trans*women being the exception but the rest of the idea here yes

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[TRANS] 141203 Heechul Talks about Puff in Dream Girls’ New Book

Hear What Super Junior Kim Heechul Says: “I am very deep red, Puff is cool mint green!”

The first time you saw Puff…

Because we were only coworkers, at the first meeting my only thought was, “so this is Puff,” kk. Puff is very bright! Like a child of light (Taiwanese idiom). Puff is also very cute. When I’m in a bad mood, I look at Puff’s face and my mood immediately gets better. I also really like her round eyes.

Puff is very considerate. I’m a person with rather big mood swings, but Puff always understand my thoughts. As the time we’d been working together got longer and longer, even if I was angry she always knew how to calm me down. I think Puff is very observant, because she would often say to me, “Oppa gwenchanha? (Cherry oppa, are you okay?)” “Oppa, hwanasseo? (Cherry oppa, are you angry?)”

On-stage Puff vs. Off-stage Puff

I know that Puff is really big in Taiwan, even though I’m also the Space Big Star (haha ^_^). Puff would often secretly take care of the staffs around us, and would even bring a small notebook to record things, which made me think she places a lot of importance on people’s relationships. Even when we were out having meals, she would pour alcohol for the new staffs. This kind of personality made all the staffs really like her.

Cherry Oppa and Puff’s Relationship Style

Privately, our relationship was completely not awkward; in fact, we got along even better in private. Actually, at the beginning the two of us were a little awkward, until we went to Geoje Island for the honeymoon filming. After going out together with the staffs to eat, drink, and chat, I finally got comfortable with Puff, but the day after I was hungover during filming ^^. After that time my relationship with Puff became better and more natural.

During filming, the staffs arranged a lot of romantic stories and cute things for us. Because I’m not a very romantic person, and don’t understand what girls are thinking, these things gave me goosebumps all over my skin, and I said I didn’t want to do them. Every time there was this kind of situation Puff would help me and ask, “Cherry oppa, are you okay? Cherry oppa, are you angry?” She would comfort me like this, and in my heart I thought, she’s definitely working harder than I am, I’m sorry, thank you. Even though I didn’t say it out loud, I would still hug Puff to thank her. I remember something I said once, “Today, except for Puff, everyone else isn’t satisfied, so today when I film I will only look at her face” (writing like this, I want to gag…haha). Thinking back, I was more romantic off-camera.

Uh…we don’t have any common interests. I like video games and anime…the two of us also can’t cook, haha. During the secret show, there was one time it was just me and Puff by ourselves resting in the car. I kept playing games on my cell phone, and Puff just sat quietly and watched me play. I said to Puff, “Cherry oppa is awesome! What do you think? What do you think? Wahahahahaha.” Puff said, “Yes, Cherry oppa is awesome!”

After we got out of the car, the PD and the scriptwriter asked us what we were talking about in the car, and also said they had intentionally left us alone in the car. I replied, “I just played video games, that’s all.” The PD, the scriptwriter, the managers, and the stylists, with helpless expressions, all said to me, “You really don’t understand women!” I replied angrily, “So what? This is a very important game!” Puff, standing next to me, helped me and said, “Cherry oppa is very cute when he plays games.” …^_^.

Kim Heechul’s Ideas about Puff

Puff is like a cat! When Puff was taking wedding photos with me, there were some scenes that we shot with cats, but because Puff and I both really, really like cats, we would often play with the cats and forget to take pictures.

I think Puff is like a pine tree, because no matter whether she is on or off camera, she always keeps the same serious attitude. (Note: in Korea, pine trees represent never changing)

Puff is mint green. I am very deep red, and she is cool mint green.

Kim Heechul wants to say to Puff…

Cherry oppa doesn’t know how to express his feelings, has big mood swings, and didn’t take care of you well, but you always took care of me. Thank you for being so good to me. Even though at the beginning we were only coworkers, as time passed, I became more honest with you, and like a child, more and more sincere. When I go to Taiwan let’s drink soju mixed with beer (haha).

