trans terms

Gender Identity/Term list!

This is only the first edition and I will add more! send me your terms or terms I should at the the list, through ask or submit! It’d be super helpful! Thank you!

AFAB – Assigned female at birth

AMAB – Assigned male at birth

DFAB – Designated female at birth

DMAB – Designated male at birth

CAFAB – Coercively assigned female at birth (intersex)

CAMAB – Coercively assigned male at birth (intersex)

FAAB – Female assigned at birth (commonly used for intersex as well)

MAAB – Male assigned at birth (commonly used for intersex as well)

UAAB – Unassigned at birth (rare designation, depending on physicians perception on infants genitalia)

Cisgender – Someone identifying as their assigned birth gender.

Transgender – Someone identifying outside of their assigned birth gender.

Transsexual – Someone who undergoes surgery to change their sex characteristics to match their gender.

Cis Female – A female assigned at birth identifying as a female.

Cis Male – A male assigned at birth identifying as a male.

Trans Woman – A male assigned at birth identifying as a female.

Trans Man – A female assigned at birth identifying as a male.

Intersex – A person with a mix of sex characteristics. Many intersex infants and children are subjected to numerous genital surgeries and hormone treatments in order to conform their bodies to the standard of either male or female.

Hermaphrodite – An outdated, and usually offensive term in reference to intersex folk.

Nonbinary – A female or male assigned at birth identifying as neither a female nor male.

Agender – A nonbinary term, being beyond the gender binary and just neutral.

Genderfluid – A person who identifies with a fluidity between an amounts of certain genders.

Bigender – A person who identifies with two genders. (depends on the person)

Trigender – A person who identifies with three genders. (depends on the person)

Two-Spirit – A gender among indigenous people, like bigender in definition. (Non-indigenous not to use this)

Gender Variant – Or, Gender nonconformity; Persons whose expression doesn’t follow the binary or Male/Female. Similar to nonbinary.

Transvestite – Refers to a cisgender person crossdressing.

Genderfuck – A nonbinary type term for a more aggressive ‘f you’ to the gender binary and confuse standard stereotypical gender expression.

Genderpunk – Like Genderfuck, but more alternative and like, chill about your gender.

Genderqueer – Another nonbinary type term, being inbetween, beyond, or a mix of genders.

Genderpivot – Intersection of genderfluid and bigender; one gender stays put while the other(s) fluctuates.

Pangender – Someone who identifies with all genders (A problematic term due to spiritual/culture specific genders)

Polygender – Identifying as many genders.

Multigender – Another word for “Polygender”

Androgyny – A gender expression of masculine and feminine elements; or neither. (andro-masculine gyno-feminine)

Androgyne – The gender identity version of Androgyny

Queer – A term used by individuals who choose not to designate actual labels, like an umbrella term (however some are uncomfortable with it, and it shouldn’t be forced upon others)

Third gender – Another nonbinary term for beyond the Male and Female gender.

Trans* - An attempt at an inclusive label that only ended in trans erasure of nonbinary folk as real trans people

Neutrois – Another nonbinary umbrella term like genderless or agender. (pronounced new-twa, because of its French like spelling, I believe)

Null-gender – Being agender like, but more laid back and uncaring about stereotypes.

Demigirl - Mostly identifying as female, and partially another gender.

Demiboy - Mostly identifying as male, and partially another gender.

Demigender - Mostly identifying with one gender, and partially another.

Remember, this is just a list of dictionary definitions and a few peoples view on it. Don’t let that stop you from using any of the terms in your own context!

Some tips to writing gay sex when you aren’t a gay guy:

When your characters are cis men:

  • Preparation can be key. If your character didn’t expect to have sex that night, then he probably isn’t prepared. If there is penetration going to be happening, some men prefer to get themselves ready… y’know… clean up. Otherwise bad stuff can sometimes happen and it’s not pleasant for either person.
  • LUBE. Not spit. LUBE. Spit dries up really easily and it can pull on that sensitive flesh and that’s not a pleasant experience for most people. There are also different types of lube which you can choose from depending on the type of situation!
  • There are other ways of having sex then putting dick in butt. Many other ways. Explore them! This also applies to every other gender.
  • Stretching before penetration is important, it can REALLY hurt otherwise. Your character needs to be relaxed, but don’t overstretch them (that can hurt too). That ain’t fun buddy, don’t put your character through that.
  • Don’t just… have your guy who is on top slam his dick into the other? That’s not fun, put some speed differences in there, have him pay attention to the other’s responses.

