anonymous asked:

My sister recently told me she wants to come out as a trans boy. She hasn't yet, so I'll use female pronouns to avoid confusion. I love her very much and if she decided to be my brother, I'd love her just the same. Honestly, she's been more like a brother to me anyway. So my main concern is, how can I help her? I've heard horror stories about families disowning their trans kids. I don't think our parents would do that, but I want to make sure they understand. How can I help???

Jay says:

I’ll give you a basic rundown. 

First, sit down and discuss. I don’t know your sibling, so I’ll use neutral pronouns and words, but ask them what they want - he pronouns, names, binders, etc., and see what you can help with first. For example, if they want a binder, then maybe you could help find somewhere they can buy one.

Then, support them if they choose to come out to your parents. If your parents are having a hard time understanding them - it might make more sense to them from you.

You’re already doing pretty good in terms of asking us how to help. Just communicate as best you can with them, and they can tell you what they need.

I don’t talk much about myself & especially subculture wise . But being part of the goth community makes me feel at home. I know i’m still a babybat, but this community is where I can be
myself .
((I know the make up looks “poser” but I was bored & was listening to Manson , so bleh . Idk ))

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“This character can’t be trans, and if you say they are you’re fetishizing trans people!”

Why do you hate trans kids looking for representation so much? Why aren’t you yelling at all the porn blogs with the t-slur in their URLs, or people who chase and date trans people because “it’s hot!”? Why aren’t you harassing them for fetishization, instead of minors who want to see themselves in their favorite characters?

anonymous asked:

can you see trans france with america and how do you think that would work out?


Al would treat Fran with the utmost respect tbh, he always does ‘normally’ of course but like???

He’d always use the right pronouns/the one’s Fran wanted Al to use and he’d just love the over loving FUCK outta Fran,,,

He’d cuddle him and pick him up and kiss him silly and if Fran was okay w/ it he would totally kiss/fondle his chest// like damn that shit is soft and smooth like a babies ass [EXAMPLE OF FONDLING CAN BE FOUND HERE JUST AN FYI]

He’d also probs eat fran out too tbh/ his mouth has to be useful at that like c’mon

But just like?? If Francis was trans[who am I kidding he probs is trans tbh] he’d still get a whole lotta lovin’ you can count on it. 12/10, I ship them so fu cking ha  r d, holy c r ap I’m a piece of sh it

okay okay ik there’s this whole thing where people say only trans people should be able to change names at school. but think about this: some people can get triggered by their own name. like the abuser repeats their name or it has a memory linked to it, I, for starters. feel awful when someone refers to me by my complete name. just let anyone change their name, especially trans kids, just respect it.

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people who yell at trans kids for wanting Mitch to be genderfluid are so annoying. like, being trans isn’t a damn insult and being cis isn’t the automatic baseline, just like being gay isn’t an insult and being straight isn’t the automatic baseline. we just want someone to identify with, and I’m sorry ya’ll are too narrow minded and ignorant to understand that. goddamn.


I’m celebrating marriage equality by with some Beach City Pride. These are all my gender and sexuality headcanons for the show right now. I got the flag colors off wikipedia so please tell me if I got anything wrong.

It's Ok to Be Neither

Teaching that supports gender-variant children

By Melissa Bollow Tempel

Alie arrived at our 1st-grade classroom wearing a sweatshirt with a hood. I asked her to take off her hood, and she refused. I thought she was just being difficult and ignored it. After breakfast we got in line for art, and I noticed that she still had not removed her hood. When we arrived at the art room, I said: “Allie, I’m not playing. It’s time for art. The rule is no hoods or hats in school.”

She looked up with tears in her eyes and I realized there was something wrong. Her classmates went into the art room and we moved to the art storage area so her classmates wouldn’t hear our conversation. I softened my tone and asked her if she’d like to tell me what was wrong.

“My ponytail,” she cried.

“Can I see?” I asked.

She nodded and pulled down her hood. Allie’s braids had come undone overnight and there hadn’t been time to redo them in the morning, so they had to be put back in a ponytail. It was high up on the back of her head like those of many girls in our class, but I could see that to Allie it just felt wrong. With Allie’s permission, I took the elastic out and re-braided her hair so it could hang down.

“How’s that?” I asked.

She smiled. “Good,” she said and skipped off to join her friends in art.

‘Why Do You Look Like a Boy?’

Allison was biologically a girl but felt more comfortable wearing Tony Hawk long-sleeved T-shirts, baggy jeans, and black tennis shoes. Her parents were accepting and supportive. Her mother braided her hair in cornrows because Allie thought it made her look like Will Smith’s son, Trey, in the remake of The Karate Kid. She preferred to be called Allie. The first day of school, children who hadn’t been in Allie’s class in kindergarten referred to her as “he.”

I didn’t want to assume I knew how Allie wanted me to respond to the continual gender mistakes, so I made a phone call home and Allie’s mom put me on speakerphone.

“Allie,” she said, “Ms. Melissa is on the phone. She would like to know if you want her to correct your classmates when they say you are a boy, or if you would rather that she just doesn’t say anything.”

Allie was shy on the phone. “Um …

tell them that I am a girl,” she whispered.

The next day when I corrected classmates and told them that Allie was a girl, they asked her a lot of questions that she wasn’t prepared for: “Why do you look like a boy?” “If you’re a girl, why do you always wear boys’ clothes?” Some even told her that she wasn’t supposed to wear boys’ clothes if she was a girl. It became evident that I would have to address gender directly in order to make the classroom environment more comfortable for Allie and to squash the gender stereotypes that my 1st graders had absorbed in their short lives.

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