physical and one personality)
  30. If you had to choose between getting married to your soulmate and continuing a super successful career -which would you choose?
  31. Would you rather settle or be alone?
  32. Have you ever questioned Your sexual orientation?
  33. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
  34. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
  35. Would you like to be famous? For what?
  36. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
  37. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
  38. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
  39. Would you (do you) ever save 50% of your income?
  40. What do you think you haven’t found in a potential partner yet? Why?
  41. When something bad happens how do you deal with it?
    1. Talk to someone
    2. Think about it alone (ruminate)
    3. Ignore/suppress and distract yourself
    4. Try to fix it immediately
  42. Would you say yes to being in the body of the opposite gender for 1 year?
  43. Have you ever considered “trying out” an eating disorder?
  44. Ask a significant person in the group you are playing this game with, whether they have ever considering breaking up with you (friendship-wise or romantically), when, and why did they not.
  45. What’s the biggest sacrifice You’ve made for the person on your left (or in the room), that they haven’t acknowledged?
  46. Ask your father “How am I most like you, and how does that scare you?”
  47. Are you scared someone in the room will hurt you? Who, and in what way?
  48. If you needed to decide between two people you know, which will die  -would you want to decide, or let a stranger decide?
  49. After a long pursuit You realise someone is as keen
  50. What was your family’s attitude towards affection? How has that impacted you?
  51. Do you wish facebook didn’t exist?
  52. Think of the question you would most like answered, by a person or an all-knowing being or device. Which of the following most closely resembles the answer you’d like to hear?
    1. Without a shadow of a doubt
    2. Never
    3. You are
    4. No i didn’t
    5. I will show you everything
    6. I do
    7. Come with me
    8. Only one
    9. Yes
    10. Always
    11. You will
    12. In the distant future
  53. What do  you like most about having a child of your own? You MUST say something
  54. Is there a profession You’ve always wanted to date? (Doctor. Firefighter, military, vet etc)
  55. Among your group of friends are you one who will generally take care of and help everyone (even if you hate it)? Or are you the one who rationally thinks about it and determines whether the person actually needs help?
  56. Would you rather live in a world where you are never alone or where you are always alone
  57. If your life could be a soundtrack Which movie/tv show’s would you choose?
  58. If you could live a movie which would you choose?
  59. Has this election Made you be more interested or less interested in politics? Think carefully.
  60. Ask the person across from you Who do you think I should be with?
    1. -pick anyone
      -pick anyone from your friends
      -pick any celebrity
  61. Be honest: the person asking you these questions -If you could have their life -would you want it?
  62. When was the last time you cried? Why?
  63. Would you rather feel too much or feel nothing at all?
  64. Do you feel you are more attached to your friends, than they are to you?
  65. Which of the seven deadly sins Do you deal with the most?
  66. Within the group of people You are answering questions with, what is something you really regret that you’ve done to someone in the group.
  67. What would the title of your autobiography be?
  68. Do you have songs that you avoid because they make you feel too much? Give one example, and one feeling associated with it.
  69. If you could be an Expert in any field, which would you choose?
  70. If you could be an Expert in any field, which would you choose?
  71. Describe your ex Using one emoji
  72. What aspect do you struggle With the most, when making a new friend? (Ex: Vulnerability, time/history together, learning about them, integrating into your life etc).
  73. Do you have a hard time Integrating your friends into different aspects of your life? ( Ex work friends with family, family friends with school friends).
  74. Big spoon or little spoon? Why?
  75. In what situation do you Feel the loneliest?
  76. What is something you Believe your parents dislike about you?
  77. Do you feel That the way you look right now represents who you are/how you feel?
  78. Choose between being able To make people very happy vs. Never hurting them. Which would you choose?
  79. What made you start Your Tumblr blog?
  80. Have you ever wished For a disorder or disability? (Or considered it)
  81. Choose. Between perpetrator and victim.
  82. Do you feel Like you’ve reached your peak?
  83. How much of your time Do you spend thinking about romance?
  84. Have people pointed out Your biggest insecurity, or have you never talked about it with anyone (positively or negatively)?
  85. Alternate to 101:
    1.  i.  Did you generate your insecurity, or was it something you  developed over time based off of other people’s comments
  86. If you were in a group of best friends; Are you the:
    1. A) ring leader 
    2. B) the groupie
    3. C) the lone wolf
    4. D) the drifter
Long AF post about BPD

So after years of suffering, I finally feel like my BPD is under control. I used to be so chaotic and I couldn’t function. I know there are plenty of BPD sufferers who feel the same, and who may not have access to therapy or medication, which sucks because its not our fault we’re suffering.
So just a post to my fellow borderlines, for the ones who can’t get the help they need or the ones still waiting.

1. It is beatable.
There are going to be days where you feel so out of touch with yourself and so helpless you think that you are beyond any help at all. I’ve been there so many times and take it from someone on the other side, you will be able to manage it one day. Its a long hard road but it is possible ❤

2. Be open and honest.
The first time I said the words borderline personality disorder out loud I felt ashamed, and guilty and embarrassed. Its a disorder that’s been stigmatized for too long and its such a shame, because the borderlines I know are the sweetest people I’ve met. The only way to break the stigma is by educating those around you and by talking about it openly.
You feel like shit and feel like your about to freak out? Tell someone.
Those moments of uncontrollable rage? Talk to them and explain, you’re angry right now and it may not be rational to them but you can’t hide it And its something you’re working on.
Splitting? Be open about it, explain you struggle to find a balance between god and bad and sometimes that means your best friends, parent or partners are going to be Satan to you for a while before going back to being angels sent from above. If you explain, it can help them understand and it could very well save your relationships with them.

3. Look up resources
Read about other peoples experiences, the mighty is a website that I’ve found helpful in finding comfort knowing I’m not the only one living with this. There are DBT and mindfulness worksheets that can help you, living with BPD means preparing tools to help cope so that when you split or freak or meltdown, you have something to go to to try and help you get back to standard.

4. Visit your GP
Sadly mental health is underestimated by health professionals, and because of that our symptoms are brushed aside as depression or bipolar, the more you go to the doctors and tell them what’s going on, the better chance you have of getting the help you need. Be it through therapy, medication or a combination. we live in a world where we have to push for help these days, it shouldn’t be that way but it is. If you feel your GP isn’t helpful, switch, keep seeing different doctors until you find one that you feel comfortable with.

5. Be kind to yourself.
Its not easy, and there’s are going to be bad days even when you feel like you can manage. Holding down a steady job, home and relationship is difficult. So don’t be hard on yourself if you have a setback.
You can fix whatever happens.
It might not be the way you want or think it will be but it is fixable.
There’s a lot of struggles living with BPD but there is beauty too.
Those moments that you feel so damn happy you could cry, over something anyone else just smiles at? Treasure it. You feel everything intensely, including joy. if that’s the one blessing we have its that we can experience such happiness and fulfillment when things go well it makes BPD almost not cruel.
Love yourself for who you are, there are negatives but there’s a positive waiting for you to focus on too.

Lastly, and its a serious one.
6. If you feel suicidal, please seek help.
I’ve stopped counting the times I’ve felt like killing myself, really. But out of all of them the times that have been easier are the ones with someone at my side, talking to me and being there.
Don’t suffer alone, you deserve more than that.
There are helplines, Facebook groups, friends, loved ones, total strangers out there that would help you if you reach out.
Go to your local A&E or emergency room and tell them you feel suicidal. Whatever state you are in I can guarantee that they prefer you a sobbing mess than a dead body.
There are 7 billion people on this earth, reach out, find comfort, cry on a shoulder and talk about it to someone.
We are a rare breed, and for better or worse we are here, alive, for a reason.
There’s always hope ❤

If you need any more advice, there are some great blogs here on tumblr, the mighty is pretty good too, and there are charities and helplines that offer advice too.
You’ve got this ❤❤❤

part i | part ii | part iii | part iv | part v

part vi: in which we let sasuke live

The phone sat between them as the seconds ticked by. Like a good friend, Naruto came over the moment Sasuke told him there was an emergency.

“Fuck,” Sasuke cursed for the nth time, glaring at his phone. He touched the screen when it dimmed, bringing it back to its full brightness and displaying Tinder Girl’s selfie of herself in a green bikini as she hugged the neck of her unicorn floatie like the basic bitch she probably was. “Fuck.”

“Okay.” This was the first word said in the past ten minutes aside from ‘fuck.’ “Okay, I have a plan.”

“What is it?”

“You have to like more photos.”

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Taylor Swift, Entering a New Era, Sticks to a Safe Space: Tumblr

For a megastar approaching the release of her latest blockbuster, Taylor Swift, the human, has been eerily quiet.

