So... I'm a fem-androgyne and I REALLY want bottom surgery and a breast reduction. I know the breast reduction would be easy; I could just lose some weight for that. But I don't think I'll be able to get a bottom surgery (I just want a metoidioplasty, I still want all my lady bits, and I don't want any virilizing effects) it really bothers me when I think about it, and last week my dysphoria was kicking my ass. I don't really know what to do about it.
I’m… honestly in the same boat. I just want to not have periods or ever, ever get pregnant, so I’d be more interested in a tubal litigation and top surgery, but it’s virtually the same boat. I also would need to lose weight before I could get top surgery, because the less you have to work with, the less they have to cut off. It’s complicated stuff and it’s expensive, too, no matter where you live. It’s tough stuff. But until that can happen, when I feel particularly dysphoric, I try to spend time with people who care about me and respect my pronouns; that tends to help me not think about it as much. And if I don’t have access to my friends, I try to play a game or read something to take my mind off it. It’s not a permanent fix like surgery is, but it’s a good way to treat the feeling until you can afford something better.
Also, eating healthy, simple snacks when you’re relaxing can be helpful to your mood, too. Apple slices, carrot spears, maybe some yogurt with honey and granola… all good stuff. The healthier you are, the easier it will be for you to have the energy to keep yourself busy. I hope that this advice helps.