Right, I know your legs are very pretty, and girl groups won’t wear very much clothing even in the winter. Cherry oppa is most worried about this (haha). Take care of yourself and don’t catch a cold. Even though we won’t meet often, you can’t get sick, or else I won’t keep looking at you. This kind of visit is good, it makes me think of how things were before with us. It’s already been more than a year…I miss you…

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Trans credit: potatochul @ tumblr

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Roleplaying Races: Dwarf

Finally, today, at the end of this week’s special, we’re finally tackling a core race!
Of all the core races, I think dwarves are the one I have seen played the least, which is a real shame, because they’re so interesting! But I suppose “mobility” and “extra feats” and so on are pretty appealing to some people. Still, if tumblr has taught me anything, it’s that fans of pretty much everything do exist if you know where to look.
For most folks, dwarves need no introduction, but for everyone else, and those who may not know the whole story, here it goes…
Dwarves as we think of them today come from Norse mythology, yes the very same mythos that Odin, Thor, and all the other Asgardian gods hail from, and indeed where the fantasy elf comes from as well, but that’s a story for another time. In any case, dwarves, according these stories, were born of the earth, living (or perhaps resembling) worms and maggots tunneling through the flesh of the fallen giant Ymir, also known as Midgard, the terrestrial earth. That is, until they were granted reasoning minds by the gods. From there, the dwarves fill several roles in Norse and Germanic stories, but are most commonly known as metalsmiths and the creators of several major magical and divine artifacts, including Thor’s hammer Mjolnir, and the other great treasures of Asgard.
Interestingly enough, the old Norse word for dwarf: Svartalfar, literally means “black elf”, implying that dwarves were related to, or were the underground equivalent of the surface elves. Cunning readers will realize the implication. Yes, the original mythological dwarves not only as the inspiration for the modern fantasy dwarf, but also the drow, the fantasy elf’s sinister subterranean cousin.
Indeed, as the stories of dwarves evolved, they crafted the image that Tolkien would use in his Middle-Earth setting, which would in turn influence the world’s oldest roleplaying game and pretty much every fantasy universe since then.
While the Norse imagery of the short, bearded man, and the rarely-mentioned women (Which in part gave rise to the idea that dwarf women had beards too) the dwarves of the pathfinder setting mix the Norse mythos with other worldwide legends of the “Little People Under the Ground” to create a much more diverse group of ethnicities than the typical tiny Viking with a Scottish accent for some reason.
Golarion does, however, keep the theme of dwarves having their origins underground, the most prominent event in their history being the nearly race-wide exodus to the surface called The Quest for Sky. Those that turned away from this quest went deeper into the depths and became the duergar, but the rest of dwarfkind emerged from the underground after Earthfall and formed nations and holdings on or just below the surface, as well as dug deep into mighty mountains.
Dwarves as a whole are a hardy and hardworking folk, as stubborn as the stone, but also as dedicated. Gaining a dwarf’s friendship may be tough, but once you’ve got it, you’ll have a truly steadfast ally. Practicality and function is another major part of their culture, and they evoke it with their every action and creation. Do not mistake them for homebodies, however, for as hard as they work, dwarves play equally hard, having a passion for the brewing of alcohol, the singing of songs, and more besides.

Dwarves may be slow, but they are tough, and have the wisdom of their long lives. Furthermore, most learn basic combat training with the favored weapons of their race, as well as how to strike down goblins and orcs, and to avoid the mighty blows of giants. Furthermore, they are all taught to recognize value and craftsmanship, and to understand stone both worked and natural.
The many different variations of their traits seem to mainly focus on who they view as their enemies, and the sort of environment they dwell in, showing that their attention to detail goes beyond merely and understanding of stone and wealth.
Dwarves favor combat-based classes for the most part, where their toughness helps them survive the toughest of blows. Others favor wisdom-based divine classes, whereas charisma classes are rarer due to their taciturn nature. However, there are a fair share of sorcerers and bloodragers among them, particularly of the earth elemental and deep earth bloodlines, who rise past their limitations to channel the power of the deep earth. Indeed, they tend to favor builds based on craftwork and the power of the earth, such as the forgemaster clerics, the stonelord paladins, earth kineticists, occultists, shamans of stone, and the like. Magical classes, particularly divine ones, like this can be flavored as Rivethun, dwarven mystics who couple their spiritual awakening with a more personal one, discovering their true gender (usually a feminine one).