Yes, she’s put out four songs and two music videos from “Reputation,” her sixth album, out Friday, and her visage currently adorns a racecar and a promotional fleet of UPS trucks. But Ms. Swift hasn’t given an interview in 18 months, and she has performed in public only once this year, at a pre-Super Bowl event for a corporate partner. (She will be the musical guest on “Saturday Night Live” this weekend.)

Judging by the relatively reserved rollout for “Reputation,” it’s easy to assume that Ms. Swift is pulling a Beyoncé — communicating only strategically, if at all, and mostly letting the work speak for itself. That is, unless you know where to look.

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Skin to Skin

Jughead Jones doesn’t know how the crimson crescents ended up on his palms.

Betty Cooper is clueless when it comes to the messages on her arms.

Soulmate AU where all the little marks and injuries belonging to Betty and Jughead start finding themselves on each other’s skin. 

A/N: I’m always a sucker for AUs! Hope you enjoy this!

Chapter i

Jughead Jones is almost done with an incredibly important meeting when it first happens.

Jason Baltimore, the editor of the Long Island Publishing House, is sitting across him, fiddling with a ballpoint pen as he addresses Jughead. They’ve been in this windowless room for about two hours now, and Jughead can’t help but curse whoever designed this building. Hidden away in the streets of Manhattan, this place took an arduous amount of effort to find, and the sort-of dingy exterior almost made Jughead do a one-eighty and turn back. Sure, this is the first publishing house that liked my book, but I’m sure I can find another. He’d thought, but he’d shaken his head and made his way in.

“Mr. Jones, are you listening?”

Jughead’s head snapped up, blue-green eyes meeting brown. “Sorry, yes, it’s just a bit stuffy here.” He said.

“Well, I’m sorry, Mr. Jones, but we’ll have to conduct the rest of our meeting here.” Mr. Baltimore says, visible sweat stains peeking out from under his armpits.

Jughead nodded and fiddled with his watch. “Yeah, that’s okay. I’ll manage.”

“So we’ve got two problems.” The blonde, slightly chubby man, says. “One, your name is Jughead.”

Jughead raises his hands defensively. “So what?”

“You’re going to risk ridiculing yourself. People will end up laughing at your name on the cover instead of noticing the title.”

“Or,” Jughead says, leaning forward, “I’ll take them by surprise. ’The Anatomy of a Murder’ will be all the more unique, considering the fact that its content is so serious.”

Mr. Baltimore mimics his movement, resting his elbows on the desk between them. “At the acquisitions meeting, this issue was brought up, Mr. Jones.”

“So I will convince them.” Jughead Jones was a stubborn man.

Mr. Baltimore wipes away a droplet of sweat. “Let’s say you don’t succeed. Would you, maybe, consider an alternative? I don’t suppose your real name is Jughead.

Oh, no. No way was ‘Forsythe Jones’ going to be put on the cover of his first book; there was a reason he preferred ‘Jughead’ over that ridiculous name. (Ironic, considering the fact the Jughead was pretty ridiculous, too.)

Jughead shakes his head. “Let’s just say my real name is worse.” He eyes the editor in front of him. “It looks fine on paychecks and insurance forms, but not on a novel.”

“Perhaps a pseudonym, then?”

Jughead sets his mouth into a thin line.

“No, then.” Mr. Baltimore says, gauging his reaction. “Mr. Jones, I advise you to think this over, and get back to me on Wednesday.”

He flips open his laptop. “Now, the next issue I want to discuss… well, it’s not an issue, but something I would like you to know…” He turns the laptop face towards Jughead. “You’re twenty two years old. You’re a senior at NYU. Probably the youngest among a huge community of authors.”

Jughead nods. “I’m well aware of that.”

“Mr. Jones, your style is unique, and your writing is brilliant, but generally, books by younger authors don’t tend to be as successful as others, and I hope you’re prepared for such a situation.”

Jughead bites his lip. “I know, Mr. Baltimore. I hardly expected this book to get picked up by a publisher in the first place, and I’m thankful to you, I am. But, I think that the masses will like it. I truly do.”

“I am hopeful, too, Mr. Jones- can I call you Jughead, by the way?”

“Sure.”

“I am hopeful too. Just preparing you. Moving on,” Mr. Baltimore says, fanning himself with Jughead’s manuscript. “Oh, for God’s sake- someone get the Air Conditioner working!” He yells after stalking to the door and sticking his head out.

Thank you, Jughead thinks, because he doesn’t feel too comfortable about the fact that his manuscript is now a makeshift fan. Plus, the need for fresh air is only increasing.

“Now,” Mr. Baltimore says, once he’s settled in his chair again, “You need to create accounts on social media, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Tumblr and Reddit if you want to discuss theories with your readers, and all the likes.”

Jughead internally groans at the Twitter and Instagram part, but he knows it’s necessary. The Tumblr and Reddit part he’s fine with, though. He’s been on those sites for years now.

“Could I borrow a pen?” Jughead asks. He needs a reminder, and writing on his forearm is a habit he’s had for many years. Once he Mr. Baltimore gives him one, he jots down a sentence onto his pale skin- Remember to succumb to the true giants of social media.

“And finally, Jughead, we’re assigning you an agent. Though you won’t need him as much if your book, well, doesn’t gain popularity, it’s still better to have one at hand. I’m giving you his number, shall I text it to you or will you write it down?”

Jughead’s phone is currently at a repair shop- it’s an iPhone 3, he’s been able to survive with that archaic thing for years now, but finding a store that actually fixed them was a huge task. But his screen had cracked badly, and Jughead has too many notes on it to buy another one without recovering stuff from this one.

“I’ll write it down.” He grabs the pen, once again, and etches the set of numbers Mr. Baltimore dictates to him.

“Well, Jughead, I’ll see you on Wednesday. This meeting was a pleasure, and I’m glad that I’ve decided to publish your book. But, think the name over.”

Jughead smiles, blushing ever so slightly. “Thank you, Mr. Baltimore.”

He grabs his bag and shrugs his leather jacket (courtesy JB) onto his shoulders and stands up. He has a shift at Barnes and Nobles’, and then a paper to write for his film study course, so he needs to hurry.

That’s when it happens. His palm suddenly stings, like it’s been cut, and Jughead winces with surprise. He opens his hands, palms up, looks at them, and sees that they’re bleeding. His fingernails have cut open the skin of his palm, and smears of blood marr the white skin.

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Friends, Waffles, Work

(ao3)


“Alright, next item on the agenda…” Bellamy tries not to roll his eyes as Jaha trails off, combing through his near-illegible notes.

Staff meetings usually end up like this, discussing whatever topics Jaha can recall or make up off the top of his head, until Vera inevitably fills the silence with updates on her pet programs nobody else wants that many details about (seriously, Bellamy is as big a fan of trees as the next person, but her Saturday morning wellness group is starting to sound more and more like a cult), and Luna sitting passively by, diligently taking notes and refusing to exchange even the slightest expression of mutual understanding that Bellamy shoots her way.

Don’t get him wrong; Bellamy likes his coworkers. It’s not the tight-knit, found-family feel Leslie Knope had prepared him for when he got hired to his small town’s Parks & Recreation division, but they each care a lot, in their own way. All of his favorite people care way too much about stuff. It’s what he likes in a person.

And he does like parks. Arcadia has some pretty nice ones, clean and well-kept with cool signs about historical things that happened nearby and/or noteworthy plant species. Not to mention that time last year he got to quash a movement for a confederate monument. That was one of his finer moments, if he does say so himself.

Mostly, he took the job to get a foot in the door of local government, but the soft spot he’s always harbored for parks– free, accessible, fairly safe spaces for him and Octavia to hang out in when they didn’t want to be at home, growing up– is what clinched the deal.

Still. Staff meetings are the worst.

He’s in the middle of wondering whether anyone is going to eat the last bagel Luna brought in, and also whether it has hemp in it, when Jaha says his name.

He blinks, looking up, and finds everyone staring at him.

“Sorry. I zoned out for a second. What’s up?”

“I was saying I have a special project for you,” says Jaha, and Bellamy groans inwardly.

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In light of recent events, I think this post should definitely be made. It’s important to remind those around you, those you care about how much they mean to you.
I’d like to encourage everyone, not just those who are mentioned in this post, to reach out when things get rough. I’m not always the best to talk to, but if you need someone to talk, I’m always here. If Tumblr isn’t the best platform, I have no problem giving out my Facebook or phone number. Please don’t hesitate to message me. 
Let’s put aside our differences and show each other respect and love.

