train emotions

[ Remember when Inner Sakura was a thing and it was powerful enough to overcome Ino’s Mind Body Switch? ]

The OjiKiri friendship might as well be my favorite not-exactly-canon thing in bnha this part made me so happy - and 1B kids shenanigans too!! I’m g l a d

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DBT Self-Help Resources: Ways to Describe Emotions

To be used with Emotion Regulation Worksheets 4, 4a

Also look at: Emotions List -  Using an Emotions List to help Label an Emotion

Search results for Emotion Dysregulation - Definition of Emotion Dysregulation

Source: Marsha M. Linehan (2015) DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition The Guilford Press

Copyright 2015 by Marsha M. Linehan.

One of my campers this week was a really sweet kid, very respectful and engaged, and honesty one of my favorites… but holy shit was he a weeaboo. He did the Naruto run everywhere he went, named a crab he caught on the beach “Sasuke”, and before every challenge course, he’d plop down in front of everyone in the lotus position and announce that he needed to “meditate” in order to “replenish his chakra”. Once, he did this in the middle of a dodgeball game and got nailed in the face by the ball. (He was fine, and thought it was almost as funny as everyone else did.)

To my surprise, his classmates just kind of rolled with this, and framed everything he did as a ninja challenge. After I got unclipped him from the giant swing, he shook his head sadly and announced that he’d failed his training by showing emotion and screaming.

To everyone who is feeling discouraged in their training: 

  • you are doing a good job
  • your dog will still love you even if you have an off training day
  • sometimes your dog will not perform the commands you know they know, that’s okay, tomorrow’s a new day
  • if you screw up, you can fix it, dogs are adaptable
  • your dog is smart, they will learn what they need even if it takes months
  • training takes a long time, that’s okay
  • your hard work will pay off
  • it’s okay to take a day, a few days, or even a week off
  • your dog won’t give up on you, as long as you don’t give up on them
  • the internet is a wonderful thing, use it to help you (especially youtube)
  • if all else fails, ask your local reputable professional trainer

I’m holding out for a hero to awaken the Light,
She’s gotta be strong, and she’s gotta be fast, 
     and she’s gotta be fresh from the fight!
(Racing on the Falcon and rising with the heat,
It’s gonna take a Jedi Knight to sweep me off my feet~! )

Riffing off the Disney/fairytale theme once more, because Rey is the hero we all need and I’ve always dreamed of, I’m in love…….. *__* 

also having fun with potential “level-up” Jedi outfits! (I know this is more PT than OT style, but I really like the PT tunics…) I can’t decide between Rey making her own classic lightsaber, or making a dual-bladed saber to complement her quarterstaff… the dual blade was just fun to draw :D

Gaslighting

“Gaslighting” is a form of manipulation in which the abuser twists the realities of the person being abused.
- involves the denial of certain experiences or events and or the twisting of words and memories
- like most forms of manipulation it is not always intentional
- it is not always carried out by force or threat, but can be performed with love and glamour
- can make the abused party feel crazy
- can make the abused person feel like they have a bad memory
- forces the abused to depend on the abuser for information about their own life circumstance

Gas light and the girl on the train are grey movies to watch to raise awareness of this Emotional Manipulation

anonymous asked:

How can I unlearn my anger when I'm riding? I get very frustrated when I'm asking for something I know I (& my horse) can do, what can I do to be patient is what I'm asking. (I'm on mobile)

okay this ask is over 2 years old so don’t shoot me just yet.  

I struggle with this too.  And honestly, the best advice I can give you is to:

a) ALWAYS have a plan.  If you’re a novice rider or trainer (for context, I consider myself a novice) Its extremely beneficial/ almost essential to make a game plan.  Go over what it is that you want to work on during your training session.  For instance, I might want to work on developing lateral work at the walk.  Ill think about the steps I need to take to warm up my horse so he will be ready to do walking laterals, and I need to think about how I will apply my aids to get those behaviors Im asking for, and I need to asses whether my horse understands those aids well enough to be able to preform the exercises correctly.  To get to that point in my session, I may warm up at the trot, and canter to loosen him up.  I may begin with a simple leg yield.  As I do this exercise, I asses if my horse is responding to me in a way id like.  Even though I KNOW my horse can yield away from my leg, if he isn’t responding the way id  like him to, I need tell myself to take a step back and go over each little behavior that constitutes a leg yield.  I may hop off and work on sensitizing him to my leg by touching a whip to where my leg would be and rewarding him for responding to it.  I may also sensitize him to rein aids, were if I pick up the inside rein, he should shift weight to the outside shoulder and calmly drift away from me.  I could even break these steps into smaller steps if he’s still not responding etc. etc.  Its a little complicated, but training requires extensive theoretical knowledge, and if you make a plan on how to address a horse who isn’t doing what you’d like it to, you’ll be able to stay calm and reasonable in your requests.  If you don’t make a plan, you risk “escalation”, where instead of trying to explain yourself either more clearly or in a different way, you just make your aids bigger, bolder, and increasingly more aggressive if the horse continues to “disobey” you.  This is NOT the path to harmony with your horse lol.  Easier said than done FOR SURE, but practice this and you’ll get better.  Having a backup plan is really helpful too.  If something isn’t going well and you feel yourself becoming frustrated, its best to move onto plan B and start “fresh” with a new behavior.  As you gain more experience, you can be more flexible with your initial plan and adjust your training session as you go to suit how your horse feels on that day.  Flexibility is a learned skill essential to training animals and it takes time to develop, so don’t beat yourself up for not being able to to it.  I still struggle haha.

