I’ve been meaning to write this for a while and hadn’t had a chance yet, but I wanted to share this as it may help someone with DID/OSDD or people who care about someone who has either dissociative disorder.
My partner often has to explain what DID is to confused alters in an age appropriate way and this is my favourite metaphor. It might not be helpful in all cases but I thought I’d share as it could help, especially with younger alters.
She tells them to imagine the “original” has 100 bags of shopping which they need to carry. These bags represent different trauma experiences the system has gone through. She asks the alter if the “original” can carry all those bags alone - to which the answer is obviously no. She explains that there are others to help the “original” carry the bags.
Sorry I hate using the term “original” but just use it here to make it clear what I’m trying to say!
It’s very simplistic but seems helpful for the younger age range. She also makes a point of saying the contents of each bag has equal worth and they’re all needed in order for all 100 bags to be carried (obviously we don’t have exactly 100 alters but it’s an easy number to work with).
ESFP: well, this is pointless. Let’s talk about our feelings, hopes, dreams, greatest fears, and traumatic childhood memories hahahaha.
INFJ: I’m down.
INFP: okay, well it all started when…
ESFP: *put it back*
SAD TIMES! so when dean says that the boys home with sonny wasn't so bad because nobody bad touched him, burned him or beat him with a metal hanger? does that mean he's comparing his time there to all the other times he did get bad touched or burned etc? i bet that's it. like he could actually enjoy hid freedom from his father and freedom from responsibility in general and he was finally free of all the bad things that happened to him?
I’d read it as going under Dean’s pop culture knowledge of what’s “supposed” to happen in prisons or foster homes - the kind of abuse and violence that depictions of these often focus on, or of course sometimes are actually happening and you get horrible news reports about… (Honestly the fact they trawl the news for weird stories all the time means they must read some truly hideous news stories about regular people doing awful shit >.>)
I sort of file it under the same thing as what I was talking about in this recent post:
about Dean’s jokes about being in prison. Basically, he’s always projecting that defensive mechanism, and in these cases, trying to fit into the pop culture prisoner persona in a very genre-savvy way. In the end of season 2 you get those two episodes very close to each other (back to back?) where Dean is a PA on the movie set and in prison, and both times Sam calls him out for getting way too in character, but that’s sort of how Dean operates :P He’s very good at shedding personality skins and trying on a new one, possibly because 90% of Dean’s on screen time is Dean under one personality or another that’s not really who he is, whether because he’s acting as a persona obviously on the job, or because he’s deflecting and acting up a version of himself for emotional reasons…
I love Jennifer from Rule of Rose so much. It’s really bad that this game is so underground, because I really wish I had more content about her flying around for me to talk about.
But well, even with those who did play the game, there is a good chunk of people who dislike her for being ‘useless’ and ‘weak’ in the hands of the children… even though the whole game is pretty much her adult self reliving her repressed, confused, and traumatic childhood memories and all.
Honestly, Jennifer deserves so much better. She is such a complex character who has been through so much shit.
pairings: Hanamaki Takahiro/ Matsukawa Issei word count: ~6k summary:
In which Hanamaki’s humble medical practice is threatened by an intractable asshole a witch doctor who’s just moved into the shop down the street. Medical/Witchcraft AU.
As far as Hanamaki’s concerned, and as far as bad life decisions go, setting up your witch clinic right next to an actual, proper, medical clinic is practically akin to setting up an all-you-can-eat buffet right next to a gym. Or a sex toy shop next to a church. Or a vegetable patch next to a goat farm. Or – yeah, the point is, this Matsukawa guy has totally cornered the market in Terrible-Life-Decision-Making-Skills.
You don’t have to be polite to people who have harassed you.
You don’t have to give in to visiting places with family or being around certain relatives that bring about traumatic childhood memories just to make your family happy.
You don’t have to be kind to people who know your triggers but blatantly joke about things that traumatize you and you have a right to feel angry and express that when they do.
You, alone, hold the choice in deciding if and when (ever) you want to engage and interact with people who used to mean so much to you. Don’t be pressured by those said individuals, our your friends, our your parents or whoever.
Sometimes, you have to let go of people from your past even if they used to mean the world to you so you have can peace of mind and the ability to move forward. Toxic people will always be around to latch on to you and to suck away your energy, your time and most importantly: YOU.
There will be people who have broken your heart, taken a dump on your feelings, muddy up great memories, made you feel anything else than great about yourself…If you don’t want them in your life anymore don’t allow them to be.
It was Audre Lorde who said:
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
Self care is revolutionary because when you take part in it, you are putting yourself on the top shelf. You are important to YOU and you are taking the necessary steps to make sure that you are mostly well oiled machine and that you can function.