@maexchen-therescuemutt You’re such a kind person. I really enjoy reading about yours and Mäxchen’s accomplishments and what you did during your day.
@romatheacdmix Another truly lovely person. I’ve followed you and Roma since you were norestfortherescue and it’s been an absolute pleasure to see Roma start overcoming fears and the two of you start really becoming a team
@aelthen Okay so maybe you’re not a dogblr (#bringbackcaninesandcomplaints2k17) but you’re still wonderful and I love ur poodle. I followed you way back when you were fostering Maybeline (I believe her name was?) Seeing you become comfortable with your sexuality on Tumblr has been wonderful and someday hope to be where you are with that.
@coonhoundchronicles I love you dogs so much, just absolutely adore them. It’s wonderful to find someone who is equally in love with plain ole’ hound dogs. You’re such a genuinely lovely person and I’m so glad that I still get to see your pups, even after Wagtail ended.
@blueboyluca A gem, honestly. You’re so sweet and I love interacting with you (even if I suck at it lol) Luca is a such gorgeous dog. I’ve learned so much about Schipperkes since following you.
@sidetongue Reading your captions and tags is honestly one of the highlights of my day. It’s so obvious how much you love Henry and Miller. I love reading all about your shelter and foster shenanigans as well.
@achoirofcritters I’ve been following you for forever it seems. I’ve loved seeing your photography and editing skills progress and you get more confident in your photography (which dude !!! incredible)
@tempurafriedhappiness Another amazing tumblr photographer. It’s been absolute joy to watch you develop a photography style and really work towards your goals. I hope Colorado treats you well
@bandizoi / @noodle-dragon One of the first dogblrs I followed and a core component to my dogblr experience. Whatever life throws at you, you seem to take in stride. I admire your dedication to your dogs. Also, a big thanks for introducing me to Silken Windhounds; they’re pretty neat
@pulldogs It’s so clear how much you love your dogs and do the absolute most for them. I’ve loved being introduced to a breed I’d never considered before and whole different side of the dog world.
@herebelife Thistle and Thyme are wonderful dogs with an equally wonderful human. Watching Thistle grow and triumph has been, in the simplest terms, incredible. You’ve put so much hard work into making life great for her. It’s also been a joy watching Thyme grow into the precious old man he is.
@tinybigpaws Despite everything that’s happened regarding Lotta and your health, you two are still here and still achieving amazing things. It’s so clear how caring of a person you are.
@perfectdogs I seriously love Aska and Goa so much. Before your blog, I’d never give Schnauzers a second thought and I didn’t even know Tibetan Terriers were a thing. Your photography is absolutely stunning, as well. And once again, despite all that’s happened, you guys are still here and you’re still accomplishing incredible stuff
@mango-pup Seriously one of the sweetest, most understanding people on here. When you posted your list of mistakes, I can’t imagine what that took, but it was an remains an important document. I admire your ability to put that out there and I admire your dedication to Mango


As much as I’d love to shout out everyone, there’s simply no way to do that all in one post, but I do hope to continue spreading positivity of some sort. I do intend to add to this eventually because I haven’t even scratched the surface of all the amazing and inspiring people dogblr has within the community.

그 밤 (The Night)

(named after this song which I listened to on repeat while writing)

Member: Jeonghan
Genre: Fluff
Word Count: 1949


The first week back from winter break was always decently easy, but you still felt tired. You just wanted to go back home and sleep some more, and come back next fall. It was hard to be motivated to learn new materials when it was this cold outside and the novelty of snow flurries had faded. Not being able to fall asleep, you bundled up to make your way to the little greasy takeout place across campus.

It was pretty late and not many people were out, causing the campus to feel a little more like Silent Hill than usual. You weren’t exactly sure if the chill that ran down your spine was from the cold or the spooky atmosphere. Your steps quickened as you got closer to the restaurant; you couldn’t wait for the warmth and safety it would provide…as well as the chicken.

When you finally got there you slammed the doors open, your breaths coming in hard pants from the urgent jog you had resorted to in the final stretch of your trek. The two workers behind the counter both stopped whatever they were doing to look up at you and you could only give them a sheepish smile and pretend to not be embarrassed. You stepped up to the counter and ordered your usual, paying with a few crinkled bills you had to dig out of your pocket with stiff, cold fingers.

The place was pretty small, with just the counter and a few small tables pushed to the side of the room. You sat down at the table furthest from the door and pulled out your phone to distract you while you waited. You scrolled through tumblr with one hand as you sandwiched the other between your thighs, trying to use your body heat to warm it. Your mind wandered around aimlessly, thinking about everything from the musicians’ pictures on your phone to the assignment you wanted to start on tomorrow morning. You didn’t look up when you heard the door open, but when you heard that voice– that unmistakable voice– your heart stopped in your chest.

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nerdmigerd  asked:

How would you recommend a young writer to make a profit off of their work? I'm unemployed and want something to make an early living off of.

Okay, so, my answer may be quite disheartening, but instead of being discouraged by it I expect all y’all young writers looking to make some cash to decide this will only mean you will work harder and not ever give up. In this line of work, you have to hustle.

There are ways young writers can make money. But those ways are tough and discouraging and require a shit ton of work. If you’re smart, you will pursue just about every option there is.

1. Writing Competitions/Contests

There are approximately fifty zillion of these things, all with varying rewards (many of which actually aren’t monetary). All of them have different restrictions (must be a certain genre, the author must be living in a certain place/be of a certain age, the topic must be on something specific, etc). And the only ones that are easy to find, open to most people, and have a good monetary reward are pretty much always the ones that have an entry fee. Usually entry fees are between $5-50, most often around $20. There are a good number of free writing competitions, but those are the ones with the most restrictions on them.

Writing competitions are (usually) different from writing contests. “Contests” are usually the ones held by really selective literary magazines that p much no one reads, and they’re looking for only the snootiest, driest literature there is. Often these mags will pay you in publication/a number of copies of the issue where your story will be. They also probably want rights to your story until after Jesus comes.

Writing competitions are usually for genre stories. They’ll call for a specific genre, a specific word count, and those are pretty much the only restrictions. The rewards will vary from a few hundred dollars up to about $3,000 for popular publications like Writer’s Digest. (The ones that offer more than that are mostly grants, which are an entirely different beast I don’t know nearly enough about to speak on.) Unfortunately, they also have a huge number of applicants, so there’s a lot more competition.

Most of these contests/competitions are for short fiction, poetry, or short non-fiction (essays, basically), so if you only write novels or screenplays, you’re (mostly) out of luck.

BE CAREFUL. As many reputable contests are out there, there are twice as many scams. Be careful.

Resources on writing contests/competitions:

Writer’s Digest Competitions

Poet’s & Writer’s Grants and Awards list (a great resource for those super snooty litmags)

Poet’s & Writer’s Submission Calendar

PEN Literary Awards 

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I’m not even half way down the first google page there are so many just look

2. Freelance Writing

Freelance writing is multi-faceted. It can refer to blogging, writing articles, writing for social media, copywriting, etc. Journalism kind of stuff. I have limited experience with this–not with doing those things, just with getting paid for it–but there may be more input from people in the notes, so make sure you check that out.

In a similar vein, you can also try freelance transcription, where you basically listen to/watch a recording and transcribe what’s said in the recording. This is more difficult than it sounds. But if you have a wpm of 80+ and great hearing (and a lot of patience), go for it.

Beware of scams–anything that wants you to pay to get a job is not a real job.

Resources:

Freelancewriting.com/freelancejobs

Paid Writing Gigs

Call for Submissions

Freelance Job Openings

Freelance Transcription Jobs

Transcribe Team

3. Self-Publication

This is one wild beast that should not be entered into lightly. If you publish something, it will always be in your publishing history. Even if you don’t sell anything. And with even more self-pub/e-pub stories out there than there are competitions, you really, really have to work your ass off to make decent money self-pubbing. 

It’s recommended that you only self-publish if you: have worked for an extended period of time on this piece (years), have had professional eyes look over it (more than once), have done your homework on which self-publishing sites you want to use, are prepared to do all the work necessary to see to the success of the piece (editing, formatting, design, promotion, etc), have a good reason for choosing to self-publish (i.e. not because you’re impatient, bitter at being rejected, unwilling to put the work in, etc.)

If you are sure you want to self-publish, here are some resources:

25 Things You Should Know Before Self-Publishing

Writer’s Digest Best 101 on Self-Publishing + Resources

52 Great Blogs for Self-Publishers

There’s this book called The Self-Publisher’s Ultimate Resource Guide

Also check out YouTube because a lot of self-pubbed authors go there to promote, and they have videos talking about their self-publishing journey, so you can learn from their mistakes/emulate their successes

4. Crowdsourcing

I’m mostly going to be talking about Patreon here because that’s really the only thing in this category I have experience with. As far as I’ve found, this is the most conducive site to crowdsourcing for writers who don’t necessarily want to publish a book. I don’t even think it’s technically crowdsourcing.

