Just a reminder to our cis allies:
Transgender Day of Remembrance is NOT the trans equivalent of Gay Pride. We aren’t throwing parades. We aren’t throwing parties. We aren’t celebrating.

We are reading the names of our dead. We are trying to make it clear that more than half of all LGBTQIA non-suicide deaths are murdered trans women. These are almost entirely trans women of color. We are mourning our dead and raising awareness of the danger and presumed disposability of trans lives.

We’re drawing the clear line of cause to effect between the transphobia that pervades our culture and society and the murders of trans women of color. When you’re pointing out the routine dehumanization of trans people, when you’re talking about the transphobia suffused through all of the news coverage of trans people (and the conflation of trans people and Intersex people - see the coverage of Taylor Leann Chandler today), make sure you’re pointing out how it directly leads to violent murders and the lack of investigation and urgency in solving those murders. 

We have exactly one state in which defense attorneys are prohibited from using the “Trans Panic” defense to justify their clients’ murdering trans women. It’s routine for women who manage to survive attempts on their life to be arrested and jailed (usually in men’s prisons) for daring to defend themselves. 

The goal of Transgender Day of Remembrance is to create a world in which it no longer needs to exist. Raising awareness is great, but make sure you know what you’re raising awareness of on TDOR. Talk about the poor trans women of color and LOUDLY value their lives, don’t just advocate for middle class trans women and trans men. Go ahead and talk about how 50% of LGBTQIA homeless youth are trans, how they get kicked out of their homes and put in dangerous living situations because they are trans. Talk about how 41% of trans people have attempted suicide. Talk about how many people are dying through those means, but don’t you dare forget the trans women of color whose lives we are recognizing and whose deaths we are mourning today. Make sure you’re talking about the link between them.

For Zella Ziona, Diana Sacayán, Rafaela Capucci, Melvin, Kiesha Jenkins, Chocobar Marcela, Keyshia Blige, Jasmine Collins, Tamara Dominguez, Elisha Walker, Kandis Capri, Ashton O'Hara, Shade Schuler, Amber Monroe, KC Haggard, Nephi Luthers, India Clarke, Daya Rani Kinnar, Mercedes Williamson, Laura Vermont, Francela Méndez Rodríguez, London Chanel, Yosvani Muñoz Robaina, Almaroof Bijli, Saima Shahzadi, Shah Zaib and Billi, Vanessa Santillan, Kristina Grant Infiniti, Sumaya Dalmar, Bri Golec, Piu da Silva, Penny Proud, Taja DeJesus, Marisol Almeida, Yazmin Vash Payne, Papi Edwards, Hande Ö, Lamia Beard, Ty Underwood, Gizzy Fowler, Deshawnda Sanchez, Keymori Shatoya Johnson and many others.


Have pride for the gender identities and lesser known sexualities too!


Thank you to alfredfbraginsky for adding the following comments to this post. I shouldn’t have made these so hastily and should have included throrough well elaborated information that was accurate, correct and aware of the community.

trangender flag: please don’t assign genders to genitals, please. even if you might be trans yourself, it helps other people in the trans umbrella to not use terms like “biologically male/female”. 

some transgender people might consider themselves identifying as the gender “”opposite”” to what they were assigned at birth (like a trans man identifying as male, but he was assigned ‘female’ as a baby because of his genitals), but not all of them do. also, terms like “opposite gender” erase nonbinary identities and intersex people.

some transgender people consider their ‘biological sex’ the same as the gender they identify, even if they haven’t undergone surgery. a trans man might consider his vagina a “male sex organ” (and he has every right to do so) because it belongs to someone who is a man. 

the only people who really need to know what’s in a trans person’s pants and how it relates to their identity, are the person in question and their physician. 

bisexual flag: i might sound nitpicky, but it’s probably best to not refer to orientations (bi, pan, etc.) as “abilities”. rather, “a bisexual is someone who is attracted to two or more genders, including nonbinary people”. 

