anonymous asked:

ugliness seethes through your pores

I may be many negative qualities, but ugly is not one of them.

Of course, people think that any trans woman would be destroyed by criticizing her physical attractiveness. Either because they think we have low self esteem and that’s a good in to get at us, or because they see us as vain and our physical attractiveness as the primary reason that we transition.

anonymous asked:

Hey! jacksepticeye earlier, on tumblr i mean, made a joke when somebody asked him how he likes his tea/coffee, and he answered "i like my coffee the way i like my women - without a penis." when he was accused of being transphobic he said it was a game grumps reference but he apologized nonetheless, saying he didn't mean to offend anyone. just thought it would be good to tell you.

Yea, that’s definitely transmisogynistic, but I’m glad he apologised for it. Thanks for the heads up.

The thing about trans women that people don’t talk about enough is the voice problem. Many of us are afraid to admit it, but there’s something incredibly degrading about being expected to alter the way we use our voice around people.

Really, like, the way that trans women are taught and expected to speak is incredibly tedious, unnatural, and obviously forced to the ear of any speech pathologist. So the “solution” is for us to go “full-time” and essentially ditch the voice that comes naturally.

It isn’t right, but there’s no winning in either case. People will misgender you if you speak naturally, and if you do try to use your “feminized” voice you’re honestly putting yourself at risk of violence, and how the fuck am I supposed to feel confident when knowing full well that the sounds coming out of me aren’t genuine or convincing to anyone?

This is a serious fucking problem that doesn’t get addressed. Trans women are expected to find services and often pay absurd sums of money to get training or “therapy” for the voice, but all you are really doing is practicing the art of speaking in a submissive and stereotyped voice. Enter radfems, who would then use this as a weapon against us, claiming that we are perpetuating *ppfffpffpfafbloobpblboooblbllblblpp* by using our voices in a way that makes us feel safe. 

But, unless you’re the lucky 5-10% of trans women who can pass even after speaking, that safety is not only unlikely, but more often than not people are going to look at you with disgust and of course you know what happens once you’re outed.

Why should I have to talk like a fucking cartoon character? Cis women do NOT sound the way that these voice experts insist they do, because trans women have to speak primarily with a head tone, completely forgoing the chest and therefore removing the part of the sound that makes it sound like speaking and not fucking squealing.

If you care about trans women, expecting us to change our voices in order to pass as cis is fucking gross. 



just now, on news channel 5 in nashville tn, the police commented about the situation with adriana parks being hunted and targeted. THEY SAY THAT SHE WAS ON THE ROOF ON THE APARTMENTS, BROKE INTO HER NEIGHBORS HOUSE, AND BROKE THE WINDOW (WHEN THESE ARE ALL BLATANT LIES)

im not sure what this will do, but these are the contacts for all the major news channels in the donelson area. please contact them and get the word out about the TRUTH.

News 2, WKRN-TV
Main Number: 615-369-7222
News: 615-369-7236

News 4, WSMV- (615) 353-4444 

FOX 17- (there is no number, just a contact form)

News Channel 5- 615-248-5250


On Jon Stewart's commentary about Caitlyn Jenner

First off, Stewart has frequently and unapologetically used transmisogynist humour in his show. Let’s be really clear about who we’re praising here, especially when trans women have been talking for decades about the same phenomenon Stewart is highlighting, and we have been providing much more insightful critiques of both the cis gaze and the male gaze than he can possibly provide with his cisnormative lens. I guess our womanhood is finally useful to Stewart.

It’s shocking how quickly people will jump to blatant misogyny as soon as they gender me correctly. A guy once asked a friend of mine if I was really a girl and upon learning that I was in fact a girl he said “Oh, okay then… well, she’s sure got a great ass!” This kind of stuff happens to us all the time and we sure as hell don’t need cis people to patronizingly educate us about our own lived experiences. We also don’t need our experiences co-opted for the benefit of cis people.

Second, the idea that trans women suddenly experience womanhood once we transition implies that we weren’t really women before; Stewart even says that Caitlyn “used to be a man,” which he would know better than if he had bothered to read GLADD’s very clear media guidelines.

As a trans woman I know a lot about womanhood that cis women do not know. I know what it’s like to be a woman who was literally brainwashed into believing she was a man. That’s a kind of womanhood which is as authentic and real as any other. I haven’t been introduced to womanhood, but HOW I do my womanhood has changed drastically. 

Transition hasn’t been primarily about hormones, or clothing, or makeup, or pronouns, or my name. It’s been about transforming a crushing shame that was ground into my soul over decades. It’s about reclaiming my power as a woman, a power which was unjustly torn from me as a little girl. So, misogyny isn’t new to me; I’ve experienced shatteringly violent misogyny all my life, but HOW I experience misogyny has changed.

