toxicities

It’s okay to hate anyone who hurts you.  If they didn’t mean it, it’s on them to prove it and make it up to you. And that is not done by insulting you further and pretending you’re “too sensitive” or “can’t take a joke”. If hurting you is a joke to them they deserve to be hated and kicked out of your life.
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Men’s loyalty to violence is disturbing. When women want a life free of abuse, assault, threat, and coercion, men’s first suggestion is “learn to fight back. learn to defend yourself.”  I don’t want my life to be a fight. I don’t want to “prove myself” through inflicting pain and fear. I don’t find violence and physical conflict fulfilling or self-actualizing. It’s exhausting and dehumanizing.

with you i’ve learned that i don’t have to degrade myself so that you can shine.

i’ve learned that i don’t have to hold back when it comes to my passions and interests just because you don’t enjoy them as much as i do.

i’ve learned that i don’t have to be quiet and nice for you to love me. with you i can be loud, crazy, wild and even angry when i need to.

you have shown me what good love is.

and good love makes you blossom.

good love won’t ever make you wilt.

— 

e.s. // a good love.

Sometimes you don’t even notice that your partner is suppressing you. But let me tell you, love is supposed to bring out the best in you and make you become the best person you can be. It won’t ever try to steal your light or turn you into something less.

Toxic People

I care about all of my hoes, whether I know you or not, we’re all beautiful and important x Now, mental health is just as important as physical health. For good mental health it’s important that you prioritise your life and friends. Sometimes you’re going to have to cut out toxic friends and negative people for your mental health to be better. It can be really difficult and scary to make this decision and act on it. But sometimes it has to be done x You are strong and beautiful ad it’s important for you to be your best self x If you ever need someone to talk to I am here x But always remember you are the main character of your story and therefore the most important x Prosper bitches xxx

Lots of love, Mary xoxo 

Was it you? Are you the reason why I’m here, feeling the way that I do? Are you the reason why there’s a place inside of me desiring more than it should? Are you the reason why I have to feel ashamed of myself, day in and day out? As though I’m filthy now, tainted now, impure? I want the love that I thought you had for me but I also don’t know whether or not I’m ready to handle it. I don’t know if I can hold it inside of me without questioning it. I don’t know if I’m ready to live with it without a teaspoon too much reassurance. I don’t know if I could ever be someone anyone would want to love.
—  🖤
this is stupid i know. today is the first time i noticed that i haven’t thought about you. your name simply passes through my ears and i don’t say anything in response to it. this is so bittersweet to me, i am happy but at the same time i miss very specific details of you and i when people intentionally call it to mind. you’re fading in my heart and i cannot remember the scent of your sheets after we made love as if my memories of us are the sheets being washed so your mother would never find out. i cannot remember your arms around me (you stopped holding me a long time ago but i felt you linger for months after as my heart was still in your hands). but what i can remember is the sting of your goodbyes against my lips like the lip gloss i wore the night you made a move, because i wanted to have big lips so you would find me beautiful like the other girls you were looking at. i can still feel the choking of your hatred in my throat like your hand wrapped around my neck so tight when i told you i wanted to feel pain equivalent to the amount of love you felt for me. and you hated me because someone accused me of cheating (funny how fast rumors grow) though i gave every ounce of my soul to you like a puppy to his master. the thorns of our relationship never ceased to draw blood and the petals were never pretty enough to keep you around. i began to bleed when i found out you loved/love/will continue to love her (jokes on you she’s a lesbian), and when you told them you lost feelings for me long before you ever stopped using me for sex. your heart, my dear- has become as shallow as a bird bath and i am done soaking in it’s tainted water. i am so happy to never have to speak to you again but i am nevertheless broken by you. but from here on out i build and i will plant stars underneath my skin where the pain that you caused me is living. and now this will be my last time thinking about you until someone asks, “what happened with you two?” in which my only response can be this message.
—  pmt /excerpt from a book i’ll never write

“Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your wellbeing a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.”

– Daniell Koepke

on one hand im glad society’s imposing on (generally cis) guys to become more “feminine” by wearing manbuns and wearing rompers, doing makeup/general hygeine and stuff and normalizing gender neutrality 

but on the other hand its always being advertised as “MAN bun” or “rompers FOR MEN” or “soap/makeup FOR MEN” like they’ll only wear it when it caters to their toxic masculinity

cheekyeven  asked:

friendly reminder that I love you and I'm glad I've found you and you're one of my best friends <3

friendly reminder that you’re cheesy a F and that thIS IS SOOOO SWEET I DON’T DESERVE THIS VANY (Might I say, you are most likely, probably, definitely, my favorite German) 

i genuinely don’t think i have the motivation to finish this but here it is i guess

also don’t reupload this unless u want to get ur balls cut off

This is for anyone who can’t really relate to Mother’s Day sentiments due to cutting themselves off from toxic parents. Eternal hugs to all of you. I personally haven’t spoken to my mom in over 4 years so it’s always kinda white noise for me when this time comes around. Always remember your feelings are VALID.

“But she’s your MOM.” has to be one of the most insensitive, ignorant, pious fucking statements I’ve ever heard too many times in my life. I can’t stand people who say that to me.

It’s really so generalizing and damaging when people say things like “But they’re you’re family…” as though that mandates that you to continue to enable someone to treat you horribly. IT’S NOT OK.

For those of you who are still dealing with toxic family members, even more hugs to you. It’s a difficult path and we all have our own journey. I wish you strength and peace. You’ll get there.

Much love.

Reminder: It’s okay to break off toxic friendships. It’s okay to break off toxic relationships. You have to do what’s best for you, and can’t always worry about hurting the other person. You don’t deserve to be belittled, you don’t deserve to be abused. If you are in a situation that is unhealthy for you, you have the right to get out. Please stay safe, and remember you deserve someone who treats you with love and respect.