Dwarves, being a core race, have one of the most well-known and developed cultures in all of tabletop gaming. If you’ve played a fantasy rpg, you probably know enough to make a classically dwarven character.
While it can be fun to play the classic dwarf, an honorable, lovable curmudgeon with an eye for detail and the patience of a mountain (Except against fools that grate their nerves), it can also be fun to play other sorts of dwarves, drawing upon the varied cultures and oddball notions. Heck the iconic ranger is a dwarf that prefers tea over ale, and the iconic shaman is a dwarven trans-woman. The latter of which illustrates how gender is viewed differently in their culture.
With a rich history and an ever-evolving presence, I don’t see any reason to not include dwarves in your setting and in your portfolio of characters. They serve as an excellent anchor for the setting, as well as an opportunity to grow and experiment.

There’s really so much to say about dwarves that I can’t manage it in one entry like this. If you want to learn more about dwarves in pathfinder, I suggest you look through such things as Inner Sea Races, Advanced Race Guide, Dwarves of Golarion, and more!

anonymous asked:

Seriously tho, being severely obese is not something to be proud of. It's not discrimination to say it's unhealthy, it's a fact. Oh btw, smokers have higher healthcare costs too bc people who abuse their bodies are more likely to have health issues and have to use insurance benefits. It's statistics and facts, and they don't care about your feelings.

“Fat isn’t healthy.” 

Sweetheart, that’s just not true. Those naughty little facts you mentioned proved you wrong. 

Copied from another post of ours:

Obesity is largely genetic, rather than caused by willpower or a lack of exercise.  Obesity has many different factors, not all of which are related to lifestyle.

Health is complicated, and in fact, a lot of healthy fat people do in fact exist.

Losing weight isn’t as easy as just “exercise and eat right.”

A lot of health problems people associate with being fat are caused by other things.

We have a whole list of resources on why the idea that fat is unhealthy is bullshit, if you care:

http://katanafatale.tumblr.com/post/140761513765

http://fatphobiabusters.tumblr.com/post/150623667913/do-you-realize-that-being-fat-isnt-always-good-i

http://fatphobiabusters.tumblr.com/post/151201012408/hey-im-glad-i-found-your-blog-its-nice-to-see

http://ok2befat.com/post/150419925498/what-medical-evidence-do-you-have-that-suggests

Mod G totally destroyed someone for making these kinds of “fat people are unhealthy” comments not long ago.

So basically, our comments on this aren’t made up. Got it?

I think you need to read this: http://fatphobiabusters.tumblr.com/post/151568994436/so-you-have-an-opinion-about-fat-peoples-health


I am also going to add this: http://ok2befat.com/post/152655752093/threatening-fat-people-w-the-fiction-of-early


“It’s not discrimination to say fat is unhealthy”

Except, when we talk about discrimination against fat people… That’s not what we are talking about.

Copied from that same post:

Fat people are, in fact, discriminated against.

For example, people stereotype us as bullies, as lazy, as ugly, as unathletic (yes, fat people can, in fact, be athletic), as incapable of having sex, as a fetish object, as nothing but fat friend material (and no more important than that), etc. I mean, I could go on for a while.

When we are represented on TV, which is very rarely, our character’s lives revolve around their weight. All the time. It’s really amazing how badly we are represented. Hell, this whole page is full of evidence that fat people are badly represented in media! (It’s even worse if you’re a fat black woman.)

Oh, and people use weight as a reason to not vote for certain political candidates!

Fat people also get worse medical care than thin people, simply because doctors don’t want to treat us. Fat trans people find the poor medical care thing to be especially difficult. This also happens to fat people with mental illness.

Doctors are definitely some of the worst fat shamers. Need proof? Try this:

http://fatphobiabusters.tumblr.com/post/149587434308/not-all-fat-people-are-sick-indeed-the-fact-that

http://fatphobiabusters.tumblr.com/post/148712635973/normalizefatbodies-what-most-people-think-fat

http://fatphobiabusters.tumblr.com/post/148114956113/ledarosignal-i-love-how-doctors-tell-fat

http://thisisthinprivilege.org/post/150370444556/youre-the-first-doctor-to-actually-touch-me-in-17

http://thisisthinprivilege.org/post/150361300220/what-its-like-going-to-the-doctor-as-a-fat

http://thisisthinprivilege.org/post/150053726815/nhs-to-save-on-costs-by-refusing-surgery-on

http://thisisthinprivilege.org/post/149947591506/decision-to-deny-surgery-to-obese-patients-is-like

http://thisisthinprivilege.org/post/148803526958/thin-privilege-is-not-feeling-the-need-to-dress

http://bigfatscience.tumblr.com/post/151129621045/in-tv-a-doctor-said-overweight-is-an-indicator-for

