since a few terfs have reblogged my posts: reminder that this blog is pro-trans girl, and that if you’re a transmisogynist this blog is not for you. please let me know if you see any terfs reblogging my posts, and i’ll add them to the blocklist.
Hi friends, just a reminder that ‘gatekeeping’ is a term that was invented in 1943 to discuss news media and their control over the flow of information and is not a ‘trans term.’ It is used in disability activism as well as trans activism, and many other activist axes as well. If anyone tells you that you should not use the word ‘gatekeeping’ to describe ‘attempting to unjustly keep someone from information/community/resources to which they are entitled and which they require,’ because it ‘belongs’ to a certain group, just ignore them and move on.
Gatekeeping is a useful term for many minority groups, and anyone who attempts to tell you that you can’t use it is not cool.
Shout out to all the closeted trans girls that have to dress out for PE in the boys locker room. In HS before I dropped out after the first semester, I’d skipped every single of my PE periods, but I didn’t really know why.
Shout out to all the closeted trans girls that never felt comfortable hanging out with cis guys because you never felt like you could relate to any of them, but didn’t really understand why.
Shout out to all the closeted trans girls that watch pretty much any modern media and have to endure really, really bad transphobic gags that serve no purpose but to get a laugh out of cis people. Especially those of you that had to watch quietly in horror with your family as everyone laughed.
Growing up in the closet, whether you realize you’re in there or not, SUCKS. I just want you to know that it DOES get better. I promise.
I watched the beauty and the beast movie and it’s absolutely a homophobic mess so anyone claiming it’s great can shut the fuck up
it used le fou’s gayness for LAUGHS, on the rare moments that gaston wasn’t exploiting his feelings for him to manipulate him, he literally never fucking talked to the guy he danced with, the guy he danced with was an ableist asshole with no redeeming moments who was the subject of a transmisogynistic joke, and you literally had to look for anything ~gay~ b/c I watched it with my whole family and none of them had a single clue
who said anything about dating trans women? we were talking about considering trans women as women (since, ya know, they are women)
when someone says “you cant be a lesbian if you are attracted to trans women” that means 1) they are misgendering trans women as men (which is not what trans women are) which means 2) you don’t respect trans women’s existence as women, which is classic transphobia, which is…. ding ding ding! hatred of trans women!
not that any trans woman would wanna date anybody who thinks trans women are men, TERFs really need to pull their heads out of their asses and realize trans women don’t want to date women who hate them but whatever
The whole of feminism can be broken down into two basic camps - 1) wicked awesome radfems, and 2) weak minded libfems. We clearly know SO MUCH MORE about womyn and feminism than other womyn and feminists.
We need to overthrow the notion of Gender, but you have have HAVE to have a V at birth to be a womyn. Obvs!
No Muslim womyn ever could EVER choose for herself to wear Hijab because Islam is a nasty Patriarchal religion that takes all of womyn's rights and agency away. Nevermind that we come from Patriarchies too - We should still get to choose FOR them!
Our ideas are so gosh darn RADICAL, why can't you libfems keep up already?!?!!?
when will cis lesbians like Arielle Scarcella stop inserting themselves into a conversation that is NOT ABOUT THEM just so they can rant about their dating preferences and call it erasure
trans ppl are not demanding that you have sex with all of us. it’s not about you personally offending us by denying us sex. it’s not about force, coercion, or manipulation. it’s about calling you out on transphobic language. it’s about the fact that we don’t feel comfortable with cis people reducing our identities to our genitals. it’s about the fact that many of us feel EXTREMELY disconnected to our genitals, and having genitals that you feel uncomfortable with and then having someone tell you that you are un-fucakble (or only fuck-able) because of a part of your body you already didn’t like is a HORRIFIC experience.
trans women literally get MURDERED by people, and men with internalized homophobia use the “trans panic defense” to justify it. stop making it about you. nobody actually cares who you date or fuck, you’re just being asked to be aware of the language you use because it’s contributing to a problem that is much larger than you. it’s contributing to transphobia, to assaults, to death.
can y’all just take like.. 30 god damn seconds and THINK about why people are so upset with you right now? can you pause for a minute and acknowledge that maybe trans people telling you that you’re being transphobic means something? can you imagine a world in which everything isn’t centered around you, stop playing oppression olympics for a bit, and try to learn something?
okay no offense its perfectly 100% possible & okay to be weary of the trans masc community bc theres a lot of (trans)misogynists & racists & just bad people in general but that’s not an excuse to be transphobic 2 trans guys like you can criticize us without being like Be Thankful U Have A Women’s Body uwu
I got an email from a local org that I still get emails from despite not having been there in years. The email is about a survey they’re running for feedback on their “women, trans, and femmes” night that happens every week. “Please only answer this survey if you identify as a trans or cis woman, femme, fem, trans, genderqueer, nonbinary, or if you otherwise feel uncomfortable in male dominated spaces.”
Like listen I want to give this kind of thing the benefit of the doubt but knowing that this org specifically has a terrible reputation when it comes to misogyny and transmisogyny I feel like this is super performative! Like oh, look at us, we know that some people prefer “fem” over “femme”, we know about nonbinary genders, like… all of that is fine but just using the lingo doesn’t mean you understand shit! ESPECIALLY when you don’t seem to understand that explicitly inviting men (who can be feminine, or uncomfortable in male dominated spaces) to a thing that is for people who explicitly don’t want to be in a place that centres dudes is maybe counterproductive, like… what do you think these men are going to do when they get there?? Or that it should not be the case that literally every single fucking person in town who is made to feel shitty in some capacity by cisheteropatriarchy should have to share one single four hour shift a week. Or that it’s not made immediately clear by the way you listed all these identities if you consider trans women to be women or if you are categorizing them as non-women along with like, all the other labels you listed that are sometimes separate from womanhood.
Like okay so Trevor the chair of the board of directors (sorry, the totally non heirarchical collective that is only a board with a chairperson for funding reasons!!) read a zine about gender that his girlfriend Sundress McTerfbangs wrote and now you have this because he felt like just having a women’s night and communicating through word and deed that trans women are welcome as women was like, too restrictive, man, but that having multiple shifts a week for people who experience gendered or sexuality based oppression (or other forms of oppression) would be too much work, and I’m just… bored, this is boring.