nonbinary flag: i appreciate you including the flag, but saying that all nonbinary identities are “between male and female” is unfortunately another example of reinforcing a gender binary.

i personally consider my androgyne identity as a blurring of what my society considers masculine and feminine, but some nonbinary people consider their identities as entirely separate from male or female, or any possible spectrum between male and female. 

intersex flag: i’m not intersex— so if i’m saying something ignorant, please ignore me. but it’s probably best to not say something like “it’s tough to explain” as part of a flag that’s trying to spread awareness.

also, again, please don’t assign genders to genitals. that’s what leads to a lot of harm and dysphoria to intersex people, because of parents and doctors trying to “fix” their body into something regarded as acceptable. in this context, it’s best to describe it as like “resulting in sex organs considered as a mix of biologically “male” and “female”, according to the medical community’s standards.”  

thanks for taking the time to read this, if you do. i know you had good intentions with this post, but it’s important to spread correct information. 


Anon messaged me this about asexuality (I didn’t know that aromantic had its own flag, but knew lithromantic was part of that- however, i hadn’t specified romantic orientation in this post, which is pretty problematic of me to do in terms of explanations etc)

Anyways, anon wanted to clarify:

asexuality is only not experiencing sexual attraction, not having no sex drive (even though some asexuals also have no sex drive, but it’s possible to be any sexual orientation and have no sex drive, or even not be into sex), it’s also not applicable to romantic endeavors, that would be aromantic, which has it’s own flag, and the aromantic spectrum may include lithoromantic, but the asexual spectrum does not.


A lot of days it seems like our community is forgotten about, left out, and just plain not understood but Transgender visibility is becoming more and more prevalent. November is Transgender Awareness Month and it is a month for our trans brothers, sisters, and nonbinary siblings to feel proud of who they are. 

We have had the privilege to meet and become friends with so many people in the LGBTQ community through FLAVNT and are even luckier to have many of these people representing our brand on a day to day basis. This isn’t even the tip of the iceberg but these amazing people encompass FLAVNT’s mission and live and breathe it when they wear our clothes and spread positivity into the world. 

If you don’t already know about us, we are a small queer-run LGBTQ clothing company that promotes self-love, confidence, and pride within the LGBTQ community and beyond. We have designs for a myriad of gender and sexual identities and have the best reps in the world from all walks of life. We also partner up with nonbinary people to help them raise money for gender-confirming surgeries. We have helped 2 guys achieve their top surgery goal (one of those guys being the amazing Caden in picture #2) by raising $2500 between the two of them. We are now onto our third fundraiser with @tyince (Tyler is pictured in the last picture and he’s the most adorable ever) helping him raise money for his phalloplasty in December.

If you would like to help Tyler reach his bottom surgery fundraising goal, head to and pick up one of these awesome shirts, a hat, or a sticker pack and when prompted say “yes” to 15% of your purchase being donated to his cause. 

Also, check out these guys and gals on their personal pages because they are all individually doing amazing things within and for the community. Through people like them and like you, we can make a difference, we can be seen, and we can grow. 

Much love,

Courtney and Chris

FLAVNT Streetwear


Who’s in these photos:

1. Chris Rhodes: Co-founder of FLAVNT Streetwear, LGBTQ activist and                                         vlogger 

2. Caden: FLAVNT’s second fundraising partner

3. Rezz: Possibly the most supportive person on the planet when it comes to                   small businesses

4. Sage: Our best buddy and brand rep for FLAVNT, Awarew0lf Apparel, and                   Support Your Brothers

5. Chloe: MTF activist and youtube personality, check out her channel!

6. Spencer: Our good friend, FLAVNT brand rep, and part of FTMTranstastic

7. Ben: Amazing photographer and all-around inspirational guy

8. Drew: FLAVNT brand rep and co-founder of Support Your Brothers

9. Asteria: FLAVNT brand rep and MTF Self-proclaimed social justice amazon                      for equality for all.

10. Tyler: Arguably the single most charismatic and sweetest guy on the planet                  and our current fundraising partner at FLAVNT.