For just one example, I now get cat-called regularly. It’s the standard leers and wolf whistles and skeezy comments. You know how I feel when I get cat-called? Disgust at being objectified, certainly, but more than that I feel afraid. I am afraid that after that man has sexualized my body he’s going to then clock me as trans, and I’m afraid that once he starts to panic about his masculinity that he will escalate to more severe forms of harrassment or direct violence. I look over my shoulder quite often.

My femininity is at once held to a higher standard than that of cis women, and if I fail at femininity not only am I devalued as a woman but my very womanhood (and thereby my personhood and humanity) itself is attacked. That is a whole other level of misogyny that I would never welcome any woman to.

So, don’t welcome me to your garden-variety cis misogyny when I’ve been crawling through the trenches of transmisogyny for decades trying to hold on to my womanhood for dear life.

Don’t welcome me to my own damn womanhood, it is for me to welcome you to my womanhood. Stay for a spell and maybe you’ll learn a thing or two.

[EDIT: response to criticisms about this article]

her name is fucking caitlyn because she says it is. you don’t get to decide other people’s names. if you’re gonna “still call her bruce” then i get to choose your name too!!~ but i’ll be fair, i’ll give you a list to choose from:

1. putrid sludge creature
2. sticky worm bucket
3. waste
4. human embodiment of a papercut on your toe
5. stale milk poured over rotten milk
6. broken paperclip
7. coffee stain on a white shirt
8. pond leech
9. crusty towel
10. absolute fucking douchebag who should never speak again

Privileged, rich conservative white trans lady: *comes out*

Mainstream gay movement: “WOW!” *applause and praise*

Undocumented trans woman of colour: *risks safety and well-being to come out against racial injustice and institutional abuse perpetuated by the Obama administration*

Mainstream gay movement: “HOW DARE YOU INTERRUPT OBAMA!” *comments with racism and transmisogyny and ignores the issues at hand*

I, for one, am hoping that Jennicet Gutiérrez gets more positive attention in the media than Caitlyn Jenner.

S/O to all of the little trans girls and transfeminine folks who have to listen to their parents and relatives spew slurs and transmisogyny every time a trans woman is in the limelight.  You do have people rooting for you and who respect you and your gender even if they aren’t right there next to you.  You deserve better.  And you are strong as hell and glorious.
My name is only real enough to work at Facebook, not to use on the site
Trans woman responsible for Facebook gender options kicked off for violating real names policy
By Zip

I always knew this day would come. The day that Facebook decided my name was not real enough and summarily cut me off from my friends, family and peers and left me with the stark choice between using my legal name or using a name people would know me by. With spectacular timing, it happened while I was at trans pride and on the day the Supreme Court made same sex marriage legal in the US.

This is a story that’s been told many times before. It is a story I’ve seen repeated time and time again as my friends have disappeared off the site, often never to return. This time there’s a twist: I used to work there. In fact, I’m the trans woman who initiated the custom gender feature. And the name I go by on Facebook? That’s the name that was on my work badge.

Facebook likes to think of names as a one-to-one mapping. You have one name, and that name is how people refer to you at all times. It’s a very WASP notion of how names work, and the reality is far more complex. Names are a tool for description, a shorthand for quickly communicating the idea of a person or thing. They change based on context. Each person has many names, because each person has many contexts and social groups. Like the government, Facebook tries to warp all of these contexts into one identifier. And like the government, it demands the final say in what you are called.

As a technology, Facebook isn’t neutral. It’s actually changing the way we interact with names. Before Facebook how many of your friends’ surnames did you actually know?

I chose my Facebook name six years ago, as I began my transition. Every person I’ve met since then has generally known me by that name, and in part this is precisely because I use it on Facebook. I so strongly identify with and am identified by that name that when I took a job at Facebook I put it on my badge.

As a company, Facebook tells itself a story about what names are and how they are significant. It’s deeply embedded within their understanding of why the site was successful. On my very first day in orientation, a VP of the company told us the story of Facebook. It is a story of how authenticity triumphed — how people using their names instead of handles encouraged them to add people they were genuinely friends with and to talk about their daily lives. He told us how when you joined Myspace you’d be told you were now friends with the founder, even though this was not true. It set the tone that “friend” on the site didn’t mean the same thing as a real-life friend.

I think they’re right. Creating a social network where people used the names that they were already recognised by has made it more accessible and popular than any other social network in the world. Cynics will tell you that using your “real name” is so they can sell your details to advertisers. That’s not the case. Why would they hand over the ability to market to you? The real story is more subtle. If you don’t use a name that other people recognise, you won’t interact so much. If Facebook develops a culture of people not being immediately recognisable, it drives down engagement. That costs ad impressions.

So Facebook wants you to be your authentic self because they believe that authenticity is what makes the site appealing. No fake usernames or second profiles or profiles for things that aren’t people means more eyeballs on the site.