Patreon is a way for your supporters to support you. It can be for anything. You can write short stories, create art, make tutorials, etc etc. You actually don’t even have to do anything if you’ve got people willing to give you money for that. Set up rewards that your patrons will receive when they pledge a certain amount (exclusive content, physical rewards, etc).

There are two ways to find supporters: connecting with other creators on Patreon, and getting in touch with supporters you’ve already established (friends, family, fans). I don’t know much about connecting with people through Patreon because I just haven’t put much effort into it so far. 

As for reaching out to other supporters, a great way to do this is through social media. Network with fellow creators/consumers through sites like here on tumblr, fictionpress, wattpad/figment, fanfiction sites, Twitter, YouTube, etc. Also, if you can stand it, tell your family. No one wants to support you more than your sweet grandmother who is deep-pocketed, near-sighted, and technologically impaired.

Most importantly, establish yourself where your target audience gathers. Put out as much original content as possible. Make a name for yourself–which brings me to my next point.

5. Social Media and Writing-Adjacent Work

A lot of the sites I listed that you should establish yourself on have ways to make some change if your site gets some traffic. You can put ads on your tumblr blog (or on your fictionpress, I think), you can monetize youtube videos, and the like. You have to get a lot of traffic to make some decent money off of ads, but it’s something. And it’s always good to promote yourself anyway.

As for writing-adjacent work: on the internet, where many people live nowadays and where indie creators have the best chance of making some money, there is a lot vying for your audience’s attention. It’s good to have a shorter, more attention-grabbing service to offer that is relevant to your writing that will draw your audience to you. Basically anything that gives you authority as a creator and interests people that might also be interested in what you’re creating.

For example: create a writing advice blog, build your writerly “brand” on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, tumblr, offer freelance editing, and more that I can’t think of off the top of my head.


Each of these things requires a great deal of work for a lot of initial rejection and not a lot of initial reward. However, if you pursue many or all of these things and really dedicate yourself to them, you will eventually get a payoff.

Ways to Cheer Yourself Up (When wanting to be alone) - 50 top things to do
  • 1. Go ON Tumblr, believe it or not, we don't care where you're from, what you do, how you're being you, as long as you are being you, you're pretty much welcomed on here. That's why i love it. Unless of course you are homophobic or judgemental or ignorant - then the people will speak for themselves, we look out for each other here.
  • 2. Read Books; escapism is a wonderful thing
  • 3. Listen to music; and no - not the sad, 'ALL BY MYSELF' type music, but the kickass songs like 'I will Survive' or 'Loser Like Me' just celebrate yourself for being awesome, because we know you are; even if others don't; especially then actually.
  • 4. Become your own superhero. Every single one of you have a talent or a dream. Follow up on that talent/dream. YOU ARE WORTH IT, and you can be whoever you want to be.
  • 5. DISNEY MOVIES. Unless you absolutely hate bursting out into song - better cut of highschool musical and glee while were at this, then Disney is the best pick me up ever.
  • 6. Watch your favourite TV shows. Remind yourself why life can be awesome. Watching your fav characters usually means you can relate to them.
  • 7. Go on walks - it's very pretty outside, and sometimes our heads can be overloaded with information or stress, I advise calming music and a nice walk outside in comfortable clothes.
  • 8. Have a diary. A friend of mine recently bought me one, and it's a godsend because all the anger, or emotions I feel, I try to put in the diary rather than putting it out on others. It also calms you down. I feel better when I write.
  • 9. Speaking of writing...if you enjoy it- WRITE. Writing is a wonderful way to escape. You can put all your emotions into your characters and they just come to life. I tend to do that when I'm stressed.
  • 10. If writing is not your thing then bake. I've actually ironically read in a fan fiction where a character would bake when stressed and try out new recipes, this character tried making butterbeer; maybe be adventurous; have a food blog or something to keep you occupied.
  • 11. Be With Your Pets - Pets are loyal creatures, and they love you, even when you're being a pain in the ass, and I hear they're very good listeners.
  • 12. Now I don't know about you, but I LOVE Musicals. If you are a musical fanatic like me and you're feeling a little down, my dears; listen to those awesome voices, because sometimes we just - need - a break (Also, if you haven't watched RENT, watch it - NODAYBUT TODAY...or Starkid...Starkid make the most funniest musical parodies, even if you don't like musicals I suggest it, and if you're not enjoying their YouTube Channel, then I'll eat my own hat).
  • 13. ASK ME ANYTHING. If you really want to talk to somebody but you don't want to talk to people you know and you just want to get things out, my ASK box is always open.
  • 14. Find a hobby. If you don't really want to talk to anybody, that's okay, sometimes we need to just have some 'me time'. In my me times, I usually deactivate from Facebook, and just focus on things that make me happy. Like; Puzzles, Sudoku, Games, writing, cooking, singing, whatever it is...travelling even. Enjoy yourself.
  • 15. Travel. Maybe being stuck in the same place is the problem, maybe you're head wants to be in a place where it can ACTUALLY THINK.
  • 16. Go Hiking. I suppose Hiking is similar to walking but if you're an outdoor person, this is a great way to clear your head and to feel fresh.
  • 17. Hit The Gym. Or even do your own exercises. I like to walk - do crunches, and I love Zumba. I love dancing. If you love being active, this is also another way to clear your mind from negative things.
  • 18. GO SEE A MOVIE!!! When was the last time you had fun? Even if it's just by yourself. You're allowed to treat yourself. Go, enjoy, be surrounded by people, even if they're strangers.
  • 19. If you like coffee, treat yourself for one at a local cafe. Who knows, you might meet your coffee soulmate in a cafe one day.
  • 20. STOP thinking Negative. Have a Pros/Cons List. Try not to outweight the Pros list with the Cons. Please?
  • You are good enough.
  • 21. Write down a bucket List, and start ticking them off. Having goals and dreams is healthy. If you have dreams, then you have a direction of where you're going.
  • 22. Get help. It's okay, if you're head is in a really bad place to reach out to people. It really is okay.
  • 23. Help others. If you're not sure what to do with yourself at all, be useful to other people less fortunate than you. Volunteer! Work with Charity, Feed the homeless, help the guide dogs association.
  • 24. Smile more. It looks good on you, believe me. Spend time with your guilty pleasures, my guilty pleasure is binge watching glee
  • 25. Please DO NOT go to a pub to drink to ease your mind, if you are going to do that, do it with a friend, or somebody close.
  • 26. Eat Chocolate. Okay yes while society says NO DON'T EAT THE FATTY FOOD. Hey; screw them. If you feel better eating a bit of junk go for it. There's nothing wrong with eating a whole pizza or tub of ben and jerry ice cream when feeling upset - just try not to make TOO much of a habit : p
  • 27. REBLOG YOUR FOLLOWERS POSTS, you might be surprised that you aren't the only one feeling the way you're feeling, you might be surprised by how much you're forgetting that hey - it's gonna be alright.
  • 28. Do something nice for your neighbour. Ah who knows, have you ever actually talked to them? Maybe they might be lonely too.
  • 29. Have a GAMES Night. A very good friend of mine loves Games. If You LOVE Games, then hell have a marathon of them. Play the sims, be in control.
  • 30. Speaking of marathons...dun dun dun - MOVIE MARATHON, I Don't Know About You Guys, But Having A Harry Potter Movie Marathon always cheers me Up. WITH FOOD Of course, and good company, but this is about cheering yourself up, so if you don't want company, that's okay.
  • 31. Draw. I love drawing too. I suppose I'm more of the creative person. There are a lot of different types of people out there, maybe you like solving things - do those fancy cube things Idk what they're called. If you are like my brother and you love Maths, then maybe you can tutor someone. On one hand you're helping someone, and doing something you like doing, just like I'm drawing because I like drawing.
  • 32.Be with kids. believe it or not, kids are the most innocent little munchkins, and they honestly don't care what you look like, if you play hide and seek with them they'll be thrilled, so long as you're nice to them, they're generally nice to you... but be warned, they tell it how it is too. I talk a bit different. The most popular thing they've said to me was "Is that why you talk funny, because of the things in your teeth?" (They've also never really seen braces before) I even had one kid determined to get me to sing 'Everything is awesome' I'll never forget that because this kid clearly didn't care how I sounded, and just wanted me to sing with her. I felt great.
  • 33. If you're into Fairy Tales, Please Please Read Chris Colfer's The Land Of Stories series 1-4. It's an amazing series, and you almost forget what world you're in once you start reading. Plus, there's more coming (I'm a little excited)
  • 34. Watch Pixar Movies. You can't go wrong.
  • 35. GO TO HOGWARTS. Harry Potter Fan? Visit - Platform 9 3/4s in London, or go to the Harry Potter World, or if you can't actually visit these sites, go on Pottermore.
  • 36. Read Fan Fiction, you might not be a harry potter fan, but whatever fandom you are in, believe me sometimes Fan Fictfion Cheer me up. I adore Glee *Don't Judge Me* and Dalton is the best thing ever. Or Little Numbers...or Both. They cheer me up big time.
  • 37. Role play. If you like superheroes or characters, go be with the crowd. I believe they have events like Comic Con, and on Facebook they even have Events for such things, go be with strangers! So long as it's safe of course.
  • 38. Write a letter to the person who inspires you most and send it. You might be surprised by an answer.
  • 39. Pick up your instrument. Don't ignore your musical talent if you do have a musical talent. Remember, you're worth it. I don't care what you've done. Pick, It Up.
  • 40. Maybe go visit your family? I know this is about 'quality me time' but if you haven't seen your family in such a long time or are at a distance. Maybe being surrounded by something familiar is what you need.
  • 41. Change Careers. If you're not enjoying what you're doing or studying, change it. I remember in highschool a teacher said you might change your job 10 - 12 times before getting it right. It'okay, you just haven't found where you're meant to be yet.
  • 42. Enter a competition - Who knows what will come from it, take risks.
  • 43. If you're a risk-taker, challenge yourself. IDK how you're going to do that, but google has some pretty good answers. Even ask your tumblr followers, they follow you for a reason after all.
  • 44. Go on a boat. Go Fishing! I don't know, it's not my thing, but if you like fishing, then hell - go out there and fish.
  • 45. Find time for yourself, are you working too much? Maybe you are working too much. You know life doesn't stop for nobody, and if you keep pushing yourself so hard, time will go so fast and you won't realise how much of that time you could have spent on your own self.
  • The world is not going to end if you treat yourself.
  • 46. You ARE Good Enough. Listen to my words. Sometimes encouragement is all we need, when people feel hopeless, or like everything's gone wrong. It's gonna be okay. I promise, just hang in there.
  • 47. Write Down Quotes that Inspire You. I have a wall of these, and of people that inspire me too, and it reminds me of the good things in life when I'm in a crappy mood.
  • 48. Find something to do. If you're not doing anything, go take up a course, research things that interest you, you might be surprised by what comes from it. Join a community that enjoys doing things you do.
  • 49. Go To The Beach - If you live in Australia like me, visiting the beach is actually really calming and me and my best friend always would go on a random drive, and drive up to a beach or a look out, and it was always calming. Enchanting too sometimes. Maybe we forget about the place we live in, and what's exciting about the place. If you're in New York, visit Broadway or The Statue Of Liberty, or if you're in London, go to the London Bridge, or the Eye, visit the Eiffel Tower if you're in Paris...just go Anywhere.
  • 50. Take a random journey. Go on a train to somewhere new, go on a road trip. You never know what's around the corner.
Writers Creed Interview: @justscribbledwords