When the characters are trans men:

  • All trans men are different, much like all cis men are different, and all girls are different, and all other-gendered-folk are different as well. Each has their own experience with their lives, these notes are just things that I’ve personally learned along the way, so they may not be applicable to everyone!
  • After going on HRT (hormone replacement therapy), men can grow facial hair and get a deeper voice.
  • If your character shows signs of having hormones, he may not be able to produce natural lubrication anymore in his parts. Much like cismen, he also needs lube.
  • Some trans men prefer anal, just cause gender dysphoria can suck sometimes.
  • Try to stray away from calling your trans character terms like ‘tranny’ or other terms that can be hurtful. (Some older generations may find power in the term, so this can change.)
  • Some trans men feel uncomfortable when people start talking about their ‘pussy’, calling them ‘woman’, or wanting to ‘impregnate them’ (which for some people -not all though- is impossible once you’ve been on HRT for a while). You might trigger the aforementioned gender dysphoria again in your readers, but also in your character.
  • It’s not a good feeling, so maybe stray away from that! :)
  • Be kind to your trans man, (and your other characters of course), so give him things that make him feel validated as the man he truly is. Use he/him/his pronouns, be obvious about it.

Feel free to add more! This is not an all-encompassing list!
It’s also good to note that everything changes from person to person, so feel free to do some research and talk to trans and cis men alike, go out and write what you like, what makes you happy!

So there was this study in which adults were shown a crying baby. Those who were told the baby was a boy interpreted the baby’s emotion as anger. Those who were told the baby was a girl interpreted the baby’s emotion as being upset.

Confirmation bias is when people only acknowledge information that supports their biases, or twists information that does not into information that does.

So whenever someone says “trans women are acting according to male socialization” or characterizes anything a trans woman does as being “male” keep that bit about the babies in mind, and confirmation bias.

For some people trans women can do literally anything and it is perceived as somehow stemming from a fictional essential ~maleness~.

I recall snowflakeespecial, for example, linking two webcomics. One was of a cis woman celebrating her breasts, and one was of a trans woman celebrating her breasts. These comics were very similar in presentation and both said basically the same thing. However, snowflakeespecial claimed that the two strips were obviously completely different because the one made by a cis woman was genuine, whereas the one made by a trans woman was evidence of autogynephilia.

This is also reflected when cis people know a woman is trans, they will interpret any behavior, any physical feature, anything to support the contention that said woman is obviously trans, even if they had no idea even moments before.

In short, the game is rigged. When TWERFs, when truscum, when trans women collaborators pull this shit, they’re not engaging honestly. They’re engaging in terms of “Trans women are men. Therefore everything they do is indicative of being men.”

This is also why they lose their shit when trans women refuse to comply with their perceptions, as happened last night.

The basic rule is, however, that trans women are not allowed to be authorities on our own experiences. Everything we say is debatable and simply being a trans woman makes one discreditable. Any attempt to step outside the very narrow, confining boxes that others have decided describe us is seen as an act of aggression.

For that matter, any attempt to assert boundaries is seen as an act of aggression. 

Let's talk about the "Drop the T" movement.

So, the last couple years y'all may have noticed a movement taking hold on both conservative and radical exclusionist gay circles called “Drop the T.” This movement, started possits that the LGBTQ movement is only the Gay movement and everything else is “appropriation” of Gay History.

