trevor project hotline

✨ Mental Health Starter Pack for Times of Change ✨

Change can be scary. It can be difficult, overwhelming, and affect our mental, physical, and emotional health in all sorts of ways. Whatever you’re feeling right now, you definitely don’t have to feel it alone. Below is a list of resources and self-care tips to help make life a little bit easier. And if you don’t need them right now, pass ‘em along to a friend who might.

Got more tips? Reblog and add your favorites to the bottom, or make your own post and tag it #postitforward so we all know where to look.

Resources

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Available 24/7 at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
  • Crisis Text Line: Free, 24/7 support for anyone in crisis. Text START to 741741.
  • IMALIVE: Chat confidentially with a volunteer trained in crisis intervention.
  • 7 Cups of Tea: Speak anonymously with a trained active listener.
  • NAMI: Dedicated to improving the lives of anyone living with mental illness. Free to chat at 1-800-950-6264.
  • Trans Lifeline: Dedicated to the well being of transgender people. USA: 1-877-565-8860. Canada: 1-877-330-6366.
  • The Trevor Project (@thetrevorproject): Confidential suicide hotline for LGBTQ young people. Available 24/7 at 1-866-488-7386.
  • The GLBT National Help Center: Provides LGBTQ people with free and confidential peer support at 1-888-843-4564. Youth Talkline: 1-800-246-7743.
  • It Gets Better Project (@itgetsbetterproject): Communicating to LGBTQ youth around the world that it gets better.
  • To Write Love On Her Arms (@twloha): Dedicated to helping people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide.
  • American Psychological Association: A resource for finding mental health care in your area.
  • NEDA: Help and support for people struggling with eating disorders. You can call 1-800-931-2237 or chat with them online.

Self-Care Tips

  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it.
  • Remember to be kind to others and yourself.
  • Drink plenty of water and don’t forget to eat.
  • Get enough sleep.
  • Have a movie or TV marathon.
  • Read a good book. Start a new series.
  • Read the #positivity and #postitforward tags on Tumblr.
  • Draw something or color in a picture.
  • Take a bath or long shower.
  • Write your thoughts down in a journal.
  • Turn your feelings into art. Make crafts.
  • Bake or cook something you like.
  • Go for a walk. Have a dance.
  • Watch a funny video.
  • Light your favorite candle(s).
  • Listen to your favorite music.
  • Take deep breaths. Try meditation.
  • Talk to a friend, a loved one, or someone you trust.
  • Make a list of things that bring you happiness. (This really works!)
  • Do some of those things! See those people!
World Suicide Prevention Day 2016

Today is World Suicide Prevention Day.

No matter what you are going through, you don’t have to go through it alone. There are resources available to help.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you need it, Tumblr.

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Available 24/7 at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
  • Crisis Text Line: Free, 24/7 support for anyone in need. Text START to 741741.
  • IMALIVE: Chat confidentially with a volunteer trained in crisis intervention.
  • 7 Cups of Tea: Speak anonymously with a trained active listener.
  • American Psychological Association: A resource for finding mental health care in your area.
  • NEDA: Help and support for people struggling with eating disorders. You can call 1-800-931-2237 or chat with them online.
  • To Write Love On Her Arms (@twloha): Dedicated to helping people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide.
  • You Matter (@youmatterlifeline): You Matter was created to let people know that suicide is preventable.
  • NAMI (@namiorg): Dedicated to improving the lives of anyone living with mental illness. Free to chat at 1-800-950-6264.
  • The Trevor Project (@thetrevorproject): Confidential suicide hotline for LGBTQ+ young people. Available 24/7 at 1-866-488-7386.
  • It Gets Better Project (@itgetsbetterproject): Communicating to LGBTQ+ youth around the world that it gets better.