……. I would write a few things I felt, yes like you said mostly about pain because that was all I did feel. But I never saw writing as anything more than that, it wasn’t even a hobby back then. But now it’s a passion…

This time at the Writerscreed Interview, we got to talk with Shraddha, the sassy and inspiring writer behind the blog @justscribbledwords. We got to talk about problems writers face and what does writing really meant to her and how she aspires to contribute in uplifting the writers on tumblr that have just started off with their journey. Hope you enjoy the interview.

WC: “Justscribbledwords”, a subtle name as we would like to call it, as its simple but holds a deep meaning to it just like your writings, so how did an url like that strike you and what meaning does it hold in your frame of reference.

S: It just seemed appropriate to what I wanted to do, I just wanted to scribble words with feelings and emotions. Google told me to choose a URL that wouldn’t be too hard to remember or read. So I had a list of URLs similar to this one, but JustScribbledWords was on the top and my first choice and soon it seemed like my only choice since it fit. And yes it seems subtle but also intense and serves the purpose of letting people know that I am just made of scribbled words.

WC: Fair enough, subtle and intense, quite a combination you got there.

WC: Any other names your family or aquaintances call you by or something you love to be called and do you love your name, if so then why?

S: I have many many nicknames among my friends in real life and in tumblr life. Most of them are just short for of my real name Shraddha, which means faith in Sanskrit. I am not a huge fan of my name, because one- people usually pronounce and spell it wrong and two - I don’t like the meaning. I used to think of faith as just faith in god and so I hated it because I don’t have that faith but recently I’ve been trying to make up my own meaning for it as in not faith in god(for which I was named) but just faith, maybe in the universe or myself or my words. Other than that my family has a ‘pet name’, for me that I don’t really tell anyone. If you are interested the names my friends have come up with are Shraks, Addha and Shadie

WC: Well Shadie sounds good to be honest, yeah wrong pronunciation of your name is definitely annoying, a pain only the ones that go through it can relate to.

WC: What actually got you into writing was it a hobby that turned into passion or a series of event lead you to it or you were finding and safe abode and you thought nothing could be better than words, your writings do portray a painful contrast which makes us more curious indeed.

S: I think it all had started with writing in a diary for no reason around 4-5 years ago. I just needed to get a few things in writing because I wanted to remember them or forget them. I needed to somehow know whether I wasn’t the only one who felt it. Tumblr wasn’t a very open popular thing back then so I thought I’d try and put up some things here. I made a new account just for my writing which was this account. I would write a few things I felt, yes like you said mostly about pain because that was all I did feel. But I never saw writing as anything more than that, it wasn’t even a hobby back then. But now it’s a passion, it’s not just my oxygen but something more that keeps you alive. One can call it an obsession but that sounds negative at times. I see writing as my calling at times even though it’s not something I pursue professionally or ever will I think, but we never know.

WC: Writing does keeps many of the real version of us alive, its like a way to bid farewell to some problems or situations even if thats for a small period, many would connect to that concept of yours and yeah obession doesn’t seems quite a good word for it.
Moving on to our next question.

WC: So what problems did you face as you started off on Tumblr like what were the challenges and how did you face them?

S: When I started off on tumblr one thing that always bugged me (as superficial as the problem was) that I didn’t have enough notes on my posts and I didn’t have enough followers. I think I was trying to seek validation from people about what I was feeling and whether they felt it too or was it relatable, because I didn’t want to be the only one feeling them. Another problem I faced was not having any friends here and it often felt lonely to see people conversing and having people who they could call friends. And the main problem was not knowing of any platforms that helped new writers grow.
I can say now that I have overcome almost all of these problems. At times I still do worry about notes and followers but not as much and I’ve found some really good friends here who now seem like a family of misfits fitting together and also various platforms like yours that helps writers grow and be part of a community.

WC: Well yeah notes are a killer for anyone starting off with tumblr but its all gets better with time and we do agree on that seeking validation point, but we do reach a point where we just stop caring about the followers and focus more on building our community and getting reviewed by writers we admire, yeah we actually are a family of misfits fitting together with words being our ultimate glue.
Thats why we focus on connecting to more and more people and helping them out so they don’t give up just because of dull response to their posts.

WC: So you’re a part of Procast which is one of the amazing communities here on Tumblr, what do you have to say about that and how do you feel about it?

S: Yes! The Procast is one of the best communities of writers and I am so honoured to be a part of it. I have become friends with some of the most amazing people here on tumblr and I know I’ve found a few friends for life. If only people had a look at our Facebook group chat, they would know how amazing the members are!

WC: Oh that indeed sounds good, for those of you reading this interview, unaware of Procast, well its a group of amazing writers that post amazing proses and poetry, we’ll surely recommend you to check it out.

WC: What do you like writing about, we do see quite similar shades in your work but are you flexible with others genres too and does what does writing means to you, if you could elaborate on that.

S: I like to write mostly about love or heartbreak, they’ve always been synonyms to me. I also seem to write a lot about pain and sadness. I love it when I get messages saying they relate to my writing but at the same time I feel extremely sad that there are so many people relate to such sad and painful things.
Writing to me is life, it has become a part of me or just me, my being. I can’t imagine myself ever not writing now.

WC: Well many writers including us, love the emotions you pour into those quotes, poetry and proses, makes it easy for the reader to connect and relate, well its a magical felling to experience.

WC: If you ever got an opportunity to help writers, what would you do, how would you keep them motivated and do you have any of your plans for helping the writer community that are under work?

S: If I can get an opportunity for that, I would really love to help writers, but honestly I don’t know how. I am not at a level where I can give any advice to them because even though I’ve been here for quite some time, I’ve only started being more active for the past year. And I might just be planning something but it’s all hush hush yet, it’s just an idea so if it goes to plan, I’ll let you know for sure.
Other than this all I can say is let the smallest things motivate and inspire you to write it draw or whatever art you like to pursue. Don’t let haters discourage you.

WC: Thats one hell of an encouragement, our audience would surely appriciate that. Coming to our next question.


WC: What improvements would you like to see in writerscreed, something about us you dislike and would want us to work upon also any of your ideas that you would like us to implement?

