I’m unsure how to answer your messages!
my general thoughts on this topic are this:
I know these things are in the brain or the spirit, everything is afterall, and things like effeminate traits, masculinity, AND sexuality happen in the womb for the most part. I’ve been around children to know that they are pretty much who they are without much conscious thought. And contrary to popular belief their surroundings are not to blame for traits like femininity in boys, or masculinity in girls, or future sexuality, like people assume. Growing up in a female household doesn’t make a boy feminine or gay. Maybe they’d pick up body language and some feminine things, sure, but truly, things like femininity/masculinity and sexuality are just a part of you, no matter what kind of society you were brought up in.
I knew two brothers, one was just a typical little boy - you know, football, rough tumble etc, the other was very very effeminate from head to toe, speech, body language, walk - from a very early age. They both grew up in the same household, yet totally different. So yes, it’s from within. Society plays a part but not much… I’m sure many of us had a ‘gay kid’ in our class or school who didn’t even know what gay was but got called it endlessly before they were even a teenager, just the characteristics got picked up upon. Society can play a part in how you choose to behave, but it can’t really keep you from how your nature intended you to be, unless you’re very good at covering up your tendencies. Gay people/feminine men wouldn’t be getting killed in some religious states if their society played a part in who they were. They simply cannot help who they are because it’s in their biology.
(I guess what was confusing to me is the fact that the words gender and sex to me were always one and the same! The term “Gender roles” is a different thing obviously, but the word “gender”, to me, always meant your sex! How long have I been out of the loop on that one? lol
I never saw the word gender as separate to sex. When you see it on a form, you never get asked to state your Gender AND Sex, both words are used for the same thing, to say whether someone is male or female… or in between. The term “Gender roles” makes more sense to me, as it describes behaviour traits, roles in society, etc. Anyway, I rambled, it’s not really important.)
*tumblr may be a sensitive place to discuss this sort of thing i think. it’s bound to offend someone or all. but it wasn’t intended to. it’s not to dissect or judge, just discussing humanity. i accept people for who they are, life is too short and painful as it is. everyone deserves to be comfortable and happy.