1-800-273-8255

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Available 24/7 at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
Crisis Text Line: Free, 24/7 support for anyone in crisis. Text START to 741741.
IMALIVE: Chat confidentially with a volunteer trained in crisis intervention.
7 Cups of Tea: Speak anonymously with a trained active listener.
NAMI: Dedicated to improving the lives of anyone living with mental illness. Free to chat at 1-800-950-6264.
Trans Lifeline: Dedicated to the well being of transgender people. USA: 1-877-565-8860. Canada: 1-877-330-6366.
The Trevor Project (@thetrevorproject): Confidential suicide hotline for LGBTQ young people. Available 24/7 at 1-866-488-7386.
The GLBT National Help Center: Provides LGBTQ people with free and confidential peer support at 1-888-843-4564. Youth Talkline: 1-800-246-7743.
It Gets Better Project (@itgetsbetterproject): Communicating to LGBTQ youth around the world that it gets better.
To Write Love On Her Arms (@twloha): Dedicated to helping people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide.
American Psychological Association: A resource for finding mental health care in your area.
NEDA: Help and support for people struggling with eating disorders. You can call 1-800-931-2237 or chat with them online.
Self-Care Tips
Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it.
Remember to be kind to others and yourself.
Drink plenty of water and don’t forget to eat.
Get enough sleep.
Have a movie or TV marathon.
Read a good book. Start a new series.
Read the #positivity and #postitforward tags on Tumblr.
Draw something or color in a picture.
Take a bath or long shower.
Write your thoughts down in a journal.
Turn your feelings into art. Make crafts.
Bake or cook something you like.
Go for a walk. Have a dance.
Watch a funny video.
Light your favorite candle(s).
Listen to your favorite music.
Take deep breaths. Try meditation.
Talk to a friend, a loved one, or someone you trust.
Make a list of things that bring you happiness.
(This really works!)
Do some of those things! See those people!

anonymous asked:

hey so caleb adn this whole show really made me not want to kill myself because i dont want to miss out on this incredible story. it has lead me to finding other incredible stories to hang on to and i dont actually feel the urge to kill myself anymore??? so thanks. like really thank you a lot for helping me find my love of stories.

I’m very glad to hear that the show has been a place of comfort and solace for you, and it will always be here for you, but please, do not hurt yourself. I’m relieved that you haven’t been feeling that urge, but if you ever do again, please use one of the resources below, or any other hotline/online support. If it is available to you, and you feel comfortable going, I would encourage you to seek in-person mental health counseling.

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 

Online Chat Support: https://www.imalive.org/

Crisis Textline: http://www.crisistextline.org/

The Trevor Project (LGBT specific hotline): 1-866-488-7386

Trans Lifeline: 1-(877) 565-8860

International Suicide Hotlines: http://suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html

Just please remember that you are loved, that your life has value, and that you cannot be replaced. The world is better with you in it. 

anonymous asked:

@coffee_desperado just posted a suicide note in the ace discourse tag after being harassed by exclusionists and I'm really worried about them. I sent a message telling them to hold on and contact the Trevor Project or another suicide hotline but is there anything anyone else can do?

If they are in immediate danger try contacting the local police or tumblr staff. Otherwise, there’s not much you can do but send them positivity and offer resources to get help.

anonymous asked:

Do you know of any 24hr USA non-suicidal crisis hotlines? Sometimes I wish that I knew of one, so I wasn’t bothering my friends, or my therapist’s voicemail inbox. I’m always feeling my crisis isn’t “big enough” to call, when I desperately need someone to talk to.

As far as I know you can always call the suicidal hotline to talk about your stuff. I just double checked and it specifically says that you can call if you “need emotional support.”

Some hotlines vary by group or state and may not be 24/7 - the Trevor Project has a hotline for queer kids and TAYS youth (13-24 I think) or like California has a the California Youth Hotline. The National Center for Domestic Violence has a hotline - as do many local nonprofits across the country. I know the texting service (741-741) will chat with you without being suicidal too.

If any of you are sent, or if your friends are sent to conversion therapy,

The Trevor Project hotline: 866-488-7386

Or honestly call 911 or local police and have them direct you to someone who can help.

I’m MIND BLOWN that this type of therapy is even a THING. It’ abuse, torture, unconstitutional, (I could go on).

Another way out: Mandated reporters (teachers, pastors, other community leaders) are required to report abuse.
Please seek help for you or your friends. This is 100 percent not okay.

If you need help, please call.

Trevor Project Hotline: 1-866-488-7386

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

National Sexual Abuse Hotline: 1-800-656-4673

LGBTQIA+ friends, I love you.

Friends of color, I love you.

Muslim friends, I love you.

Women friends, I love you.

Immigrant friends, I love you. 

Disabled friends, I love you.

We will never stop fighting for your rights. 

anonymous asked:

My parents are homophobic and I am questioning if I might be lesbian. I'm afraid now and I fear that if I really turn out to be gay, I might do something to kinda hurt myself due to homophobia. Do you have any advice?

This is really serious. The big thing I would say is that your safety is your number one priority. If you do not feel like you are safe to come out or even explore the possibility of being a lesbian, you do not have to do so. Particularly in regards to being out to your family. You never, ever need to do that, especially if you feel it will put you in danger, even by your own hands. 