The problem comes at the interface where this notion collides with reality.Names aren’t that simple and the reasons people use names are also not that simple. It’s been covered a thousand times before. We use names that don’t match our ID on Facebook for safety, or because we’re trans, or because we’re just straight up not known by our legal names.

Having chosen its policy, Facebook has to enforce it. And because its policy attempts to hammer the reality of names into a constrained model they end up having to make a trade-off in the edge cases. Some people are not allowed to use their names so that everyone else’s can be enforced.

Worse still, they allow people to report each other for using “fake” names. People know this, and they use it as a mechanism to kick each other off the site. If you’re a marginalised person, such as a trans person, you may be left with no way to get back on. Facebook have handed an enormous hammer to those who would like to silence us, and time after time I see that hammer coming down on trans women who have just stepped out of line by suggesting that perhaps we’re being mistreated. In fact, it happened to me shortly after commenting on a Facebooker’s post that Facebook needs to step up on this issue.

Facebook is a vital tool for community, especially for those of us who are marginalised. It withholds our access to friends and support in order to enforce their policy, and in so doing we are faced with a stark choice between a name we do not identify with and do not want to use, or being disconnected. If we make the choice to stay we find ourselves increasingly recognised by other people by that forced name.

By forcing us to change our names on the site, Facebook changes the names we are known by in real life — whether we like it or not.

I really cannot understate the impact being kicked off the site can have. Facebook is my main way of communicating with much of my social circle. It’s how I’ve found housing and housemates. It’s where I’ve found job leads, received support in hard times, and helped other people through theirs. My legal name is long since changed and perhaps that’s enough to tip the balance towards using it, but I have not once seen a trans person return to the site under their old name no matter the costs of leaving the site permanently.

It’s an insult that Facebook is sponsoring Pride in SF, marching and flying the rainbow flag and helping everyone change their profile picture, when they cannot fix this simple thing.

Facebook needs to do better than this. Technology is not neutral, and a technology that a billion people use to communicate has the power to warp and change reality around itself. Adding custom gender was a small change, yet it hit the front page of CNN, angered Fox News and got its own segment on The Daily Show. It encouraged other large sites such as Google Plus and OKCupid to handle nonbinary gender too. It exposed the world to the notion that gender might not be a binary. That’s profound. It’s time for Facebook to step up and do the same thing for names.


Rachel Dolezal Colonizes Black Womanhood As Six Black Women Are Executed In Emanuel AME

Black women’s lives are considered an afterthought, our histories deemed irrelevant, our identities, cultural expressions and experiences deemed White colonized goods, and our relation to structural power itself–an oppressed relation–was deemed acceptable via Rachel Dolezal’s cultural appropriation. I don’t have the luxury of pretending Dolezal’s colonization of Black womanhood should be considered frivolous–which I discussed in Rachel Dolezal and White Parasitism: New Media Frenzy; Old Colonial Violence–as actual Black women are executed because of the same White colonial violence and entitlement. My 10 tweets above allude to how this is in fact the same White colonial violence. Her actions are not a “distraction” insofar as this is ALL White colonial violence. 

6 Black women were killed last night. White terrorism targeting Black churches by default is a bullseye on Black women’s bodies–even as 3 Black men were also killed last night–because of Black women’s relationship to The Black Church, political organizing and socializing in that space; it automatically makes Black women more likely to be killed. There is a history of White terrorism towards Black churches. Black women tend to outnumber Black men in those spaces.

Dylann Roof committed terrorism (and there are no true “lone gunmen” in a system of White supremacy) in the name of White womanhood (which ignores how in fact White men have raped for centuries for profit, power and pleasure, violence that fuels capitalism in the country formed in anti-Blackness and settler colonialism that he wanted to “take back;” yet he invoked the Black “brute” myth) and White supremacy; the same White womanhood that allows Dolezal to colonize Black womanhood; the same White colonial violence that enforces the gender binary in the first place, even as transphobic people suggest Dolezal’s colonization should be permitted or transgender people cannot exist. All White colonial violence. (This terrorist literally adorned his body with flags that symbolize White colonialism and White supremacy, in past photos.)

Do actual Black women matter to anyone? Are we simply wigs, tans, lies and attention-seeking like Rachel Dolezal? Was a week of virulent misogynoir towards/erasure of Black women in defense of her worth it, amidst centuries of dehumanization of Black women? Rest in peace, sisters. I will not let you be forgotten. You mattered. 

RIP all victims of Emanuel AME Massacre: Rev. Clementa Pinckney (SC state senator [D]) (41); Rev. Daniel Simmons Sr. (74); Rev. DePayne Middleton-Doctor (49); Rev. Sharon Singleton (45); Susie Jackson (87); Ethel Lance (70); Myra Thompson (59); Cynthia Hurd (54); Tywanza Sanders (26).