S: Honestly I really can’t find any improvements needed, you people literally reblog everybody’s WC tag, you all are active, in fact so damn active that I sometimes wonder if any of you ever sleep, you have given me an a chance to be a part of an awesome community and I’ve made some really really good friends and connected with many artists. I cannot ask for anything more!

WC: We really appreciate that.

WC: Before wrapping up, we would want you to tell any fun fact about you be it any thing you’ve done or happend to you and you an also share something about you that very less people know.

S: Oh something not many people know about me, now this is a hard one to think about. I think people think I am too closed off when I am not, they just need to ask the right questions and I’ll tell them everything.

WC: It was our pleasure interviewing you, we appreciate you taking time out, to talk to us, hope many writers get inspired reading this interview.

S: I really enjoyed whole way through the interview, thank you for choosing me to be a part of this.

randomproxy  asked:

I realize this is a personal question from a rando stranger, but: do you mind explaining a little about what made you pull back from being a 4ch raider/participating in lulz culture? a friend of mine works for twitter's abuse dept and she is really struggling how to figure out the best ways to fight online trolling - any anecdote would be useful? (i recognize this is a big ask - feel free to ignore this if it's too much/private to talk about)

No it’s fine to talk about! I prefer to be open about my abhorrent behavior in the mid/late aughts since it was pretty impactful on both people I hurt and my own way of dealing with that kind of culture.

Trolling online these days is so much more organized, methodical, and scientific than it was back then. Social media was still a new concept, and websites had a lot more focus on niche audiences. Peoples’ online presences were scattered across several websites– their art would be on DeviantART, their private musings would be on their Xanga, their most social activity would be a forum attached to an anime fansite, and their different interests would be spread across several messageboards, LJ communites, Yahoo/MSN groups, etc.

Site names have changed and this isn’t 100% untrue now, but for the most part, segmented online presences are a dying breed. Most people share ALL of their work and thoughts on tumblr/instagram/twitter/reddit, all with one account, all very easy to learn about somebody. Things like DA still exist but are tertiary and not a primary method of interacting online. Reverse image searching, google maps, facebook, and people-finding tools also make hunting down someone to harass or impersonate them a lot easier.

I start by saying this because it’s important to observe the evolution of trolling, both in methods and intent. The internet is a completely different animal– before, to use an unsettling analogy, it was almost more about the hunt, now it’s about the kill.

Nothing in particular made me leave the subculture overnight. There was no conscious revelation that I could share in the hopes that others have it. I began roleplaying in World of Warcraft in 2009, and if I had to offer a turning point, that would be it. I went from being an angry little internet elemental to somebody meaningfully involved in a creative community that needed to work together to make each other happy instead of constantly trying to one-up one another. I played a character that was friendly, charismatic, and loved to help people. Between having to be in this constant mindset for roleplay’s sake and just in general getting to know people, I developed empathy for my fellow internet inhabitants.

As time went on it helped me explore more facets of myself, namely my very closeted queerness. RP communities are an extremely mixed bag and I encountered a lot of people openly sharing points of view I’d never considered about the world, eloquent people using a written platform where they can say everything they want to say in one place and consider it as long as they need before putting it out there.

I didn’t leave behind cruel behavior because I was stricken by shame. I just lost interest in it because I found more positive outlets, and listened to people with opinions counter to ones I’d held.

But how does this tie in to preventing abuse? I’m not sure that it does. Obviously there are plenty of cruel, manipulative, dreadful people in RP and other creative communities that have no intention of working as a team or considering others’ viewpoints, so it’s obviously not a result of the environment. But I think the empathy is an important factor– people behave as they do online because anonymity dampens empathy. Even if someone’s Twitter handle is their real name and their icon is their real face, their feelings are ultimately just a bunch of words on a screen, a person that in no way impacts your life. You don’t have to be privy to the devastation on their face as you tell them they’re broken and deserve to die. Bullying is a senseless but perpetual aspect of human nature and the emotional disconnect makes it worse.

Unfortunately empathy is not something Twitter, or any website, is capable of instilling in its users. That is something that needs to be addressed offline. People need to be made more acutely aware of their monkeyspheres, and be asked difficult questions like, “Why do you perceive X as unworthy of compassion? Who are they hurting? What is your goal? Why do you think that needs to be a goal?”

And you can’t ask these questions online. You can’t make somebody uncomfortable with their worldview if they can hit backspace at any time and ignore it. But maybe asking the right questions often enough will eventually force them to think about it whether they want to or not.

Regardless, most people who bully do so because they have a perception of what’s “right”. This isn’t always a deep social issue such as racism; sometimes it can be something as simple as not liking how they spend their time, or the way they dress. One of my lowest moments in my teens was against a fanartist who traced various artwork to instead be their OC and a canon character. That’s it. That was their crime. But I was determined to make them stop doing it by any means necessary, and this meant impersonating them on /b/, alerting them to their existence. They figured out pretty quickly that it was me impersonating but they had already fixated on their artwork and I received no backlash, and they continued to hound them across various accounts. For what it’s worth, I did reach out a couple years back to apologize– but the damage remains.

Take that mindset and apply it to anything, from the notion that the bully has been denied something and is lashing out against a perceived cause, to a genuinely devoted moral crusade. The belief that they are “doing the right thing” (teaching a lesson, attacking somebody “bad”, thickening someone’s skin) is a unifying factor. Nobody sits there chuckling about how evil they’re being– they’re thinking, “this will show them”, and they get a rush out of having some control over this perceived slight.

What can websites do? They can take a more active role in moderating their community. They can ban hateful accounts and personally reach out to victims.

What can victims do? It fucking sucks, but don’t engage. I see a lot of debate on this but standing up to bullies online is a lot different than in real life. With a lot of media being based on “sharing”, retaliation opens up the potential for a wider audience of scum and they absolutely thrive on distress and watching people spend their time acknowledging them. You are not showing that bullying won’t be tolerated by refuting their words, you’re just giving them more shit to screenshot into their group chats before they roll in and call you more slurs that you publicize for them yourself by engaging. I say this from the perspective of someone who did that. A blocked/deleted insult is no fun. An insult with a “get a load of this guy cam” reaction image followed by several reblogs of people insulting the anon or saying how unacceptable this is is successful.

What can trolls do? Find a better outlet, you guys. Honestly. It’s a rush to feel like you have some kind of control and power over people by drawing reactions out of them but making people happy feels even better. Cruelty impresses only people that will have no qualms hurting you too.

“I dunno. I’m not quite sure where I stand with her.” Harry murmured, leaning back against the couch as he continued scrolling through his Twitter. “The last time we hung out was on tha’ yacht, and that was basically last year.. I mean, Kendall’s really nice, and she’s proper fit, but the fans get so crazy when I’m seen with her..”

“Don’t mind t’e fans.. Do what makes you happy!” Niall interrupted, shrugging as he did so.

“I read a couple articles before saying she really wants to get back together with you. You should text her or something!” Liam smiled encouragingly, gesturing towards Harry’s phone.

“Wha- are you crazy? I can’t just text her out of the blue and be like, ‘Hey, wanna get some lunch sometime? Okay, bye!’ She’s going to think it’s weird.” Harry scoffed, reaching up to run a hand through his hair.

“Did you see her in the Victoria’s Secret show? Her legs just go on and on..”

Kendall Jenner was a name you honestly didn’t think you’d hear again. You knew that Harry was friends with her, but you never knew he had feelings for her to begin with. Of course, thinking about it now, why wouldn’t he have a crush on her? Long flowing hair, sparkling brown eyes, a dazzling smile, and obviously, she was a model! And it wasn’t like you could protest against Harry without coming off as a jealous, green-eyed monster! In fact, one time, you wanted to tell Harry about your feelings for him, but you had overheard him talking to Liam about how good of a friend you were and.. Well, you decided to stash your feelings for him for another time.

“Okay, Y/N. All you have to do is tell Harry you might have feelings for him. It’s not even a big deal, you know? They’re just words. Nothing to be afraid of.” You were standing outside Harry’s hotel room, and you had been standing here for.. About ten minutes, now. If someone were to see you, they’d think you were a creepy stalker. As you raised your fist to knock against the door, you heard two voices from inside.

“Y/N’s so sweet, I love her to bits.” Harry? That was definitely Harry. He loved you?  Butterflies erupted in your tummy as you leaned in to press an ear against the door. A dopey smile was plastered on your face as you continued listening. Now you knew that maybe, just maybe, Harry liked you back! “She picked up a juice fo’ me this morning, from my favourite juice bar! And she even got a green straw for me.”