This is, of course, total horse shit for a large number of reasons, so I’m going to go in point by point deconstructing this shit:

1) These people say, “It was gay people, not BTQ, that were targeted.” This is false even on it’s face. Even if you want to say trans people weren’t there because Stonewall happened in a time when the term trans wasn’t in popular usage (more on that in point 4), there were sure as shit crossdressers there, and they were ALWAYS the first ones targeted and carted off. The night of Stonewall, Storm DeLaverie, who wasn’t trans, was “Crossdressing” and the first arrested, so we’re Marsha Johnson and Sylvia Rivera, who were trans. And guess what? Those three were the first to fight back. We owe this movement to them, and how dare you revise and erase our history for your ideology.

2) They point to Sodomy laws as proof it was gay people specifically targeted, while forgetting the existence of Crossdressing Laws, which were on the books LONGER THAN SODOMY LAWS. In New York, y'know where Stonewall happened, there were Anti Crossdressing Laws on the books until 2011 while they eliminated sodomy laws in the 1970’s! There was a federal ban on sodomy laws in 2003, Lawrence v Texas, but still none for Anti-Crossdressing laws.

3) “People were arrested because they were homosexual, not bi or trans.“ No, they just didn’t care if were apart of the L, G, B, or T, we were Queers that had to be Taken Care Of. Why do you think we banded together in the first place?

4) The Nazis’ first target for book burnings was Institut für Sexualwissenschaft, which was the first medical institute to perform Sex Reassignment Surgery in the 1930s and the works of Magnus Hirchfeld, who coined the term “Transsexual.” The reason “trans people didn’t exist” in the time of Stonewall is because it took us almost half a century for us to recover. You’ll notice quite a few of Stonewall Veterans who were “crossdressers” back in the day, ID’d as trans later in life when the language became available again. The Nazis were the first to try this, and they wiped us off the face of the Earth for decades.

5) Divide and Conquer. We are strong together, and weak apart. It is an attempt to weaken our movement now that it isn’t specifically focused on helping topass legislation benefit only cis gay people. We fought for your rights, and now you got yours so screw us? Fuck that. It’s ENDA, when Barney Frank and the HRC pushed to exclude trans people so they could have it for themselves, all over again.

6) It’s apart of a larger transphobic movement in which conservatives and radical exclusionists teamed up. Remember when the Reagan administration banned funding for trans healthcare? Yeah, they used writings of Janice Reymond as supporting evidence. These groups wrote to the fucking UN to have trans rights removed from International Human Rights laws. They team up for bathroom legislation, including sending cis men into women’s bathrooms to scare cis women into supporting bathroom legilsation. ENDA. What did we do that’s equivalent to that? Why do you despise us so much?

You have no basis for your movement, not histrocial, not political, not anything other than pure hatred. Go fuck yourselves. We’ll eliminate exclusionist before trans people.

transgender terminology definitions!!!

hey, ive noticed that a lot of people out there seem to be kinda confused about some words the trans community uses, so ive decided to make a handy glossary of some of these terms :) enjoy!

Trans: A backpack line branded and distributed by Jansport.

FTM: An abbreviation for “(Come on), Feel The Millinoise,” a common alternate name for the 2005 album “Illinois” by Sufjan Stevens. We don’t know why the “M” is there, and it’s been a hot discussion topic within the trans community for years.

MTF: An abbreviation for “Ma, Tae Fuck?,” an exclamation commonly used by Scottish youth to their mothers in times of confusion or exasperation.

AFAB: An abbreviation for the slogan “All Firefighters Are Bastards,” a derivative of “All Cops Are Bastards/Bad.”

AMAB: An abbreviation for the slogan “All Mallcops Are Bastards.” See above.

Top/bottom surgery: A procedure undertaken by many trans people which removes the entire top or bottom half of their bodies.

Cis: A term for those who use messenger bags, tote bags, or purses to carry their belongings, as opposed to backpacks.

SRS: An abbreviation for the infamous feminist Reddit community/subreddit “ShitRedditSays,” found at /r/shitredditsays.

Passing: what when walk by person on side walk or street when they opposite dection

FUN REMINDER

The terms “trans boy/man/guy/male” and the counterpart “trans girl/women/female” are NOT one word. 

