CS fandom: Rumbelle is so abusive! Belle should totally leave him! She deserves better!
Rumbelle fandom: At least Rumple and Belle have never tried to kill each other, hurt each other, or make each other feel worthless (on purpose), and actually seem to have seriously untreated mental health issues, like psychosis, PTSD, OCD, psychotic depression, and poor communication skills that drive them to the point of being so insane when they want to protect each other and their loved ones that they no longer totally know what the difference between right and wrong is anymore, like in 6A. It’s never been direct, selfish, or intentional enough of shitty behavior to be considered an inherently abusive relationship, though because the root of their issues are severely untreated mental illnesses, and poor communication that sets the other off in an insane paranoia to protect each other for the right reasons by using shitty methods, but they don’t mean to harm each other.
I think it’s more like Kitsowitz are driving them to these point of displaying toxic behaviors towards each other by making them go insane, and abusing Rumple and Belle for the sake of their OOC plots by not letting them communicate properly, or letting them get professional help from the very beginning, just so they can drag out all the unnecessary bullshit by blowing up a pointless conflict out of proportions. That way they think they can try to make us forget that CS is really abusive.
Hook 100% meant to kill Emma and her family for his own personal desires for revenge. He seems like a pretty mentally/emotionally stable guy. He came up with a very calculated plan to hurt Emma and meant to make her feel worthless by killing her and sending her to the UW because he delighted in hurting her.
He threatened to commit suicide by jumping off of a fucking building to get her attention! Emma brought him back to life against his request. Emma mind raped Hook and the whole town to cover up Killy!Stu’s crimes! Emma chose Hook over her fucking parents! Emma is blackmailing other people for her own personal gain! Hook gave her a bullshit sob story over the rings that he keeps as trophies of the victims he’s murdered, and Emma fell for it! Hook makes rape jokes to Emma all the time!
The root of Rumbelle’s issues is that they are both “difficult people” to love, mentally ill, and have poor communication skills. They don’t mean to hurt each other, but they have picked up some dangerous behaviors towards each other because the writers don’t take their mental illnesses seriously anymore, don’t allow them to get emotional support or professional help anymore, and thought that “It was fun to drive them both to the point of insanity in 6A because they don’t know shit about human psychology, and hoped that it would make everyone forget how truly abusive CS is. But it didn’t work. Rumbelle’s become extremely unhealthy, but it’s still selfless and unconditional true love. I can’t say the same about Hook and CS.
The root of CS’s issues is that Hook is a narcissistic sociopath, he and Emma have committed direct and intentional abuse towards each other for their own personal gain, and they have a negative influence on each other’s personalities and relationships with other people.