Strong reminder to my fellow cis women (ESPECIALLY in the queer community) in light of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s recent doubling-down on her transmisogynistic comments: 

Closeted trans women experience closeted trans woman socialization and DO NOT experience male privilege prior to coming out or transitioning.

Are we saying that queer people in the closet have straight privilege and straight experience? No! We as a community discarded that a long-ass time ago because the closet kills. It’s not a privilege. We shouldn’t be applying this fucked up logic to our trans sisters.

Trans women experience trans woman socialization. Cis women experience cis woman socialization. They are different but they are BOTH female socializations that are oppressed under the patriarchy.

Trans women don’t experience male privilege.
Repeat and educate our fellow cis women until they get it.

It’s actually pretty simple...

If a character in a movie or TV show is written as a woman, a woman is automatically going to be cast for the role. Men won’t show up to audition for the role because the character is a woman. Directors aren’t considering a man to play the role because the character is a woman.

Trans women are women, not men in dresses. Stop putting male actors in dresses just because the character is a trans woman. It’s not about “the best actor for the role”, it’s about routinely portraying trans women as something that they aren’t: men in dresses. 

if ur being racist/misogynistic/ableist/transmisogynistic/etc. to troll… you are a racist/misogynist/ableist/transmisogynist/etc. There’s literally no difference. The material consequences are exactly the same. It still upholds structural oppression, it still harms oppressed groups of people, it still incites aggression in people who don’t hide under the guise of trolling … you are on their side. You are them and you encourage them.

Hi friends, just a reminder that ‘gatekeeping’ is a term that was invented in 1943 to discuss news media and their control over the flow of information and is not a ‘trans term.’ It is used in disability activism as well as trans activism, and many other activist axes as well. If anyone tells you that you should not use the word ‘gatekeeping’ to describe ‘attempting to unjustly keep someone from information/community/resources to which they are entitled and which they require,’ because it ‘belongs’ to a certain group, just ignore them and move on.

Gatekeeping is a useful term for many minority groups, and anyone who attempts to tell you that you can’t use it is not cool. 

npr.org
California Restaurants Launch Nation's First Transgender Jobs Program
The unemployment rate for transgender people is double that of the general population. A new program aims to change that. It's all because of a trans woman who's employed trans people for years.

i would never ever be MAD at someone for wearing makeup, but like why is there SO MUCH FOCUS on a woman’s right and ability to wear makeup and how ~radical~ it is to wear makeup … and how you should wear makeup to show how much of a real woman you are blah blah the list goes on…

when thats always been the fucking norm, women are told they look unprofessional without makeup and dont get jobs without wearing it, or they’re fired for not wearing it, women are never portrayed in media without wearing makeup, female politicians are always encouraged to wear makeup and ostracized when they dont, women are mocked and harassed when they don’t wear makeup women are shunned when they dont wear it. etc. 

yall can point all day to twitter users who are like “i prefer a woman without makeup” but at the end of the day their reference photo for a woman without makeup is just a woman with “natural” makeup on. They simply don’t want to hear or notice that work goes into performing femininity. 

like… why is there such a focus on supporting something that’s already encouraged by society …. when we could also [as in at the same fucking time] support women who ARENT wearing makeup and not doing things they have been told they should be doing since forever. 

again, not saying “hey don’t wear makeup” but … saying … maybe support women who don’t wear makeup, or can’t wear makeup just as much as you support women who do wear it? and maybe not fucking PRESSURE people to do something they don’t want to or can’t do?

for all that T///E///R///Fs like to talk about cis lesbians supposedly getting pressured to date trans women, in my experience as yr local cisbian who dated a trans dude for three years …. there was WAY more pressure in lesbian communities (esp. IRL) to stay in relationships with trans men after they came out as men and to continue accepting them in women’s spaces, which is Fucked Up

and i will never forget how intensely GUILTY i felt for no longer being attracted to him and how much i felt like i should accommodate him and just, like, retrain myself to feel attraction to men specifically for his sake. 

(and of course this was always combined with the usual bullshit of “women and trans people welcome!!” meaning “cis women and trans guys allowed, but almost no trans women,” along with the assumption that trans men should be accepted because of their past involvement in women’s communities, the assumption that trans men ~understand what life is like from a woman’s perspective~ and therefore somehow present a Healthier and Safer version of masculinity even though that’s demonstrably fucking false and also transphobic on several levels)

anyway communities that are oriented solely around cis women and trans dfab people are ones i am automatically suspicious of because, historically, they have been pretty damn unsafe for me, and they’re OBVIOUSLY unsafe for my trans girlfriend and a lot of women i love and care about