“Sometimes I feel like she’s actually in love with you. I mean, she got a juice fo’ me, too.. But she’s like, ten times more thoughtful when it comes to you! I didn’t get a green straw, that’s for sure.” Liam laughed lightly. “Do you think she likes you?” Your eyes widened slightly as you pressed yourself tighter against the door, your heart pounding in your chest. This was literally a life or death situation.

“Y/N? Nah.. I don’ think she likes me. She’s just a nice person t’ everyone.”

“No! No, Harry! I like you!” You whispered quietly, reaching up to pinch the bridge of your nose.

“Even if she did like me, that’d be a little awkward. She’s just a friend to me. And..” By this point, you had completely tuned out. You pulled away from the door slowly, your vision growing a little fuzzy as your eyes went out of focus. You thought you were right, you thought Harry liked you back. Maybe all the signals and signs you thought you were receiving.. Was it just Harry being Harry?

So, yes. You were 99.9% sure that Harry didn’t feel the same way about you as you do about him, and you were.. You were fine! You were over it.. Right?

“If you like her, just go for it. She obviously likes you back. Remember all those pictures from the yacht party?” Liam clicked his tongue, Harry letting out a sigh of frustration before nodding lightly.

“Do we need to bring that back?” You muttered under your breath, your brows stitched together in irritation. Every time the boys were together, they just had to talk about Kendall Jenner. They needed to talk about how pretty she was, how fit she was, how she was definitely Harry’s type. You knew it was bad to be petty and jealous about her, but you couldn’t help it! You looked like a potato standing next to Kendall, and honestly, you were sick of thinking about her. She was all over your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr - You name it, Kendall Jenner was on it. And now, knowing for sure that Harry liked Kendall made you sick to the stomach.

“Wha’ was tha’? Couldn’t hear yeh, love.” Harry poked your leg with his toe, raising an eyebrow in curiosity as you looked up from your magazine at him.

“Hm? I didn’t say anything.” You feigned a smile, glancing down at your magazine as you flipped to the next page. Immediately, your smile dropped.

‘Check out Kendall Jenner’s first pair of wings on the Victoria’s Secret-’

“There’s literally no escape from you, is there?“ You grumbled, flipping to the next page roughly. “Anyways, I didn’t say anything.” 

“..Yes, you did.” Harry trailed off, shaking his head when you didn’t respond. “Alright, fine. Little miss stubborn, I’ll leave you alone.” He laughed lightly, noting the grumpy expression that now adorned your face. “Ooh, I was thinking about taking Kendall as my date to the premier for Dunkirk. I don’ know when’s a good time to ask her, though.”

You stopped reading your magazine as soon as those words slipped out of Harry’s mouth. He wanted to take her to watch Dunkirk? But you were always his go-to date for events and shows! That wasn’t fair! Kendall already stole Harry’s feelings, she couldn’t take the best-friend role away as well! You bit your tongue as you flicked through the magazine, feeling a mixture of anger, jealousy, and sadness bubble up inside you. All you had to do was stay calm. Think about things that make you happy. Harry made you happy. Kendall makes Harry happy, obviously. This technique wasn’t working very well.

“Careful t'ere, Y/N. No need t’ destroy t'e magazine.” Niall teased, leaning over to see what tabloid you were reading now. “Blac Chyna left Rob Kardashian? Didn’t she just give birth t’ their baby??”

“So, Dunkirk?” You slapped the magazine against Niall’s chest as he took it quickly, jolting at the sudden outburst from you. “That was a fun time, no?”

“Yeah, it was real fun.. You should know, you were there on set with me everyday, silly goose.” Harry snorted, rolling his eyes playfully.

“Yup. Went on juice runs for you, and I made sure your trailer was always nice and clean for when you came back during breaks. Ironed your uniform, too.” You nodded, feeling your cheeks burn at the sight of Harry beginning to text something on his phone. “And you’re planning to take Kendall?”

“Uh, tha’s what I just said.. Typical Y/N, always half-listening in on conversations.” Harry teased, Liam staring at you warily when your face became noticeably pink from anger.

“Y/N, are you ok-” 

“You know, I just think it’s interesting that you want to take Kendall as your date to the premier of Dunkirk. It’s weird that you haven’t seen her in how many months and suddenly you want to invite her to watch your movie.” You shrugged, sitting up attentively. 

“Jesus, Y/N.” Harry furrowed his brows, setting his phone down and glaring at you. “What’s your problem? Every time we talk about something related to Kendall, it’s like you shut off and turn into an emotionless robot.” He scoffed, crossing his arms. 

“I don’t know what you’re talking about. But if you wanna invite Kendall to watch Dunkirk, that’s fine.” 

“I’m taking her as my date.” 

“Fine, take her as a date! Maybe even take her out for dinner beforehand, why don’t you do that, too?” 

“Y/N-” 

“Just- Why do we always have to talk about Kendall Jenner?!” 

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y/n… where’s ur chiLL 

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anonymous asked:

I came out really recently but Im scare to continue my transition. I dont want to be unemployed or struggle finding housing/partners/doctors etc :'( I wonder if I should just pretend to be a girl again

Anon, only you now what’s best for you right now. Coming out is a balancing act between physical safety, financial stability, and emotional health. Some people can come out all at once, and some take a long time.

But good news! Being trans and transitioning doesn’t mean a life of loneliness. Far from it! The world is getting more and more progressive every day and it’s far, FAR easier to find the support and resources you need than even just 5 years ago.

There’s a lot of ways to find support:
1) Find fellow queer people offline and online. If you are a student, your local college campus probably has at least 1 club, as well as mental health resources.

2) Talk to other trans-masculine people and listen to their stories on tumblr, YouTube, Twitter, etc. There are several support groups on Facebook that just focus on transition resources. You can friend me privately if you want to be invited to a top surgery support group. (It is inclusive of all gender identities, not just trans men.)

3) Setup an appointment with a gender therapist. They should be able to point you in the direction of local resources and help you through some of your fears of rejection.

Transition can be hard  and I used to think I was better off being closeted or stealth. These days, I realize there is nothing to be ashamed of in being trans, and I’m glad I’m not cis. You will lose some toxic people, but you stand to gain so many more genuine friendships!

And just a few personal stats, Anon – I didn’t start social transition til I was 29. I didn’t go on my first date til I was 30. I didn’t start T til I was 33. I was a virgin until I was 36. I didn’t have top surgery til just this year at age 40. All things I previously felt were impossible to overcome, but they were only impossible because I was too depressed to reach out to people.

So… please, continue to reach out and make more connections. The world is not as grim as it feels like from within the closet. <3

anonymous asked:

HELLO this might be a little personal so if you don't want to answer this question I completly understand. I was wondering how you deal with your (art)-anxiety (you know the thing: self critisism and knocking yourself down all the time, being scared shitless about the future because life is getting real now). Do you have some tips or thoughts? X

Alright. So this is a big topic. It’s not always easy to tell since we tend to make sure to project our best self via social media, but anxiety and self doubts are not especially rare with artists including the ones you think have *made it*.  

However, while I can talk about how I personally deal with anxiety, we all feel differently and not everything that works for me will work for you. Take what’s useful to you and leave the rest here. I’m just a silly 23 year old spewing nonsense into the void.

Also, if you struggle and feel like you need help, please do the scary thing and reach out to somebody you trust and/or talk to a mental health professional.

And obviously this is not a complete list because I have come to the realization that at the pace I’m writing we’ll be old and grey by the time I’m done.

Anyways here we go …

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Character: Stiles Stilinski

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Soulmate AU - Soulmates meet in dreams

A/N: This is a little wordy, but it had to set up a scene! I got really into this, and I’m thinking maybe a second part? ;) Enjoy!

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The clock hit 10 o’clock P.M. and you jumped up from your spot on the couch. Your mom looked over at you with her eyebrows creased. “You’re going to bed earlier than usual. It’s Friday, sit and watch a movie with me!”

               You glanced at the television and then back at your mom. “I’m actually a bit tired. Did a lot at school, today. Goodnight!” You rushed the words out and practically ran upstairs.

               Practically throwing bathroom stuff around, you got yourself ready for bed and put on your favorite pajamas. You even threw on a little smudge-proof mascara. If your mother saw you doing this, she would think you were insane. But she didn’t really understand the soulmate thing, either. Most people your parent’s age and older didn’t understand it, because it was just discovered recently. Meeting your soulmate in your dreams, being able to control your dreams while sleeping; it was a crazy concept, but there were studies to prove it was true.

               Your soulmate appeared in your dreams a couple months ago, the night you turned 18. You had read a lot about soulmates and how the dreams worked, but when you experienced it for yourself, it was nothing like you imagined.

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Studying in Vet School

Vet school is not the easiest degree and therefore requires a lot of time (which we don’t have), dedication (which we must have) and motivation (which can be non-existent), in order to be successful. Now, there is no secret formula on how to study as everyone learns differently but, here are some study tricks, tips and techniques that may be useful.