 and b) break the behavior into super small steps that make it easy for the horse to understand.  If you’re struggling to work on something that you know you or your horse is capable of, its completely OKAY to go back a few steps and work on it like you just introduced the behavior.  Thats called building a better basic.  It doesn’t mean that your horse “forgot” the training you’ve done in the past.  Think of this as an opportunity to build up the foundation of your training that allows you to move on to more difficult things that require greater degrees of balance and control.  Heres my shitty example:

Say you’ve been working on getting your horse to walk on an accurate circle without leaning to one side or the other (its difficult!)  You’ve done it and you feel that your ready to move on to trot.  Now you’re working on trotting on the circle, and then you feel ready for the canter.  You work on this for a few weeks, but one day, all of the sudden, your horse is leaning to the inside and just will not yield to your inside rein or leg.  Instead of fighting the horse in the canter, go back to walking (or trotting) on a circle.  There are SO many variations of walking/trotting on a circle and so many useful exercises you can do at the walk/trot on a circle.  If you work on these, you may very well find that not only has your walk work improved, but so has your trot and canter!

See how in the “after”, the base is wider? This represents the better foundation you’ve just put under your more advanced training.

I know a lot of people on here reading this will probably roll their eyes thinking “this is common sense”, but you have no idea how many professional instructors I’ve watched or taken a lesson with have insisted that their students and horses “already know how to do that” and make their students reprimand their horses for not obeying aids that their horse clearly never had a good fundamental understanding in… an example I’ve seen is when a trainer insist that their student keep their very crooked/ physically asymmetrical horse “straight” at the trot and canter when jumping a line of jumps, even when said horse hasn’t even the slightest clue on how to be straight and even at the walk! 

my fave part about jaal is like, honest to god how GENUINELy emotional he is. like u have all these movies and games where they’re all ‘oh he’s so emotional!’ but all the dude character does is whine and throw things but jaal just. is really fucking free with his emotions. he embraces the people he loves without a moments hesitation, he’s eager to do nice things for his friends, when horrible things happen he’s one of the first to weep, like genuinely fall to your knees weep, and he never tried to deny it. he even warns you on several occasions ‘i might cry, as this is a somber subject’ with the kind of flippancy you’d expect of someone saying ‘oh i might be doing this later’, he’s so genuinely unashamed of it! and anger! he gets angry too! but not in that edge-lord bloodthirsty way but in a deeply wounded righteous fury kind of way. i remember hearing him scream. ‘LOOK AT ME! I WILL KILL YOU. I WILL KILL YOU ALL!’ or something along those lines as he was witnessing someone, who he didnt even know, be horrifically tortured. he also openly says he loves people. before your romance with him is even locked in, he calls you ‘dearest’ and lists what he loves about you, SAYS that he loves you. and this isn’t used as a joke except for one time when he offers the crew ‘emotional sensitivity training’. they just. respect it. and he’s not weak. he’s not made to feel like less of a cool, tough resistance fighter. he’s not berated or talked down to. jaal is a deeply emotional, deeply sympathetic, and all loving badass resistance fighter who is allowed to be cool and open hearted at the same time.

Fear of Loss Leads to the Dark Side

Touken? I don’t know her, let’s talk about Ui Koori more. 

What I noticed right away from this chapter was Ui’s outfit change, he’s gone from wearing white primarily in the middle of missions to all black. It could be simply to match Furuta’s change, he is after all on the chessboard a black king where previously Ui fought as an ally of the white king Arima.

My mind however, jumped immediately to a different conclusion. Ui’s decision to dress in all black, and stand at Furuta’s side means he has decided to join the dark side of the force.

Yes, let’s talk star wars. 

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