In this context, the modifer “trans” is an adjective. It is describing the noun. What type of boy? A trans boy. 

You wouldn’t say a “prettydog” or “funnymovie” as one word, would you? I’d think not. So don’t make “trans [person]” one word either. 

anonymous asked:

Heya! I'm a trans dude who recently started dating the coolest nb person ever (how did this happen???? im in awe) and I was thinking about what different genderneutral words for boy/girlfriend there are besides datemate, which they don't like. Thank you for the help!!

Lee and Devon say:

Uh hi, we’re dating and both of us are non-binary! So here’s some alternatives to datemate:

  • Partner
  • Boo
  • Lover
  • Datefriend
  • Datepal
  • Soulmate (if you’re like forreal committed)
  • Spouse (if you’re engaged)
  • Significant other (or SO) (or signif)
  • NBfriend (or enbiefriend)
  • Date
  • Sweetheart (or sweetie)

(From this list of gender neutral terms here)

  • Girlboyfriend; queer, for bigender or androgynous people, or perhaps binary trans people.
  • Boygirlfriend; queer, for bigender or androgynous people, or perhaps binary trans people.
  • Paramour; neutral, someone you are having a sexual relationship with.
  • [name]friend; queer, based on girlfriend and boyfriend.

Followers, what words do you use to refer to the non-binary person you’re dating, if you’re dating a non-binary person?

Hey guess what

Girls are awesome!

Boys are awesome!

Gay people are awesome!

Straight people are awesome!

Bi people are awesome!

Asexual people are awesome!

White people are awesome!

Black people are awesome!

Asian people are awesome!

Arab people are awesome!

Latino people are awesome!

Native American people are awesome!

Cis people are awesome!

Trans people are awesome!

Christians are awesome!

Atheists are awesome!

Jewish people are awesome!

Muslims are awesome!

EVERYONE IS AWESOME AND EVERYONE DESERVES LOVE!

Hi friends, just a reminder that ‘gatekeeping’ is a term that was invented in 1943 to discuss news media and their control over the flow of information and is not a ‘trans term.’ It is used in disability activism as well as trans activism, and many other activist axes as well. If anyone tells you that you should not use the word ‘gatekeeping’ to describe ‘attempting to unjustly keep someone from information/community/resources to which they are entitled and which they require,’ because it ‘belongs’ to a certain group, just ignore them and move on.

Gatekeeping is a useful term for many minority groups, and anyone who attempts to tell you that you can’t use it is not cool. 

non binary/gender neutral alternatives for boyfriend/girlfriend

Ok I’ve seen a couple satirical posts on this but I wanted to make a real list (some more light hearted than others). Please feel free to add your ideas! Also remember if you or/and your significant other identify as non binary communication is key. Figure out what you both like and enjoy 💞

-better half
-significant other
-partner in life/crime
-boifriend
-soul mate
-starshine
-my love
-apple of my eye
-main squeeze

Hey, if you’re not indigenous, don’t just go ahead and define what “two spirit” means. No one needs your “mix of male and female” shit. It’s our identity - we get to decide what it means for us.

This has been a PSA.

I’m seeing a lot of people misunderstanding something, and I want to try and set the record straight for some of you: Lying about your identity for safety/ease isn’t the same as actually identifying that way? 

Like, letting my coworkers think i’m a girl doesn’t make me woman-aligned, it just makes me a closeted androgyne. 

I’m seeing lots of people talk about “identifying a certain way for safety” and that’s just called being closeted, not an identity? Like, think about this in binary terms: A trans woman who isn’t out yet and is using he/him pronouns and presenting masculinely isn’t a partial man or man-aligned, she’s just a closeted trans woman. 

So why are we saying this about NB people? ? 

…y'all trans women being in healthy, happy relationships with cis men in narratives that don’t focus around them being trans are radical in terms of representation in media. we’re living in a world where cis men joke about it being a fear of theirs to find out that a women they’ve been seeing is trans. trans women get killed by cis men for existing. barry & lup’s relationship is an important moment in representation. please please consider that.