To type or  not to type…

I was previously a hand-writing notes kinda gal but have recently changed my ways. I used to print off the lecture slides prior to class and then would annotate, scribble and highlight all over them during the lecture. After class, I would then write out the scribbles I had taken into coherent notes with diagrams etc. This method had successfully gotten be through vet school up until this year.

With the increasing volume of information I am expected to learn, I have found that typing is much more efficient. If I type during lectures, it saves me from having to re-write them like I previously did. I edit them, add additional information and pictures and then print them off. This also allows me more time to actually learn and understand the information. The added bonus of typing is that your notes are easy to put onto a tablet or to access from computers on prac or when you graduate using DropBox, Google Drive etc. 

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Textbooks; worth it or a waste of money?

I love textbooks and still call on my beloved Dyce for an anatomy refresher or Zachary and McGavin for a pathological process. I am head-over-heels for Ettinger’s Textbook for Veterinary Internal Medicine. I think it is a brilliant investment for your career. 

Textbooks are a good resource to have though they are very expensive. I suggest trying to source online PDFs if your pennies are tight, or have a look on Abe Books (secondhand books) or the Book Depository (may be cheaper than retail). 

If you aren’t too sure before you pass over your precious dollars, check out your vet school’s library for a copy and see if you think it will be a valuable resource for your collection or turn to the Vetblr community for advice on what they think is a brilliant reference or a review on a particular book!

Originally posted by lovely-lenne

Go to your lectures 

Seriously, go to lectures. Even if they are recorded, still go. You will be in an environment surrounded by other people who are engaged in a lecture which can encourage you to concentrate as opposed to sitting at home and watching it with a million and one distractions. I know some people learn better in a home environment (and fall asleep in lectures) and that is totally fine, but for me, being present in the lecture is way more beneficial. Plus, if you are at home listening to a lecture, you may miss out on your professor imitating a horse walking with Stringhalt!

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Concentration is the key

I am sure that I am not the only one who sits there reading the same sentence of their equine orthopaedics notes over and over again because they are too busy thinking about how amazing cats are (am I right!?). I am also sure that I am not the only one who sits there typing notes to be seen 2 minutes later on Facebook or Tumblr. 

We all have those moments (sometimes days), where you just seriously cannot concentrate whatever the heck you do. When I am having one of these bouts, I put time restrictions on myself. I find that when I do this, I tend to stay more focused at the task at hand. The Pomodoro Technique is brilliant. You study for 25 minutes and then take a 5 minute break. Repeat this 4 times and then take a 10 minute break, then start again. This way you are giving yourself a little reward after making your brain work really hard for those 25 minutes. There are some pretty cute apps out there as well for it!

Originally posted by firstars

Suffering from the zero motivation thing?

Books? Check! Laptop? Check! Highlighters? Check! Motivation? ….. Now you can be all set and ready to go but what is the point when as soon as you open that first page on your pathology textbook you just have absolutely no interest in what you are doing. Not only does this result in a miserable you, it also isn’t productive at all. I go through this from time to time where I just kick myself for wanting to be a vet and dragging myself through 6 years of uni and just can’t stand the thought of another second of cattle reproduction. 

Best thing to do when this happens is do not force yourself to study. It just makes everything a whole heck worse. Take a break (even if you literally just sat down to study). Go for a walk, go play with your pet, talk to a friend or call family. If I am really not happy, then I watch an episode of The Supervet or All Creatures Great and Small or take a trip down memory lane and look at photos from my past few years at vet school. Little things that remind you why you want to be here are sometimes all you need to get yourself into gear. 

Originally posted by therainbowoverme

Organisation is also the key 

I don’t know about you, but if I have everything in files with dividers, books with labelled sticky tabs in a categorical order in my bookshelf and an assortment of stationery I just feel like everything is right in the world. Having your notes prepared and stored in an orderly manner makes it easier for you to access information and is a good habit to get into yearly on in the degree. Also organise your computer files in a logical manner and back them up too! I still frequently reach for notes from previous years and it helps that I know where everything is. 

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Exams - that one word that strikes fear in all vet students

Preparation is key. I try and start studying for finals about a month before my first exam. This easier said than done because in that month, because you are still learning new material whilst going over older stuff. I write a list of topics to be covered before the exam for each unit and tick them off as I go.

I use my typed notes as guide and draw on textbooks and journal articles to incorporate my understanding of topics into a massive mindmaps on A3 paper. I find hand writing mind maps and drawing out anatomy, diseases etc really reinforces what I learn’t throughout the semester. 

Originally posted by writingbox

Feel free to add anymore tips or tricks that you may have and happy studying!

So toward the end of last week, I reached the whopping number of 800 followers on this beloved arrogant tol son! Now, my mind pondered on what best way to celebrate such an achievement and I decided a sort of bias list/ follow forever would be the best option. Now, this is going to get incredibly long, so I am going to put majority of it under a read more just so that it does not bombard people’s dashes.

Please note, that there are over 810 of you all, so I will apologise now if I forget some of you but know that I love you all!

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About 2 months ago, maybe a little more I stopped being best friends with my best friend. Friends fight and we had fought before but we always seemed to find each other again. This time was different this time we didn’t find each other.

You never think your best friend would be the person who tears your heart up, breaks it into a million pieces, and stomps on it till there is nothing left but mush. You never picture yourself to be the person to do it back. But we did. We hurt each other over and over and over to make one of us feel better as if we were “winning”. But all we were doing was destroying all possibilities of fixing the tear in our friendship. All we did was make a bigger hole.

You spend your whole life with someone that you start to take them and your connection for granted. Until you have nights where you knew they would be there for you, where they would put you back onto the right path. But they aren’t there anymore.

It may not hit you right away. The whole missing them thing. It could take days, weeks, months maybe even years. But you’ll get to that point. You can say many things to yourself to make you think different.

“You are strong, you don’t need her, you don’t miss her, you never want her back in your life, things are easier without her.” But it’s all fake. You are strong but you are stronger with her. You may not need her now but you will, time will tell. You may not want her back in your life right now, but try to picture someone else as your maid of honour or someone else watching your kids when you grow up. You don’t miss her? Wait till the memories come up on Facebook from 1,2,3,4 years ago, look how happy you 2 were. Thing might be easier right now but who’s gonna be there for you when things get tough?

One late night when nothing seems to be going right and for some god-forsaken reason you are looking through your photos you’ll see her. You’ll see the picture of you and her and you’ll crack a smile . You don’t know why but you will. A bunch of images and laughs will all scatter your brain. You will remember the night you showed up at her house at 4 am to make sure she was ok, or the night she stayed on the phone with you for hours and listened to you cry over the stupid boy. You’ll remember all the stupid memories like the first time you 2 got drunk and drunk dialled all the boys who “f**ked you over in 2015” or the time you put your hand prints in each other’s closets to never forget . And after you crack you smile maybe laugh a little you’ll get a pain.

A pain so deep in your stomach it’s unreal. You’ll feel your face tighten up as you get ready for the tears. You’ll feel you whole body freeze in pressure as your brain thinks. Thinks about the decisions you 2 have made. Was it really worth the IG post?

Was it really Worth it to post a screenshot of her post and hashtag it “#yourplayin’”? Or completely make the other person seem like a idiot on social media? Did you feel fabulous after it? Huh? Did it make you feel awesome to embarrass a girl you loved for sooo many years to get a couple “rt” at the bottom of a stupid picture that no one will remember 2 weeks from then but you and her?

You’re going to regret it. Regret the moment you didn’t decide to be the bigger person and apologize. You’re gonna regret the first time you let the words “ihateher” spit out of your mouth. You’re gonna regret everyone someone said her name and your response was “oh her”. Because it all seems so stupid. Why would you ever do something so cruel to someone who meant so much to you?

So to the friend that I hurt but equally hurt me back, I’m sorry. I know there is a point of no forgiveness. I know we reached that point but I’m still sorry. Life goes and people stay and people leave and growing up I sure as hell never thought I’d lose you. And maybe it’s better this way but who knows? I’m sorry I broke your heart more than a guy probably ever has, I’m sorry I made you feel lonely, I’m sorry I put other people’s views on “our breakup story” before the thought of how you would feel.

Dear ex bff, I’m sorry.

They'll Tear Us Apart If You Give Them The Chance

Everything looks emotional in italics. I’m sorry it took me so long to get this done but life really got in the way :c However, Princes Daniel, Philip, Harry, Louis and William are finally back!

I’d like to quickly dedicate this chapter to Shelley, who’s been my rock for the past few days and probably for the next few decades. You’re already pretty much my best friend ever, and I’m going to cherish that tweet for the rest of my life for bringing me to you. I hope we last like Dan and Phil. I love you. <3 

anyway on with the gay princes 

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