If you’re really concerned about harming yourself if you’re gay (and usually, if you are in a situation where you are questioning, it is very likely that you are a lesbian), please please please reach out to these resources:

You can access the Trevor Project hotlines 24/7 by calling at  1-866-488-7386.
You can also text by texting “Trevor” to 1-202-304-1200 or you can chat online here from 3pm-10pm EST with a TrevorChat counselor. I’ve wanted to hurt myself before as well, and it is essential to reach out in some way. 

It will really help if you are able to talk to someone who can help you through this, and the Trevor Project is for LGBT people. 

If you do realize you are a lesbian and cannot express who you are to your family or the people around you, know that one of the things the internet is able to provide is a supportive community filled with other LGBTQ people. There are blogs on Tumblr dedicated to closeted and questioning women and there are many online support systems that can be found through resources like GLAAD and the HRC. The Trevor Project also offers support on a number of LGBT issues, including just needing to talk about crushes and stuff.

I sincerely hope that things start going better and your life and please please please look into the Trevor Project.

I need to bury this

Topics related to asexual identity are important to me, but I find it hard to talk about them now, and I feel like I need to explain why before I just shut up about these things again for a while.

I started sharing my experiences as an asexual person on Tumblr because I didn’t consistently have access to spaces outside the internet where I could discuss those experiences with people who would understand them, and because I was still emerging from a very real crisis of identity that had led me to identify myself as asexual in the first place. I had already tried participating in AVEN, but the format of an internet forum didn’t appeal to me, and more importantly, the moderator culture of AVEN around 2011-2012 was becoming more tolerant of bigoted speech that harmed many members of the community and less tolerant of people expressing their frustrations with it. So I started hanging out with aces on Tumblr instead, because the format was more free-form, because the community there was more invested in understanding their experiences and needs as inextricably connected to those of broader LGBT+ communities.

At first the Tumblr ace community was just a really positive place for me to be. But then things very rapidly changed. The tags we used to communicate started becoming clogged up with niche varieties of porn (dinosaur porn, even) posted by trolls trying to make sex-repulsed members of the community uncomfortable. They would also run fake ace blogs filled with inflammatory statements. This stuff was an obstacle to productive community-building, but it was usually more of an annoyance than anything, if you could manage to filter out content that was personally upsetting.

But there was another emerging trend of discussion that had a much bigger impact on the way we in the ace community conceived of ourselves. Around the same time, a number of non-asexual-spectrum LGB people started to make frequent commentary in these same spaces about the way they regarded asexual people in relation to LGBT+ communities, and though I don’t want to oversimplify all the many things they said in community discussions, I can identify a few dominant themes in what they said. Some of them were there to complain that asexual people were appropriating elements of LGB culture to describe essentially privileged experiences. Some were there to argue that asexual identities and terminology, or certain subsets thereof (demisexuality in particular) had inherent and inescapable elements of sex-shaming, and were therefore harmful to LGB people.

The problem with these discussions was not that they were happening, but that they were conducted in a way that tended to disrupt conversations about personal experience. It became impossible to share a story about personal experiences with the Tumblr ace community without risking it being circulated by people attacking asexual terminology in reblogs or misleadingly paraphrased on a meme blog that had the stated purpose of exposing homophobia in the ace community. It could happen just because you mentioned being uncomfortable around the sex-related discussions your friends were having, or because you described the act of disclosing your asexual identity as “coming out”.

All this scrutiny had a pretty negative impact on the way I reacted to casually oppressive behavior within the community. Before all the conflict in the community started, seeing (for example) a casually ableist or heterosexist comment in the Tumblr ace community was a signal to me that we needed to have a dialog about those things, because ableism and heterosexism impact me and other aces personally and those issues need to be resolved to make spaces safe for all of us. But when the conflict was at its peak I started to see these moments not as opportunities to improve my community, but as anxiety-provoking bad omens. It was hard to get past the anxiety that anything an asexual person said in the community could be used against me, and get to actually addressing what was said.

I ended up arguing a lot, even though I was refusing to take a position on some of the major arguments of the time. I didn’t care to argue whether an asexual identity gave one the right to use the reclaimed slur q***r to describe oneself, or whether it was right for asexual people to describe their experiences as experiences of oppression. Mostly I just argued that asexual identities were not inherently harmful toward non-asexual LGB people; that asexual people naturally needed words to describe their experiences; that non-asexual people should be careful about making blanket statements about a marginalized group of people they aren’t part of; and that asexual people do actually face inappropriate pathologization, invalidation, and various forms of hostility for being asexual, whether or not those experiences amount to a discrete form of oppression within or related to heterosexism. In short I felt I had to defend the right of the asexual community to exist and define itself. It was exhausting, because despite the community being relatively small, there was suddenly no end to these arguments.