Just a friendly reminder that…

…YES Transwomen 100% should be included in the celebration of Women’s History Month.

Want more examples? here’s more, and more (includes men), aaaand one more (rather general but a good read)

Try as they might to re-write or erase history, Trans people have neverless have always been an integral part of society - whether people like it or not.

And you better believe Transmen and Non-Binaries are as important - but you know - it’s Women’s History Month? I’m not gonna go around misgendering anyone from history just because it’s convenient or whatever.

sorry for the sloppy quality I’m just in a rush to go for a hike before the sun goes down


Hello; If you don’t know my, My name is Nikk and I’m 22 years old! I’m a non-binary, trans masculine person in Orlando, FL! 

It’s Transgender Awareness Month and here I am to post my transition so far. Nov 12th is my 6 months! I feel better and better every day and I have facial hair growing in a lot more and just everything is going well and moving along and I can’t wait to be 1 year and 2 years and life is going to be and is getting to much better and comfortable! 

1st is pre anything when I thought I had to deal with what I was given and couldn’t do anything about it.

2nd is when I cut my hair short and later into a mohawk (2013)

Then the ones following is a photo from each month 1st (may) - 5 months (nov) on T !

I try my best to be the most helpful person I can and help whoever comes to me for advice so if you have anything you want to know I’m glad to help to the best of my ability!

Feel free to check out my sites and add/follow me!

Facebook / Instagram / Youtube (Transition Vlog) / Youcaring

I also play the ukelele sometimes if you wanna hear my voice!


seventeen // nineteen // twenty-three and out // twenty-four + six months on t

my journey isn’t over yet. and neither is yours. 

on the days when it aches and bruises and it feels like it will never get better, I am sending you love. I am sending you strength. I am sending you hope. give it time; I will hold your hand.

happy transgender awareness month <3
"You've gone to a lot of trouble to become a woman -- don't be a stupid one"
Erudite and fun, author and professor Jennifer Finney Boylan is the surprise, breakout star of Caitlyn Jenner's hit gender-transition docu-series "I Am Cait"

Women in the World: Before we met, I Googled “things you’re not to say to a transgender person,” and your interview with the Huffington Post turned up at the top of my search. In it you advised people to keep it simple. You said, “Why not just ask a transgender person ‘How are you?’” So, how are you?

Jennifer Finney Boylan: I’m fantastic! Thanks. The reason I said that is because when people meet someone who is transgender they tend to look at that person through one lens. But you know, if you’re transgender, you don’t want to be defined by that, anymore than you’d walk up to Barack Obama and say “so what’s it like being a black guy?” It’s not the first thing you would ask the leader of the free world.

WITW: It might be the first thing I would ask.

JFB: Yeah ok, but other than you. [Laughs] So, um, I guess we can dive right into the question of identity with this because, am I really still a transgender woman? I mean, I went through the transition twelve years ago, so in many ways all the dust has settled in my life . Now I simply identify as a woman. I didn’t go through all of this to become a woman with an asterisk. At the same time my history is different from that of many other women, and it’s something that I’m proud to talk about. The reason I suggested that people not immediately dive into all the trans stuff is because you don’t want to identify transpeople with just this singularity of the life when what you have other things in common with them that might be both more interesting and more important.”

Read the full interview here


“I and many others believe that the greatest issue facing trans people is employment. Whether it’s a young person who can’t find a safe form of employment, or an established professional who doesn’t come out in fear of losing their job, employment issues impact our confidence, security, income, relationships, power and place in society.  If the trans movement is going to move forward, it has to provide opportunities to the most vulnerable members of our community and empower our most capable leaders.” – Read more on Jen on

‘The transgender flag is flying from a [UK] government department for the first time ever, to pay tribute to the victims of anti-trans discrimination and violence.

The flag was raised above the Department for Education in central London to mark the Transgender Day of Remembrance on 20 November.’

(Read more on BuzzFeed)