http://bigfatscience.tumblr.com/post/150777153280/afatblackfairy-bigfatscience-well-i-my

http://bigfatscience.tumblr.com/post/150759861505/i-saw-the-anon-who-asked-about-weight-vs-cancer

http://bigfatscience.tumblr.com/post/150328622515/i-know-this-isnt-quite-your-field-but-i-had-to

http://bigfatscience.tumblr.com/post/150127957000/im-fat-and-i-have-a-restrictive-eating-disorder

http://www.ravishly.com/2016/06/09/take-cake-medical-fatphobia-almost-killed-my-friend

http://curvygirlinc.com/fat-phobia-from-medical/

https://theangryfangirl.com/2016/08/10/day92-an-example-of-medical-fatphobia/

http://www.prevention.com/health/medical-fat-shaming

http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/09/medical-fat-shaming-danger/

http://www.xojane.com/issues/medical-mistakes-fat-shaming-doctors

http://www.revelist.com/wellness/people-who-were-fat-shamed/4239

http://www.teenvogue.com/story/fat-shaming-doctors

http://www.amednews.com/article/20130902/profession/130909988/4/

All of that is just fat shaming caused by doctors. Seriously.

And who could forget these fat shaming, ableist memes: http://fatphobiabusters.tumblr.com/post/151143690653/oodlenoodleroodle-the-exercist-whats-your

It’s harder for fat people to find clothes. And we are limited in what we are allowed to wear. And stores like getting rid of whatever clothes would fit us.

And there was this whole mess: http://fatphobiabusters.tumblr.com/post/151913457378/fat-posi-for-black-women-fatphobiabusters

I mean, fat people are constantly discriminated against everywhere, as I have explained plenty of times. How anyone could not see that is beyond me.

Here’s a whole fact sheet on ways fat people are discriminated against: http://www.naafaonline.com/dev2/assets/documents/naafa_FactSheet_v17_screen.pdf

And here are some more resources that prove fatphobia is real:

https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/08/size-discrimination-facts/

http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/10/fatphobia-guide-for-disbeliever/

http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/02/fatphobia-while-in-recovery/

http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/02/street-sizeism/

http://everydayfeminism.com/2016/03/rape-prevention-potluck/

http://fatphobiabusters.tumblr.com/post/150974027775/your-fat-friends-facing-cruelty-every-day


You can read the rest of that post here: http://fatphobiabusters.tumblr.com/post/152688469598/hello


“Oh btw, smokers have higher healthcare costs too bc people who abuse their bodies are more likely to have health issues and have to use insurance benefits.”

First of all, don’t compare fat people and smokers. Okay? 

Second, @ok2befat has debunked the idea that fat people cost people more money multiple times. 

Third…. What does this have to do with anything?


Anon, you’re fatphobic. Shut up and go away. -V

jesuistitania  asked:

What do you think of the PLL finale?

what an unexpected question! haha

I was prepared to hate it, and speak publicly about why, and use whatever platform I have to start a dialogue about the history of trans misrepresentation, etc. One of my closest friends is a twin, and we have talked a lot about the ways we — as a twin and a gay man, respectively — are used as plot-points and imbued with symbolic meaning that can come to define us more strongly than our actual personalities.

Those are two good examples because they are benign, for the most part. I am privileged to live mostly in a world/bubble where I feel safe as a gay man, so for me it plays out much like the twin thing: You think I’m like this but really I’m like that. You think I will provide this for you, but really I offer that. You think that you intimately understand my experience and can therefore speak for me, but really ally privilege is the cancer of our culture. And so on.

My mentor growing up was a trans woman, Rachel Pollack, who taught me a lot about magic and tarot and religion, etc., but also about gender and sexuality. I asked her every embarrassing awful confused question you can imagine, and she always made me feel safe and open when she explained it back to me, told me what she was hearing me say, etc. So there were times, as a young person, that I felt a little proprietary about trans issues:

Why doesn’t everybody “get it” like I do? Why was everybody so stuck in the stupid ideas (that I was stuck in just moments ago)? 

Although to be fair, this was back in the 90s and I still see people getting hung up on what became, to me, very uncomplicated shit, so:

While frustration about differing timelines “getting it” is absolutely understandable to me, the part where we make it about our cis selves is not. Every sentence has a subject and a verb: Are you speaking for yourself when you engage in social justice activities, or are you speaking on behalf of someone else?