And sometimes things just went beyond reason; sometimes non-asexual people in these discussions would drop the gauntlet and outright say that “asexuals are creepy” and deserve to be fired or denied the chance to adopt children. I was especially upset by some of the reactions to the Trevor Project (a suicide prevention hotline for LGBT+ youth) soliciting training materials on serving young asexual callers in an affirming way. There were a number of people who said, at the time, that they were outraged by this decision, that it was proof that asexual people were stealing LGBT resources or encouraging LGB youth to deny their true experiences by “hiding” in an asexual identity. It was hard not to read these complaints as showing a literal disregard for the lives of asexual youth. A suicide prevention hotline had just updated its training to better serve a wider population of at-risk youth and people were saying that was a problem. It was after reading those conversations that I posted a quote from the asexuality training materials provided to the Trevor Project to Tumblr, just to show exactly what was in them in the hope that people would stop complaining about an organization trying to reach out to suicidal asexual youth.

It’s weird how much the little things can add up to a lot of pain. Around the time all this crap was going on I made a short personal post on Tumblr, not connected to any ongoing debate I had participated in, where I just remarked on how I’d always felt comfortable around peers of mine who shared the experience of personal disconnection from dominant heterosexual/cisgender culture, as far back as elementary school, even though I wasn’t cognizant of that being a factor in my connection to them until they later disclosed that they were trans or gay. And my post or a screenshot or quote from it appeared on a blog that existed largely just to showcase posts by ace (or furry or otherkin) bloggers with sardonic tags. I think they tagged my post with, “#I’m q***r because I was raised by q***rs in the wild.” If that isn’t the exact wording it’s very close. I didn’t respond to it that the time, because I chose to look at this blog I knew might be snarking at me, so I felt at fault for how much that upset me. But I feel like I probably shouldn’t have to explain why it was invalidating to read a comment like that after sharing that I had recognized in my own life the widespread experience of LGBT+ youth finding each other, even without the terminology or experience to fully express their identities. It isn’t nearly the worst thing that’s been said to me, but it stuck with me for a while and just kept making me feel like a fake about everything I did. Every time I was inclined to second-guess my experiences as someone alienated from straight culture I thought of that one flippant comment. I think it’s because I had let my guard down. I was dropping the game I play in straight society, of keeping my inner experiences to myself and being prepared for inappropriate pathologization or disbelief or hostility when I did talk honestly about them.

So I just stopped making myself vulnerable on Tumblr. By this point I had stable partner relationships with people who understood me and I just didn’t need an asexual community in the same way I had before. It’s still important for asexual communities to exist, but I was no longer personally counting on one to help me respect myself and trust my own experiences, and engaging with the Tumblr ace community had just become too painful and unhealthy for me to continue. So I gradually stopped participating in any Serious Ace Discussions on Tumblr.
But I’d just like to make the case, now, that asexual people should have spaces where they can talk casually about their own experiences and not have those discussions turned into discussions on the relative ethical merits of different systems of terminology, or on the limits of what can or can’t be called oppression, or on the limits of who can or can’t be said to belong in LGBT+ communities.

You know who gets to do that all the time? You know who gets to talk about their personal experiences of sexuality among friends just about anywhere they go, and not have to worry about the discussion turning to whether their identities are “inherently slut-shaming” or appropriative of LGB culture? Straight people do. And I don’t expect that to become a reality for asexual people in such a pervasive way as it is for straight people, but I want to see more asexual people have access to spaces where that can happen. Gradually, in some places, it is actually starting to happen. To be clear, it is happening with the cooperation of existing LGBT+ communities that recognize the massive overlap of both needs and individual members between themselves and asexual communities. After all, many asexual people find validation of some of their experiences through participation in LGBT+ communities before they ever find asexual terminology, or at least that was the case before asexual terminology became more widespread.

You’ll notice that this post doesn’t contain links to sources, doesn’t name individual people involved in the conflicts I’ve mentioned, doesn’t present evidence of these events. This is deliberate. I need to just record all my thoughts, then bury this. I don’t want to go digging through blog archives to look at all this stuff again. I need to stop thinking about it, for my health’s sake. The vitriol that occurred around the Tumblr ace community ca. 2012 didn’t happen in isolation from reality, and an honestly understandable knee-jerk invalidation of asexual people among LGB people has been spotted elsewhere – see for example some of the comments made by non-asexual LGB people in Angela Tucker’s documentary (A)sexual – but the kind of pervasive disruption that happened here is not something I’ve seen to asexual communities off the internet. I think it is at least partly attributable to a peculiar group dynamic made possible by the structure of Tumblr communities. In any case, when I tentatively peek at the ace community’s tags on Tumblr, the major conflict seems to be mostly over, or at least not raging on like it was three years ago. But I’m still not up for serious ideological discussions on the politics of asexual identity, and I will resist being pulled into any.

Feel free to reblog this post and comment on it, but I probably won’t reply and I can’t even guarantee I’ll read all comments.

Colton Haynes - Grit - photo edit by Mikail Soavi.

“I’m finally in a position where I can say I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I’ve accomplished so much with so little and my smile is finally not forced. I’ve taken control of my own life for the first time and won’t ever let anyone silence me or my passions ever again. I’m finally free. I’m successful. I’m independent. but most of all…I’m outspoken.

Don’t be afraid to seek help. There are so many people out there who put their jobs first and their mental health last…and trust me…it will creep up on you. There are so many amazing people out there who can help with anxiety and other mental health issues…please don’t be afraid and know that it gets better.”

National Suicide Hotline: ‪18002738255

The Trevor Project hotline: ‪18664887386

Excerpt from Colton’s article for Paper Magazines’ Outspoken issue.

Hi everyone know most of you will probably ignore this, but this is important to me and it may sound silly. So i made a post yesterday about a book called Symptoms Of Being Human by Jeff Garvin and i have just finished it and it is a book that everyone needs to read. It is about a gender fluid teen named Riley. They are struggling with different problems, they are problems that a lot of people face in their lives as well. Riley is a very relatable character and their story is amazing the characters that are their friends Bec and Solo are very supportive and awesome. As the story goes on more about both of them is reveled and they both have problems that sound like others in real life have had. All of the characters in this book are good, even the bad ones. I would recommend this book to anyone and everyone, it is very well written and it addresses many problems in todays society. One of the greatest things that surprised me was how different i am to the character but i felt like we are similar as well. I have some of the same problems that she has and it was awesome reading about this character that has to face a lot more than i do. She inspired me to speak out more and stand up when something happens. At the end of the book there is something that you don’t see in books, it has a page with a list of resources if you need help like the trevor project, the depression hotline and others. So if any of you can please please read this book. then if you want we can talk about it and it would be rad 

anonymous asked:

Have you ever felt suicidal?? What would you do??

I have and I attempted suicide long ago. What I would do if I were you is talk to someone. It’s the opposite of what we want to do when we feel that way, but we need to get it out. We need to talk. Talking is the only way we’ll see that we aren’t a freak – we aren’t alone. A lot of people feel like we do.

*one tiny note about WHO to talk to: you need someone who is mature enough to love and accept and take in everything you’re saying. Look for someone caring and loving. If anyone blames you or tells you to “get over it”, find someone else to connect with. You deserve someone who will listen.

*On a practical level, you can google “the Trevor Project” or another suicide hotline and they can help with stuff like this.

Today is Self Harm/Injury Awareness Day! Get the help you need:

Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (2433) – Can use in US, U.K., Canada and Singapore
The Trevor Lifeline: 866.488.7386.
Suicide Crisis Line: 1-800-999-9999
National Suicide Prevention Helpline: 1-800-273-TALK (8245)
National Adolescent Suicide Helpline: 1-800-621-4000
Postpartum Depression: 1-800-PPD-MOMS
NDMDA Depression Hotline – Support Group: 1-800-826-3632
Veterans: 1-877-VET2VET
Crisis Help Line – For Any Kind of Crisis: 1-800-233-4357
Suicide & Depression Crisis Line – Covenant House: 1-800-999-9999
Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide: (UK only) 0844-561-6855
Beyondblue info line: (Australia only) 1300-22-4636
24/7 Crisis Line:(Canada only) 905-522-1477
Lifeline Australia: 13-11-14
Youth & Teen Hotlines:
National Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663
Youth America Hotline: 1-877-YOUTHLINE (1-877-968-8454)
Covenant House Nine-Line (Teens): 1-800-999-9999
Boys Town National: 1-800-448-3000
Teen Helpline: 1-800-400-0900
TeenLine: 1-800-522-8336
Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663 or 1-800-422-0009
Runaway Support (All Calls are Confidential): 800-231-694
National Runaway Hotline: (US only) 1800-231-6946
Child Helpline: (UK Only) 0800-111
Kids Helpline: (Australia) 1800-55-1800
Youth to Youth: (UK only) 020-8896-3675
Kids Help Phone Canada: 1800-688-6868
National Youth Crisis Hotline:(US only) 800-442-442-4673 

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