Because if it’s the latter, what you’re really doing is pimping out someone with differing privileges than you have, in order to talk about yourself. Which is the greatest demonstration of privilege I can imagine.

…All of which is what I was thinking about, going into the Finale. I was tremendously worried that what happened would happen, my stomach hurt for weeks, I had private conversations with people like Heather Hogan about how best to deal with the fandom fallout, etc. Ever since the Christmas episode — all through this fantastic Prisoner, 1984, Matrix, Invisibles season — my one weekly thought has been, “I really hope Charles doesn’t identify as female,” and the more likely it seemed, the more anxious I got.

When you are constructing a mystery, there are things you don’t do. Or can only be done once: Christie’s Ten Little Indians, the first Scream movie, etc, have twists that break the mystery genre. I don’t know offhand the list of films that use the “trans twist” before DePalma’s Dressed to Kill, but that’s a very famous one that breaks down the mystery in a way that can’t be solved, because you don’t have all the information. It was also made in 1980.

Speaking here about suspense, not slasher, because the trans twist is in 90% of slasher movies from the 80s and 90s. Same principle, just not as important to the narrative. Suspense, like PLL, is always going to trade on the economy of bodies in a gender-binary culture, because it is about the central drives that construct our society and our personalities: sex, death, acquisition.

Women are in more danger than men. Always. We live in a society that is designed 100% to crush the feminine, the nonwhite, the non-default, out of all of us, all day long. And that is what suspense stories are usually about, which is why so many women end up in fridges: Because danger exists, but women are not (historically) the protagonist.

Where this finale got it right — which they did, IMO; they threaded an impossible needle frankly  — is by refusing to other a trans character, continuing to refuse to represent GLBT merely for the sake of representation, by spending an hour on her life story in a compassionate and respectful way, and bringing her home to the central truth about Pretty Little Liars:

Once there was a man who hated, feared, and loved his daughter’s body so much that he needed to lock it up, control it or destroy it.

That is every single episode of our show, in one way or another. I always knew A would be Rosewood, I just didn’t know how directly it would come to pass:

That it would be the patriarchal force that hates anything that’s not a straight white guy, pushing down on all of us — Liars, Mona, CeCe, yes; but also Lucas, Noel, Ezra, Mr. D — and forcing us into shapes that we wouldn’t have assumed otherwise. Taking things away from us and then complaining about it.

That shame and loneliness are a self-reinforcing feedback loop that only creates more shame and more loneliness, turning any attempt at a roman à clef into a picaresque. And that the system is designed for that purpose: To keep us separate, vulnerable, afraid and ashamed, because if we ever started talking to each other about it we would start a fucking riot.

The feeling that you were born wrong and therefore deserve to be punished. That being female or feminine is the original sin, and you need to spend your life apologizing for it, or risk being crushed.

And finally, that women hurting women is the greatest weapon men ever invented. 

And it’s that last one that bears the most thought, because… Well, it’s tricky on the left, if you say “don’t attack your allies” I guarantee that’s a red flag you need to shut your mouth and listen. But the vanguard of shows I tend to think of as new and fresh and in accordance with my ethos, with Generation Tumblr, is pretty small: Avatar/Korra, Teen Wolf, Orphan Black, The Fosters, PLL. I’m sure there are some I’m forgetting. 

But the sense of relief that I feel in those particular story-universes is hard to capture: It’s like you spend 23 hours of a day feeling like “either I’m crazy or the world is,” and then you watch one of these shows and think, “no, we’re just still being born.”

And I can understand your world, or perspective, being so small that those are the only things you feel equipped to fight. It’s the impulse to change the world and it’s a holy one; it’s just that the world you’re saving is not the one the rest of us live in. It’s every bit as important and real as the so-called “real world,” but the rest of us don’t get to live there. Except through the art that you make.

So I think if you’re really going to throw a tantrum about Cece Drake, that makes total sense. The hope is that you wouldn’t be doing it out of some trendy sense of post-marriage equality “now I care about trans issues” self-labeling, but because you are working through these issues for yourself and using this medium and this conversation to do it. These are not simple questions or easy answers. But I think the way to process it most quickly and authentically is to keep one foot on the floor: To always be asking yourself whether you’re really making it about you, or keeping your eyes on the real enemy. Because it’s a war that never really changes, but it’s a war that we’re winning nevertheless.